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*shi1234
writes:My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often and that makes me so angry and sometimes I fight with him. As an example,I love it when I get a sms from him. He never replies when I sms lovingly . that makes me angry. When he is with me he gives his fullest attention and love.But we meet twice a month because he is busy with his final exam. I want to see him care about me though he is busy. When I was busy with my exam 1 year ago i never forgot him. I cared about him. Why can’t he do as I did for him ? But now i have been stressed with him because he doesn't care about me because he is always busy with studies. Even in a phone call he talks with me just for 20mnts per day. I know he loves me. But why doesn’t he want to impress me as I do. I told him that i feel lonely and want to be loved by him. I feel angry when I feel I am not loved and cared for by him. Please give me a answer.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (5 September 2011):
 I understand what you mean and I can only tell you that if the love is enough you will come to a place where you can accept the way he loves you. If it's not enough however you do need to move on and find the right man.
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reader, ashi1234 +, writes (5 September 2011):
ashi1234 is verified as being by the original poster of the question He never understand. I love him thats why I stay with him..but I hate him for not loving me the way I deserve and want to be loved.
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (25 August 2011):
Most guys are really not that romantic. They can walk the walk and talk the talk when they are trying to impress someone and then once they have fallen in love and settled down they view romance as unnecessary. It's just one of those things and eventually you will both come to a place where you are both happy with the way the relationship moves.
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reader, ashi1234 +, writes (25 August 2011):
ashi1234 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I understand it. Sometimes I get fed up with him when i use to live without appreciation, love and all that.
I know he loves me. But I expect something from him to do for me. Thats why I get angry when he doesn't do such romantic things as a reason of he is B..C :(
Anyway I try my best to do it. thanks again
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (25 August 2011):
There are lots of possible reasons why this is happening:
1. He is so preoccupied with his exams he just can't focus on anything else at the moment. Not everyone can focus on several things some people can only handle so much before other stuff starts getting shut out.
2. He's gotten a bit comfortable with your relationship and just expects that you will always be there and understand. In this case you will need to remind him that if he wants to keep you he will have to put some work into the relationship too.
3. He's just a bit clueless and needs you to wake him up.
If he wont listen to you talking about what you need from the relationship then you need to step it up a bit. A trip away for a good while can do wonders to make a man remember why they fell in love.
All the best doll!
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