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Have you ever squirted or made anyone squirt?
Q. Hi, I was just wondering if any of you out there have, 'squirted' during sex, or made anyone squirt? ive never had an orgasam, with anyone ive ever been with. I do enjoy sex and do have a good sexlife with my boyfriend, but ive dont know anyone who ...
A. 19 June 2012: I had one girlfriend that squirted. it is comparatively rare and not linked to as much pleasure as you may think. many women don't have orgasms until their men learn how to pleasure them. this is difficult as the woman has to learn first. sometimes ... (read in full...)
The love of my life used to be an escort... can I forgive her?
Q. I met the girl of my dreams... or so I thought. A little background... She is a senior in college and I'm a few years older than she is with a solid career. She is beautiful, intelligent, exciting, fun... she was the perfect woman. I never ...
A. 19 June 2012: I could have a relationship with someone who used to be a hooker but it seems like lying for her to be playing hard to get with you while bonking other guys. if she'd given up when or before she met you maybe ok. But I don't know, its just a job. I ... (read in full...)
Is this considered cheating? Help!
Q. Hi, Need help. Is this considered cheating? My fiance and I are 3 months away from the BIG day. I'm 29 and he's 38. Never married and no kids. We're having a coed bechalor/bechalorette party in Las Vegas. We're best friends so we figured i...
A. 19 June 2012: you are right but people have different moral standards. it seems to me if he can do it you should be able to as well.... (read in full...)
Tired of waiting for love to return
Q. husband left me for a 24 year old with a 3 year old. they are now living together and are engaged. our divorce is not final, and i found out he has not payed my attourney yet. they seem to be getting along pretty good. but everyone tells me it wont ...
A. 18 June 2012: you have to make a new life of your own. go out and make new friends. join clubs and get your very own life. then when he comes back you will be confident enough to reject him. I know it seems like a gargantuan leap but I have done it and millions ... (read in full...)
How many men out there are NOT into pornography and find it degrading?
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, I've been in a relationship nearly 4 years - 3 of which my bf used online porn most days, even perusing it while I was asleep naked a metre away from him, even though I was always happy and curious to explore our sex life. We fough...
A. 14 June 2012: men are turned on by porn. there is no question about that. but it can become addictive and inappropriate. it sounds like your man is addicted. porn is not real life and consequently is a waste of time. I would always prefer a real woman to porn and ... (read in full...)
Why does it matter so much how much someone makes or their potential earnings? How important is it to a future marriage?
Q. I'm engaged to the most wonderful man I've ever met, but no one is taking my relationship seriously. He's 29, living at home working for his parents, and finishing up his bachelors in another year 1/2. I'm in college too, but have another 2 years to ...
A. 12 June 2012: its a symptom of capitalism. a person has to be rich to be worthwhile. I guess a woman needs to know that her man will be able to look after her if she has children. but there's no need to be rich or potentially rich. poor and happy is good too. but ... (read in full...)
Do you have to be physically attracted to someone to have sex with them?
Q. I think I worded a question wrong the other day, but what I really wanted to know is do men sleep with women that they aren't physically attracted to, especially more than once. I think my suggested question title got changed and people basicall...
A. 11 June 2012: when a guy is hormonal he just wants sex. when he isn't he likes a relationship with sex. many guys are in the second phase. I don't know about percentages. you as a woman have to try and figure out which casmp your guy falls into unless you just ... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with women just for the sex?
Q. Will men really sleep with a girl if they don't fancy them? Not talking about beer goggles time when drunk. Stone cold sober, pre meditated chatting someone up in the expectation of having sex?...
A. 10 June 2012: yeah most men have sex and then fall asleep. hence even though they didn't intend to sleep with the woman they do so anyway.probably if you stop him falling asleep by talking to him he will go home... (read in full...)
Is it normal for women to only like one night stands?
Q. Hi Just after some opinions really. I know we hear a lot about blokes liking one night stands then losing interest, but I seem to be the female equivilant. I am so happy in my life right now in all ways, and I love being single. Yet I also love ...
A. 2 June 2012: anything you want to do is normal unless it's socially unacceptable. it's socially acceptable to fuck anybody you like unless it's hurting someone else. your problem is something else. is it ok in the longterm to sleep with 2 guys at once? what ... (read in full...)
Can friends with benefits work ?
Q. Can Friends with benefits with an ex work ? Me and my ex started seeing each other last november. We did alot for the 2 months we was together. Met his family his friends he met mine. We all got along. He suffered with migraines and had ...
A. 28 May 2012: my initial reaction is no. gee the whole thing about sex and realtionships is finding the person you fit with. having someone to keep you going pysically until you meet with someone you want to be in a relationship with is only a distraction. maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! what do men want in dating?
Q. Can someone help me out here, please! I'm divorced had been with my husband for 10 years and have been single for 18 months, not looking to get into anything that will suffocate me as my marriage did. I've dated two guys in the last 6 months, well ...
A. 28 May 2012: lets face it we've got to meet a lot of maybes and definitely nots before you meet the one. even if these days the one is more like one or two or a few. meeting the one is more about how you feel at the time and how your new person feels and of ... (read in full...)
I don't know the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal one
Q. This is a sex problem and I really don't want to be graphic but I need help all the same. I hope the moderators won't censor my question. I don't know the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal one. Whenever I've had orgasms from sex...
A. 26 May 2012: I'm a bloke so i don't know but I do know something. My ex-wife had a clitoral orgasm every time we had sex once we got to know each other. I suspect you have the other kind but whether the one kind feels better than the other kind is only for each ... (read in full...)
What game is my wife playing here?
Q. After 14 years of marriage and 2 kids, my wife wanted a divorce. We have been separated for 14 months. Now after all this time she calls me and says that it takes 2 people to get a divorce, that I should have stood up to her and made us go to ...
A. 20 May 2012: it sounds like you have had a hard road throughout the marriage. my wife did the same as yours, asked for the separation, got it and then wanted to go back. while I would not say categorically there is no going back it is rarely a wise path. there ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as getting sex lessons?
Q. This is going to sound weird and bizzare but can you get sex lessons anyywhere? I'm not very cnfident in the bedroom and I'm currently single. but is there such thing as getting sex llessons like actal physical lessons but not prostitutes?...
A. 20 May 2012: let me give you your first sex lesson. sex and relationships(love) go hand in hand. as you get to know and understand your partner sexually your pleasure and understanding of how sex works with that partner will expand. change partners and you've ... (read in full...)
Insecure and controlling Step Mother... what to do?
Q. I need honest advice about a family matter... My parent's separated over 10 years ago and since then my dad has been remarried. However (let's call her Suzie) is extremely insecure and threatened by my mother (even though my mother left HIM and ...
A. 15 May 2012: not everyones perfect. I hate convoluted family situations but they happen. I don't really like being friendly with all the exs but I guess its a necessary evil. if i was your mum I would probably make some allowances. but your stepmums position is ... (read in full...)
Why do people react so negatively when I say I don't want to get married or have children?
Q. Maybe, I am too young to say this, but I am just not interested in getting married or having kids. Now, don't get me wrong. While I do not want to get married, it doesn't mean I don't want to find and live my life with that one special partner....
A. 13 May 2012: I have raised two families one after the other and look like I might be in for a third round. My attitude is a bit like yours but you have to go with the flow if you want all the big things. If you want a woman to love and need you then you have to ... (read in full...)
What are some ways I can stay feeling confident and sexy without his verbal approval?
Q. Help! i recently realized that my boyfriend NEVER compliments me verbally. however, i'm pretty sure he thinks i'm awesome. . . right? or else he wouldn't be with me? what are some ways i can stay feeling confident and sexy without his v...
A. 13 May 2012: I'm just like your boyfriend. He does think you're the most amazing person in the world or he wouldn't be with you. But on the other side you should tell him that you need him to say nice things. It probably wont work but genuine guys aren't fully ... (read in full...)
Can I have other view points please on what to do? My wife is disrespectful and takes me for granted
Q. I married my wife when we were 20. I fell head over heals with her - nothing in the universe mattered. I was in the Marine Corps at the time and we never had money given the terrible pay. I was discharged in '90 and started my civilian career in I...
A. 13 May 2012: I don't think its going to get better. you have inadvertently set up a pattern of behaviour that has undone you. its not your fault or hers but a product of the relationship. you ccould seek counselling but I'm not sure it would work. give it a try. ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy obsession on my DAUGHTER - NOOOOO!!!!
Q. I caught my boyfriend of 5.5 yrs (really a part of my family), surprised him at his house(where I never go) jacking off to recent pictures of my newly pregnant daughter. He had gone into my computer and copied pictures that she had sent to ME of her ...
A. 13 May 2012: you poor thing. I'm a bit sensitive about issues like that too. I wouldn't forget. men are quite different in their sexuality than women and theres probably nothing to worry about but its too personal. I hope you move forward and find a better life.... (read in full...)
I want my b/f to pay more attention to me than to his laptop!
Q. Dear, Cupid. Me and my significant other have been together for almost two years now. And for the past 10 months, we have been having some problems. He just doesn't seem intrested in sex with me anymore. It all first started, when he got a laptop....
A. 12 May 2012: problem is this. you are at home 24/7 and he has no man space. we all need it. start an evening course one or two nights a week and go out during the day doing something that you like. just gives him the idea that home is not 100% you. no offence ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be his 1st official Gf. Should I consider it? Seeing as he's slept with 70 women in the past?
Q. Dear Advice Givers, Im 21 years old, currently involved with a 23 year old man for around 4 months. We are completely into each other, spent alot of time and did romantic things together, all peachy till he confessed his number...the num...
A. 12 May 2012: if he's slept with 70 at that age a lot of them probably were prostitutes. I would ask him to get tested first. there is also the worry about future fidelity. I guess you have to go with your gut on that one.... (read in full...)
Guys and girls I need your thoughts please: what does define a girl who is 'good in bed'?
Q. I'm trying to think of a way to put this delicately but failing miserably so here goes - I was chatting with some of my guy friends the other day, and one of them started talking about how this girl was really bad in bed. I'm a virgin and my bf an...
A. 12 May 2012: I don't think the ladies replies tell you anything so i will try to tell you. you both have to be very responsive to each as if you know what the other wants in advance. you also have to be very slow to build up the tension. you will probably find ... (read in full...)
What kind of porn do straight girls watch?
Q. What kind of porn do straight girls watch? And how often do they do it?...
A. 10 May 2012: I would have to agree with most that women ar generally not interested in porn unless it is of the romantic and suggestive variety without anything graphic. leave it to the imagination. I also think most men would be better off without it too ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to speak to my bf about taking things to the next level?
Q. Dear all.plz advise. I.ve been seeing my bf for 14 months now. He recently moved round the corner from me. He has a twin sister with downs syndrome who lives with him. He is her full time carer. The problem is, we only see each other once a ...
A. 8 May 2012: I reckon you could step it up to twice a week without too much drama. Its difficult with his responsibilities. It may not be enough for you. Push it a bit further and see how you feel.... (read in full...)
Is getting tattoos on my butt cheeks a good idea?
Q. I'm thinking of getting tattoos on my butt cheeks. I wanted to know if guys typically like that. I was doing it for myself and then I over heard a male friend react negatively towards it. I was going to get a centaur with a bow and arrow on one ...
A. 8 May 2012: tattoos are extremely stupid and make 90% of people see what you are like... (read in full...)
How can my ex marry her so very very soon after meeting her? It hurts.
Q. How can my ex marry someone 2 months after meeting her? Even though he has been driving by my house and calling me often with a private number? I called him about three weeks ago to ask him why he was doing these things and a girl answered...
A. 8 May 2012: I know where you are. my ex and I split 2 years ago, her idea. For the first year we got together a bit. Since a year ago I have refused sex and am trying to get on with my own life. I make no suggestions to her at all about maybe getting back. Its ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: I think in a relationship there are some things one partner is in charge of and some things the other partner is in charge of. its just that some people are better at some things than others. it has to work in the interests of both parties. I think ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to speak to my bf about taking things to the next level?
Q. Dear all.plz advise. I.ve been seeing my bf for 14 months now. He recently moved round the corner from me. He has a twin sister with downs syndrome who lives with him. He is her full time carer. The problem is, we only see each other once a ...
A. 4 May 2012: some guys can only cope with relationships at a certain distance. he has the added resonsibility of being a carer. I know women that have young children and their relationship potential is limited. they would like to have a relationship but they ... (read in full...)
Does it seem like I have too much baggage to begin dating again?
Q. Hi all. I am considering dating a man who is about 15 years older than me. But I have a few reservations. 1.)The age gap of course. 2.)I am still in the process of a LONG divorce, which should be finalized this month. 3.) I have a strong EM...
A. 4 May 2012: I am a person who needs space between relationships to find me. unfortunately I need a lot of space. some people are the opposite. your problem isn't about baggage its more about whether you're ready to move on. I guess I'm saying the same as ... (read in full...)
Are men put off by women who have given birth?
Q. question for the men on here.. Are men put off by women who have given birth? either because they watched their partner give birth which has put them off sex and can't get the image of their head of seeing partner being stretched and watching som...
A. 4 May 2012: not for me. I'm a 50 odd yo and I expect most women will have given birth. i am not disgusted by their vaginas or attracted to ones whose vaginas have not given birth. in fact I only worry about a woman of my age who hasn't had a long term ... (read in full...)
How much are we responsible about the bad things in our life?
Q. What do you think, how much are we responsible about the bad things in our life? I feel ,I tried my best regarding to raising kids,and marriage, and my health. But in almost every of those areas, I had tragic outcome. Including death of a child from ...
A. 24 April 2012: people tend to blame you when they hear about your problems. especially if its your children who are the problem. it makes it hard for them to understand when they're doing that. I have a diificult daughter and everyone seems to think its an easy ... (read in full...)
I feel lost...
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years has just broke up with me, its really hard because he still calls me asking for money and wants to sleep with me, he said we can still be with each other but not be in a relationship. I don't know what to do, as he was my ...
A. 22 April 2012: although I'm a bloke I've been through the same. you have to move on with your life or you'll be stuck on the same merrygoround. he is using you and you are using him. get some friends. they don't have to be amazingly close but you will learn about ... (read in full...)
Why are married women bitter towards single beautiful women around their men?
Q. I don't like going to my friend's parties anymore. Seems like everyone is married and here comes me the single girl who is being hated on. I am pretty and I do look my best anytime I go out. I don't like the grin and the mean mugging I get from ...
A. 17 April 2012: I get where you're at as I've been on my own for a couple of years and remember when I was married it was pretty strictly friends with other marrieds. I think it was the wifes rules. now I am single it is pretty much friends with singles with a few ... (read in full...)
My jealousy of other women is going to ruin our relationship!
Q. Ok the first thing Im going to point out and admit is that Im very insecure. I dont need to be told this because I know, and need to work on it. My problem is my insecurities. I dont like my boyfriend looking at ANY other females. I found some pic...
A. 17 April 2012: I feel sorry for you. I'm a bloke and I can get jealous too. In one earlier relationship I got jealous and blamed myself for not controlling my feelings of inadequacy. I have since thought that my ex didn't love me enough because i have never been ... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 15 April 2012: I'm a typical male as judged by all the females I know. If I have a girlfriend I appreciate her for what she's got not for what she's not got. Once you are together you are on the same team. If he's suggesting the other teams got better tits maybe ... (read in full...)
Cultural differences are causing big problems in our relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I love one another very much, but we have communication/understanding problems due to cultural differences. My parents and I are both Korean American, and he is a Korean international student from Korea. Although my parents and I ...
A. 15 April 2012: I don't think its about cultural differences. I've dated women from many cultures and i'm very culturally aware. i rather fancy janniepeg but shes got a boyfriend. This is about interpersonal issues. you both have values and you must both respond to ... (read in full...)
Why do people think the opposite sex cant be just friends
Q. Hi just a quick question why do people always assume that a woman and a man can't be friends without there being more to it this man and me met through my step sister and we get on well (as friends) but people always say they don't believe we are ...
A. 14 April 2012: I get it. what makes a friendship boring? what makes it exciting? we can have too many friends but often we don't have enough. what is better than friendship? Love is better. I'm not talking about sex but a level of intimacy that goes beyond ... (read in full...)
My husband wants a divorce almost every week!
Q. I apoligize in advance for the length of this.. I hope to give you enough information for fair advise. I have issues with my son (17) and my husband (his stepfather).. we have been married for almost 8 years now. it's always been somewhat of a str...
A. 13 April 2012: I understand a lot of what you are saying. I myself have a 17yo adhd daughter. my wife and I have split and we share custody. it has been a huge strain on our relationship having a daughter with these problems. the daughter cares not at all about ... (read in full...)
Over-analyser and compulsive worrier! Help!
Q. Okay, so I have a problem with over analysing the situations where I find out a guy likes me. Basically, a friend of mine has recently made it known to my best friend that he likes me, and I don't know what to do! I get upset when I feel like...
A. 11 April 2012: every female i know is an overanalyser and constant worrier. its how you are. my mum constantly worries about all of her grandchildren. you should try and moderate this behaviour maybe by meditating or something but don't think you're the only one. ... (read in full...)
Is my high sex drive normal for a 47 year old male?
Q. I'm a 47 year old male and I've been seeing the same girl for about four years now. It seems as if my sex drive is only increasing in intensity, although I have always had a high sex drive. Is this normal for a man my age? We have sex about 2...
A. 10 April 2012: we're all different except I'm just like you but 10 years older. don't worry about it. think about something else in between times.... (read in full...)
I'm insecure because I'm not the hot blonde but a short Asian!
Q. So lately alot of people have been saying im pretty or beautiful. But i just pass it off thinking theyre just saying that because they feel bad for me, theyre my friends, or theyre my family. Whenever i look in the mirror at myself i dont see the ...
A. 9 April 2012: like many blokes I know I don't like blondes I only like asians. you are what a lot of people like. expand your friends and aquaintances and you will find that some of them like you love you and lust after you. forget about spots men will love you ... (read in full...)
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