At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 11 March 2012: If women complain about you all the time, haven't you got the message yet?... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 11 March 2012: I am SO angry with you, you that I cannot trust myself to give an answer that the Mods will pass! If this topic is still open after I have calmed down enough to use temperate language, I will try to be helpful. Let me just say for now that you oug... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend ejaculate all over my stomach?
Q. I wonder if any of you could help me. My boyfriend who is one year older than me always withdraws from me during sex and ejaculates and squirts it out all over my stomach. I am just wondering if anybody has experienced this before? Is this an ...
A. 10 March 2012: Didn't you know that the standard "money shot" in porn, saved for the last few minutes, is for the bloke to do just that - pull out and cum over her?
He has been watching FAR too much porn!... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 10 March 2012: Yes "Aunty", I agree; either that or this post is utter bullshit!
However, on the outside chance that there actually is some substance to it, let me say that it is never too late.
At my advanced years (Nope, I'm not saying how many), I found my... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant on the last day of my period?
Q. Hi, I'm sixteen years old. Last month, it was the very last day of my period and there was hardly any blood but I was still spotting and I gave my boyfriend oral sex. He came in my mouth and I swallowed it and continued to suck him off. He pulled ...
A. 9 March 2012: Unlikely but possible. If you don't want to be a mother, go and get the "Morning After" pill as soon as possible - it loses its effectiveness more the longer you wait.
Oops, sorry: I just read you properly. It's already too late........ (read in full...)
I can't orgasm even with a vibrator!
Q. Hi everyone this has been bugging me for a while now I can't orgasm even with a vibrator I have tried everything creams dildos every time me and my boyfriend have sex I have to pretend I have orgamsed just to keep him happy or he thinks he's useless ...
A. 9 March 2012: I forgot to mention the website "Clitoral" (wish I got commission), which is by women, for women (I sneaked a look!) and has lots of advice about orgasms and masturbation and lots more besides.... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm even with a vibrator!
Q. Hi everyone this has been bugging me for a while now I can't orgasm even with a vibrator I have tried everything creams dildos every time me and my boyfriend have sex I have to pretend I have orgamsed just to keep him happy or he thinks he's useless ...
A. 8 March 2012: Are you on any medication that might inhibit your sex drive? If not, then you are trying too hard and stressing over it. Relax and find at least an hour, better two or more, to yourself with nobody around. Lock the bathroom door just to be sure ... (read in full...)
Should the girl lead the way, when the boy is unable to achieve an erection??
Q. ive been seeing a really great guy and the other night we decided we were ready to take it to the next level and have sex. we didnt have very long before i had to go so we went into his room and started messing around, to be honest i realised then ...
A. 8 March 2012: It happens. He probably felt under pressure to perform, and was laid prey to the Melty Man!
If you never watched that brilliant sit-com, "Coupling", you would not have understood that comment, but if you can, beg, borrow or steal a copy of the Melt... (read in full...)
I wet my bf's bed, how do I reduce the embarrassment?
Q. I have an embarrassing problem, that i'm almost too embarrassed to ask you all about. Last night I stayed at my boyfriend's house, we've been together 2 and a half years. I woke up to discover I had wet the bed. I was absolutley mortified, as I hav...
A. 8 March 2012: If you were having sex before the wetting incident, why don't you claim that he had turned you on SO much that you squirted?
No embarrassment, and he will feel proud as a peacock that he made you do that!
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What goes through your head when you're facing jail for the first time?
Q. My boyfriend was found guilty for Burglary during the London riots last August. It’s his first offence and is awaiting sentencing which will be custodial. A moment of complete stupidity has also lost him his job. He sent a text telling me he loves ...
A. 8 March 2012: I've only been to court for what befalls almost every motorist - a speeding offence, but the whole system is designed to be intimidating and unfriendly, to deter you from doing it again.
He must be quite traumatised and probably thinks that you rega... (read in full...)
Do I just have to be okay with no sex in my marriage, or should I find someone to give me that "experience" my body is craving?
Q. Hello, I really need someone to help me out. I have been married to my husband for almost five years, and we have two children together. Ever since we had our second child, my husband and I have had very little to no sex. He could care less about ...
A. 8 March 2012: Are we, "anon"? I hadn't noticed!
OP, go for it, but get his permission first. If he truly can't be bothered with sex he will be happy that someone else is doing the job for him....
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Found husband on facebook asking to have sex with a girl and now when we have sex he goes limp
Q. i dont knw what to think please help.... one nite when my husband was sleeping i checked his facebook and he was telling all these girls they were beautiful whick botherd me but not as much as this other girl. he had been having alot of messages ...
A. 7 March 2012: Ah, there you have it in one! By doing it doggy he can't see your face and he can then imagine that he is doing it with whomever he is thinking about!
Sorry.... (read in full...)
Scared of having sex, any advice for my first time?
Q. my husband and i have been married for 8 months and he wants 2 have sex, he tells me hes not forcing me, but i feel like it,i really want to. im a virgin and i wanna have sex so bad,im scared, i've told him this, he asks me why. i tell him we're ...
A. 6 March 2012: I CAN help, but my advice to you on how to proceed is too explicit for the public forum and the moderators would block it, so PM me and I will reply with some easy stages for you and him to go through to achieve your goal.
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Can you get pregnant from dry humping?
Q. Can dry humping get you pregnant even if there was no ejaculation and you were wearing underwear?...
A. 4 March 2012: No.... (read in full...)
I have a sexless marriage and my husband is a sex addict! What do I do?
Q. I desperately need help. I have no one who I can talk to about this and I'm afraid it's going to destroy me. I've been married for 26 years. There is no question it's not a perfect marriage. There are two issues that I am fighting and feel like I'm ...
A. 2 March 2012: How can you claim not to be spying on him, in view of what you have said here - knowing all his passwords (how?), seeking and finding his private cellphone and checking his calls - sounds a lot like spying to me?
Ok, so what to do about your prob... (read in full...)
Job interview coming up and I've torn the clothes I needed to wear
Q. Heads up, this is not a relationship question but it is Urgent! I have a induction afternnon for a job at a local garden center (Homebase for those of us in the UK)and I just ripped my black trousers. I have no idea what to wear now, no time to ...
A. 1 March 2012: Can you sew?
Explain your situation to your interviewer, he/she will surely be sympathetic.... (read in full...)
Do you shave your "part" before you have sex?
Q. I asked my friend if you should shave your "part" before you have sex and she didn't know. So Im asking this site,do men like it unsaved, or shaved? I got a boyfriend and I need some advice here before we get more intense....
A. 1 March 2012: "Anonymous", I am sorry to disagree with you but the true purpose of pubic hair is to trap and enhance personal odour - ask any Frenchman - and these days, as we all deodorise our natural smells out of existence, it has become irrelevant and nature ... (read in full...)
Do men like females who are very experimental sexually?
Q. Do men like females who are very experimental sexually? For example, my boyfriend and I went shopping and bought a huge jar of pickles. I said that he should f*** me with one of them. (I'm not always quite so strange, I was 1/2 joking, 1/2 serious, ...
A. 27 February 2012: The ONLY thing against your first suggestion is vinegar in the vagina!... (read in full...)
Psychic says do not have sex in the next 2months. What will you do?
Q. A psychic told me not to have sex with my man until April. Hmm my man is a scorpio and I know how much he loves sex. How can I pull this off. SO far its been working because we are in a LDR and just ended a fight that lasted with a month of silence ...
A. 27 February 2012: Psychics, clairvoyants, charlatons - all are good at eliciting information from you without your realising that you have done it. But, in reality they are full of bullshit and you should not take a scrap of notice of them.
Just mend your rela... (read in full...)
If he wants sex he has no chance!
Q. *We made out a couple of weeks ago (drunk). Told me he had feelings. *I stayed at his place (didn't have sex) *It was awkward the next week in college oddly *He jetted off to France for a week (student exchange) where apparently he DID THINGS...
A. 25 February 2012: Was it his first time with this girl? Maybe he has the taste for it now and wants to continue with you? I would wave him goodbye....
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I've never had an orgasm. I'm afraid I'll have to pee if I have one!
Q. I have never had an orgasm, I am sure of that. But from what I've read, I've been close many times. I always either stop myself (if masturbating) or my partner when I start feeling like I need to urinate because the feeling is too intense- it's not ...
A. 24 February 2012: Good answers, folks, but also OP, look up a similar question/answer from earlier "Why does my girlfriend get the feeling of peeing during sex?"... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend get the feeling of peeing during sex?
Q. My girlfriend and I like to have sex but sometimes during sex she gets the feeling like she has to pee. She usually tries to hold it back because she doesnt know if its just the "feeling" of peeing. Sometimes she gets numb and tingly when we've done ...
A. 23 February 2012: I agree with "DoubleM", as usual, but may I add that the urinary tract closure also applies to women. It's nature's way of ensuring that the sperm are not contaminated, because of course nature wants offspring!
Yes, pee first, but that won't nece... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's comment about my short hair is she gay, or does she like men and women ? has left me feeling really bad!
Q. I'm hurt by a comment that my boyfriend's friend made. When my boyfriend showed him my photo, he said " is she gay, or does she like men and women ? ". He said that just because i have very short hair!. It's a pixie style hair cut.I feel really self ...
A. 22 February 2012: I can see that you are hurt by this, but you are truly making something out of nothing. And as for a pixie-style haircut, if you remember the sci-fi serial "Blake's Seven" and saw Jacqueline Pearce ion it, she had the shortest pixie-cut ever but, in ... (read in full...)
My G/f screamed at me publicly because I was looking at this gorgeous redhead on the train!
Q. Hi guys and girls im a bit of a chump - thats how i feel right now atleast... i made my girlfriend a beautiful silver necklace for valentines, took her away to a hotel/spa for the weekend, she absolutley loved it, as a treat for me she took m...
A. 20 February 2012: You are a bloke: blokes look. You have nothing to apologise for, it is programmed into you by nature, for a very good reason.
SHE should apologise for being ultra-controlling. Be warned, she is unlikely to improve. Can you face that?... (read in full...)
The cleaning lady is coming on to me, how do I proceed from here?
Q. So the cleaning lady comes over every Friday to the house and i kind of have a crush on her. There are times when were home alone together and i swear i get the feeling that she wants me! She's like 45-46 im 19. She's always sparking conversation ...
A. 18 February 2012: Cindy, I suspected that this was a troll post, too; I'm sure we have had a similar story to this recently.
OP, grow up, or buy a magazine! ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will not take advice from a girl
Q. When waiting for a take away once with my ex boyfriend, I was reading a magazine with a sex positions article in it. Being flirty, as a joke I showed it to him and he put it back on the table and said angrily I'm not taking sex advice from a girl! ...
A. 18 February 2012: "Wisdom cries out in the streets and no man regards it" (Henry 1V,Pt.1).
As Cindy says, he is a fool; nobody knows everything and he would do well to learn from you, or anyone, in order to improve his technique. Even at my advanced age (NO, I'm not ... (read in full...)
Guys if you found out your girl was an older virgin would it be a deal-breaker?
Q. Guys, if you found out that the girl you liked was still a virgin would this make you more interested in her, or would it be a deal breaker? If she's an older virgin at that....
A. 13 February 2012: Different men will have different views, but for me it doesn't matter a jot either way - it's the person, not the label.... (read in full...)
Do you know any links to good artices in DearCupid please re fellatio?
Q. I just started dating after getting out of a 15 year marriage. My ex never liked blow jobs and really zapped my confidence with his criticism so I need a step by step guide of giving a good bj. Thanks!...
A. 11 February 2012: I agree with "Ciar" about the inappropriateness of giving explicit replies in open forum, but I feel that at your age (sorry!) you should have mastered this essential life skill.
In the interests of Educating Rita (lovely username, lovely film) I wo... (read in full...)
Maybe I do lack empathy but has my girlfriend's moaning gone beyond the norm?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together 3 years, living together for one. We have good times, we have a healthy relationship in most aspects, but by god there is a problem. She moans and whinges and goes hysterical on a fairly regular basis. ...
A. 9 February 2012: She DOES need counselling. Her behaviour is bordering on the neurotic, if not worse, and will not get better unless treated. She is blaming anyone and everything (you, her job, life, the Universe - everything) for her own short-comings.
As for your... (read in full...)
Affair with husband's brother, and husband is okay with it.
Q. My brother-in-law (husband's brother) and I have started to engage in an affair. It started about a month ago. Initially after we first had sex, he was feeling so guilty that he said he never wanted it to happen again. I also felt guilty for what ...
A. 8 February 2012: Mostly negative comments, OP, which is a shame. If you want a wider view, Google "Polyamory" and you will find lots of advice and the re-assurance that what you are doing is not that unusual.... (read in full...)
I'm not into incest but I'm sexually attracted to my cousin and it's freaking me out.
Q. I have a problen that's been really bothering me now for the past year and a half that I don't know how I can get myself out of. I'm sexually attracted to my cousin and it's scaring me. I'm sure there are many others in my position who feel the same ...
A. 5 February 2012: She likes you: and it IS ok, despite your not wanting to hear that. People in your country make much more of a big deal about this than we do here in the UK, but modern research has shown that there are no greater chances of birth problems/defects ... (read in full...)
My teacher has helped me through a very hard time...but now I am developing a crush on him?
Q. Sorry in advance or the long post. :) This has been going on all school year, and I just don't know what to do. Here's the story: After summer I got a new English teacher because my old one retired. He's fresh out of teacher's university, and ...
A. 24 January 2012: I WOULD agree with every word, "AmHereToHelpYou", in normal circumstances, but this young lady is in need of help which is apparently unavailable anywhere else.
OP, I would recommend that you be totally open and honest with this teacher, maybe to t... (read in full...)
Matters down under!
Q. I was wondering how most women have their pubic hair, i guess? Just because idk if a guy will be freaked out if I have hair down there, or if it's normal too. If you don't have hair down there, how do you remove it? What do guys prefer? Is having ...
A. 23 January 2012: Some like it, some don't - all people are different.
Personally, I prefer hairless because I don't like getting hairs in my teeth when I pleasure a lady........ (read in full...)
Does anyone know what could be going through a woman's head when I look at her?
Q. I don't know if this happens to other people, but I find that when I look a woman straight in her eyes she tends to smirk. If I break contact the smirk goes away but then there's an attraction. It seems to happen to me whenever I find myself talking ...
A. 12 January 2012: Are you asking us what goes on in a woman's head?
Can you see where you went wrong there?... (read in full...)
A male virgin and a much younger and more experienced girl - potential humiliation or a great opportunity?
Q. Hello! This isn't the first time I've asked a question that is in some way related to this topic, but I hope it will be the last! First, some important background information. Somehow I have managed to get to the grand old age of 27 while re...
A. 10 January 2012: You ARE being stupid!
A former colleague of mine married a man much older the her, aged 68, and he was a virgin until their wedding night! Apparently, it didn't take him long to learn......... (read in full...)
A male virgin and a much younger and more experienced girl - potential humiliation or a great opportunity?
Q. Hello! This isn't the first time I've asked a question that is in some way related to this topic, but I hope it will be the last! First, some important background information. Somehow I have managed to get to the grand old age of 27 while re...
A. 8 January 2012: Your work situation is what makes this difficult. Because of that, I wouldn't go there unless you can be sure, really sure, that she isn't a kiss-and-tell type. Not an ideal solution, but you could gain experience with a "working girl", who would tr... (read in full...)
10 year relationship being ruined by my inability to feel anything during sex
Q. Hi, Please help me - I'm a 30 year old healthy woman in a 10 year relationship that is being ruined by my inability to feel anything during intercourse. I can orgasm fine by clitoral stimulation and I have no issues with sex such as lack of experien...
A. 23 December 2011: I do not have much to add here, as I am in agreement with all who preceded me, but can I add that during penetration, why not try a little "bullet" vibrator on your clit as he performs - you could be amazed!
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My younger brother has NO concept of money!
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I really need your help. I'm here because I'm completely out of ideas regarding my younger brother and his spending habits. His last text to me ("I spent $200 on dinner last night") was the final straw. He is 21 and still in ...
A. 23 December 2011: His credit rating is HIS problem; kill the over-indulgent funding and let him see what the real world is like - he will soon point his head in the right direction......... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is 10/11 years young than me! What shoud I do ?
Q. Hi Im 32 years and I met a 21 beautiful girl. We had our first date and we kiss each other. She said to me that she just want FUN ... After while she said that she is in love of me, because she didnt know about my personality before. I was very ...
A. 30 November 2011: Just follow your heart; the age difference is trivial and of no concern to anyone else.
At 21, she is an adult and in charge of her own mind.... (read in full...)
17 year old and 14 year old
Q. Hey I'm a 17 yr old guy, my girlfriend is 14, yes I know that a big age differance this young. We are very much in love, strong word but true. I have asked her about sex and she said she doesnt want to go that far, but she keeps throwing me mixed ...
A. 29 November 2011: At BOTH your ages, living where you do, ANY sexual activity is illegal. Also remember that she will be liable to prosecution as well as you, although it will be more likely to be you and you will attract a criminal record and be placed on the Sex ... (read in full...)
Is ejaculating in a woman's mouth more degrading than on her face?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?...
A. 28 November 2011: Yes, anon, I HAVE sampled my own sperm and because my partner of the time said exactly what you did - "you wouldn't expect me to swallow it if you knew how it tasted" - so I came in my hand and licked it up.
Actually, it didn't taste of much at all;... (read in full...)
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