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writes: Every time that I start talking to a boy, it seems as if they always seem to bring up sex, but they also talk about other important things as well. I was wondering should I take it into consideration that all these boys want to do is have sex with me even though they seem to be attracted to my personality as well? Reply to this Question
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 Hunny I myself have been used by men so many times before. I always fell for there sweet talk and always ended up in bed with them. Then I would not see them again. I always seemed to make the same mistake I just wanted someone special in my life and I was going the wrong way about it. Until one day I told myself the next bloke I start dating I am not going to sleep with him until I am ready. I did this and now have the perfect boyfriend that I live and share everything with. I think that you should avoid talking about sex if they bring it up when you first start dating, it is obvious what he is really wanting. Just ignore it and not see him again. One day your Mr Right will pop up least expected just like mine did. I didnt beleive that love would come my way and it did. Just like it will for you one day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): And if you're wondering why I don't think all boys are after sex - back in HS (circa age 16-17), I had a girl offer to give me head because somehow she fell in love with me. That turned me off because it showed me how little character she had, even at that age. I avoided her to say the least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): [thumbing my nose at Layla's general direction]
Ms. Anon, you should consider that some men may not solely be after sex, but having a conversation of sex may be complementary of how they are and what they seek. Eg: I speak about sex as if it's just a part of every day life. I will use tact depending on the person's traits - if they are conservative, etc.
Speaking about sex can sometimes give ppl the idea of the type of person the person receiving the words are. Eg: I am not attracted to close-minded, religious, taboo-seeking traditionalists, but I am attracted to liberal-minded, creative, sentimental and hybrid intellects. Open up the talk of sex allows me to bait and lure who is compatible mentally, physically, and spiritually/emotionally with me, and who's possibly only good as a friend/associate.
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reader, guardian87  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Jeeze, i am the only one who has a problem with what the others say. I AM A GUY AND NOT INTERESTED IN SEX!!! :P
But seriously, depending on how old they are and how attractive you are, maybe they just cant help to think that. :P
Just remember that boys will always be boys and more than likely will always have those kinds of thoughts about them. If they say theyre attracted by ur personality, then like them, but dont give in to their desires if they have them!
Best of luck to you
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reader, layla +, writes (24 August 2006):
 i think boys are only interested in sex but there are some that do like you for your personality all i can say is dont let them fall you. play hard to get and they wont give you up.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I think it is safe to say that a lot of boys are only interested in sex, especially when they are youngish. Some never even grow out of this! I know grown men who don't know how to have a relationship coz everything is always about sex!
But more fool them as far as I'm concerned. I'm sure you're a great girl and there are plenty of guys out there who are caring and loving and looking for a proper relationship with you which does not revolve around sex.
I'm just warning you, you must be careful. Lot's of girls kid themselves that men are interested in them for their personality etc, but often they are just mislead and it all ends in hurt. Don't allow guys to do this to you, always be on guard and be strong, you're worth more than that.
If you want to meet someone nice, just avoid any conversation about sex with them. Ok, flirt a bit but don't enter into aynthing deep. Then, they just think that's all that's on your mind too and that you're easy! Keep the conversation to stuff about you and him, get to know him and let him get to know your personality.
Hope this has helped, don't be a fool and keep on your guard. There are always people who will hurt you so don't allow it to happen. Good luck
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