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writes: Hi All,This is a quick question...Can anyone give me their view on what constitutes the ideal relationship partner?Is mutual love, respect and commitment/loyalty enough??Thanks tons,Miss Doubtful x Reply to this Question
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reader, danno75420 +, writes (24 August 2006):
No such thing as an IDEAL relationship . I suppose if the good out weighs the bad, and at the end of the day you can say, yeah, I'm happy...
Sure there's the basic factors like sexual attratcion, emotional support, reliability, trust, intelectual compatibility...
But there's always something that can make you question whether your partner is the best match for you. But in the end you need to establish what will honestly make YOU happy.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Hi babes, well my ideal relationship must constitutes these factors:
Trust, loyalty, honesty, faithfulness, passion, friendship, respect, love ........ the list can possible go on, but to me the key ingredients for a ideal relationship are trust, love and respect. If my guy loves me, we trust each other and he shows respect for me, I have a wonderful partner, but my dear its not as concrete as that, eevery relationship is different and everyone has different expectations. Of course I do go for physical looks, but to me, the ideal man maynot be as gorgeous as some, but he is still my "ideal" because he has all the qualities I go for. Hope that helps. xXx
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I think the ideal relationship is when your not with your partner but all you can do is think about them and wish you were with them. Also everything that you described too. You need to be able to talk in relationships. If you can't talk to your partner who can you talk too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): Hi All - This is the original poster of the question...Thanks to all the replies. The reason for my confusion is that I am dating someone who ticks all of these boxes - love, trust, reliability - he is great!!But I still question the practicalities of setting up home with him...What bothers me is that we are so different in the sense that I am very socially outgoing whilst he appears quite shy when with other people (extremely quiet - but then English isn't his first language, whilst it is mine), plus whilst I have a good social life of my own, he doesn;t!!Not only that - we are also different in terms of the levels where we are in our lives - whilst we are the same age, I am a home owner, and established in a well-paying career, he is still struggling to finance himself sufficiently (although he does have potential to develop).I know he wants to set up home with me and marry me, have kids etc, but it's these niggling doubts that keep questioning whether we really are right for each other.Can any of you provide any more advice/opinions??Am I just being too fussy, and should I accept that this is as good as I can get? He is far better (in terms of moral values) than any other man I know.Thanks again,Miss Doubtful XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): Oh...and patience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): You must respect one another, trust in one another, listen to one another, put the other's intrest first ( it works rather well and is very effective if both parties can remember to live this), consideration, honesty, forgiveness, share responsibilities, be responsible, be accountable, strive and work together, grow together, lean on one another, be a friend to one another, LOVE.
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 For me, its everything u have just described. love, respect, commitment, loyalty....but most important is trust. you need to be able to trust what your boyfriend says (once u know him better and can actually trust that he will be loyal to you), and allow him to trust u. me and my girlfriend love each opther very very much, and we have a great relationship by trusting each other. the worst thing in a relationship that can happen are the dramatic fights, and with trust and commitment and love, we avoid all of that. at worst, we discuss the things that bother us, which isnt bad at all
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