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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Please help me. I dont know how to be with a boy...When ever i have a boyfriend, the boy always cheats me and leave me. I just dont understand why. When i have a boyfriend i stick to one boy only...i dont go flirting with other guys but still boys always cheats me. Please tel me whats wrong with me...why all guys treat me like a dog.
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reader, katiekate  +, writes (9 August 2012):
 People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you demand respect for yourself, you will get it. And if someone still wants to treat you badly, you say, "Fuck off" and move on. Plain and simple. Don't allow yourself to be a victim. Take charge of your life and demand to be treated the way you deserve.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2012): I'm thinking you're either picking complete a*seholes for boyfriends, or the problem lies with you, and the way you conduct yourself in relationships.
As somebody else said, if you're too needy, too clingy, too jealous, too possessive... Or too eager, or too generous - these things can make guys feel uncomfortable and also like they can walk all over you, and that's what could be happening.
Other than that, I would suggest meeting guys elsewhere, and not the usual places you normally do.
Maybe you should join a dating website, as I would think guys on there would be more serious about dating someone long term. If you normally meet guys in clubs, pubs, bars, or on social networking sites, chances are they're just out for a bit of quick fix, and nothing serious.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 August 2012):
 at 30-35 you really should be dating men.... is your age right?
the issue is that if everyone else is doing the same thing with you then it's YOU...
are you picking the wrong men?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (9 August 2012):
 Perhaps you appear vulnerable or needy when you meet someone. Things like
'playing the victim'
sleeping with guys too soon,
doing too much for them too soon,
accepting bad behaviour just so you do not have to be single
Being a drama queen
Getting too intense too early etc etc...
Can all lead to men getting bored, frustrated and lazy in a relationship and then it's a short hop until they are out of the door and looking elsewhere.
You have to make yourself the prize to be won over, Don't give anything away too easy and always try to give the impression that you really have respect for yourself.
Men like to pursue women who they percieve to be out of their league...it's a challenge to be worked on to make them feel they have someone special that they want to try hard to keep.
If you are giving out negative needy vibes with a fair dollop of 'poor me' thrown in, then men will want to pass you over for someone more covetted and challenging.
Have more faith in yourself, love yourself and try to build your confidence, that way you will give off more positive, sassy vibes and you will see the change in the men you date.
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