How do I start talking to the younger girl I like?
Q. How to start talking with this girl, shes 14 and damn beautiful i am a highschool student shes always with her freinds i know i can win her over if she becomes my friend but dont have the daring to talk to her have never talked with her till date ...
A. 12 October 2011: Aunt Honesty has said it all. Go for it!... (read in full...)
Will my husband soon feel we are ready to have children?
Q. my husband and i have been married for about a year and been together for little over a year now.i'm 22 and he's 30. we both want kids at some point but had said we aren't ready. i'm on the pill, but i am starting to feel ready for us to be ...
A. 12 October 2011: I understand where you are coming from as does any women who feels ready for children and for whatever reason can't complete that need. In saying that though try as hard as you can to relax about it. You are still really young. I didn't have the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a need to always comment on attractive women he sees!
Q. I have an otherwise great relationship with my boyfriend of two years. We have a lot of fun and have lots of things in common. My family and friends think he is a great guy too. However there is one thing that really bugs me. Whenever we are ...
A. 12 October 2011: I'm with person12345, two can play at his game. You start commenting on the yummy guys you see and wait for the reaction, smile sweetly and say oh but you are taking it too seriously.... (read in full...)
Don't want mum to know I'm on the pill - how can I fake a period?
Q. This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it. I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality. Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- nei...
A. 12 October 2011: I was on the progestrone pill and always got a period on the free week. Do you ahve 7 sugar tablets to take? If so you should get a period while taking those.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm having trouble connecting to people -- especially girls
Q. Ive had heaps of nice things said about me, yet I can be a bit reserved sometimes and seem to isolate myself. I dont really go out a lot and I feel like im giving people the wrong message, that im not interested in talking to them and getting to ...
A. 29 September 2011: I hope I've picked you up right. You are the sort of person who says when they think something is rubbish and when you don't agree yes?
If I have picked you up right then this is my advice. When you have a strong personality like this you have... (read in full...)
The man I loved made a complete volte-face after marriage and my life is hell with him. What do I do?
Q. I kindly need your opinion regarding my marriage situation.I have been married for 5 years with the man I loved with all my heart.We've been together for 11 years prior to marriage(since high school).We couldn't marry and live together because of ...
A. 25 September 2011: If you still love him then I think marriage counselling is the best route to go down. However if the love has gone then I would move out. Life is too short to put up with being yelled at and working like a drudge to support a man who should be ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the criticism I'm going to get? How can we work it out in the future?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend two years on Friday, because he thought it was getting too intense and serious for two year 11's we were arguing a lot. It was done really nicely and he said if I ever needed anything he'd be there for me, I was the best...
A. 25 September 2011: Personally I don't think you can stay friends with an ex. You can be friendly for sure but good close friends is difficult. However if it does work this way for you, then don't give a toss about what other people think. This is your life to live ... (read in full...)
Will she ever want or like sex?
Q. Mainly want female answers. How normal is it for a girl to just not like any sexual things at all? My girlfriend says she hates the feeling of sex and anything to do with it, she is not a virgin (I am) but she just simply hates it, she has never ...
A. 25 September 2011: I'm with Aunt Honesty. Something has happened to make her feel this way. It's going to be important for your relationship to get to the bottom of this because a relationship without sex is just a friendship. ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but I'm afraid to show all my feelings as I have been hurt int he past. What to do??
Q. This is going to be a little confusing, so bear with me. I think I like a guy friend of mine. He and I haven't known each other that long, so I can't be sure, and truth be told I haven't hung out with him all that much. When I finally admitted...
A. 25 September 2011: Spanner28 is right. You have done nothing wrong and nothing to feel like an idiot over. Throw your shoulders back doll you are doing fine!!... (read in full...)
First love drepression, any advice?
Q. HI, I just came back to the site... I am really sad... My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 2-3 months and I deactivated my facebook, blocked him from sending me e-mails to my hotmail and yahoo account and even changed my phone...
A. 20 September 2011: What you are going through is completely normal and many of us have been where you are. You will get through this and you will be fine and you will love again. Keep in mind it's important to mourn a relationship. It's a process you must go ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married boss to keep my job and now I feel sick!
Q. I think i have just had sex with my boss to save my job. Ive always known hes fancied from since i started. but at the start of the year he told us that out of 3 of us 1 of us would get sacked. its just an office job but its a job so i decided ...
A. 19 September 2011: Honestly I would leave this job and find another. No job is worth selling yourself for and you have now put yourself in a position where he has enormous power over you. He will now expect you to sleep with him whenever you need to advance in your ... (read in full...)
Has my sister caused me to hate women? I have discovered why I'm terrified of rejection
Q. I'm 20 years old and its all because of my sister. She always rebukes and verbally abuses me. I've had enough and i disowned her a few days ago and im no longer talking to her. Whenever i go to talk to her she is always in a bad mood and answers ...
A. 19 September 2011: Please don't let your sister ruin your impression of women in general. Most of us are pretty decent and nice to be around. You need to get out and meet some other women and discover how your sister has given you a warped view of the world. If ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents I'm gay?
Q. hi i am a 15 year old teen boy i dont know if im gay i think i am because i find teen boys and models very attractive my mother send my to a doctor a social worker because im very introvent dont talk much with people. when i am home im just indoors ...
A. 19 September 2011: I'm a parent of a total tomboy girl and I love her to pieces. If she told me she was gay I have to admit I would be disappointed because it's not what I imagined for her but I would still love her just as much as I always have. Because she is ... (read in full...)
I like this guy but I'm afraid to show all my feelings as I have been hurt int he past. What to do??
Q. This is going to be a little confusing, so bear with me. I think I like a guy friend of mine. He and I haven't known each other that long, so I can't be sure, and truth be told I haven't hung out with him all that much. When I finally admitted...
A. 19 September 2011: Pursue it but don't invest your heart until you are sure that he feels the same way. Treat it like a friendship at first.... (read in full...)
Can people fall in love over the phone? Or is it because we knew each other before?
Q. Why do guys fall in love with girls? There was this guy that I had worked with about five years ago, and for the past three years we pretty much haven't talked at all. I was dating one of his friends at the time when we had worked together, so he ...
A. 19 September 2011: If he's been thinking of you all that time and wishing you were together then yes I think it is possible that he's in love with you already. Just remind him that you need to take it slowly at first and feel your way through for a while.... (read in full...)
I'm going to visit friends in the town where I went to university, but I'm worried about running in to my ex. What should I do?
Q. I'm going to visit friends back in the town where I went to university, but I'm worried about running in to my ex. Mine and my ex's relationship was short term, but we got on incredibly well with each other and formed a strong, loving relations...
A. 19 September 2011: I would tell her you are coming to town but that you are going to be really busy and may not have time to see her. If you do run into her you hold your head up high and look her in the eye with as much confidence as you can muster. Don't let her ... (read in full...)
My friends of 20 years have been deliberately excluding me!
Q. I have two close friends that I have known for nearly 20 years. I like them, I care about them and I really enjoy spending time in their company. I thought they felt the same about me. This weekend I found out that they have been having a lot of ...
A. 12 September 2011: OK that's a thought. Thanks so much for replying.... (read in full...)
I feel I'm being used!
Q. I have been involved with a guy on and off for about 3 years now! I was completely besotted with him and because I loved him I just let him treat me bad - like he only ever used me for money,sex now and then etc etc... Anyway one day last week I ...
A. 12 September 2011: Tell him you have decided it's best for you both to go your seperate ways and stand firm on that. You owe him nothing.... (read in full...)
What criteria do I use to choose which guy? I like them both. They know each other.
Q. A few weeks ago i met a guy and we've been getting on well and he's been taking me out over the past few weeks and it's been nice and it's obvious he likes me but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend (I know it's only been a few weeks so i guess ...
A. 11 September 2011: In America they date a lot rather than go for exclusiveness. Date these two men for a while and see which one comes to the fore.... (read in full...)
After she gave birth she is not tight like before! What can I do?
Q. Hello all cupid users Can you please help, since she gave birth sex is not like before. Her vaginal wetness is not the same. its dry. And how can I get the vaginal tightness she had before? Thanks...
A. 11 September 2011: Vaginal dryness after birth is so common it must almost be the rule. Hormones are to blame for this and they do eventually sort themselves out and natural lubrication reappears. In the meantime KY Jelly is your best bet. Like everyone else has ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm being used!
Q. I have been involved with a guy on and off for about 3 years now! I was completely besotted with him and because I loved him I just let him treat me bad - like he only ever used me for money,sex now and then etc etc... Anyway one day last week I ...
A. 11 September 2011: To me that is a big red flag. Be very very careful about this guy. Turn all your spidey senses on and proceed with the utmost caution.... (read in full...)
Why do I still loved my violent alcohol bully ex whole stole to buy drugs? Yet I still miss him. How do stop my craving for him?
Q. We've all been here i know but Im struggling to keep it together. Here it goes. Me and my daughters dad was together 5yrs with a few breaks between. We broke up around a month ago but he still lived in our house until yesterday and i miss him so m...
A. 11 September 2011: You are simply scared. Your whole way of life is now going to change and that is very scary for you. In time you will look back on this period of your life and wonder what you were thinking but at the moment all you can see is uncertainty.
F... (read in full...)
Any special tips or advice for pleasuring a man who is circumsized?
Q. I've been seeing a new guy for a few weeks now and got more initimate last night. We didnt sleep together but we did enough for me to realise he was circumcised. Just wondering if anyone had any tips or adivse for pleasauring him, I haven't ...
A. 11 September 2011: I have not heard that it's more difficult. The best thing to do would be to ask him what he likes. At the end of the day he's really the only one who can give you a specific answer.... (read in full...)
How do I understand this? our relationship is ok but strained due to her fantasy method of masturbating to photos of her female friends.
Q. I caught my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years (we are now sophomores in college, but started dating in high school) masturbating to photos of her female friends from our high school. Long story, but she thought I was still taking a shower one day this ...
A. 11 September 2011: Fantasty's are fine so long as they remain fantasy's. We all get turned on by different things and trying to understand why someone finds one thing hot and another something else is almost impossible. As long as this remains in her head I don't ... (read in full...)
I love her but my brain says run. I need help please to resolve serious reservations about this 'situation'.
Q. I am madly in love and constantly dream about this woman. I cannot get enough of her... But, my brain disagrees. There are real signs that something is really wrong with her... She can't manage money. She cries at the drop of a hat (we can be o...
A. 11 September 2011: I hate to say it but your brain is in the right in this situation. If you stay with her life is going to be stuffed full of never ending drama and strife. I bet if you really examine how you feel about her it's more of a need to protect her than ... (read in full...)
Why is she still bitter and on a campaign to destroy my life?
Q. after 5 years of torment through my ex's single woman behavior, lying yet at the same time she was jealous, attacking me when we got home and destroying my belongings if a woman ever looked at me. She also cheated. We have been broke up 6 months,and ...
A. 11 September 2011: Hate is the flip side of love so when someone hates you it means they actually still care about you. She is doing this because deep down she still really wants you and she doesn't want anyone else to have you. She's to be pittied really because ... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "What's the next thing after like, that's how I feel about you"?
Q. hello ive been seen a fellow for a year now and everything was fine when i first met him he said he didnt want a relationship and i was seen him a weekends now hes saying i dont ever invite him out to my house and its not going any where and when i ...
A. 11 September 2011: Tell him it seems there is some confusion on where this relationship is supposed to be going Remind him that he said he didn't want one in the beginning but that you are now wondering if he's changed his mind. Don't stop asking questions until you ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling hurt and let down, help me walk away!
Q. i been dating this man for five years and hes married he stop seeing and then he wants me back for a few days then he out looking for some one new his wife lives up north and he lives here its like he likes having his cake everything else i get ...
A. 11 September 2011: Move on and don't ever look back. He's never going to leave his wife and I'm afraid you were just a bit of fun for him. Acknowledge that and find someone who wants you and loves you and is there for you. Wasting your time thinking about this ... (read in full...)
Now I don't believe that he believes me!
Q. Firstly, let me just say that I love my boyfriend of 5 months and cannot imagine myself being with anyone else. The other night I went out with some friends who I havnt seen for like a year. Anyways, I ended up getting so drunk that I can't ...
A. 11 September 2011: He obviously trusts you and has no problem believing that you would never cheat on him. Leave this alone now because if you keep pushing and worrying it will tear you both apart. Nothing happened and he's happy so forget it and get back to normal ... (read in full...)
I'm Too skinny. How can I safety build up my body without being muscles plus and not using scams? Safe only.
Q. hi guys i'm 18 and very slim. i have very thin arms thin enough you can wrap your whole hand around them, you can see my ribs sort of when i take my shirt off. I hate it and I hate taking my shirt off. i don't want to be really muscley or reall...
A. 11 September 2011: Protein shakes are great for helping build muscle. Try joining the gym and getting a personal trainer. They will be able to give you a tailor made regime that suits you and a diet to go along with it.... (read in full...)
How do I ask fiance's dad and uncle to walk me down the aisle?
Q. Hello all. My fiance and I have been engaged for a few weeks now. I hope for a wedding in a year or so, after we're done with important events / work, etc.. My fiance's not very close with his dad. His father walked out on him, and has only ...
A. 8 September 2011: I wouldn't. Why is your own Dad not walking you down the aisle??... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he didn't say sorry for giving me a really bad cold?
Q. I'm casually seeing this guy...he is seeing a few other women - to make a long story short, my best friend is his sister and they live together. She thought he was coming down with a cold, so when we went out and I got him some cold medicine. He ...
A. 8 September 2011: Yes I think you are overreacting. It's really hard to tell the difference between a cold and allergies in the early stages of a cold and 9 times out of 10 a common cold ony results in a sore throat and runny nose so he had absoutely no way of ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for taking my daughter away from this cheat or should I try and make it work?
Q. Long story short! I don't know if I can make my relationship work. I feel miserable!!! We have a daughter together she is 1 month and 1 week today, too be honest when I first found out I was pregnant I thought our relationship was going to change ...
A. 8 September 2011: It does sound really bad as far as the possibility of cheating goes! The bottom line is here are you happy with him? If you are not your daughter will sense it and will find a way to make it her fault that Mum and Dad don't get on. Chances are ... (read in full...)
He waited 23 years to express his disappointment. How many people out there did not have sex on their first wedding night?
Q. How many people did not have sex on their wedding night and waited until the honeymoon?? Husband was upset that we did not have sex on wedding night. We did have sex as soon as we arrived at the hotel on the honeymoon. when i tried to explain...
A. 6 September 2011: Yep I agree with other posters. Wedding night sex is not all its cracked up to be. My husband agrees that the sex we had on our wedding night was for the tradition alone. It was not good sex it was lets get it over with sex.
I also think this... (read in full...)
I feel he is just talking to me to be polite...why cant I let go?
Q. Hey guys, I'd really appreciate it if you could help me with this. I'm 15 and I've been in love with the same guy for around a year. Everything started a year ago, when I met him in class. We had about 4 classes a week together and we developed...
A. 6 September 2011: No it is not dumb! Plenty of us have been in that boat so don't feel silly, you are completely normal. Honestly I think he is chatting to you because he wants to, cause at your ages politeness is few and far between. If he didn't want to talk to ... (read in full...)
Gay dating in high school?
Q. Just a little about me, I'm an out gay sophomore, at a Catholic school, in a city that is supportive of homosexuality, though gay marriage isn't available anymore for some reason... Anyway, how am I supposed to date in high school? No sourc...
A. 6 September 2011: I'm not gay so I haven't had to go through this tricky process of figuring out whether or not someone you are interested in is gay but even when you are straight you have to figure out if the person you are interested in is interested in you in the ... (read in full...)
Life After "Cheating"
Q. First I'll explain the sitch...So I've been seeing this amazing guy that I'm crazy about and that scares me.. I hate when I guy gets a hold of your heart and breaks it.. and he's getting there.. so the other night ...
A. 6 September 2011: I think you've probably done the right thing by telling him straight away. Keep in mind that famous quote "it is better to be loved and lost than never to have loved at all" Yes love is risky but it is also fantastic and good for the soul. Don't ... (read in full...)
I',m upset that I caught my husband with a dirty magagzine
Q. Dear cupid i am married to my husband who i love so much and the other day i called into his work and caught him coming out of the bathroom at work with a dirty mag and i was upset and he was not bothered that i was upset but it made me feel ...
A. 6 September 2011: I personally don't find porn threatening because the way I see it, it's just eye candy it's not and will never be the real thing. Ask him if there's something going on that makes him only want sex that much and tell him how you feel about the lack ... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 6 September 2011: The FWB guy is realising he's losing you so he's grasping at straws. Move on from this guy and find happiness with someone who doesn't just want to screw you but actually wants to love and care for you. You deserve it.... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still 'love' me, because I still love him!
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them ...
A. 5 September 2011: You have now answered your own question sweetheart. All you can do is remain friends with these people and be the best friend you can be... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 5 September 2011: I understand what you mean and I can only tell you that if the love is enough you will come to a place where you can accept the way he loves you. If it's not enough however you do need to move on and find the right man.... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still 'love' me, because I still love him!
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them ...
A. 3 September 2011: Still I would tell him that you don't agree with the way this girl runs off and comes back and that you think you are the women for him. This way you will really find out how things stand and not have to wonder anymore.... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still 'love' me, because I still love him!
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them ...
A. 3 September 2011: Honestly I think you should be really up front with him and tell him you really like him and would like to explore a relationship with him and see what happens.... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 1 September 2011: You are so on the right track. You go girl!... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 27 August 2011: The FWB knew what he was getting himself in for so you don't owe him any explanations. Carry on as per usual.... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 27 August 2011: He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 25 August 2011: Most guys are really not that romantic. They can walk the walk and talk the talk when they are trying to impress someone and then once they have fallen in love and settled down they view romance as unnecessary. It's just one of those things and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 25 August 2011: There are lots of possible reasons why this is happening:
1. He is so preoccupied with his exams he just can't focus on anything else at the moment. Not everyone can focus on several things some people can only handle so much before other stuf... (read in full...)
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