Is ejaculating in a woman's mouth more degrading than on her face?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now, and really want to ejaculate in her mouth, she can't stand the taste. She wants me to ejaculate on her face, but I feel that's degrading....what do you guys suggest....?...
A. 28 November 2011: Yes, anon, I HAVE sampled my own sperm and because my partner of the time said exactly what you did - "you wouldn't expect me to swallow it if you knew how it tasted" - so I came in my hand and licked it up.
Actually, it didn't taste of much at all;... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to over come lust and temptation?
Q. Whats the best way to over come lust and temptation? Even though I have chosen the single life, it seems that temptation is always around the corner and I get the urge to want sex. Iam a virgin so it makes things 100 times worse and im not religious ...
A. 25 November 2011: As Oscar Wilde famously said, "The best way to deal with temptation is to yield to it"!
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I "insulted" my husband about his performance in bed and I think I deeply wounded his ego. How do I fix it?
Q. I "insulted" my husband and I think I deeply wounded his ego. He cant please me in bed and he has stopped trying to quite a while back. I told him that what he is doing isn't working. He told me he never had problems pleasing women in the past. I ...
A. 22 November 2011: Some good answers here, as usual, but I particularly liked "Odds"' mind-reader comments. A bit off-topic, but mainly for the men....have you ever had a woman go quiet on you, know something was wrong but not what? SHE won't tell you - you should ... (read in full...)
He held my hand, tickled me and looks at me at youth group. Does it mean he likes me?
Q. So, I'm a fifteen year old girl. I just started high school. I went to youth group tonight and we were playing a game and I would sometimes look around the room and would always catch this one guy looking at me. After youth group he came up to me a...
A. 21 November 2011: How many more clues do you need?
Go for it!
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Should I report my sister for fraud?
Q. My sister is claiming child benefit for a child that my mother is raising. She still lives at home and pays for no rent or and living cost for herself or her child and she is also claiming single mother's allowance. my mother minds her child while ...
A. 21 November 2011: Thanks for your sideswipe, female anon. In the UK we have a term, "pram-face"; it refers to a young, unmarried female who regards it as a good career move to get pregnant as soon as possible and go straight on to benefits and social housing. They ... (read in full...)
Should I report my sister for fraud?
Q. My sister is claiming child benefit for a child that my mother is raising. She still lives at home and pays for no rent or and living cost for herself or her child and she is also claiming single mother's allowance. my mother minds her child while ...
A. 20 November 2011: As one who is actually paying for your sister's support in his taxes, my first thought was to say report her. However, "Ciar" has a good point inasmuch as your needing to know the full consequences of such an action.
Having her move away would be a... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm
Q. Hello, out there. I am a 26 year old female. I have never had an orgasm, either clitorally, or vaginally. I have tried on my own for years, and with my husband, but I just can't do it. Has anyone else had this problem, and does anyone have any ...
A. 18 November 2011: It sounds like you have tried everything, OP.
I have just one recommendation: try the website "Clitoral". It is by women, for women and deals with all things sexual to do with women.
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My wife's son is tearing us apart! What to do?
Q. i have caught my wife's son (21 year old) with large quanities of skunk weed 3 times now, the first about a week after we were married 2 years ago,it turns out that he has been reported to the police on 5 occations by 3 different people on our ...
A. 16 November 2011: It's YOUR house, so no need to run - kick them both out!
Report this "baby" to the police and let them search his room, him and his gf; they then ought to have enough evidence to take them both away, along with your wife as well for aiding and abet... (read in full...)
Next month I'm meeting my Boyfriend's family for Christmas. But he'd rather I didn't give them presents. How will it look if I arrive empty handed?
Q. I have a dilemma of etiquette on my hands! Next month, I'll be meeting my boyfriend's family for the first time; his parents, grandmother and three siblings. My boyfriend has a rather acerbic relationship with his siblings - an older brother and ...
A. 14 November 2011: Are you eating together?
Why not take a large cake of a big tin of festive biscuits for all to share - or that old stand-by, a tin of Quality Street!... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to show him he means nothing to me ?
Q. im really hurt and angry as the guy i thought was a close friend has turned out to be a total user and i dont know what to do. hes borrowed money too many times to mention-always gives a sob story, then forgets about this. ive practically paid for ...
A. 10 November 2011: If your manageress and other colleagues know he is a fraud, you need do nothing - they will soon freeze him out and that isolation is your best revenge.
If you try to do anything, it will show that he matters to you: NOT what you want.... (read in full...)
Dangers of Porn
Q. I was listening to the recent case of Vincent Tabak who killed his neighbour after he had watched violent porn, particularly of men placing their hands around woman's throats and tying them up in the boot of a car!!! So what did he do, he strangled ...
A. 9 November 2011: What a lot of text this issue generated! My thanks go to Gabrielle, for a calm and balanced view of the situation, based on inside knowledge and personal experience - the only view worth having. Cheers, Gaby. Oh, as you are an American, le... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's only been with 2 men, but I don't believe her. Am I right?
Q. I dont know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for the last 5 years, but I cant trust her. I am 25 and she is 24. She has told me that she has had two boyfriends before me who she had sex with, but I have heard that she has had more. I think ...
A. 7 November 2011: It's NOT a contest and you don't have to match her score, even if it IS true that she has had more than 10 encounters.
What does it matter?
You either love her or you don't. With your attitude, you will soon drive her away and it will be your los... (read in full...)
Love bites or hickeys?
Q. hi i was writing to get some tips. i'm 15 and it seems alot of people my age are giving 'hichys' or love bites to their partners. and that's what i'm worried about the thing is i don't know how to give them :S. i'm worried about doing it wrong when ...
A. 7 November 2011: It doesn't have to be on the neck, or anywhere normally visible - try a more personal area, usually covered by clothing......... (read in full...)
I really need a male's perspective on this question...
Q. This has been bothering me for months now... I am in a great relationship with this guy for almost 6 months now ( we are both in our 30's) and we are very happy together. We were on our first vacation together and it had been only 2 months that ...
A. 31 October 2011: I believe that he said this in a joking way to test the water and see how you reacted. If you didn't like the idea, which you didn't, he could pretend that he didn't mean it.
Without doubt, it will stay in his mind, but whether he is likely to act ... (read in full...)
Are my concerns about my daughter's mental health valid? How do I suggest she get help? She wants a sex change for vocational reasons
Q. My 16 yr old daughter told us she wants a sex-change. She said it's the solution to all her problems - she wants to work in the motor industry or the logistics industry, and said both those industries aren't really accepting of women working ...
A. 31 October 2011: I find it hard to believe that in these times it is that hard for a woman to succeed in business and/or engineering. I have taught a few women who were in the Electronics design area and they all did well, often being a showpiece for their comp... (read in full...)
Why are guys so quiet after sex?
Q. why are guys so quiet after sex? after sex all my boyfriend wants to do is sleep and hardly talks. seems like hes in a bad mood. usually im not the type to always be that sleepy after sex. i dont mind laying there and cuddling but i cant just lay ...
A. 30 October 2011: You beat me to it, "Odds" - I was going to say that and you are dead right. In order to try to be fair to my partner, over the years I've tried to remain awake and alert after orgasm and find that the "afterglow" period where we cuddle and come down ... (read in full...)
Couldn't get it up.....
Q. So there's this guy i've been hanging out with at uni. We're both 18, and he seems like a genuine lovely guy. Anyway the other night we were both out at a party with separate groups, but ended up hanging together, kissing etc. I should point out we ...
A. 15 October 2011: Thew technical term is "Brewer's Droop"!... (read in full...)
He wants to buy a motorbike and I am soooooo against it! What do I do?
Q. i lost my brother in a motorbike accident 2 years ago.. got married around 18 months ago... my husband god knows from where he got it in his head that he wants to buy a motorbike.. i told him I am scared begged him not to.. he is being very adamant ...
A. 10 October 2011: If a man has motorcycling in his blood, you won't get it out of him. I love motorbikes, but haven't ridden one for years.
I intend to, before I get too old, but I will go and get trained properly for today's traffic and conditions - and so must he. ... (read in full...)
Not happy with our open relationship anymore, but then again I would rather him not cheat on me if we went exclusive! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 f in a 9 month open relationship. To start with I was completely fine with this- wasn't anything serious just getting to know eachother more etc. But 9 months later I am serious about being with this guy and it hurts to see him texting ...
A. 10 October 2011: That's the difference between men and women - in pretty well ALL species! Men are programmed by nature to spread their seed; to impregnate as many females as possible. That doesn't mean penetrating every woman on sight - well, not nowadays, anyway: ... (read in full...)
I participated in the character assasination of a teacher and want to make things right
Q. This is going to be a little long, but do stay put and offer a way to get through this mess I'm in: This is about a 40 year old guy we used to have in our last semester. He was, first of all, a GREAT, and I do mean GREAT---academic...
A. 22 September 2011: That "aggressive mask" is a technique that some teachers employ to impose discipline - those that don't know the difference between DEMANDING and COMMANDING respect, as appears to be the case here. He has been caught up in the false ethos of "start ... (read in full...)
Ever since we had sex, I am an emotional wreck!
Q. So i am 16 and i am a junior, and I have been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We are very much in love, and he is extremely special to me, so a few weeks ago we had sex for the first time. I ended up having to take a morning after pill ...
A. 22 September 2011: This is the major reason why having sex at such an early age is a bad idea; it's not the physical aspect (although that pill didn't help) but the emotional aspect, as "emilyt" pointed out. You simply were not emotionally ready to experience sex.
A... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of what went on at this bachelor party
Q. My boyfriend went on a bachelor party out of town for the weekend with his friends recently. He's already gone on a few of them before during our relationship and has always been good about communicating, even if it's just at the end of the night to ...
A. 22 September 2011: Do you really want to be with someone SO stupid that he can't cover his tracks and delete dodgy texts?
Yes, it's almost certain that he has been a naughty boy - his reactions are typical. Also, how can he have exchanged texts with his friends if h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed...but went looking for a second-hand ring!
Q. So my boyfriend proposed to me the other day. All was going well until he started searching for an engagement ring. We were talking on the phone and he said "Here's one I think you'll like" and sent me a picture of the ugliest ring I'd ever seen. ...
A. 21 September 2011: Well done, "chigirl" - brilliant as usual!... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married boss to keep my job and now I feel sick!
Q. I think i have just had sex with my boss to save my job. Ive always known hes fancied from since i started. but at the start of the year he told us that out of 3 of us 1 of us would get sacked. its just an office job but its a job so i decided ...
A. 20 September 2011: Am I the only one to think that you brought it on yourself?
"knowing that he fancied me I decided to open a button or two to show my cleavage and wore a shorter skirt. I flirted with him too, I bent over his desk a few times and even dropped ... (read in full...)
Everything's great except ...
Q. Hello all. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, it's exciting and always fun. The only "problem" is that he can't cum through me giving him a blowjob. I've had him close several times, but it's like he can't let go enough to actually cum. It...
A. 15 September 2011: I suspect it's not emotional pressure, jmtmj, but physical pressure - or rather, lack of it. I bet he cums well enough when he goes solo, because he will grip himself harder than your mouth does.
Try using your hand, firmly, at the same time... (read in full...)
My 41 year old boyfriend fancies teenage girls
Q. My partner is 41. However, he says he feels like he is 18 years old. Now thats great, as it keeps him active etc. However, the downside is that he fancies women or rather girls that are very young- I'm talking 16-18. This really creeps me out. I ...
A. 14 September 2011: There ARE red flags here, but in the UK it is not a criminal offence, just a moral one, at 16 or over.
A former colleague of mine had a saying: "getting older doesn't prevent your appreciating young beauty, it simply expands the age ranges that you ... (read in full...)
I caught my fiancé's dad cheating
Q. Yesterday I caught my future father in law cheating, I know it would break my fiancé's heart if I told him, not to mention if his mother finds out, it will tear his family apart. I don't know what to do. I don't think I would ever say anything to ...
A. 13 September 2011: Sorry I was a bit brusque in my response earlier, but by interfering you do more harm than good, and you have no idea of the whole situation, so it's best to keep out of it.... (read in full...)
I caught my fiancé's dad cheating
Q. Yesterday I caught my future father in law cheating, I know it would break my fiancé's heart if I told him, not to mention if his mother finds out, it will tear his family apart. I don't know what to do. I don't think I would ever say anything to ...
A. 13 September 2011: Simple. It's none of your business and you will do a lot of damage to everybody, including yourself. Just keep quiet and walk away from it.... (read in full...)
Do I talk to my boyfriend or wait until I have proof?
Q. Well, not sure how to start but .... there's this girl that likes my boyfriend and everybody knows it, she doesn't keep it quiet. Last night when i was at my boyfriend's house I saw two texts on his phone while he went to the bathroom. I checked ...
A. 12 September 2011: Do you open his letters, too? You have committed a breach of trust by snooping and should apologise to him immediately and refrain from doing it again.... (read in full...)
I worry the age difference might be too much.
Q. So a couple months ago I met this guy at the gym and we see eachother there a lot and just say hi and eventually he added me on facebook. About 3 weeks ago, we had a conversation and exchanged numbers. Since then we've talked almost everynight on ...
A. 11 September 2011: The age difference is trivial and irrelevant. What matters is if you connect on various levels.
The answer is simple - go with your heart.... (read in full...)
Seems like I am the last virgin in my college. Have so many questions on virginity and sex. Can you help?
Q. Right well im 17 years old and im still a virgin, i feel like im the only one which in my college there is only a few. Ive had so many oppurtunities to have sex but something keeps stopping me. Im just so scared i dont like my body and i dont real...
A. 10 September 2011: Um - my head meant to type 43-year-old virgin but my fingers got it wrong!... (read in full...)
Seems like I am the last virgin in my college. Have so many questions on virginity and sex. Can you help?
Q. Right well im 17 years old and im still a virgin, i feel like im the only one which in my college there is only a few. Ive had so many oppurtunities to have sex but something keeps stopping me. Im just so scared i dont like my body and i dont real...
A. 10 September 2011: There are worse things than being a virgin, at whatever age - I've known a 23-year-old virgin who simply wasn't ready until that age; and neither are you.
Maybe the others are lying about their experiences - people do - or if not, why would you want... (read in full...)
Should I experiment with this girl?
Q. So i have liked this girl for ages! and we have had our times flirting now and again, she knows am bi and that I like her but she says she's flattered but she thinks she's straight. but we stopped talking for like two months, so last night I'am on ...
A. 9 September 2011: Just go for it, OP.
You said that YOU wanted to experiment too, so if you ARE being used, use the experience yourself. We all need to start somewhere and you are at the age where you will quickly recover if things don't go the way you want them to, ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity to a cucumber??
Q. I am a 19 yr old girl who has always prided myself on the idea of being a virgin when I got married. I got super horny tonight, though, and used a cucumber. I didnt notice until afterwards that I had bled. Does this mean I have lost my virginity? Or ...
A. 9 September 2011: I agree with others; you have NOT lost your virginity.
However, I would urge caution in inserting food or other non-sterile objects into yourself. That way lies infection.
Don't stop "playing", just get some toys from a sex shop - online, if you a... (read in full...)
B/f went to bathroom then couldn't come back and have sex
Q. I'm asking for some advice on something that I don't understand of a sexual nature. (I'm not very experienced) My boyfriend and I were in bed and then he said hang on he's got to urinate, when he comes back he gets going again and then lost the erec...
A. 9 September 2011: Brewer's droop!... (read in full...)
What does abstinence till marriage mean?
Q. i am a girl of 22 years old and im still a virgin but just started dating a guy few months ago and i think im ready to have sex, i believe in sex after marriage but the problem is i am not ready to get married and i'm affraid that maybe i am ...
A. 7 September 2011: It's not a sin; just be careful.... (read in full...)
Should I worry that my boyfriend wants to go to work related events without me?
Q. Hi all. My bf of two years is not keen on me going to work do's with him, this includes parties at people's houses. Halloween last year there was one at someone's house and although he didnt go, he made it clear that he did not want me to go. He ...
A. 4 September 2011: Trust your instincts: if you don't think he is cheating, he probably isn't. At my work, we often had events, parties, call them what you will, and when staff were canvassed for "with spouses or without", it came back almost 100% without! That's ju... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to help myself achieve an orgasm?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 years old and have been sexually active with my boyfriend for a few months now. My problem is that I am never able to orgasm! I have orgasmed through the use of a vibrator, but I have never been able to orgasm through masturba...
A. 30 August 2011: Your problem isn't as rare as you might think. You need to relax and not try too hard and it will come - no pun intended!
Your vibrator stimulates your clit better than your fingers and that is the key to success: your clit. That's where it all happ... (read in full...)
Should I go for sex with my virgin girlfriend if I am not able to marry her?
Q. Hello ! Me and my Girlfriend is going to meet on this 18th July 2011.. I am planing to have sex and give her a little bit hint about it.. She was excited and expecting me for a great make out..But The problem is She is virgin and I am really feeling ...
A. 16 July 2011: Unless you get her pregnant, how would anyone know that she is no longer a virgin?... (read in full...)
How can I stop from reaching my climax too early and prolong the experience for both of us?
Q. Im only young and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, weve been having sex for just less than that too. we have a great sex life, and both seem to enjoy it. I know that premature ejaculation is a common problem in males but for ...
A. 16 July 2011: Unusual to be that way round! However, the answer is the same as if the genders were reversed - work on HIM first. Bring him near, let him arouse you, then go for it!... (read in full...)
I bought a new motorcycle and my best friend was really hurtful about it!
Q. My best friend's comment has me baffled. I emailed my best friend and told her I bought a new motorcycle. Her response to me was: "OMG!!! I am shocked that you bought a bike. DO YOU WANT TO BE KILLED???? ARE YOU NUTS????? YES!!!!! HELMETS...
A. 16 July 2011: As others have said, she is concerned for your safety, as a best friend should be. I LOVE motorbikes, but haven't ridden one for years - but I plan to again. Before I do, I'm going to get professional training to renew my riding skills, and I strong... (read in full...)
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