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Did I overreact to my boyfriend touching another woman?

Q.   Last night, my boyfriend and I went to a function at a bar where I didn't know anyone, but he knew a lot of the people. At one point, I came back from the bathroom and some girl he knows was sitting in my stool at the bar and they were talking. ...

A.   22 January 2012: Thank you all very much for your help. You've really helped me put things into perspective. I appreciate everything you all said. My bf truly is a southern gentleman, and I doubt he meant any harm. Deep down, I know that primarily, the problem is me ... (read in full...)

Did I overreact to my boyfriend touching another woman?

Q.   Last night, my boyfriend and I went to a function at a bar where I didn't know anyone, but he knew a lot of the people. At one point, I came back from the bathroom and some girl he knows was sitting in my stool at the bar and they were talking. ...

A.   21 January 2012: Thank you for your response. I don't have any doubt that my bf was being friendly, because he admits that is slightly flirtatious by nature. And I have a feeling this woman sat down because the bar was packed and the only open spot was that one. And ... (read in full...)

Is there any harm in his posting my picture on his wall with the caption "smitten"?

Q.   I have met this guy once in person before, and we are supposed to be going on a date this week. He has posted my photo on his facebook wall without my permission. You can share photos on facebook. He wrote a comment underneath saying " smitten ! ". ...

A.   18 January 2012: This guy sounds kinda creepy to me. Guys who are that forward are a huge turn-off for me, and in my experience, they continue to be way too clingy and possessive. Maybe be friends with the guy, but it is way too soon for him to be pulling stunts ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to suddenly feel insecure in a new relationship?

Q.   I am a 29 year old woman with a not-so-great track record with relationships. I have not been in a normal relationship for several years. I have been dating a wonderful, kind man for almost six months now. I took things very slowly in the beginning, ...

A.   31 December 2011: Thank you for the input. It was tough, but I decided the best thing to do to ease my mind was to call him and talk about it. He was pretty receptive and reassuring, so I do feel a lot better. However, it is clear to me now that I can't rely on him ... (read in full...)

Dumped and still don't know what to do!

Q.   So he dumped me on Monday (over something pretty small). The problem is that he seriously lacks communication and instead of talking out problems and issues, he just runs away. I want him back!!! I've been doing pretty good with the no contact ...

A.   31 December 2011: Update: he never called or texted me again. After two weeks of misery, I moved on. Lesson learned!... (read in full...)

Is it possible to change the taste of my "downstairs" to a little more sweeter?

Q.   Hi everyone ! My question is : Is it possible to change the taste of my "downstairs" to a little more sweeter? Dont get me wrong , I dont have a horrible smell or taste , It's just that it is slightly more salty than Sweet. ...

A.   30 December 2011: I've heard that eating lots of fruit and drinking lots of water will do the trick. But I don't know...just what I've heard.... (read in full...)

Boyfriend is so private about his phone that its making me paranoid!

Q.   My boyfriend is private with his phone. He brings it in the bathroom with him when he takes a shower, has it in his pocket or on his desk when we're together. He rarely answers his texts around me. He does answer his calls though because they're ...

A.   25 October 2011: Sounds kinda fishy to me. Wanting privacy is one thing, but it sounds like he is taking it to a whole other level. I don't blame you for being suspicious. If he had nothing to hide, why be so secretive?... (read in full...)

I don't know if the guy I am dating considers me his girlfriend? How do I go about asking?

Q.   I don't know what to make of this guy I've been dating. It's been about 4 months. And so far we have both be just as willing and putting in the same effort. We meet up about once a week, go on a fun date, now and again twice a week. We starte...

A.   24 October 2011: I've been through this exact same scenario. I made the mistake of letting him have all the benefits of a girlfriend, including sex, but without the "girlfriend" title. Almost four months in, he dumped me, saying he wasn't looking for anything ... (read in full...)

After what has happened do I have the right to be mad?!?

Q.   one night, my bf and i went out with another couple which the girl is my bff. and after bar we all expiremented a lil bit, we all never done this before. the first night was way akward, it was spose to be just me and my bff while the guys watched, ...

A.   24 October 2011: Yes, of course you have the right to be mad. And what is your bff's excuse?? She wasn't even drinking! How long have you been with this guy? I would not be surprised if they continued to mess around behind your back. I would get rid of him. This ... (read in full...)

Boyfriends holiday visit without me, but the ex girlfriend will be around!

Q.   Dear Cupid, My BF of almost a year is going home for the holidays without me (due to my work schedule).  His ex is still hot for him and before me while they were broken up (3 years) they would hook up occasionally usually at the holidays.   Sinc...

A.   24 October 2011: All you can really do is express your concerns to him, and trust him. If he does something he shouldn't, then you will need to move on. But if he respects and values your relationship, he wouldn't see her in the first place.... (read in full...)

I haven't done anything different but this guy has just stopped contacting! Any ideas why?

Q.   So I met this guy about 7 months ago at the gym and he was very nice. We seemed to see eachother there alot and said hi then eventually he added me on fackbook and after a two hour long good conversation, we exchanged numbers. For the past two ...

A.   24 October 2011: I went through something similar this past summer. We met online, dated for three months, talked/texted every day. Then all of a sudden, he cut it off. But at least he gave a reason. He said he wasn't looking for anything serious. So I just accepted ... (read in full...)

Next step after making out?

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we make out alot. but what is the next step? ...

A.   23 October 2011: I'd say that since you two have been together for almost a year, that you two need to see what happens. I'm looking at your age as 18-21, and if you're dating a guy for that long, I'm assuming that you're the one holding up the next step. Take a ... (read in full...)

Ideas for a romantic date?

Q.   Hi :) I need to arrange a date for the guy im seeing and i to go on. Last week he took me out in the evening and set up a picnic by a lake with candles - it was so romantic! Now i feel its my turn to arrange something but i have no idea wha...

A.   23 October 2011: I recommend you cook for him. Make a nice meal, dessert, the whole nine yards. And you don't necessarily have to use candles and soft music and all that cheesy stuff to make it romantic. Just putting forth the effort is romantic in my opinion. Plus, ... (read in full...)

He did not answer my text msg, .. should I move on?

Q.   Met a man online. I almost did not go as I have been having terrible dates from online. Surprisingly, I go on the first date and we hit it off. We had alot of laughs , I am sure the alcohol helped. We held hands and had a quick goodnight kiss. The ...

A.   5 April 2010: I wouldn't jump to conclusions so soon. Any number of things could be going on. But definitely do not contact him again until you hear from him first! The last thing you want is for him to think you're needy or clingy. Wait for him to respond, and ... (read in full...)

Dumped and still don't know what to do!

Q.   So he dumped me on Monday (over something pretty small). The problem is that he seriously lacks communication and instead of talking out problems and issues, he just runs away. I want him back!!! I've been doing pretty good with the no contact ...

A.   6 March 2010: To clarify, I wasn't acting slutty, flirting with other guys, nothing like that. I was having a bad day, so I was already a little bit crabby, then had a few drinks and when we were in the car at the end of the night, I was being kind of b****, ... (read in full...)

Dumped and still don't know what to do!

Q.   So he dumped me on Monday (over something pretty small). The problem is that he seriously lacks communication and instead of talking out problems and issues, he just runs away. I want him back!!! I've been doing pretty good with the no contact ...

A.   5 March 2010: Update: Four hours after I dropped his stuff off, he texted me (the only contact he's had with me since last Saturday, except for when he called me for 3 minutes Monday night to dump me). All he said was "thank you". I guess there's not much to be ... (read in full...)

Help!!! How can I move on with my life???

Q.   So I have recently gone through a very traumatic breakup. I was with this guy for 2 years. We planned on getting married and had our kids names picked out. We were so much in love or so I thought. He left me on January 15th because he liked another ...

A.   5 March 2010: I feel for you, I really do. I am also going through a very tough time right now. All I can say is pray for reconciliation, and if that's not was God has in the cards, pray for strength. I keep telling myself that if it's meant to be, then it will ... (read in full...)

She is making our friendship hard work

Q.   recently i have just started a relationship with this guy and things have been going so great these days that i feel as though i am on cloud nine. However my best friend who is a few years younger than me has changed dramatically. And it is starting ...

A.   4 March 2010: It sounds to me like she's unhappy with her own love life, and is taking it out on you. She's being immature about the whole situation, but try to be understanding and not take it too personally. Maybe when you were both single, she didn't feel so ... (read in full...)

Dumped and don't know what to do...

Q.   Six months ago, an old classmate from high school contacted me on facebook. We never talked in high school, but knew who each other were. So we messaged each other back and forth for about three months, then decided to go out. Our first date was ...

A.   3 March 2010: This is K, the original poster. Thanks for the feedback so far. It's nice to know that maybe I'm not crazy, and that the reason he broke up with me is completely ridiculous and irrational. But why?? If I had cheated, or hit him, or called him names, ... (read in full...)

Dumped and don't know what to do...

Q.   Six months ago, an old classmate from high school contacted me on facebook. We never talked in high school, but knew who each other were. So we messaged each other back and forth for about three months, then decided to go out. Our first date was ...

A.   3 March 2010: This is K, the original poster. (Unrelated note: I'm an English teacher, so I apologize for the typos in my post!) Anyway, thank you so much for your responses so far. They have helped me realize that I am not the crazy one and that what happened ... (read in full...)

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