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writes: Okay so ive been with my gf for about a month and a half now, I'm 15 and she's 14. Everything has been great and then yesterday she told me she felt like we were a married couple, as you can imagine this took me by surprise. I was glad to hear it, as it could mean she feels secure or things like that with me, then again it could imply she is getting bored. She said it in a nice way but still i think I mite need to do something a bit special or new to liven it up. We are going to a themepark soon which should be good, but i think i need something to do or just something to liven it up again.. i dont mean in a sexual way cause all of that is fine and we've already discussed to take very things slowly because of our age. I just need some tips on something to do.. help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): i would just like to say that i met my boyfriend when i was 14. we have been together for 11 years now and i regret the day we ever met. because we have 2 children it is very hard to leave eachother! He was 17 and took advantage of me. Ive never had friends, lost alot of family and i fight each day just for my kids. So what im saying is,if your both young. Dont take advantage of her and let her and you have your own friends and social lifes too! and i gaurantee that she and you will be happy!!!
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 If she said it in a nice way she probably meant it. She probably enjoys being with youso much and can see herself being married to you. Dont worry a lot of young girls have fantasies like this. Why don't you write her a really nice letter complimenting her on all her good points and exactly how you feel about her. You can write all the things that you want to say to her but are to embarrased to say to her face. This will mean a lot to her as girls love receiving love letters. Also try and get a picture of the two of you framed and give it to her as a pressent. Good luck hunny.
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i wouldnt say that she was bored at all. i think that she just wants to spend more time with you. when you meet up together you should take her somewhere to suprise her so she feels specail everytime shes with you . i think that being together for a month and a half is great keep it up and she probably will never want to leave. good luck. xx
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reader, camille +, writes (25 August 2006):
 No offence to either of you but at 14 after a month and a half....I truly doubt it! Anyway, for what it's worth, where I come from, if someone says that, it means they're bored! (sorry!). It means that the relationship is monotonous and the feeling that perhaps nothing much happens. Do you tend to stay in together every time you see each other? Maybe it's just that she's heard someone say it and is using it thinking it means something else? It's early days so just hang out and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): I wouldn't take this comment as anything but her trying to sound grown up. Does she really know what it is like to be in a serious relationship, a marriage? Of course not. I think she is just trying to sound mature so I wouldn't worry too much.
It's always nice to do something special for your partner, surprise her with some flowers or leave her a note telling her how much you enjoy spending time with her, send her an e-card, take her somewhere she really enjoys - the beach, the cinema etc.
I wouldn't worry too much - and wouldn't read much into it. I think she was trying to sound mature and make your month and a half relationship sound serious - I'm sure she probably tells her friends this to show off - indicating that your relationship is grown up and serious.
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