Should I give my virginity to this married friend who wants to help?
Q. My story you may feel different. I'm 26, healthy, handsome and still a virgin man. I had tight foreskin and consulted doctor recently. He advised try to do handjob always with the help of porn in net or books which doesn't worked actually. And later ...
A. 11 May 2011: I'm surprised that your doctor didn't advise applying steroidal cream on your foreskin, to soften it.
Discuss this with him, and if he thinks it is suitable in your case your problem could be over.... (read in full...)
What is a reasonable budget for a not too over the top wedding?
Q. Hi We would like to get married but we are trying to pay off priorty debts first. Does any body know what a reasonable budget is for a not too fanciful basic wedding that we can do ourselves. We are thinking of £1,000. Is this a reasonable...
A. 11 May 2011: Honestly, I wouldn't book Westminster Cathedral - it has been done and you wouldn't want to copy, would you?... (read in full...)
Isn't it usually the girlfriend who doesn't want sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We just moved into an apartment together. We both signed the one year lease. While I still love my boyfriend, I'm having a few issues regarding sex. I love sex and while I woul...
A. 6 May 2011: Good advice from "chigirl", as usual - and others, of course, but can I add that perhaps you could show him this page by way of explanation as to how you feel?... (read in full...)
Is there anywhere I can go for male advice on male problems?
Q. is there any agony site for men. similar to dearcupid.com but mainly for men. I notice that most of the male questions here are answered by female aunts. I need male views on some male questions. ...
A. 4 May 2011: I'm male, what's your problem?
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How do I find an older man that will not use me for sex?
Q. I am 19 years old and graduated high school a year ago. I'm single and i've been looking for a relationship, but there's an issue. I like older men. I didn't think it would be such an issue. I mean, I am attractive. I run so i'm fit, I ...
A. 3 May 2011: Late 20s to 30s can still be a bit immature or players, but you can't necessarily know that until it's too late and you have a high emotional investment in the relationship. You could try the Internet, chatting only on there until you are sure he ... (read in full...)
He had performance anxiety on our date...tips for handling it the next time round?
Q. I recently started seeing a guy. He's sweet, funny, but shy. He always given me hugs, but I had to initiate kissing him on our third date at his home. When he took me to bed after making out for a while on the couch, I asked him if he had any ...
A. 2 May 2011: The fact that he had an early morning erection shows that his bits work, so it's all in his mind. No surprise there. Men are under so much pressure to perform these days and he is suffering from severe anxiety as a result. Why not state at the out... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and haven't ever masturbated. Does this make me weird?
Q. Just a short question, I am a 16 year old female and haven't ever masturbated in my life because I don't know how to :/ Does this mean I'm weird? Or am i normal? Thanks so much to anyone who has any advice for me, i really appreciate it :)...
A. 2 May 2011: I'm sure that you will get loads of hints and tips on here, but may I just give you my usual advice for novices like you? Visit the website "Clitoral"; it's by women, for women and details ways of bringing yourself off, amongst other useful ... (read in full...)
Newly wed and my husband is disappointed with my breasts. Do I have to be perfect for him to love me?
Q. Ahh, where to begin. My husband and I are newly weds, and we both waited til marriage to have sex. Anyhow, when I took my clothes off for him for the first time, he was disappointed. Reason being my boobs are smaller than he thought they would be ...
A. 1 May 2011: I was going to reply with positive things, "Cerberus", but you have said it all perectly - right on target as usual. 5 star rating for you again.... (read in full...)
My mom controls the way I dress!
Q. Know that i am a teenager in high school. So I like the way I dress. I basically wear jeans and a baggy shirt because they are comfortable. I enjoy this, but my mom is now FORCING me to wear dresses and skirts. She says that I walk like a man. Now ...
A. 1 May 2011: You are not going to change her, or the way she is. Suggestion: pack what clothes YOU want to wear into your school bag, wear what SHE wants you to wear to school and change into yours at school. Don't forget to change back before you go home!... (read in full...)
Our first time wasn't great! What happened?
Q. My boyfriend sex me and it was my first time,but why is it I dont feel so much delight? yes i admit it hurts cause im still a virgin,he has a tiny penis,lol,and it doesnt feel so much good,I think im not satified,why is it? Do i need a guy who has a ...
A. 1 May 2011: No, you don't need a bigger penis, HE just needs to learn technique! He needs to understand that you won't be instantly turned on unless there is lots of foreplay, especially as you are a tight virgin, else it will be more likely to hurt. Does h... (read in full...)
I haven't had sex in 20 years and really don't know what to do or expect!
Q. I am a 55 year old women that hasn't had sex in 20 years. I have recently started dating again an I am sure he will want to have sex soon and I am horrified I have no idea what to expect. Can anyone give advice of help please...
A. 30 April 2011: Just be honest with him about this; he will understand and be gentle with you.... (read in full...)
He can't maintain an erection in bed.
Q. Dear Cupid, My questions are a bit complicated and probably TMI. I apologize in advance. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. I love spending time with him, love who he is... but there's an elephant in the room only I seem to bring up...
A. 30 April 2011: He needs to visit his doctor. He may have diabetes, latent, that he is unaware of, or some other problem that he needs to get treatment for.
It's also possible that this is a side-effect of his medication - also a reason for consulting hios doct... (read in full...)
Isn't it usually the girlfriend who doesn't want sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. We just moved into an apartment together. We both signed the one year lease. While I still love my boyfriend, I'm having a few issues regarding sex. I love sex and while I woul...
A. 29 April 2011: It might be worth clarifying the "too sore" aspect of his excuses. If genuine, he needs to seek treatment because it could be serious. I'm assuming he means his penism is sore? Have you noticed any problems there? As for tiredness, if he is in full ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to ask my teacher a personal problem of mine?
Q. so i really feel close to my teacher, like i can really trust him.i told him i needed to speak with him about something. we agreed on it. he still doesn't know what it is, its a personal matter and its really bugging me, is it a good idea to speak ...
A. 22 April 2011: Teachers are there for pastoral care as well, so if as you say you can trust him and feel comfortable with him, go ahead and talk it over with him; he will be pleased to help.... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 22 April 2011: What the hell is there to be upset about? The past is where it belongs: in the past. What she or you did then is orrelevant and immaterial. What matters is do you love each other? If yes, then stop being a wuss and have a happy life together... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time?
Q. I am thinking about having sex for the first time. Does it hurt and can somebody give me details...
A. 20 April 2011: Most of us will tell you not to do it because it is both unwuse and illegal.
I believe that 18 is the age of consent where you live and as such, the law considers you not to be competent to consent to sex, so he will be guilty of statutory rape... (read in full...)
Do I masturbate too much?
Q. Is once a day too much to masturbate for a 15 year old girl? ...
A. 19 April 2011: A wank a day keeps stress at bay........... (read in full...)
It takes so little to get me horny!
Q. This is not so much a help issue, but more of a why. I keep getting horny and turned on over the slitest of things. I only have to think of porn or sex, or even less than that and i'm in the mood. I was with someone for 5 years, and i had no sex...
A. 19 April 2011: If I were not totally and absolutely committed to my soul mate, I'd be asking for your phone number!
Seriously, I think it has all been said - you are free from the oppression of a bad relationship and able to express yourself freely and sexu... (read in full...)
1/2 way through masturbating I start to pee?
Q. Halfway through masturbating I started to pee, is this just cause I needed to go to the bathroom or is it normal of What please help....
A. 18 April 2011: You were erect and you urinated?
This is unusual, because both men and women close off the urethra when aroused so that your ejaculate isn't contaminated during sex.
Do you need to consult your GP?... (read in full...)
I want to stop masturbating because I don't feel good afterwards
Q. ok i haven't had a girlfriend before or had sex and i just keep masterbating. the other day i masterbated twice before 7am which is just crazy. what should I do to stop masterbating. i want to stop because i don't feel good after i have finished ...
A. 18 April 2011: At your age, you would be VERY odd if you didn't masturbate.
What am I talking about - at ANY age!
Just stop feeling guilty. Guilt about masturbation belongs to the dark ages.... (read in full...)
How can I get enough protein on a vegetarian diet?
Q. I'm a strict vegetarian (been brought up this way) so I don't eat fish, eggs or anything animal based. Anyways I really really need protein in my diet! But I can't think of what foods to have as I'm really limited for choice... I can have dairy but ...
A. 18 April 2011: Soya protein? I think most pulses contain protein, but watch what company you are in because you will fart like a vegetarian!... (read in full...)
Should I show my boobs to my online boyfriend?
Q. hi i am of 18old .i have a small doubt can i be romantic with my boyfriend? when we generally talk each other in video chat,at that time he asked me to show my boobs(chest without bra and anthing like that) i want to know can i show him what he h...
A. 17 April 2011: I urge caution. It may seem exciting to share intimate things with your boyfriend, but how do you know where your pictures will end up? The Internet is very good at distributing things. You may feel that you trust your b/f 100%, but can you ever be ... (read in full...)
Masturbatio & Sex Duration worries/troubles
Q. I am a 27 year old virgin I do watch porn quite a bit too. What I have noticed is that when I masturbate, it takes a few strokes/seconds before I climax, and it is possible for me to do this 4/5 times an hour. Is this normal? If I ever have ...
A. 17 April 2011: You are training yourself to be on a hair-trigger!
Yes, it's very likely that at the first touch of a woman's hand you will be all over and out of ammunition........ (read in full...)
Ladies can you tell me why you hate porn or why you think other women hate it?
Q. Why do women hate porn so much? I agree that when it becomes an addiction, their is a problem. However why, when a guy watches porn only occasionally, and has sex at least once every 2 days? I mean, it's not an addiction but only to spend time. ...
A. 16 April 2011: Most women would fell undervalued if their man watched porn, especially alone. Not quite so bad if they watch together. If you have read posts on here at all often you will have heard some (insecure) blokes complain that their partners use dildos a... (read in full...)
I’m in love with a much older man.
Q. I’m in love with a much older man. I myself am only 17, but he is 60. I know that he’s far to honourable to share my feelings but sometimes it feels like he might. We’ll sit on his couch for hours and listen to music, he tells me about the bands and ...
A. 16 April 2011: No adverse criticism from me, "DoubleM"; you are spot on, as usual.
OP, you just can't help your feelings or whom you fall in love with, so never mind what others think - it's your life, do what you want with it.... (read in full...)
I cant make him climax! Help!
Q. Hey everyone, this is a little embarassing, but i have no one else to ask! Im in a relationship with an older guy, i lost my virginity to him, and i cant make him climax. Its so frustrating. He gets hard really quickly and says that im really good ...
A. 15 April 2011: Let him show you how he pleasures himself, if he hasn't already. Do you grip him firmly enough? You won't break it, you know! Try gripping a lot tighter than you have been, and pump faster and more fimly, especially as he is getting near the poin... (read in full...)
I want to test my relationship by holding out on sex. Am I taking it too far?
Q. I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me...However I cant trust him and normally I am able to walk away at the slightest feeling of dishonesty but this one I cant seem to shake off because Im in too deep and its mad chemistry. May I add the long ...
A. 15 April 2011: It is ALWAYS wrong to use sex as a bargaining counter or to blackmail someone into doing something.
It is instant death to a relationship; he will resent it and just walk away.
Find some other way of making your point - counselling?... (read in full...)
What can I take or do to reduce the size of my breasts?
Q. Hi cupid friend! I will really appreciate if you all can find the solution to my problem and it goes... There is this guy i love and he really love me too, but the problem is that he complain how big my breast is. Please help me, what should i take ...
A. 14 April 2011: As usual, "chigirl" and "eyeswideopen" are right on the mark.
DON'T do it, not for him and not even for you unless you have sound medical reasons so to do.
ALL operations carry a degree of risk and breast reduction is by far more risky than aug... (read in full...)
Three months of our marriage and no sex yet..
Q. im 28 yrs old..my husband liked me very much before marriage and used to talk a lot about sex on the phone.. he even tried to take me out but i never allowed.. he used to get al excitd on the phone nd use to tell me what hes going to do when ill be ...
A. 13 April 2011: Luna, I can't begin to understand your frustrations here, but something needs to be done!
When you say you can't take things in to show him, what do you mean? Is it that you don't have anything to show or is it forbidden?
If it's at all possible... (read in full...)
I don't think I can get the grades for 6th form, but everyone keeps telling me I have to!
Q. I am currently doing my GCSEs and im in Year 10 at high school. My mum is head of media studies at the local Grammar school that is nationaly recognised as outstanding. Shes keeps telling me that the only reason that we still live in this town and ...
A. 12 April 2011: I feel SO sorry for you: you really don't deserve this pressure to perform beyond what you perceive as your capability.
Your mother's position must make it worse for both of you.
If you are genuinely trying your best, nobody could ask any more fro... (read in full...)
The condom broke and now she doesn't want to see me. Why? What can I do?
Q. I have been dating a lady for 7 weeks. I am 45 and she is 46. On our 10th date I stayed at her house and we ended up having sex. The problem I have is that I used a condom but it broke. I felt it go pop but was just about to climax and couldnt stop ...
A. 11 April 2011: Whilst I agree with most of what has been said, in defence of the OP she did have the option of going on birth control, knowing that she was going to be sexually active.... (read in full...)
We're 14, are we old enough to have sex?
Q. hello, this is a pretty long question but it would be great if i could have your honest opinions, i'm 14 and i've been with my boyfriend who is also 14 for about ten months. we're very close and he's like my best friend as well as my boyfrien...
A. 10 April 2011: You need to be reminded that having sex at your ages is illegal for BOTH of you and could easily result in a custodial sentence and being put on the Sex Offenders' Register, at least for him. It's illegal for a good reason; neither of you is ready... (read in full...)
Three months of our marriage and no sex yet..
Q. im 28 yrs old..my husband liked me very much before marriage and used to talk a lot about sex on the phone.. he even tried to take me out but i never allowed.. he used to get al excitd on the phone nd use to tell me what hes going to do when ill be ...
A. 9 April 2011: Perhaps he really doesn't know how to do it? If he is a virgin, his knowledge may come from books and/or porn and has no experience of things in reality. You need to help him; try mutual masturbation and then he will at least know that he can get ... (read in full...)
G/f has decided she never wants to have sex again?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now, and it is pretty serious.Our sex life was AMAZING until 2 months ago where she decided she was "never interested in sex" and has decided that she never wants to have sex with me again? I try ...
A. 9 April 2011: When she says it makes her uncomfortable afterwards, is it a physical discomfprt or a mental one? If physical, she needs to see her GP/gynaecologist to investigate why. If mental, she ought to seek counselling to discover why she has taken agains... (read in full...)
G/f has decided she never wants to have sex again?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years now, and it is pretty serious.Our sex life was AMAZING until 2 months ago where she decided she was "never interested in sex" and has decided that she never wants to have sex with me again? I try ...
A. 9 April 2011: Either talk it through or take it as a warning, a preview of how things are going to be between you in the future. If she has forbidden sex this early in your relationship, you have NO relationship - it is doomed.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for 15 year olds to masturbate?
Q. Ok so I'm 15 and I masturbate. I know it is perfectly naturally but I can't help but feel awful afterwards. I don't want to but I can't help it sometimes. Is it normal I know guys masturbate but is it normal for girls especially 15 year olds ? Also ...
A. 9 April 2011: Oh, the stories people used to tell you to spoil your pleasure - "you'll go blind", "rot in hell", "grow hair on your palms (boys)" - all sorts of rubbish like that. There is NO need to feel guilty: in fact, you are better off than boys. The clit... (read in full...)
Is it true that guys cannot really control themselves in the heat of the moment?
Q. This question is for guys mainly. Recently I was making out with my bf when suddenly he started seriously touching me up and feeling my butt and boobs and went a little over board. Anyway I told him that he went a bit too far and he was really sorry ...
A. 9 April 2011: At your age (well, mostly any age!), men think with their lower brains, and only learn a LITTLE control as they mature.
It's up to you to put the brakes on if it isn't what you want.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall in love in just 2 meetings including sex?
Q. Is it fair to tell her I am in love? Our first meeting - We had sex for 2 hours and it was extremely passionate. How we ended up having sex in the first meeting is something which I rather not discuss here. Our 2nd meeting - We ended up chatt...
A. 9 April 2011: You are not in love, you are in lust!... (read in full...)
I'm being pressurized into marriage because my GF whom I never really loved, got pregnant and had our baby, by lying to me about using birth control..
Q. Hello. I am in a spot of bother. I had been going out with a girl long distance for about a year, we moved in together and I was pretty sure then that it wasn't true love. After about 6 months, when she was telling me she was taking contra...
A. 9 April 2011: She tricked and betrayed you, so you owe her NOTHING.
I understand your feelings for your son, but what about YOUR unhappiness for the rest of your life?
It was her decision to fool you into having an unwanted chiold, so let her run away - if she... (read in full...)
Should I leave her? Ten years, I have done all I can to appease her. Sex is rare. Is this fixable?
Q. Hi everyone! Sorry for this long text, but I want you to understand my situation better, so I can get a better advice, I need it! I have been having this problem for a while now and desperately need advice. I am a 27 yr old guy and my gf is...
A. 9 April 2011: May I suggest that you show her your posting on here and all the answers you have received?... (read in full...)
He kills the mood when he asks me how long it is going to take. Should I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend has tried to get me to orgasm a few times. Every time he does, he ends up stopping halfway through the process and asking me how much longer I'm going to be. It frustrates and even offends me to no end because when he says that, it ...
A. 8 April 2011: Get him to grow up? He has an awful lot to learn about women. If his ego is that fragile I'm afraid you have a tough job on your hands...... (read in full...)
Should I leave her? Ten years, I have done all I can to appease her. Sex is rare. Is this fixable?
Q. Hi everyone! Sorry for this long text, but I want you to understand my situation better, so I can get a better advice, I need it! I have been having this problem for a while now and desperately need advice. I am a 27 yr old guy and my gf is...
A. 8 April 2011: She won't change and now she is using sex as a bargaining counter - the worst thing possible in a relationship. She is selfish and unappreciative and you have done extremely well to have tolerated it for so long. Seek your comforts elsewhere, and i... (read in full...)
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