Should I text or call her today/
Q. For a while now, I've been going to a local coffee shop where this really cute girl works. I finally built up the balls to ask her for her number, and we exchanged numbers. We were texting for a while yesterday, and next Wednesday (5 says from now) ...
A. 17 August 2012: You can text or call her to show her that you're definitely interested, but don't overdo it. In my opinion, there is nothing worse than a guy who comes off as "clingy" in the very beginning of a potential relationship. Maybe just keep it casual, ... (read in full...)
I've been with her for 6 years but how do you know if she's the one?
Q. HI Im wondering if i with the right person.Im with her a few years and we plan on getting married.Every day I have moments that i think she is not for me and other times im happy.I think im 65 to 70% happy with her.Is this enough to spend your life ...
A. 15 August 2012: If you are content with "settling", then yes, this is enough. I have never been married, primarily because I never allowed myself to settle for someone who was "good enough" or that I loved "enough". I believe in true love, and it wasn't until I met ... (read in full...)
She has a DR. Jekyll/ Ms. Hyde personality, Am I crazy for sticking around?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I love her more than anything. (I know it's a lot, but i'm really trying to get this right. I potentially want to marry this woman.) I'm trying to find ways to keep the spark between u...
A. 15 August 2012: It's great that you sought out an outlet to discuss your relationship issues. I realize it's not always easy for men especially, to discuss their problems. Good for you! I have found that in the last year or so since I have been posting questions, ... (read in full...)
Why can't I have a spine to leave him? Please help me!
Q. Hi Why do women even the one who are financially way independent keep on stay in an abusive relationship. My bf for one always and keeps on abuses me emotionally, never show his affection, always makes me wonder whether im imagining thin...
A. 14 August 2012: Sounds like you definitely have a fear of some sort- fear of being alone is what I would guess... I've been there, and I know several people who stay in relationships (not necessarily mentally abusive ones like yours), because they are scared to be ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be in love this young? Or am I just falling hard?
Q. I'm young, 15 to be exact, but there's this guy who is always on my mind. I've had feelings for him for maybe 4 months now, and I've never felt this way about anyone. He's cute, sweet, caring, so involved in his religion, though i'm not very ...
A. 13 August 2012: I believe that you think you're in love, but when you grow up and discover what being "in love" really is, you'll realize that you had strong feelings, but that it wasn't true love.
Love is something that takes time to develop, it involves two peop... (read in full...)
She has a DR. Jekyll/ Ms. Hyde personality, Am I crazy for sticking around?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I love her more than anything. (I know it's a lot, but i'm really trying to get this right. I potentially want to marry this woman.) I'm trying to find ways to keep the spark between u...
A. 13 August 2012: It sounds like more trouble than it's worth, to be blunt. How often are these tantrums of hers? You have been doing everything right, in my opinion, but she seems way too childish and melodramatic to be in a serious relationship. Not quite sure how ... (read in full...)
I want validation that he is not cheating on me! If I asked to see his phone would that be wrong?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other since May, but lately I've had this gut feeling he is hiding stuff from me. He's been acting a little shady in my eyes. Yesterday I asked him if he was talking to any other females. I excepted a no, ...
A. 13 August 2012: I don't think asking to see his phone would do any good. He could just say no, and then you'd be even more paranoid. And like CaringGuy said, if you don't trust him, snooping and checking up on him won't help- there will always be paranoia and ... (read in full...)
What can we both do to help encourage my libido to return? I feel like a horrible Gf to my Bf
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years now and I have completely lost interest in sex. We've tried different things to get my interest back but it hasn't worked and I feel like a horrible girlfriend. I still love my boyfriend it's not ...
A. 13 August 2012: Do you know why you have lost interest? Are you on any medications that could be responsible for a decrease in your sex drive? I'm not really sure what advice to give except try to find the root cause of your lack of desire. Maybe try giving him ... (read in full...)
I am embarrassed about oral sex. Are there things I should be aware of?
Q. Hi I have a question about oral sex. I’m in a new relationship and my partner wants to give me oral sex. The problem is I feel embarrassed of him going down on me. I do want him to pleasure me but I’m worried what if he doesn’t like my scent or...
A. 13 August 2012: As long as you have proper hygiene, everything should be fine! Men don't usually care about stubble. In fact, my last few boyfriends have said that in their previous experiences, the women were not hairless. (I am) Most men don't care either way, ... (read in full...)
He deleted his profile after I updated our relationship anniversary, Should I take this personally?
Q. So yesterday while on facebook, I did some updates on my profile, including putting my boyfriend and I's anniversary date. We've been together since February 2012 and have always said we're "in a relationship" with one another. Well when I spoke to ...
A. 12 August 2012: It seems a little odd that he would suddenly delete his account like that. I would definitely be suspicious. However, if this is the ONLY thing to cause suspicion, I would probably just let it go and trust what he says his reasons were for deleting ... (read in full...)
Ladies why date a man first if he asks you to marry him right away?
Q. This question is especially for young single women. If a young single man who has everything going for him financially and career wise decides to settle down and approaches you but doesn't want to date you but asks you to marry him. Would you ...
A. 12 August 2012: 1. I would want to be sure I'm marrying the right person! I don't want to marry someone just because he's financially secure and wants to have a family. I want to marry a man that I'm in love with and don't want to spend a day of my life without! 2... (read in full...)
How can I bring up that I want more out of this relationship without ruining what we already have?
Q. Ok so I have been "seeing" this guy for a couple months now. Basically we just meet up when we're going out to a bar and we'll hang out with each others friends and always have sex later on in the night. We stay the night with one another and ...
A. 12 August 2012: This doesn't "seem" like a FWB situation, it IS a FWB situation. I agree 100% with blonde30s... But it's too late to go back and change things. If you want this to turn into an actual relationship, you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
I'm not really attracted to him but he is a really great guy, How should I play this out?
Q. I have been single from a very messy relationship with the guy that I lost my virginity to when I was 17. I went through alot with him cheating lies and even some domestic violence. I am through with him all together and beleive me I am not looking ...
A. 12 August 2012: It sounds like you are not ready for a mature relationship and that you prefer drama. This guy is sweet, attentive, reliable, but you are more concerned about the way he looks. If looks are that important to you, do everyone a favor and end it with ... (read in full...)
What would you do if someone liked you and you liked someone else?
Q. Hello, everyone. I need some advice. Like what would you do, if you liked someone but someone else liked you. I am not sure because the dude that likes me, has liked since the eighth grade(I am in the eleventh grade now) and he still likes me...
A. 12 August 2012: I have been in your shoes many, many times! What I can say, from experience, is to not write off the "nice" guys. They are the ones who will treat you great and make you feel like the most beautiful, most special girl in the world. They are the guys ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was going down on me when I got my periods!! Do you think he was really put off by that?
Q. Last night my new boyfreind and I were having sex and half way through I went to the bathroom,to find myself covered in blood.I hadnt realised I was due for my period..It was even on my face.We had the lights off and unfortunatly he had been going ...
A. 12 August 2012: Certainly not the most pleasant of experiences, but stuff happens! It was an honest mistake, and I think you said all the right things- that you're sorry and you didn't know. I would just brush it off and move on. If he's really into you too, he ... (read in full...)
How do I call without coming off as clingy and paranoid or stalkerish?
Q. My friend hasn't been online at all, anywhere, for about a week, which isn't like him. I texted him yesterday and he hasn't replied. He lives in another state so I can't exactly just pop over to his place to see if he's all right. I'm trying not to ...
A. 12 August 2012: I think it's fine to call him once. Just keep the conversation light, and if you get voicemail, be casual. Just keep in mind that if he doesn't answer and doesn't call you back, you'll probably just feel worse. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looked at porn because I talked to ex, will he keep doing it?
Q. Hello everyone. I need some advice. Yesterday, I came home and there was a light blinking on my boyfriend and I's antivirus thing. I thought it was no biggie, so I continued watching my show on Netflix. Finally, I got annoyed, and clicked on i...
A. 11 August 2012: I'm confused. Why can't he watch porn? Unless a man has a full-fledged addiction to porn in that it takes over his life, interferes with his work, etc., then I just do not see what the big deal is. He's a man. Like it or not, porn is something that ... (read in full...)
Is gaining 10 lbs going to make a man lose interest in a woman?
Q. Alright so about a month ago I had to put my dog to sleep and since then I have gained about 10lbs and I am super paranoid about my husband cheating on me. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive anymore and he's been completely ignoring me. I've ...
A. 11 August 2012: Wow. If gaining 10 pounds would be enough to ruin your marriage, you married the wrong person. You seem to be extremely insecure and paranoid, because it seems pretty ridiculous that he would mind 10 little pounds. If you're that worried about it, ... (read in full...)
Why do I always get treated so badly?
Q. Please help me. I dont know how to be with a boy...When ever i have a boyfriend, the boy always cheats me and leave me. I just dont understand why. When i have a boyfriend i stick to one boy only...i dont go flirting with other guys but still boys ...
A. 9 August 2012: People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you demand respect for yourself, you will get it. And if someone still wants to treat you badly, you say, "Fuck off" and move on. Plain and simple. Don't allow yourself to be a victim. Take ... (read in full...)
Am I mean? Should I share more of my money with my girlfriend?
Q. I am 32, my girlfriend of four years is 27. I have a degree and believe in hard work and applying myself to achieve my goals and live well. My gf is not financially motivated and does not want to progress at work, she just wants to get by which is ...
A. 9 August 2012: First of all, you are already being EXTREMELY generous by paying all of her living expenses. Thanks to you, she has a roof over her head, lights, tv, heat, water, etc. She should be contributing more, in my opinion. You are not obligated to ... (read in full...)
How can I squirt?
Q. dear cupid, here recently, my guy has started working his way up to the point where he can "fist" me. while it hasn't always felt like the most pleasant thing in the world, i have reached the point where i actually really, really enjoy it. on...
A. 30 July 2012: Also, instead of doing this "fisting" thing that you've made clear is quite uncomfortable, why don't you two just go to a sex shop? They have all kinds of toys that can accomplish the same thing that don't cause pain... Just a suggestion.... (read in full...)
How can I squirt?
Q. dear cupid, here recently, my guy has started working his way up to the point where he can "fist" me. while it hasn't always felt like the most pleasant thing in the world, i have reached the point where i actually really, really enjoy it. on...
A. 30 July 2012: Sounds like you were about to have a g spot orgasm. I feel the same way, like I have to pee. I push down and boom...gushes all over the place. I didn't think that's what squirting is though. When I watched porn of women supposedly squirting, it had ... (read in full...)
I didn't have money so I stole formula for my baby, am I going to go to jail?
Q. I am a twenty three year old female, I got caught for shoplifting yesterday and now I have to go to court. I am very scared, I've never been to court before or in the legal system at all. I didn't have any money and my daughter needed formula. D...
A. 29 July 2012: There is a program for people who need help providing for their children. It is called WIC (women, infants, and children). They give you vouchers for free formula, milk, cereal, baby food, cheese, etc. Get the help that is available to you. There ... (read in full...)
My ex fiance's sister is sending me cryptic messages!
Q. I'm a little confused about a certain situation and not sure how I should react. My ex-fiance's sister recently posted personally to me on fb that if I observe something (didn't say what) I will obtain great wisdom and also, that if I pray t...
A. 29 July 2012: At this point, you need to do what is best for you. If severing all contact, including contact with his sister, is best for you to heal and move on, then that is what you need to do. Her cryptic messages do seem odd, especially if she had never ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasize about your partner being with someone else well your masturbating?
Q. I was wondering is it normal to fantasize about your partner being with someone else well your masturbating? I dont understand it because when im not doing any thing sexual the thought of him being with someone else kills me but during the heat of ...
A. 26 July 2012: I don't think there is a "normal" thing to think about while masturbating. Whatever pops in your head is what pops in your head! I've had that same thought before, and lots of others. So, yes, it's "normal"! :)... (read in full...)
Texting: What boundaries are acceptable?
Q. I was just curious what boundaries various people think is acceptable when it comes to texting, having a few issues in my relationship because of this at the moment. In my opinion when you get in bed together to watch tv etc phones should be left ...
A. 26 July 2012: I think you are absolutely right. People these days truly are addicted to their phones. I'm a high school teacher, and it is sad how dependent teens (and people in their 20s, like your girlfriend) are on their phones, facebook, texting, etc. Unf... (read in full...)
When I touch myself I don't get any pleasure...is there something wrong with me?
Q. I always hear about "amazing pleasure" when it comes to clitoral stimulation but when I touch myself I feel it but i don't get any pleasure. The stimulation is actually uncomfortable for me and I don't understand. My significant other said there ...
A. 23 July 2012: It sounds weird, but try holding your breath when you do it. I am only capable of reaching clitoral climax when I hold my breath. Weird, but true!... (read in full...)
Is is possible to find only one person beautiful?
Q. My friend told me that he only finds his wife beautiful.Is it possible? I've searched on the net a bit about it and found 7 men and 10 women who says they only find their gfs or bfs beautiful. Are there these kind of people?...
A. 21 July 2012: I believe it's possible. If you are madly in love with your partner, soul mates perhaps, you only have eyes for that person. It doesn't mean that you think everyone else is ugly or that you don't recognize when someone is attractive, but when you ... (read in full...)
Is he Sweet or Creepy? One date and he objects to the online dating profile still online?
Q. I had one great date with a guy I met on an online dating site. He texts me everyday / a few times a day and asked me for a second date. We've been in contact now about a week and a half. However - one thing is troubling me! He saw me "online" ...
A. 11 July 2012: Uh, yeah... After the 8am text, it is now blatantly clear that this guy is a weirdo. I wouldn't even respond to that...he would probably interpret any response as leading him on.... (read in full...)
Is he Sweet or Creepy? One date and he objects to the online dating profile still online?
Q. I had one great date with a guy I met on an online dating site. He texts me everyday / a few times a day and asked me for a second date. We've been in contact now about a week and a half. However - one thing is troubling me! He saw me "online" ...
A. 10 July 2012: Creepy! I would handle this guy carefully. Sounds like he has some stalker tendencies.... (read in full...)
Meeting my online boyfriend for the first time, he might be expecting to meet a THIN girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been talking online for about two years now. And don't worry he is a mutual friend of MANY of my friends and a lot of my friends think he's a nice guy. He has a lot going for him, and any girl would be lucky to have him. He ...
A. 8 July 2012: He will only ditch you and leave you alone if he's an asshole, in which case, you don't want him anyway! Take a chance, look your best, and go have fun. You never know what will happen until you conquer your fear and give him a chance. Good luck!... (read in full...)
How to get rid of my down there odour?
Q. Every boy I have slept with (2 boys, which were relationships) and after the relationships had finished they would say that I smelled down below (of fish) I was so humiliated, I'm a very clean person, and take pride in my hygiene and appearance. But ...
A. 2 July 2012: Yes, get it checked out. If nothing is wrong, I sometimes sprinkle a little baby powder down there in the morning just to help with the moistness. And if you don't shave or wax, hair retains odor, so go bare! I know douche is bad, but I use it once ... (read in full...)
Could taking Plan B cause my period to be this late?
Q. Ok so to begin with, Im kind of paranoid about everything all the time and I worry about being a day late for my normally 28 day cycle. I took plan b after a mishap on June 5th. (He did not finish inside me but I was still worried). My last period ...
A. 2 July 2012: I got pregnant after using Plan B within 48 hours of unprotected sex, so I am proof that it can happen! All you can do is wait until it's time to take a test, if you still don't get your period.... (read in full...)
He is so selfish during sex I was nearly crying!
Q. I need help! My boyfriend is so selfish in the bedroom, we acctually end up arguing. He is my first sexual partner, I always do everything for him. We normally start kissing then go straight to having sex, and sometimes he goes so deep it hurts my ...
A. 30 June 2012: Dump him. He's selfish and has no desire to pleasure you. He's basically using you as a way to get off. What is the rest of your relationship like?... (read in full...)
I lied to her but I never cheated!
Q. After over 2 years together we hit the biggest of all speedbumps. I was caught texting a girl I used to hook up with. The messages were never out of line, on her birthday and mine we talked a bit. Than my now ex was going to send her a nasty ...
A. 30 June 2012: Jeez. You two need to grow up. Give her a few days to decide what she wants to do. Stop all the back and forth nonsense...tell her that you are going to give her time to think, and to call you only when she is ready to make a decision either way. If ... (read in full...)
I really want to sleep with him, but I'm terrified of the pain when he breaks my hymen
Q. I've been with my guy for a while now,I really love him and really want to have sex,but I'm a virgin and the thought of my hymen breaking makes me literally sick.But on the otherhand when im with him..anytime at all I want it soo much.When were ...
A. 30 June 2012: Of course the pain is bearable, and in the end, well worth it!! :) The pain is temporary, but don't expect your first time to feel all that great. Just like anything else, it gets better with a little experience and practice. But as you will find ... (read in full...)
Shattered that it could happen to me twice.
Q. I'm new here. I'm 51 and divorced. This is really for the more mature crowd. I would really like to figure out how this could have happened to me, twice now. My background is I married at 36 and my husband left me, for another woman after 16 y...
A. 28 June 2012: I'm sorry :( It sounds like you've got it tough, but you seem like such a strong and independent woman! The only advice I can give is this: live your life for you, doing what makes you happy. Don't anticipate a man to come along and make you happy. ... (read in full...)
Would it be rude to ask for gift cards instead of gifts?
Q. This is not a relationship question but I am curious. My daughters first birthday is next month and we plan on keeping it simple inviting family and a few close family friends. Now I know usually people buy clothes or toys for gifts and I'm wonderin...
A. 28 June 2012: I see your point about being practical, but yes, I think it is rude. When people give a gift, they buy something they think is cute or funny or something they think the recipient would like. I would feel a bit offended by being told what I should ... (read in full...)
If I am resigned to a lousy love life but otherwise a good relationship is that worth hanging onto?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am more in love with my current girlfriend of 5 years than I have been with any other woman, but she is a sexual dead fish. She does not enjoy sex with me and she won't work with me to improve it. Quite frankly, I think she i...
A. 28 June 2012: Also, the fact that she rolled her eyes and showed no interest in your sexy gift (and therefore, no interest in pleasing you), shows that she will not change or work to improve things in the bedroom for the sake of your happiness. If she loved you ... (read in full...)
If I am resigned to a lousy love life but otherwise a good relationship is that worth hanging onto?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am more in love with my current girlfriend of 5 years than I have been with any other woman, but she is a sexual dead fish. She does not enjoy sex with me and she won't work with me to improve it. Quite frankly, I think she i...
A. 28 June 2012: I agree with much of what posters before me have said. Why are you sacrificing a major component of your relationship? Sex and intimacy are very important factors that I don't think I could sacrifice in a relationship. My boyfriend and I have an ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently split up over my jealousy issues over his relationships with his female friends. When we were together he told me he loved me and was only interested in me. We even talked about marriage and I moved in with him after only ...
A. 25 June 2012: Wow. I don't know how you can stand such a relationship. How exhausting! I think issues of trust and fidelity in relationships as being very black and white; if you don't trust him, and if he feels the need to hide things, then there is clearly a ... (read in full...)
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