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writes:My friend told me that he only finds his wife beautiful.Is it possible? I've searched on the net a bit about it and found 7 men and 10 women who says they only find their gfs or bfs beautiful. Are there these kind of people?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2012): In fact I was telling him how I love my husband and see him only handsome man in the world and he said "I feel the same for my wife,she's the only beautiful woman in the entire world for me".I couldn't believe him bbecause men usually aren't like that.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 Thanks for your answer OP, I had a feeling it was part of a conversation his wife was not part of. Were you angling for compliments, or perhaps being a little flirty so that had to set boundaries?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 It's kind of sad, isn't it, to think that someone finds beauty in only one person in the entire world, when there is so much beauty all around us.... :/
So limiting and so tightly closed in, it doesn't actually sound healthy to me....
If your friend meant that he only was attracted sexually to his wife, well, then, maybe that's what he experiences.
Perhaps beauty is as is previously said, in the eye of the beholder. If the eye of the beholder has limitations on it from personal preference or assumptions, well, then... maybe there is only ONE person that this individual will ever consider beautiful. Sad for that couple's daughters or sons, isn't it? As they will not be considered beautiful.....
ah well, to each his own preference.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 Yes. It's entirely possible.
Anyone who says differently is simply not that kind of person and people are rarely capable of thinking outside their own head.
Research Demisexuality
people who are only attracted to people they are emotionally bonded with.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (21 July 2012):
Taken literally? No. People will always recognize beauty when they see it. But I think this is one of those things you need to see in context.
I think what they mean is that when they're in a relationship, they only have eyes for their girlfriends/boyfriends. It doesn't mean people don't see or recognize beauty around them, it just means it doesn't affect them. Their needs are already being fulfilled by their gf/bf.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (21 July 2012):
 I believe it's possible. If you are madly in love with your partner, soul mates perhaps, you only have eyes for that person. It doesn't mean that you think everyone else is ugly or that you don't recognize when someone is attractive, but when you are that much in love, no one can hold a candle to that person.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (21 July 2012):
People who are making such claims are responding emotionally really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2012): Is it possible to only ever find one piece of music beautiful?
My girlfriend is the only woman in the world I desire but beauty is something I can still admire in others.
I may have a favourite song but it's not going to be the only song I will ever find beautiful.
I think when people say that they're either liars or mean it in a different way, perhaps this guy only judges her as the term beautiful and finds other women good looking etc.
But unless he's blind then there is no chance in hell he's not going to see am aesthetically pleasing woman and not think she's pretty.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 July 2012):
There's beauty as seen through the eyes and retinas and there is beauty as seen from the heart and spirit.
I know very handsome men and beautiful women, by the physical standards of society today, who are really ugly as people, because of the content of their characters.
I know men and women, who while not having the face or body of societally decreed beauty standards, are so rich in love and compassion and spirit that their physical appearance is transcended by the beauty of their character.
I'm guessing your friend "sees" his wife with his whole being and spirit, not just his eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2012): He said it while we're talking about relationships.His wife wasn't there
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 July 2012):
 No, I don't think so, the world is full of beautiful people inside and out.
Maybe he find that she is beautiful in a way he doesn't "see" other people, because no one else has the effect on him as she does. I think he means that he finds her beautiful in every way, her heart, her mind, her body and soul. And THAT you don't find in everyone. Just looking good isn't always enough to make a person beautiful to someone else.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (21 July 2012):
I think maybe you're reading into it wrong. When I have a boyfriend that I care for dearly, I don't care about any other man. I don't care to look at them, check them out, talk to them, etc. I only find my boyfriend attractive--or bascially that no one else compares/nothing is going to happen so they're just kind of there. It doesn't mean that I don't think other men are handsome, but not as handsome as whoever I'm involved with because they don't mean anything to me.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 July 2012):
 It's possible to notice others and still find your partner the most attractive. My boyfriend is as hyper-monogamous as it gets, he doesn't even masturbate unless we're apart for 4-5+ days and believes that thinking of others while doing so is highly disrespectful. If there's an attractive woman on the street, he suddenly finds something EXTREMELY interesting in the opposite direction. He says I'm the most beautiful woman in the world frequently.But even he notices Scarlett Johanssen's butt in Lost in Translation (can you blame him? Haha). I don't think it's possible to ONLY find one person on the planet attractive, but I do think it's highly possible to find only one person to be the most attractive.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (21 July 2012):
In what context did your friend make this statement, were you and he and his wife sitting around drinking tea just generally chatting or did he have a reason to tell you that?
Yes, there are people who only find their partners beautiful or handsome or hawt even, but if you can explain more of how the statement came about we may be able to answer your question more fully.
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