Fear of using public toilets, how do I overcome this?
Q. I know this question isn't really on topic to what this website is about, and it's a pretty stupid question anyway, but I can't find anything else this helpful and anonymous on the web. I absolutely hate using the toilet at other peoples houses a...
A. 21 June 2012: Tisha, I never knew such a condition existed, let alone was formally recognised. That was great advice.
OP, I understand that a lot of Japanese people feel this way and that their public toilets play music in the cubicles - quite loudly, to cove... (read in full...)
My boyfriend barely lasts for 10 seconds during sex!!
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been having sex for 5 months now but we jus start dating back in march, hes sex is good and but he only lasts for maybe 10 seconds, what does that mean???? He always says sorry because he cums so fast, but i always say its ok ...
A. 16 June 2012: I was about to say something similar to "Moo's Mum".
I suggest that he takes care of himself before sex starts, either privately or with you, then get him to bring you off a couple of times first via extended foreplay.
At his age, he should e... (read in full...)
My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?
Q. My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...
A. 16 June 2012: He MUST know that it's not true. Motive? I can only guess, but either he wants to get you pregnant, or, more likely, he doesn't care because if he does he plans to run off and leave you holding the baby anyway.
As others have said, liar or idio... (read in full...)
We had sex after 3 weeks and there was hardly any semen! Does that mean my boyfriend is having sex with someone else?
Q. I have a sex question that I should probably know by now but don't - so here goes: My boyfriend and I had a huge fight . We went 3 weeks without having sex and finally we did. I expected him to orgasm right away but he didn't. When he finally ...
A. 6 June 2012: Semen volume is at its peak after 2-3 days of abstinence, and diminishes after that. It also reduces if he cums frequently - there is only so much there!
So, if he has been going without, or having an affair with his right hand, volume will be lowe... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my 2nd cousin?
Q. Im in love with my second cousin and we have dated in the past. We have never felt the same love with any other but he thinks its wrong and i dont think its incest how do i show him it's not incest and i reseached the bible and its not in there....
A. 5 June 2012: It's not incest. There is very little blood in common, if any, and that is the reason for avoiding incestuous relationships - fear of birth defects due to genetics.
Modern research rules out such defects even for first cousins and we are more libe... (read in full...)
I want to stop taking my birth control pill and not tell my b/f
Q. I'm 20. I started dating a great guy a few months ago, and for the past month, all I've been thinking about is getting pregnant. He's 27, has a wonderful job, and would not walk out on me if I got pregnant. His father left when he was young and he ...
A. 4 June 2012: You have the message, loudly and clearly. Sneaky, underhand tactics are no basis for a relationship and, as has been mentioned, are tantamount to entrapment, or fraud.
If he ever found out - and he will - he will resent you for as long as he stay... (read in full...)
The tall and short of it
Q. Iam 6 foot 7 and My Girl Is 5foot1 When She Pulls Me Down To Smooch . She Loves To French Kiss But I Don't How Can I Get Her To Stop Kissing Me Like This ?...
A. 4 June 2012: Please do not capitalise every word - so annoying.... (read in full...)
Don't most men like to touch their girlfriend's boobs?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to like touching his girlfriend's boobs? I mean, in most relationships, is it normal? Cause my girlfriend apparently don't think so, and she forbade me from touching them after awhile. I used to touch them like once a week, ...
A. 3 June 2012: Breasts are a major erogenous zone for women, so it is PERFECTLY NORMAL for her to want them fondled and caressed, and obviously for you to co-operate in this! Pleasure all round........ (read in full...)
Does alcohol really make men lose their erection?
Q. Ok, does alcohol have that much affect on guys performance? Never had a bloke keep going soft on me before, ever. He said he has some viagra that he sometimes uses for when he's been drinking, but we didn't use it this time. I have had guys take ...
A. 2 June 2012: It's called "Brewer's Droop"!... (read in full...)
My family feel that if my 27 year old boyfriend is having sex with me, then he should pay for ALL my expenses! And the poor guy does enough already!
Q. Ive been dating my boyfriend almost a year, im 19, he's 27 he also lives 3 hours away but visits every weekend. He pays for 99% of everything when we're together the hotels, dinner, movies, concerts etc. I havent worked in about 5 months i cant ...
A. 1 June 2012: Is your mother saying he wouldn't be expected to pay anything if he DIDN'T have sex with you? Clearly the others are right and your mum wants you to be treated as a prostitute........ (read in full...)
Are all women capable of having orgasms through intercourse? Anyone know a good technique?
Q. Are all women capable of having orgasms through intercourse? I think they say only a small percentage of women can orgasm just from intercourse. I'm 33 and it only happened once for me. I would love to figure out how to have more. I can climax from ...
A. 1 June 2012: If your partner isn't so immature as to be fazed by it, try using a bullet vibrator on your clit whilst he is performing; you get the feeling of intimacy because he is in you and you stimulate yourself to orgasm with the vibrator. He gets to enjoy ... (read in full...)
I already have a partner but have a friend who wants a friends with benefits relationship with me
Q. Hi everyone. i need some help. I am a mother of two, in a great relationship with a guy i adore. we have been together 8 years, and the kids are from a previous relationship. so heres where my problem begins, we have a mutual friend and recent...
A. 30 May 2012: Have you heard of polyamory? Google it, and put it to both of these men and see if they are happy with such an arrangement.
If not, do what "YouWish" said.... (read in full...)
Has anyone else changed their mind about masturbation being dirty?
Q. When I was a little younger (early/mid teens) I used to think masturbation was really dirty for girls and I swore never to do it. Now I'm 18 and my views have changed quite a bit. I don't think it's dirty anymore but I only do it rarely and I was wo...
A. 30 May 2012: It used to be frowned upon for men/boys too, with awful warnings about going blind if you did it!
It was based on religious dogma for some reason that I don't know about - perhaps a killjoy thing to spoil one's pleasure?
All that has changed ... (read in full...)
Problems with my next door neighbour, what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupids, I am having many issues with my next door neighbour. i seriously dont know what to do!! I am an army family and reported my neighbour for parking in front of my house on the grass. It is forbidden to park here, my grass is destro...
A. 28 May 2012: Even verbal threats are technically an assault, so collect evidence, as much as you can. If the aggressive child is under 10, he cannot be charged with anything - but the parents can! He is still committing an offence, even if he is below the age of ... (read in full...)
What did my boss at the restaurant mean when he said "Clean the shaft too"? Was he hitting on me?
Q. Maybe it's just wishful thinking but I think my boss was coming on to me a couple of days ago. I work at a restaurant. I'm still kind of new to the place, only a few months in. I was cleaning near the latte machine and one of the spoons was dirty...
A. 28 May 2012: Er, you were near the COFFEE MACHINE! That was the shaft he was referring to, where you steam the milk. Are you blonde?... (read in full...)
We tried having sex, couldn't do it and now he's being really weird and blunt with me
Q. I am 16 and have really liked a guy for 7 months now and I got the feeling he liked me too (we're both quite shy so nothings happened) but last night he invited me round his for the first time and we were having a really nice time and got on really ...
A. 28 May 2012: He is being IMMATURE, not blunt! he should be pleased that you are so tight and that he is your first - a precious gift that you can give only once.
Are you sure that "getting on really well" is sufficient reason to donate your virginity to him?... (read in full...)
Can someone explain her behaviour to me?
Q. Can anyone give me some advice in regards to this girls behavior at the club last night? Okay , so I was with my friends last night at a club and I usually don't go to clubs but since it was my friends birthday I told myself I would make a ...
A. 27 May 2012: You expect MEN to understand women? Can you see where you went wrong there....
Chigirl is probably the nearest to an answer for you, but as the majority say, just shrug your shoulders and walk away.... (read in full...)
I think about sex all the time!
Q. so, i am 13 almost 14 and cant stop thinking about ..... sex, i know i am to young but keep thinking about sexual things me and my ex used to do(like kissing, and playing about). i dont know if it is right to think of this. what should i do, i ...
A. 20 May 2012: Sorry to be so crude, but if you label him as a "fuck and fuck off" merchant as widely as possible, this other girl might get the message - and any other potential targets of his.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong not to buy my wife another vibrator?
Q. Am I wrong not to buy my wife another vibrator? A few years ago I bought my wife a vibrator to spice things up in the bedroom. She was a bit hesitant at first but after a while she would regularly use it to finish herself off. As the months w...
A. 20 May 2012: Why don't you (or she) buy a little bullet vibrator that she can use on her clit whilst you are "in action"? It has been stated many times on here that very few women climax due to penetration alone and that is NOT a reflection on your abilities but ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 18 months, and we have been living together for six months. When we started the relationship, sex was very good and quite regular at least one or two times a week but over the last seven to eight mo...
A. 20 May 2012: In your position and at your age, there are NOT more important things in your relationship than sex. You have glimpsed into the future, OP, and it is not good! Do you honestly think she will rediscover her libido after you are married? Neither do I ... (read in full...)
I think about sex all the time!
Q. so, i am 13 almost 14 and cant stop thinking about ..... sex, i know i am to young but keep thinking about sexual things me and my ex used to do(like kissing, and playing about). i dont know if it is right to think of this. what should i do, i ...
A. 20 May 2012: You say "not sex, though", which could explain why he cheated - he got it elsewhere!
I'm NOT saying that YOU should have let him; just offering a likely explanation and if it's true it tells you all you need to know about this boy - that he isn'... (read in full...)
If a waitress is hot should I put my phone number on the bill?
Q. I'm starting to get back on the dating scene and i was wondering if it is rude or if it even works to write your number on the bill of a resteraunt if you find the waitress hott. Or is that an easy way to get prank phone calls?...
A. 19 May 2012: Are you unable to speak to her?... (read in full...)
Erection when hugging/kissing my girlfriend
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months now, and the last couple times we've taken the time to say goodbye on her front porch before I leave her house we've spend a lot of time hugging and kissing goodbye and even just talking ...
A. 13 May 2012: What else do you expect, especially at your age? It's perfectly normal and of course you cannot control it - stupid to try. Just discuss this with her when you are not embracing and I'm sure she will be flattered and know what to expect - and maybe ... (read in full...)
I hate the hurtful feeling that my mom is always nicer to my younger sister!
Q. I'm two years older than my sister and my mom is always comparing us. She always says to look at my sister who has a slender face unlike my chubby one. She hints that my sister will be more successful. She says things like "Your sister is going to ...
A. 12 May 2012: Oh how I sympathise with you. I had the same differential treatment when I was young.I had a very unhappy childhood, because very early on I realised that I was not wanted and certainly not loved. I was never cuddled or hugged, let alone kissed o... (read in full...)
How do I handle embarrassing visits to the doctor?
Q. My mom took me to the doctor to get a referral for X-rays for my injured knee that I damaged when running during practice for Track. So there was this Medical Assistant guy and he was the one who checked my weight and stuff like that. He also asked ...
A. 12 May 2012: This is gross professional misconduct on the part of the Medical Assistant and also to an extent by the Doctor if he knows it is going on and does nothing to stop it.
Report it; no way should you be made to feel uncomfortable or put up with unwe... (read in full...)
How can I wax myself at home? I don't want to go to a professional?
Q. Hi everyone.i want to wax my private area at home.it has become darken due to hair removal cream.i have also used raizer but it does not work for long.i have had one try but I can,t remove around vegina lips.plz don,t say to go to profesnal.. It is ...
A. 7 May 2012: Google "Sugar waxing". The sugar solution is easy to make up at home, is not as hot as real wax and doesn't hurt as much - all gain and no disadvantages!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: Mostly female answerers to this one, as you would expect, but why waste your time and emotions on this moron, OP. Relationships are about love and mutual respect and not "bossing" - unless you like to play Dom/sub games, which is a different matter ... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 4 May 2012: Go for it - where's the harm?... (read in full...)
I want anal again but she refuses! What should I do? I want to go with a call girl just for revenge!
Q. We did it two times but she doesn't want it anymore, the first time was painful to her but the second one she enjoyed because i did it a soft way! Now i desire to have anal intercourse again with her but she doesn't want it, we've talked about th...
A. 4 May 2012: No male answerers so far, but I agree with the ladies - you are a selfish, disrespecting spoiled child. With your attitude she would honestly be better off without you, at least until you grow up and learn to consider others as well as yourself and ... (read in full...)
What do I do when she shows me her boobs?
Q. i send you my problem but it was so short and not telling the hole story so let me explain it completely then i ask you to answer me again pleases : i am an Arab man (but also a Christian). the rules and traditions in my country told men to treat wo...
A. 2 May 2012: OP, she knows EXACTLY what she is doing, have no doubt about that! All the honest ladies on here will confirm that - no secret, ladies!
Your girlfriend is already more Western than you and wants to entice you into further intimacy, but my bet is t... (read in full...)
We have decided not to have sex, what else can we do to spice things up?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have 'agreed' not to have sex yet, but we pretty much do other things. This weekend we simulated things, she used the tip of my penis to stimulate her clitoris, i had my boxers on, she had her pants off. I also think sh...
A. 1 May 2012: [Mod note: this aunt has provided some guidance which is too strong for the general site. Please send him a PM if you wish to read his advice.] Note to Mods - sorry about being so explicit, but we were asked! If you feel that this is too strong f... (read in full...)
Is it true men love stockings and suspenders?
Q. Hi everyone I just need to ask a quick question I am planning on surprising my boyfriend. Is it true that men love stockings and suspenders? I just need some answers as I am unsure whether he would like it or not thank you ...
A. 1 May 2012: Yes, but mind you don't trip over his tongue!... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at other women?
Q. why do married men look at other women? I have a husband who does this and I'm so upset about it. I don't look at other men because I'm happily married with the man I'm with. He tells me I'm beautiful, sexy, bodacious, the whole nine yards, but ...
A. 1 May 2012: I loved your reply, "chigirl"; men have been saying that for ages, but women take no notice and still complain. perhaps they will listen now?
I loved your shopping analogy, too. But a little dangerous, perhaps? Have you ever known a woman wind... (read in full...)
Why did he cum so fast?
Q. I hooked up with this guy. I was a virgin and he wasn't. I felt him in me but not all the way in but it felt good. Within less than a minute though, (really it was after about 4 thrusts) he said 'oh wait- sometimes the first time is a bit fast' a...
A. 26 April 2012: "The Realist" made me laugh, and brought back memories...
Back in the days of my early youth, when I could stay for Round 2 soon after Round 1, and condoms were dear and I was poor, I often used to keep it on, stay in and go again!... (read in full...)
I'm helping my girlfriend with her assignments and she's promised me bedroom-related action as motivation in return, but she keeps putting it off
Q. Hello everyone, I'd like some advice. Me and my GF are having some relationship issues but we talked and are trying to fix it. My question is about something else though. We're both in the same class and I'm making her assignments for her, I k...
A. 25 April 2012: Good that you are stopping the assignments, but why would you want to continue the relationship? Frankly, in view of her behaviour - welshing on her part of the "bargain" - as long as it didn't get you into trouble I would go to her tutors and tell ... (read in full...)
I'm helping my girlfriend with her assignments and she's promised me bedroom-related action as motivation in return, but she keeps putting it off
Q. Hello everyone, I'd like some advice. Me and my GF are having some relationship issues but we talked and are trying to fix it. My question is about something else though. We're both in the same class and I'm making her assignments for her, I k...
A. 25 April 2012: All good points here, but any relationship that uses sex and intimacy as bargaining counters isn't worth having and is doomed to failure. There is clearly very little genuine love or affection there, at least on her part, and you are being used. ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 25 April 2012: I don't watch porn (well ok, now and again!), but I must say some of the reactions on here surprised me. Hypocritical? Yes!
The lifetime of a porn actress is somewhat limited and lasts for as long as she remains attractive or until people want some... (read in full...)
Should I allow my 75 year old boss to seduce me?
Q. I am 33. I just got in a new job where my boss is 75 up...After few days i felt that he is trying to seduce me. He is physically very active even at ths stage of life. he takes vitamins only. Please advice what to do...should I go for it ....or...
A. 24 April 2012: Last question first; how to please him. Nothing special required, do whatever you normally do!
The bigger question is whether you like him and want to take things further with him. If not, why can't you leave, or report him for sexual hara... (read in full...)
It hurts when I have sex!
Q. I am 22 years old and it really really hurts every time I have sex with my boyfriend. We've been together for 2.5 years and its beginning to affect our relationship because he hates hurting me. Its gradually started hurting more and more since w...
A. 23 April 2012: We are not doctors, generally, so are not able to answer you, but this is serious enough for you to return to your GP and ask for a referral to a specialist for help.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
What are the confidentiality rules in U.K. schools?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm 16 and I'm really happy because I was trying for a baby. My form tutor at school has somehow figured it out and keeps asking if I'm pregnant. I'm reluctant to tell her because I dont want the information getting ...
A. 23 April 2012: "Celtic tiger", I think you may have missed the point. Living off benefits is the aim of "pram-faces"!... (read in full...)
It seems someone has set up a profile on a dating site pretending to be me! Why would someone do this?
Q. Hey! I had something really odd happen recently, and would like some opinions on it. Basically, I woke up about a week ago to a text from a guy saying he was responding to a message I sent him on a dating site. I was very confused, because I haven't ...
A. 20 April 2012: This is a police matter. At the very least it counts as Malicious Communication and possibly worse.
Inform the police and, as "Jeni" suggested, the dating site that you were supposedly on - they will have records.
Also, it is quite likely that the... (read in full...)
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