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I'm insecure because I'm not the hot blonde but a short Asian!
Q. So lately alot of people have been saying im pretty or beautiful. But i just pass it off thinking theyre just saying that because they feel bad for me, theyre my friends, or theyre my family. Whenever i look in the mirror at myself i dont see the ...
A. 9 April 2012: like many blokes I know I don't like blondes I only like asians. you are what a lot of people like. expand your friends and aquaintances and you will find that some of them like you love you and lust after you. forget about spots men will love you ... (read in full...)
Why do older men go for younger girls?
Q. Can you guys answer me my question. Why does older guys go for younger girls? I am with someone who is 7 year older than me he is 27, 28 this year. We have had so many complications with our relationship. I just sometimes think to myself no wonder ...
A. 9 April 2012: I reckon I'm pretty normal. I go for girls who are any age. they just have to be what I want. some have been younger and most have been older. at the moment I am keen on a woman who is much younger. I worry about the age difference. everything else ... (read in full...)
My wife got in touch with her first sex partner and sent him a pic of her's in a bikini
Q. My wife and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4 years. My wife has been with between 60 and 70 men between the age of 18 and 30. She had one 3 year relationship during that time. About 90% of her past sexual experiences were just ...
A. 4 April 2012: trust is a touchy subject and a consistent lack of trust can lead to jealousy which just eats you up. I guess you've got to talk to your wife and see if you can agree about this. but you already have so it make you wonder whether it will get better. ... (read in full...)
Men: what do you prefer? Boobs? or butts?
Q. Hi guys as a matter of opinion what do you prefer in women: boobs or a nice firm ass? I have to admit I am an ass man but what do you prefer?...
A. 3 April 2012: I totally agree with Chalice badona donk. gotta have the big wobbly curvy one but I love a bit of personality too. if you don't have personality I can't find out what you're all about.... (read in full...)
I'm miserable in my marriage but too exhausted to leave
Q. Im so miserable in my marriage, but I feel I have no energy to leave. We both went through together lots of challenges also a recent tragedy. We loved each other, but our life had many unbelievable challenges, and now we both feel burned out. He is ...
A. 2 April 2012: divorce doesn't have to be nasty.just do it lowkey. moving out is the hardest bit. once one of you moves out you can start organising your own lives. be careful about the asset split or there will be arguements, its best to write everything. keep ... (read in full...)
My daughter hates me. I need advice.
Q. Hi. I have an 11 year old daughter who absolutely despises me the moment. I realise hormones come into play but she contantly disrespecting me and her brother. My husband and i have been seperated for a few years and i am in another relationship of ...
A. 30 March 2012: you and your daughter need counselling. It might even be that your daughter needs some kind of medication. don't let the situation carry on. it is too destructive for both you and your daughter. you both need to be in control of your own lives. she ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband like to mentally undress my female unattractive friend?
Q. My husband has admitted that he likes to undress my female friend whom we have met on two occasions, mentally in his mind. However, he claimed that he doesn't find her attractive and is not fantasizing about having sex with her but merely her figure ...
A. 24 March 2012: men don't care about an ugly face when they're checking out the goodies. but then checking out the goodies tends to be rather academic and no erection is involved. I don't know why women get so worked up about it all as i know they do the same with ... (read in full...)
How do I know if her emotional affair got physical?
Q. I think I am ready for a divorce. It has been 15 months since I found about my wife's affair. She was having an affair with my little cousin brother/best friend. He is married also with one child. We have three children, and have been married ...
A. 24 March 2012: I don't think it matters whether it was physical or not. the betrayal of an emotional affair is too much already. I'm not saying you have to leave a person because of emotional or physical infidelity but the fact that she's emotionally available ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset that I lost my virginity to another during our break up
Q. I am in a long distance relationship because he is goes to college in washington and i live in florida. So we live on oppsite sides of the country. He is turning 20 this year and im 18. We were together for over a year when we broke up. He just sto...
A. 18 March 2012: I understand your boyfriends point of view. you and him were on the same page as far as sex goes and thats important to blokes. now things are different. its not your fault. you did nothing wrong but you have to acknowledge that things are not the ... (read in full...)
Thirty, single, no prospects, frequents hookers.
Q. Hi, i have recently turned thirty, only to realise that i am growing old with no experience with women and dating game. i just feel shallow, empty and detached. i have been away from home when i was 15 and have lived for the last 15 years on my own. ...
A. 17 March 2012: hookers don't give you what you need. sex is good but you need to learn to understand a woman. it is the spice of life. sure the one you end up with will gobble you up and spit you out in small pieces. but a large part of what being a man is is ... (read in full...)
Why do men want oral sex?
Q. why do men want oral sex ...
A. 16 March 2012: I am one bloke who has no real interest in it. women expect me to want it but I wonder what all the fuss is about. I don't like anal either. everything I enjoy like crazy.... (read in full...)
I want to have a relationship--but I find women utterly annoying!!
Q. ok here's my problem. i've never really had a successful relationship with a woman. the reason is...the ones I've dated or known closely have gotten to be the most annoying, superficial. dishonest, and gossipy individuals I've ever met. i am ...
A. 16 March 2012: I think its only american women that are like that. the men aren't much better either. try dating someone from a different country... (read in full...)
Is it naive to think your relationship with your spouse is special or unique?
Q. I was working on my wife's computer recently, and I found some old emails from about 3 and 4 years ago between my wife and a couple of her exes. I couldn't resist the temptation to read them. I don't know that I really feel jealous (at leas...
A. 13 March 2012: thats interesting because my wife found my ex and I had exchanged emails and she went nuts. we are now divorced too after 19 years. the content of these emails was completely innocent, it was just the fact that we'd made contact that caused the ... (read in full...)
I would like my wife to share my sexual views
Q. I am a 45yr old male and think my my wife is not into sex. When we have sex its like a scheduled event and if I can not preform right, she says its ok maby next time.I am very sexual and like alot of stimulation in all my private parts but she will ...
A. 13 March 2012: man you are so wrong on so many levels. you have to work on common ground between you and your wife in a nonsexual way and then bring sex into the formulae slowly when you think you're getting somewhere. sometimes you've got to go with the flow as ... (read in full...)
Single and dateless!
Q. Hi All, just a question. Have you ever found yourself to be dateless or relationshipless for more than 2 and a half years? I have and now i am questioning myself about my personality, looks and life style. Do you think this is odd to be on my own ...
A. 4 March 2012: there ar lots of women in your age group that would love to meet you. you just have to figure out a way to meet them. that is the secret. a good way is to join some sort of social club and just start chatting to anybody about anything. gradually the ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex so spiteful to me?
Q. I am going through a tough break up we were together for almost a year and he cheated then broke up with me it has been almost a month and yes i have called. And text.wanting answers he blocked my number because i want my sons things back. He is ...
A. 27 February 2012: thats how it gets with ex's. Ive got 2 of them. the first one hates me and the 2nd one hates me every time I suggest we are not getting back together. the best idea is to stay away from them. they are disfunctional relationships.... (read in full...)
Do men like females who are very experimental sexually?
Q. Do men like females who are very experimental sexually? For example, my boyfriend and I went shopping and bought a huge jar of pickles. I said that he should f*** me with one of them. (I'm not always quite so strange, I was 1/2 joking, 1/2 serious, ...
A. 27 February 2012: my wife and I were like that in the early days. it is great. just make sure he is on the team as far as all thats concerned. you don't have to carry out every horny idea you think of. ... (read in full...)
Sex! Why, so far, has it all been so unsatisfying?
Q. hey ive been sexually active for about a year.. ive just been wondering.. I don't know if im sexually frustrated or not but i think i am. I've had sex about a good fifteen times in the year or so since i lost my virginity and it just doesnt f...
A. 20 February 2012: for a man sex is completely automatic, but for a woman to achieve orgasm a lot of fine tuning is required. when automatic person has sex with finetuning person some allowances have to be made. even if is is slow and romantic something like 45% of ... (read in full...)
He will not seek medical help for his Erectile dysfunction. What advice can you offer please?
Q. My husband has problems with erectile dysfunction. He is very insecure about the problem and so we rarely engage or try to have sexual intercourse. He rarely performs oral sex on me. I have become sexually frustrated and upset with him. I know ...
A. 10 February 2012: I understand your problem. Many men would. You have sexual needs and ideally your partner should satisfy them. you should tell him how important it is. I suppose you have. I guess from his point of view (he probably has low hormones as well) he is ... (read in full...)
My wife had no problem seeing my best friend naked! The casual way she acted around him, suggesting that MY underwear would look good on him, makes me very uncomfortable
Q. I don't think there is a problem, but my wife's behavior toward my best friend seems a little weird and it bothers me. My best friend and I are close. Since I married my wife she has also become 'TXX's friend. We are all very close, and go out toge...
A. 1 February 2012: I think the situation sounds inappropriate on both sides. normally a woman won't be present in a room with a naked man she's not intimate with and normally a man will try to be modest with such a woman. Am I old fashioned? I don't know that I would ... (read in full...)
Great love life but sneaky boyfriend. What do you think?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 9 yrs. We are both late 20's and he is good to me and loves me. However I say he is "sneaky" because pretty much every 3-4 months like clockwork I will discover something that makes me really question my ...
A. 1 February 2012: boys have to be allowed to be boys. I don't think he's going too far, maybe a little bit. as long as he is only appreciating women and not taking advantage of them at your expense. talk to him.... (read in full...)
I want to have a second baby but where's the potential dad?
Q. Im nearly 30 and im desperate for another child! I have a 7 yr old daughter I was with her father 5 yrs! I met a man who I was totally madly inlove with and I would of loved for him to be the father of my child, but love is blind and this man was ...
A. 23 January 2012: I hate to sayit but your whole letter reeks of desperation. I know you've got a bodyclock but you have to slow down and smell the roses. you won't find the right man with your attitude. when I was married my wife had a baby at 43 so you've got time. ... (read in full...)
We want to leave our spouses for each other...are we doing the right thing?
Q. Am married to a controlling husband 17 yrs older than me i no longer luv him cos of his nature,i fell in luv with a married man 5yrs older than me we have the same likes and dislikes,we think about the the same things,we are planing to leave our ...
A. 15 January 2012: life will become incredibly complicated for you as to some extent it already is. Having a controlling partner is the worst possible thing but I think after having a controlling partner you need time by yourself as it is the ultimate freedom, rather ... (read in full...)
Why do guys lie?
Q. A guy asked me out, he is 6 years older than me and very attractive. We went on a first date. He said he was looking for a relationship. But when I didn't want to have sex on the first date, he laughed his head off and dumped me. Why are guys so ...
A. 15 January 2012: I reckon I'm worse than most males and I would never treat a woman like that. Women are people and demand respect even if a mans agenda is a bit different to a woman. I understand that you overestimated this mans qualities because of his ... (read in full...)
He says he is too tired to have sex.
Q. i have be with my boyfriend for 2 years we are both older and have kids from other parnters we both work long hours on the farm sometime 12 hours a day. We use to have sex all the time but now it maybe once a month sometime I ask if he want to make ...
A. 7 January 2012: Men are not usually too tired to have sex. there is a problem. but then men are widely different from each other but not normally in this way. no one can tell you whether he doesn't like you or has other problems you must ask him. try not to be ... (read in full...)
Do all women taste the same?
Q. Hey everyone :) Im abit confused...me and my boyfriend got on the subject last night about givin each other oral. He said that a i tasted amazing :) which is good for both of us because we do enjoy it alot. But my question is... Do all woman tast...
A. 30 December 2011: being an older guy I feel qualified to answer this question. all women taste different and look different down there. it's usually the more you love the person the more you like the taste and look. i guess there are exceptions but thats usually how ... (read in full...)
How do I spot a player? I think I may be dating one. Please Help.
Q. Question for the players and former players out there: Why did you do it? And would you tell a girl that you wanted something serious to continue to string her along? And what about when you were caught? Did you fess up and walk away ? Or deny ...
A. 21 December 2011: a player is someone who pretends to want all the things the woman wants. it is so easy to pretend this. most players aren't really players but people who don't know what they want. they're just confused geeks who can pretend they're normal for long ... (read in full...)
It bothers me. I am not imagining it. Why do people have the need to stare?
Q. Why do people have the need to stare? Not just take a quick look or glance, but flat out stare. I see people doing this all the time when I'm out in public, particularly to me. Now you might think this is just all in my mind and that I'm imag...
A. 8 December 2011: people are looking for things in their lives. they might be looking at you because they find you attractive or they see something in your eyes. don't feel negative about it unless you know something more than you're telling us. sometimes men will ... (read in full...)
I feel so used and don't understand what is going on
Q. So to make a long story short. Met one night 7 months ago. Been talking and hanging out ever since. One day, he just stopped talking to me. For two weeks I tried to pretend I didn't care, but one night, my emotions got the best of me and I contacted ...
A. 1 December 2011: I think you've answered your own question. If you don't be upfront with him about it it will continue and if you do you will probably find he doesn't want to get any closer. If you wait he might grow to like you more. Maybe he's just busy at the ... (read in full...)
Ladies, have you had more sexual (intercourse) partners than oral sex partners or have you masturbated more partners?
Q. I was just wondering about female statistics, something me and my partner were talking about. Ladies, have you had more sexual (intercourse) partners than oral sex partners or have you masturbated more partners? For example, my partner (I've asked ...
A. 27 November 2011: I think you are wasting your time thinking about this. Statistics about physical activities are not important. Relationships and learning are important. Learn to feel beautiful thoughts and send them to fellowman. Learn how to absorb the love that ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 15 November 2011: don't feel inadequate for not being able to shove off on your own. a lot of us blokes are like that. women are usually the ones that initiate a breakup but if they're getting what they want they wont. it's starts off hard but gets easier as you go ... (read in full...)
Need help with online dating.
Q. Has anyone got experience of on line dating? I have met 3,but they have all been less than truthful. Professional was unemployed. Had 1 child was really 4. Single turned out to be in a relationship who enjoyed the thrill. Does it ever get better?...
A. 7 November 2011: I've been doing on-line dating for several months, not constantly but when I feel lonely. I have a couple of relationships that were ok for a while. There's some nice people out there but you have to be careful. Be nice to the ones that are nice to ... (read in full...)
Should I just become a womanizer so women will notice me more?
Q. I just don't understand why im single. When I was younger I was always over looked by girls as a potential date. Granted though I was skinny unkempt idiot back then but I was still a nice guy. Fast forward to today and alot has changed. 2 Years ago ...
A. 6 November 2011: a womaniser is a man who is never satisfied with what he's got. you sound like you could be a womaniser as you're not happy on your own and have been unsucessful with women it seems and you could well find that when you get one you will want to move ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend could be jealous of my creative mind
Q. I am in a relationship with this girl for the last 5 years . We graduated from the same university but she was one year junior to me. She is pretty and loving girl . She is from middle class and I am from extremely rich family. She has a good job ...
A. 6 November 2011: I don't think she is jealous of your creative mind from what you say, but you may have more evidence. because of money your values and hers are a little different. you are in a position where you can afford failure if it happens. she is not. this ... (read in full...)
My wife is lazy
Q. I have been married for a couple of years now and most things are fine but I find my wife is lazy. This laziness does not extend to her work, as she works very hard and for long hours (we both do), its every other aspect of our lives she is lazy. I ...
A. 6 November 2011: I get this as I reckon my wife was way less active than me. to some extent this is offset by a mans need to look after his wife, but when it goes beyond the call of duty one wonders why one is doing it. you want a partner to pull their weight but ... (read in full...)
I feel completely addicted to my fiance, is this healthy?
Q. i feel completely addicted to my fiance. we have been together coming up to 4 years and since the very start of our relationship almost we have pretty much lived together. we do almost everything together besides work. normally in relationships i ...
A. 21 October 2011: there's a word called codependence, but I wouldn't worry about it too much. If both of you are having a good time then go for it. The reason we keep our other friends is for insurance, but you can keep them together. As long as you were a complete ... (read in full...)
How can I be more fun with my g/f? She thinks I'm boring
Q. Hello I been running into a problem lately with my girlfriend and she thinks I'm boring. I don't know why I try to have fun she likes to sing dance and tell jokes(raunchy kind) and just be hyper and what not. I myself like to do these too maybe not ...
A. 16 October 2011: there's 2 things her. firstly you have to be yourself and you have to be happy with what you are. so work on yourself. the other thing is some people with make you dance to there tune if they think you will. that's ok in a relationship as long as ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 11 October 2011: her attitude is not normal and if it's being backed up by a religion I would say it's even more of a worry. You don't have the right to have sex with her but you can leave her. Talk to her about it in caring way and see if you can work it out.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had any success in online dating?
Q. Has anyone ever had any success in online dating? I would like to know your story. I recently decided that I should give online dating a chance but honestly all I've seen so far are guys trying to get into any girl's panties and that is turning me ...
A. 19 September 2011: men are full of hormones, they need to get sex done so they can start thinking. as a woman you should be aware of this and make sure you don't sell yourself short. internet dating is no worse than getting drunk at a bar and going home with someone. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife. Should I tell her?
Q. I cheated on my wife 14 years ago. I didn't have an affair. It was just one day in a motel room with an ex-girlfriend. I felt terrible about it even as it was happening. My wife does suspect something may have happened. In fact, I think she susp...
A. 18 September 2011: I understand both sides of the equation. If you want to keep your relationship you keep quiet and carry on. If you are riddled with guilt and need to tell for your own peace of mind then confess. There is no added value in pursuing either course, ... (read in full...)
I am a flirt who loves to just want sex!
Q. Everytime I like a guy and I know he doesnt like me back I seem to use sex as a way to defend myself, i seduce him, get what i want and then get over him quick. The sex isnt that good, it gets the job done it feels good, but it doesnt please my ...
A. 17 September 2011: I understand where you're coming from from as when you have sex with the person then you have power over the person, but thats from the mans point of view but not for the woman. you have to hold out until the time is right. the time is right ... (read in full...)
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