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writes:Hi there. I really hope someone can give me some advice as the advice i am getting from friends seems biast.Basically I was seeing a guy for 4 months. I had just come out of a 5 year relationship which ended bitterly. Me and the new guy were having fun and it didn't get too serious until a week ago when he confessed his love for me... trouble is that I don't feel the same and don't think I ever will. I've since broken it off and he is devastated.. Have I done the right thing? I miss him even though i didn't love him I had got used to being with him over the last 4 months.any advice would be most welcomed.xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweettennisgirl  +, writes (18 June 2007):
Weldone for breaking up with him, he needs to understand that you dont feel the same way towards him as he does with you! He wud be more devastated if you had stayed with him, him thinking that you do feel the same way about him! I think you miss him as a friend so become friends with him maybe wen he gets ova the hurt which will go eventualy! Its your life and u cant be in a relationship with someone who loves you when you dont feel the same way, it wud never work! xxxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Hia babii, you have done the right thing.. he was getting the wrong end of the stick and its great that he now knows where he stands. yes he may be heartbroken but it would have been worse in the long-run. i hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (18 June 2007):
 You've done the rightest thing you could ever have done. You basically have gone and saved him a whole lot of heart and head aches. You both are old enough to decide for yourself what kinds of relationships you want to be in. As time went by, he wanted you for more than just a fling, and you wanted him only as that. Its natural that he developed feelings for you as time went by, after all, 4 months is a quite a long time to be with someone constantly.
Yes, you can miss someone and not love him at the same time. Like I said, 4 months is a long time, a sense of closeness will definitely be developed, be it feelings of love, feelings of friendship or just feelings of liking each others company. By calling off the relationship off, you made sure he got it straight that you never did want anything more than just a fling, so be happy that you did the right thing, perhaps even the best thing for the both of you. Good luck.
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