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*ilpepper
writes:Hey guys, I'd really appreciate it if you could help me with this.I'm 15 and I've been in love with the same guy for around a year. Everything started a year ago, when I met him in class. We had about 4 classes a week together and we developed something like a friendship. We would tease each other, talk about music, films, books, every day problems ( we had a lot in common), but all that time I was in love with him. We were both two weird kids, both single, both a little bit nerdy...And then the school year ended and everything changed. He found a lot of new friends and formed a band. A lot of girls started liking him and I really started feeling a huge amount of jealousy. We were still in touch, but only online. He talked about his band a lot, invited me to their gigs... There was one time when I couldn't come to his gig and he couldn't stop talking about how sad he felt, how much he missed me and all that stuff. But you know, I just knew that he meant it in a friendly manner.A month ago, he moved to a big city. Now he has new friends, a new band, he even got a scholarship from a jazz academy... He still tries to chat with me, but I'm just not sure. I feel like he's doing it just to be polite.Somehow, I'm still in love with him. I know that if I tried a little more, that I could get any guy I want, but I can't stop thinking of him. My friends know that I was in love with him, but they think that it ended a long time ago. Being in love with the same guy for a year, without an actual relationship involved, is a little bit dumb, don't you think?So.. To sum it all up, I don't know what to do. How can I stop thinking of him? :(Btw, I'm not from an English speaking country, I forgot to turn the spell checker on, my grammar sucks and you don't have to tell me all that.
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reader, lilpepper +, writes (16 September 2011):
lilpepper is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice :)
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 No it is not dumb! Plenty of us have been in that boat so don't feel silly, you are completely normal. Honestly I think he is chatting to you because he wants to, cause at your ages politeness is few and far between. If he didn't want to talk to you he just wouldn't bother. It's very hard to stop thinking about someone when you love them like that and the best advice I can offer is to keep yourself really busy. The busier you are the less time you will have to think about him. Join lots of clubs and go to any party you get invited to. Make lots of new friends and be totally committed to the ones you already have.
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