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16-17,
anonymous
writes:I recently went on a date with this guy, and we had an amazing time, we went for dinner, a walk and then a drive. We were out for 4 hours so I thought we'd see each other again, but he hasn't text me and it's been 3 days. Is he interested?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): He's a little too old for you, but that's besides the point. 3 days is not a long time in guy-land, though it is for a girl who is waiting for him to call. When I was first dating my now wife, I'd call on Thursday for Friday and/or Sat., when she actually wanted me to call say on Tuesday, particularly after the first time we were together intimately. I was a clueless, regular guy. But not for being so darn good looking and rich, I think she would have dumped me!
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reader, q1605  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 One more comment. Whether anyone cops to it or not, in the short term it's pretty much all about sex. We eat out. We go to movies. But it's basically a check list of things we must do before you will allow us to be near you when you are naked. A woman's presence is required for us to have sex. This gives you the upper hand in all this. All other things being equal you are equipped with what we are willing to go to great lengths to access. Don't mean to be crude but to work this to a bottom line, women have it. We want it. End of story.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (22 March 2009):
The flip side of my first answer is that guys his age that are really into a girl have no problem spending their days making a complete fool of themselves in front of just about any one in the vicinity. If you could kind of coincidentally be in his sphere of influence long enough to bump into him and just comment that you had a good time and you wondered if you should keep a spot open for him in your rapidly filling calender. I don't think there is any harm in pressing him a bit if it clears the deck to move ahead with him or without. Your time is as valuable to you as his is to him. I think movie fan's answer is valid but I meant that when the girl is in front of us we can see the goods and are intoxicated by your presence. When we are at the house it's easy to say that we really ought to follow up and we will right after I..........We lose that sense of urgency that consumes us when we are across the table from you. Your guy may think he blew it for one reason or another. Our level of confidence is inversely proportional to how hot we think you are. Most times. That is, the more we desire you, the more sure we are that someone of your caliber would never really give us the time of day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim 17, so im perfectly llegal, except for drinking, but i dont see why that would be an issue?he knew how old i was from the start, so if he had problems with it surly he wouldnt have asked me out in the first place?i just need to know if hes interested or not. cz not knowing is driving me mad:(thankyou for all your help everyone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): your msg let's him know u r interested in him. IF he's interested in u he WILL contact u. if not there are plenty of guys out there. good luck though. btw some guys have 3 day rules & some 7 days so don't assume it"s over.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (22 March 2009):
if he is 21 and you are 16 he may have a problem with the laws protecting people who are not old enough to give consent and be in a sexual relationship. Maybe he likes you and if you give him a couple of years all those bothersome issues like prosecution for statutory rape will have settled themselves and he will approach you with more enthusiasm. Nothing ruins an evening like the prospect of spending a chunk of time in prison as a result.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): HE IS NOT INTERESTED, if he was he would call, text or email. It doesn't take a minute to text to call so the busy thing is no excuse.
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reader, sometimes ( Iwish)  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 Hey, by the way three days later doesn't say anything. Maybe try ringing him for a casual talk, or find something to do together where the date factor is lightened. Try a sporting event, or a social evironment where you have neutral ground... Just a thought. But have pateinceRegards,
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reader, sometimes ( Iwish) +, writes (21 March 2009):
Have pateince here, take a great date for what it is "a great date." Let things come naturally, you will find what you want. Have fun; enjoy good things. If he is interested he will let you know by his actions... Have pateince please.Regards
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso basically he doesnt wanna see me again?
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reader, Moviefan + ♥, writes (21 March 2009):
 Its still possible that he is as q said, even at 21 a lot of guys are still very much man whores to many women and interests and hop from interest to interest, woman to woman without second thought. So try what you will , see what happens.Hope it works out!
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reader, q1605 +, writes (21 March 2009):
you've texted him so the ball is in his court. Man I am much older than this guy and if I don't apply myself I don't make it from the TV to the kitchen and back during a commercial break without taking a very scenic route. Of course in my case case it is probably dementia. I know you find this compelling so I will post all the sordid details
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reader, Moviefan + ♥, writes (21 March 2009):
Not always true q1605, but most of the time yes. How old is he, is he 16,17, 18???
I was never this way but a lot of guys are, so odds are q is right or you scared him away.
Try to get hold of him, and if he seems to be avoiding you he is either been scared off or has lost interest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i text him today just saying how r u? had fun, wanna do it again?
no reply
but he is 21 and works so i spose he's busy
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reader, q1605 +, writes (21 March 2009):
Have you seen a dog running through a field in springtime. It stops here and there and all over. Sniffing and bounding about. No matter is more pressing then the one at the end of his nose. A teen age guy is like that. You were right in front of him and thus the only girl in existence. Now you are somewhere else and he his attention is on sports, cars, the girl who is asking for directions and about anything that can be placed in his hands that requires less than 5 seconds of dedicated effort. At this age forget all those stupid rules about dating and put yourself in his narrow sphere of influence. A member of the opposite sex is always a priority. You just have put yourself where he can see you.
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