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writes: Please help me, i split with my girlfriend a couple of weeks ago as she seemed to have gone off the relationship but wouldnt talk to me at all, ignoring my calls n not answering the door, i tried everything. A few days ago she tried to kiss me but i pulled away because i didnt know what she wanted, but now she's telling me she loves me and wants me back. But i dont know if i can trust her and i dont know if she really does or just wants to keep me hanging on to make her feel better. She knows id do anything for her and she can play me like she does but if i give her the ultimatum im worried shel just chuck it all in, if anyone can help please reply Reply to this Question
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Give her up she is playing you. She really wants a single life but she also wants someone that when she clicks her fingers they will come running. She knows that she can pick you up and drop you whenever she feels like it and that is really unfair. Tell her you are not playing her games anymore. Tell her you think you should not see eachother for a while so you can both have a think about what you want. If you both feel like you still want to be together in a few months time then go for it. I think you both need some space though to work out what you bith want or there will end up being no future for the pair of you at all. It will be hard but hopefully it will make her realise single life isn't that great and she really does love you. If she decides she wants to be single then wish her luck. Don't go and meet another girl staight away though because this could be a rebound just enjoy your freedom for a while and get to know yourself a bit better. Good luck
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i think that if you have strong felings for her and you think that the relationship could last, then yes. but if you do have strong feelings for but not as strong as you did then no. you know her more than anyone. good luck i hoped this has helped. xx
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reader, b3x +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I can tell your not sure about this girl, If you get with he these doubts will be with you all the time!
Maybe go out for a while, date and get the feeling you both had back. Don't just rush back into a relationship, it won't do you both any good!
You say you don't trust her, why's this? What doubts has she given you? You need to think about this as I think trust is a very important thing in a relationship.
Also she knows she can walk over you, if she wants you back she knows she has a shot of it, I think she kissed you as the time you were apart she was trying to make out that the break up didn't bother her i.e not answering your calls etc. But its finally hit her that she does still have feelings for you, thats why she got in contact with you and kissed you outta the blue. Girls do these things, I know I did!
What worried me however is she see's you as a walk over so rather than saying 'yes yes lets get back together' Take a step back and say 'we'll date for a bit' If she asks why, just say you want to rebuild things rather than going back into something which you are unsure about, She'll see this as 'oh he won't jump when I want him too'
And like you said if she throws it all into the bag and doesn't want to do anything you do, then she never really liked you, If she wants to get back with you, she'll agree on doing it your way. If she doesn't its her loss honey not yours, as you sound like a decent loving guy!
Don't let her play you though fella, Your not a walk over! xx
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reader, MadameRazz +, writes (25 August 2006):
 All you have to ask your self is do you love her?
If you do its worth another shot, even if it doesnt work out.
Maybe she was just confused, maybe she is a weirdo! But if you love her, its worth finding out!
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