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writes:ok heres the story.had a guy i was dating,only to find out he is married 6 months later.stuck around for another two years,thought it might change and plus by the time i had found out i was already in love with the guy.which im aware was very wrong on my part.i ended it and we were just friends,but were recently getting closer again but not dating.now there is this girl i found out he has started messing with at work.so i emailed her,and warned her to be careful not to go down the same path i did and get her heart broken.am i wrong for doing this? i feel wrong,but i just dont want any more people getting hurt by him,its bad enough he is leading his wife on and has lead me on.im hoping my interference will be a wake up call to him to get his life in order and stop hurting people.i know he will hate me becuz i know it technically is not my business to go and do something like that.but do you think i did the right thing or the wrong thing?
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reader, Welsh09  +, writes (11 June 2008):
this guy sounds like a jerk but are u sure u didnt just email her cos u was upset that he wasn't messing round with just u? you say u stuck around for another 2 yrs knowing he was married do u want this guy for youself? by the sounds of it he wants it all the wife at home and someone he can just use for sex or whatever so yea u prob done the right thing but maybe its the wife u should be warning
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reader, lexilou +, writes (11 June 2008):
 Ask yourself truthfully why you did it?? Was it because you were jealous and didnt want her to have him or because you really didnt want her to get hurt?
If its the first reason then I dont think you could say it was right or wrong but understandable as you are obviously still deeply connected to this guy. If its the latter then its ok to warn her but heed your own advice and walk away from this man. If he can cheat on his wife with you and then start a new relationship with this other girl then he is obviously a serial cheater and will never change.
You've already admitted you were wrong to have this relationship so move on and find someone you dont have to share and can trust with your heart x
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