Should I just give up on this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently split up over my jealousy issues over his relationships with his female friends. When we were together he told me he loved me and was only interested in me. We even talked about marriage and I moved in with him after only ...
A. 25 June 2012: Wow. I don't know how you can stand such a relationship. How exhausting! I think issues of trust and fidelity in relationships as being very black and white; if you don't trust him, and if he feels the need to hide things, then there is clearly a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants oral sex, but I'm not confident about doing it. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend always wants me to give him a bj and I don't really like doing it because I don't think I'm that great at it, so what do I do because I feel terrible not doing it for him but I don't want to stink at it, so any tips ? X...
A. 18 June 2012: When I felt a little insecure about my performance, I looked at some amateur "porn" videos online. I watched a few, in which real women were giving their guy a blowjob...real home videos, not actual porn movies. Anyway, it helped me realize that I ... (read in full...)
My crush thinks he's too old for me. What do I do?
Q. I'm 25 and went on a date with a 35 year old. We got along great and had things in common. But he seemed to think the gap was too big. I didn't think so. My friend got engaged and has the same age difference. Should I tell my crush this?...
A. 17 June 2012: It's probably not the age difference that bothers him. He is probably at a different point in his life than you are, and maybe your priorities are different. It's also possible that he's just not into you and used the age difference as an excuse to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend went away on a trip, didn't tell me and he doesn't understand why I am upset
Q. Hi. This is not my first relationship, but I am my boyfriends first girlfriend. I'm wondering if maybe this is why he does the things he does, because he doesn't know better? When I go away for a few days, even if it is just a weekend, I think it is ...
A. 9 June 2012: I think this is a prime example of explaining to him what happened and why it bothered you. If he continues to do this in the future, regardless of now knowing how you feel about it, then clearly he is insensitive and uncaring of your feelings and ... (read in full...)
My married man said I cant have no one else but him
Q. I have been with a married man for going on 8 months now and it seems that we go well together, meaning the relationship between us just keeps going, we dont seem to have any problems, yeah sometimes i get mad at him when i cant be with him but he ...
A. 24 May 2012: He is MARRIED!!!!!!! You shouldn't be engaging in a relationship with him anyway. Why in the world would you believe anything he says to you? He is buying a house with his WIFE for Christ's sake... Clearly you are nothing more than a piece of ass, ... (read in full...)
I want someone who pursues me, he only pursues when I pull away. Thoughts?
Q. I am seeing a guy for almost 2 months now (although we only see each other once a week) we do text or call or check in almost every day. The first month were not intimate, just getting to know each other, then we started sleeping together, last wee...
A. 13 April 2012: It doesn't sound like he's interested in a relationship. I suggest you give him an ultimatum of sorts: ask him that you're ready for an exclusive relationship. If he agrees, great. If not, I would move on. Find someone who is looking for the same ... (read in full...)
Are there any men they do not use pornography in a relationship?
Q. Are there any men here who don't use pornography in a relationship? I would absolutely love knowing they weren't looking at anyone else. I don't even know why they still do it and thinks it's normal to still look when they are getting sex. Men want ...
A. 13 April 2012: Women who don't want their man watching porn are extremely insecure with themselves. Unless the man has an addiction to porn, it is harmless, and is almost "natural" for a man. And warning- unless a man is a complete pushover, telling him or begging ... (read in full...)
I'm talking to a guy online and using a fake photo of me! Will he be mad when he finds out?
Q. I created a fake profile while pretending to be this really gorgeous girl. Basically I took her photos off online because she has a beauty blog and videos etc so they were very easy to get. I feel bad because there is a cute guy that I talk to all ...
A. 13 April 2012: Yes, he will be angry. If not angry, then he will think you're a psycho and a liar, at least. Don't even bother telling him at this point- if all you do is chat once in awhile, I don't see any harm in continuing the lie. HOWEVER, if you think that ... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to see a dentist?
Q. Hi, My wife has really stained teeth. I'd like her to get them looked at but don't know how to broach the subject. She could also do with flossing more but doesn't. How do I get her to a dentist?...
A. 13 April 2012: If you're familiar with Groupon, dentists and other professionals often advertise their services for a discount. Might be a creative, subtle way of suggesting that she go. "Hey babe- I found this deal... let's make an appointment". Or if you have a ... (read in full...)
What size penis do women prefer?
Q. I am a man aged 34, iam just wondering on what penis size do women prefers. Is big, small or just average and if big how big. What do women enjoy most while having sex. Do they like when a man comes from the back or when he is on top....
A. 8 April 2012: In my experience, 6-7 inches is average. 8-10 inches is big. 5 and under is small.
I prefer average- 7 inches or so is perfect for me.
I like it all ways- "doggy" style, man on top, me on top, from the side, etc... It all feels different, but it's... (read in full...)
Pregnant, and not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend.
Q. Hey, so I found out today I'm pregnant, possibly by about 6 weeks, despite using the pill, and I'm not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend and need some advice. We've been together 18 months now, and are looking for a house to buy together....
A. 4 April 2012: What do YOU want? If you want to be a mother, then you should carry on with this pregnancy. If you wait for the "perfect" time to have a baby, you'll be waiting forever. Life is unpredictable. Considering you're 32, have a stable job, and a ... (read in full...)
I told him I needed closure on the relationship!
Q. I met a guy and had a friendly relationship for about 1 year. He however then started drawing back and after a few months trying to get in touch with him, i told him i needed closure on the relationship. Was i right to do this? Can we get past thi...
A. 4 April 2012: Attempting to get closure from another person is virtually impossible. You have to give yourself closure. This happens from thinking about the situation from a different perspective, logically understanding why things didn't work out, learning to ... (read in full...)
Questions after taking emergency contraception
Q. dear cupid, a week ago today, i was hanging out with this guy that i used to "talk" to. we got a little carried away and ended up having intercourse. he didn't have any protection, and we don't think he came inside of me...buuut just to be sure,...
A. 2 April 2012: I've taken emergency contraception a few times. It can definitely affect your next period, but the fact that you (may) have gotten your next period already seems a little odd. Of course, everyone's body works differently, but my next period always ... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship, he said we'd talk about it once I was back off holiday but still no word....should I mention it?
Q. Ok, so I've been seeing this guy for the last six weeks. 4 and half weeks ago, he said he could only be in a relationship with me, if he had the chance to have sex with other women otherwise he wouldn't be happy in the relationship. so I said I ...
A. 31 March 2012: First of all, you were only dating for a week and a half when this "open relationship" thing came into play? That's very strange to me... Why even bother? Clearly, he wants to play the field, so let him! Don't waste your time on a guy like this.... (read in full...)
What are the chances of my ex falling in love with me again and us getting back together?
Q. I'm still in love with my exboyfriend. He sayes he loves me and cares for me, but not in love with me any more. We still talk from time to time and have an occasional drink every now and then. What are the chances of him falling in love with me ...
A. 31 March 2012: I think chances are very slim. Men are pretty simple (I think) when it comes to dating and relationships. If he wanted to be with you, he would make it known. And the fact that he flat out says that he's not in love with you says it all. He's not in ... (read in full...)
How would you describe this text?
Q. How would you describe this text message sent by a male friend to me after I had asked about a drink and he said to me you will have to be quick. 'You know i love nothing better than a woman who comes quickly'. Is this classed as a jokey, in...
A. 31 March 2012: I agree- he's testing the waters to see if he can get laid or not. ... (read in full...)
I want a romantic boyfriend who plans surprises!
Q. Last Night I saw my boyfriends roommate leave with his girlfriend and I could not figure out where they went it's none of my business of course, but they just vanished and when I woke up this morning I saw a bag and a few blankets and a bottle of ...
A. 31 March 2012: I understand where you're coming from. My boyfriend (or any boyfriend I've ever had, for that matter) is not romantic like you described. The majority of my friends would agree, as their husbands and boyfriends don't do the type of stuff you see in ... (read in full...)
How to deal with lies at school?
Q. I know this isn't the usual type of question for this site, but I pray you will help me anyway. there's this guy at school, who is spreading vicious lies about me [he's telling everyone I told him i'd be happy if he killed himself] when I ...
A. 27 March 2012: I'm sorry this guy is doing this to you... My suggestion would be to just continue to deny saying this. I mean, what else can you do? People will always talk about someone or something, so all you need to do is keep telling the truth. "I didn't say ... (read in full...)
Keeping in touch via facebook
Q. I wonder what people would be doing to get close to their friends and loved ones if they didn't have facebook. Would they notice them as much as they do now? It makes me curious to know how you kept in touch before facebook....
A. 24 March 2012: I'm almost 30, and I really miss the days before facebook, text messages, etc. People had much better communication when I was growing up. When we came home from school, we would talk to our friends for hours on the phone, or go to each other's ... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 24 March 2012: I think that if men (single or in relationships) watch porn occasionally and they don't have any sort of addiction to it, it's no big deal. Men are very visual and watch it for a variety of different reasons. Some guys watch it while masturbating, ... (read in full...)
Is this normal behavior, or is this part of my narcolepsy?
Q. I'm not a deep sleeper and tend to wake up several times every night. Whenever I do, my thing is usually hard and rubbing against the sheets. I'll find myself touching it lightly or moving so that it rubs against the sheets more, until I get tired ...
A. 24 March 2012: I have no idea if this is related to narcolepsy, but it doesn't sound all that strange. We all have our little quirks. And most men (from what I know and have experienced) wake up with erections. I think it's natural. I wouldn't be too worried about ... (read in full...)
Is there a good way to remove pubic hair?
Q. quick question, is there a best way to remove pubic hair? if i shave it i get wired spots there ...
A. 24 March 2012: I use a hair removing lotion that I get from the drug store. You rub it on (it's a cream), let it sit for about 10 minutes, then wash it off in the shower. I use a loofah to scrub the area, which helps to get more hair off... It works great- it's ... (read in full...)
We've broken up ten times, but I can't imagine being with anyone else
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 17 months broke up last Thursday. we have a 8 month old daughter together. this makes the 10th time we have broken up. he said that things didn't feel the same. simply because the last time we broke up we got into a big fight ...
A. 23 March 2012: You're young. Sounds like you should be by yourself for a while so you can get to know yourself and what you want from a relationship. Sounds like you're relying on your (ex)boyfriend or a new guy to make you happy, when really, you need to be ... (read in full...)
Too call or not to call a man after 3 dates?
Q. I met a guy out, and he got my card. He emailed a few days later and asked me out. Our first date went well (touching of the knee, arm, etc). He asked for my phone number but he didn't call until 5 days later. When he did call, he asked me out ...
A. 22 March 2012: Nope, let him call you. But it does sound like maybe he's having some "great dates" with other women as well, since he is kind of out of contact. Really- 2 days to respond to a text? There's no legitimate excuse for that. If I were you, I would play ... (read in full...)
Does she like me? Or my friend? Or is she just flirty will all guys?
Q. Hi, you can call me M I'm an 18 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend. I don't count myself as very good looking, I'm short and overweight, and this makes me very shy and nervous when talking to girls. One night I was in a club with my fri...
A. 22 March 2012: It sounds like she's just a flirt. If she just met you and she's all over you, and then all over someone else, it means that she is indiscriminate and wants attention from whoever will give it to her. She probably has low self-esteem and it boosts ... (read in full...)
Does he want to be more than my sex buddy? How do I make this official?
Q. I really like my sex buddy , we always drink and go out usual , he doesn't like me talking to anyone else like he gets jeleous of other guys when I'm around them , he always picks me up to go over or just hangout , we watch movies I help him with ...
A. 22 March 2012: It sounds to me like you guys are more than just "sex buddies". The only thing you can really do is talk to him. Tell him how you feel and see if he reciprocates. However, since you're already giving it up (sex), he's pretty much having his cake and ... (read in full...)
How many dates before I can ask her to be my girlfriend?
Q. hi everyone. i recently met a very lovely girl on an internet dating site, and at the weekend we are going on our 3rd date. i really like this girl and things seem to be going really well, which is odd as i normally dont ever get a 3rd date as im qu...
A. 22 March 2012: I think three dates is too soon to really know each other well enough to label one another "boyfriend/girlfriend". You never know though...you always hear stories about how people meet and end up engaged within months (now, whether those ... (read in full...)
Dating a guy who's never had a girlfriend
Q. Ok, so let me ask this to the ladies. If you've gone out with a guy a few times and you're really starting to like him quite a bit, and THEN you ask about his previous relationships and he's honest with you and tells you he's never had a girlfriend ...
A. 22 March 2012: I wouldn't drop you just because you've never had a girlfriend, but you have to understand that this sends out red flags that you may be a commitment phobic. Dating a man who fears commitment is frustrating, painful, and a complete waste of time. Is ... (read in full...)
How long do guys normally last during anal sex?
Q. okay people, i have a question a bit embarrassing. i just wondered, how long do guys generally last before they cum during anal sex? my boyfriend has done it before ( not with me) but i haven't.he said he wouldnt last long anyway, coz it would be a ...
A. 22 March 2012: In my experience (only done twice), it does not last more than a few minutes. I assume because of the tightness- it makes them cum very easily and quickly. Plus, like your boyfriend said, most men find this a huge turn on and it's not something they ... (read in full...)
I want my ex to know the relationship is over!
Q. My ex and I have dated for a little over two years. I sort of ended our relationship the last week of February by email. We had broken up twice before than and had always reconciled, which the best idea. But, I was in love for the first time, in m...
A. 22 March 2012: This is simple, since you seem very sure that you do not want this guy. You broke up with him. Don't answer his calls, don't reply to text messages. If he e-mails you, simply reply that you have moved on, are not interested, and that he needs to ... (read in full...)
Why wont the guy I'm dating add me to facebook?
Q. The guy im seeing wont add me on facebook. We've been dating 4 months and after our 3rd or 4th date I added him but he didnt accept. I got angry one night and took it up with him and he told me the reason he didnt accept is because it still said he ...
A. 21 March 2012: My first instinct is that he is like my boyfriend... he gets on facebook rarely, he doesn't update his status to reflect the changes in his relationship, and he thinks facebook is pretty stupid. (Which, I must say, I agree!) People take facebook so ... (read in full...)
Do men stop using porn when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, us women need hope is there any men here who stop using porn/looking at it when they have a girlfriend? ...
A. 21 March 2012: Not that I'm aware of. They probably just watch it less than when they are single. Men and porn go hand-in-hand. ... (read in full...)
What do you think of our relationship? Is this a pipedream for me?
Q. Ok so in need of some good advice.. I have been with my fella for 8 months..he always tells me he loves me, we have a really good connection and I really love him. I have my own house (rent it) and a good job, good family and friends and a go...
A. 20 March 2012: You DEFINITELY need to initiate a conversation with him about this. Maybe he doesn't realize all this is a problem for you, so he doesn't make any attempts to fix it. Until you tell him how you're feeling, things will most likely continue in this ... (read in full...)
We were going out, now she changed her Facebook status, what does this mean?
Q. Ok I met this girl a couple weeks ago.I'm 25 and she's 26. We have been a multiple dates and she says she is interested in me and we have lots of fun together. She doesn't have a job and can't drive cause she doesn't have her licence. So i have to ...
A. 20 March 2012: I would ask her about it. However, I wonder why you are sticking around with this girl, who clearly has some issues that you shouldn't be concerning yourself with after only a few weeks of knowing her. She is obviously irresponsible (no license, no ... (read in full...)
I stopped anything from happening because I was worried about being too wet, is he going to be pissed off?
Q. hello everyone, im with a long distance relationship with my boyfriend now hes back in my country to spend holiday with me. i love him and he loves me too. he said that he likes me so much. lie evrytime i touch him. theres a connection. the spark ...
A. 20 March 2012: Men LOVE it when a woman gets really wet. "The wetter the better" is a phrase I have heard more than once. Don't be self-conscious about it. It's merely your body's natural reaction. Just go with the flow...you will be fine!... (read in full...)
He's just not that into me!
Q. I have been dating this guy for a few months and his interest level dropped for some reason a little. He still asked me out but it wasn't the same. I picked up the book "He's just not that into you" and I read parts of it everyday. I am believing ...
A. 20 March 2012: It's a toss-up, but I think three months is a long enough time that you deserve some sort of "let's be friends" speech instead of just no contact from him. How many times did you go out? Ever do anything sexual? If you went out frequently or had sex ... (read in full...)
I know he was so bad for me, but why cant I forget about him?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years after his last bout of binge drinking, staying out of work, running out of money and then being emotionally abusive and then dismissive towards me. This is a pattern that has been played out again and again, ...
A. 20 March 2012: I've been in a similar situation- was with a man for 4 years who was manipulative, emotionally abusive, and almost a "brain-washer" of sorts. When I finally ended it, I missed him for quite awhile. Missed the companionship, missed the sex, felt ... (read in full...)
I need my love back! Help!
Q. hi, i have boyfriend and we are into relationship since 4 years..first two years we were both good to each from the 3rd years he started saying that we should break and break up..finally in this year he breakup with saying that ill never improv...
A. 19 March 2012: I'm not sure of his reason for the break-up, but he did indeed break up with you, so you have no choice but to move on. The sooner you pick yourself up and move on, the better off you will be. Don't call, don't e-mail, do not contact him in any way. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling worried and scared and actually look forward to this trip?
Q. I am going away for ten days for a German exchange, however my boyfriend of a year is not. Instead he is staying at school. He is very close to his ex-girlfriend, and she will be there for the ten days. His ex and I used to be really good friends ...
A. 19 March 2012: You are young, and it sounds like you are about to have a great adventure! My advice is to focus on the life experiences you will be gaining by taking this trip, and don't focus on your boyfriend or his ex. You probably won't understand this now ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to go to a strip club and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now and he is going away with some friends in august. I know it is awhile away but lastnight we were all sitting around a fire and his buddies brought up going to a strip club while they were gone ...
A. 19 March 2012: In all fairness, strippers objectify themselves. And I'm so tired of the old excuse, "I'm stripping my way through college" (yeah right). If these women were really that uncomfortable with stripping, I find it hard to believe they would continue to ... (read in full...)
Why does he put an xo in some of his messages?
Q. i'm 25 yr old. and i would like to know from guys and girls, what does it mean when a guy (27 yrs) pus an xo at the end his email to me? he started by doing it not me, and not at the end of all them just some. sometimes a x, xo, xx. help i really ...
A. 19 March 2012: HughJ. is exactly right; x=kiss, o=hug. It's a term of endearment of sorts.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to go to a strip club and I'm not sure how to handle it
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now and he is going away with some friends in august. I know it is awhile away but lastnight we were all sitting around a fire and his buddies brought up going to a strip club while they were gone ...
A. 18 March 2012: I understand how you're feeling. I used to be extremely opposed to strip clubs because of how morally reprehensible I believe them to be. Plus, I had your same insecurity, where I would worry about me not measuring up to these women with their great ... (read in full...)
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