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writes:Hello all cupid users Can you please help, since she gave birth sex is not like before. Her vaginal wetness is not the same. its dry. And how can I get the vaginal tightness she had before? Thanks
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reader, solz +, writes (13 September 2011):
solz is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondear users am realy thankful to her to carry my baby .i never ment to hurt or belittle her we are a very happy couple what i was trying to ask was if they was any problem in her not being wet.and a far as tightness just wnted to know if she can recover dnt misunderstand me pleeeez chilex dudes and babes
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): Wow, she just had your baby and sex is still the priority?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (11 September 2011):
You want that tightness back? Ha, you better go looking for a virgin somewhere! Failing that you need to get your wife a babysitter, subscription to a gym, and hope she never finds out you asked this question. Given how tired a new mother gets you should be thankful she cared enough to let you find out shes not so tight!
With exercise the muscles do come back to their old shape, but you have to do your part to encourage and show you care. As for the dryness, I never noticed that, but then again I do have a very wet tongue!
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (11 September 2011):
well said honeypie
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Vaginal dryness after birth is so common it must almost be the rule. Hormones are to blame for this and they do eventually sort themselves out and natural lubrication reappears. In the meantime KY Jelly is your best bet. Like everyone else has said go easy on her, babies are bloody hard to push out and demanding little sods to deal with so she has a lot on her plate. You should try to do as much for her as you can, she will love you for it!
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (10 September 2011):
 How long has it been since she gave birth? That plays a big factor. Most women tighten up several months after pregnancy and some may take longer. Kegel exercises are always an option, but if I were you, I wouldn't mention this to her. She is stressed and tired as it is taking care of your child. You're lucky you're even getting any. :)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (10 September 2011):
 Well kegel exercises can help HER muscles, but honestly... IMAGINE you popping a watermellon out of YOUR private parts then consider how "tight" YOU would be.
Selfish arse.
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reader, auntyR +, writes (10 September 2011):
of course she is not going to be as tight down there as she was before! She just gave birth to a baby!!!! You shouldn't be worrying about this at all, it's her body and if she is happy with how it is then why should she change. Stop being selfish and except that having a baby does change a womans body!
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reader, hot4shoes +, writes (10 September 2011):
 That is a very selfish comment about someone that just carried your child for 9 torturous months. She could just as well have said that your not "big" enough to satisfy her. That coin has two sides!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): She just gave birth of course she isn't as tight as she used to be, that is what is to be expected. She can do pelvic floor exercises, but she will never be as tight as she was before, it's a fact of life. Accept it and you will both be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): I think you need to read up on childbirth,women etc,educate yourself and remember that this lady has been through a lot of changes physically and biologically.Together you can sort through everything when you know whats going on.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (10 September 2011):
Dude its in your head. i bet she wasnt tight as you think it was and why would you want it to be thight. You should want her to enjoy sex as well.
She's dry because somehow she isnt into you at the moment. It could be that she just giving to you to get it over with. Try romance her for awhile and see if she doesnt get wet for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): This is typical for someone who just gave birth. Talk to her, and politely ask if she could consider pelvic floor (Kegel) exercises. Make sure you ask nicely, and doesn't come off the wrong way. As for the wetness, use lube. This shouldn't be a problem, because usually being dry and "loose" isn't fun for the girl either. Oh, and congrats on your baby!
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