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Why didn't he accept me on facebook? He acted like he liked me
Q. Hello, i recently filmed a movie for college with some people and someone brought along one of their friends to play my boyfriend in the scene. We had to take loads of shots of us kissing and stuff and it was all really good. He kept making excuses ...
A. 10 October 2012: Why don't you just ask him why he hasn't responded to your friend request?... (read in full...)
Why didn't he accept me on facebook? He acted like he liked me
Q. Hello, i recently filmed a movie for college with some people and someone brought along one of their friends to play my boyfriend in the scene. We had to take loads of shots of us kissing and stuff and it was all really good. He kept making excuses ...
A. 8 October 2012: These could be the possible reasons:
1) He's playing hard to get.
2) He isn't interested in you or thinks that you're moving too fast.
I tend to think it's the former. Whatever you do, don't give him any more attention at all. In fact, cancel ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sister and her husband about my new boyfriend? How can I get them to accept this relationship?
Q. I live with my sister and her husband and am dating a guy they know the most. This guy usually fixes their computer and we fell in love. We are planning to tell them because we are not free because my sister and her husband have a business so they ...
A. 8 October 2012: That's very good to hear! I wish you all the happiness in the world!... (read in full...)
Platonic friendship with Ex, is it even possible?
Q. Hi everyone. So i was wondering if anyone has been in or knows of someone who has been in my situation for some advice. My ex and i have 2 wonderful sons, we drifted apart after 9 years together, we were childhood sweethearts and were together fr...
A. 8 October 2012: Why did you break up with him many years ago? Do you love him even a bit, in the romantic sense?... (read in full...)
How can I repair our relationship after I cheated on him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months and i cheated on him. Our relationship has changed alot since this happened. What can i do to make our relationship work out and get it back to the way it use to be?...
A. 8 October 2012: You have to be as honest as possible about everything and show him that you are truly remorseful for what you did. Also, tell him how you feel and how you'd like to do anything that's needed to salvage the relationship. Ask him about how he feels ... (read in full...)
What advice can you give me? I hate having to keep this secret. But my General Manager said he was cool with partying with me if no one else from work found out
Q. Recently I got a promotion to catering assistant at my job. I made great friends with the girl whose position I would be taking so on her last night, I went to her going away party at a local sushi restaurant. Surprisingly, my general manager was ...
A. 7 October 2012: This sounds very fishy to me. I bet he was the only one present at your predecessor's farewell party because he was sleeping with her too, and maybe she left because of him. A man who takes his employee to bed on the first day of their meeting ... (read in full...)
My mom says he and I are flirting. So is this just friendly, on the part of my professor and how we behave together? Or is it more?
Q. Personally I think we are just being friendly, which is fine with me! He is married and like twice my age, so I'd never do anything with him I'm not stupid. Anyways I meet with him every once in a while and at first we were both awkward, but we a...
A. 7 October 2012: Do you want us to tell you that he's interested in you? Well, even if he is, nothing can come out of this as long as he's your teacher. If he's married, forget it. Just forget it. And if he's not, wait till you're no longer his student. Stay out... (read in full...)
Is physical pleasure the most important thing about sex and does sex turn men into horny, unthinking animals?
Q. I feel alienated from people because I don't believe in casual sex and favour intimacy over physical pleasure. I've been told that my views come from immaturity and that once I have sex everything will change and I will become nothing short of a sex ...
A. 4 October 2012: I love you!... (read in full...)
She masturbates in a less usual way, crossing her legs. Which is better? Her way or sex with a partner?
Q. Hey all I appreciate any advice. I have been with my gf for 10 months I'm 21. So this is why I'm posting: Basically she masturbates using the method of crossing her leg and squeezing. She never masturbates with fingers. When I ask what she prefe...
A. 2 October 2012: I do it that way. As everyone else said, they're two different things. But I prefer masturbation to sex. That's a personal preference. But that doesn't mean that she does too. It has nothing to do with masturbation technique.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sister and her husband about my new boyfriend? How can I get them to accept this relationship?
Q. I live with my sister and her husband and am dating a guy they know the most. This guy usually fixes their computer and we fell in love. We are planning to tell them because we are not free because my sister and her husband have a business so they ...
A. 1 October 2012: Are you financially dependent on your sister? Where are your parents?... (read in full...)
I feel so empty inside and I'm rarely happy anymore
Q. I know this isn't something to mention on here and may be silly asking advice on, but I don't want to talk to my friends about this. I don't want my family, friends or anyone I know what i'm going through or how I feel. I don't know how i've ac...
A. 1 October 2012: Sounds like Major Depressive Disorder to me. Please see a psychiatrist as soon as possible. This can be treated, if you are indeed suffering from clinical depression. You need to have it ruled out.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have sex with my cousin's husband's younger brother?
Q. I had sex with my cousins husband's younger brother. We are the same age(19) but now he says he wants to do it again. I'm kind of nervous about having sex again, yes we did it once but the fact that he is family now is getting to me. Is it wrong...
A. 1 October 2012: If you're not blood related, I don't see any problem. But do it only if YOU want to...and not because he is putting pressure on you.... (read in full...)
After I posed nude for her, how can I be comfortable around my friend?
Q. Ok this is really embarrassing, but a female friend of mine is this really awesome sketch artist. It's a little hobby of hers, but she's studying to be an interior designer. After sketching my face a couple of times, she asked me if she could draw ...
A. 27 September 2012: Aha! The male Kate Winslet! ;-)
Okay, I know this can be really embarrassing. You have to speak to her seriously about it and tell her that her jokes and references to that incident make you uncomfortable and could potentially affect your fri... (read in full...)
My married lover has moved on to another girl and I am so hurt, what should I do now?
Q. I have been cheated by my married Lover, he has moved on to a "new girl"(another victim).he has completely removed me from his life,We both are in the same office, spend 8 hrs together, sitting besides each other, but we dont speak at all. he cut ...
A. 27 September 2012: Let his wife know about his philandering ways so that she can decide whether she wants to remain married to this jerk...and you get your retribution. ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend changed his relationship status from 'in a relationship' to 'single'. Is he cheating?
Q. I'm in long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He is Australian and I'm Indian. We both are sixteen years old. We met on facebook 2 months ago and he asked me for relationship after 1 month. I love him alot. Everything was going perfect ...
A. 25 September 2012: Is he the same guy who asked you to send naked pictures of yourself? If yes, this could be a form of exerting pressure on you to comply with his wishes. The other agony aunts told you yesterday that he isn't the right guy for you. But if you wish to ... (read in full...)
Could he have acquired something that looks like a love bite from a fight?
Q. My boyfriend was in a fight and got beat up bad but he has what looks like a love bite on his neck would this be cause from the fight ?...
A. 23 September 2012: Difficult to say without seeing it but the neck is an unlikely spot for a bruise from a fight. ... (read in full...)
How do couples handle arguments, fights and disagreements?
Q. I am curious to know how couples handle it when they have an argument, fight, disagreement etc. Do you just go off seperately into another room to calm down afterwards? I ask because my bf and i had a argument. It was about something small ...
A. 23 September 2012: I think it's a major red flag. Such a reaction to a fight is immature, egoistic and unreasonable. You might want to be careful because he does seem to be a person who carries grudges for far too long. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to get involved with the son of my lover who passed away?
Q. my fiance of 3and 1/2 years took his own life in january of this year. thru hate emails, i came to find out that there were like 12 of us that he had proposed to. but that didn't stop me from loving him and mourning for him. he has 3 children, all ...
A. 21 September 2012: Don't rush into things. Meet him (not at your place), date him and only after you know what's what, give him the go-ahead. He might have intentions you're not aware of or he might just have an adolescent crush on you. It could also be only for sex. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man who is ready to leave his wife for me but I don't want to break up a family. What should I do?
Q. I am in love with a married man. I am 23 he is 29. He is willing to leave his wife for me. She lives in another country. I don't know what to do, because ever though we are deeply in love with each other, i don't want to break up a family. They ...
A. 20 September 2012: Tell him to divorce his wife immediately and show you the papers. If he was serious, he would have atleast initiated the process by now. And don't fall into his arms until he's divorced his wife and settled issues.... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 20 September 2012: People rarely realise the value of a good thing when they have it. It's only after it's destroyed or tarnished that they realise what they have lost. If either you or your wife go ahead and experiment, your relationship will never be the same again. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend enjoys a sexual act that causes me a lot of pain, I ask him not to but he threatens and does it anyway.
Q. I have a boyfriend who is really into a certain sexual act. I wont divulge too much because of the ages of some on this site. That being said, due to his size, this act is extremely painful and I don't like it. The problem is, he does like it, re...
A. 17 September 2012: If you think leaving a rapist is not an option, you're suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. Leaving a rapist is the only thing to do. And yes, preferably reporting him.... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to take responsibility for what he did?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago because he got violent and went for me repeatadly. now hes claiming that i attacked him....i was sober as a judge and remember everything, he was drunk and admits it though says if i fight like a man ...
A. 17 September 2012: I am astonished that you're even asking this question! Spare no thought for this abusive and manipulative man, and next time you see him, smash his balls in and even out the score. On a serious note, stay the hell away from this jerk. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him 4 times when we were first together, we are now in love and wanting to get married....should I come clean?
Q. Hello Everyone..I need urgent help regarding this question...I broke up with a guy after being in a relationship for six years..This changed my life.. i became very careless regarding love and lusted for every single guy i knew..I started dating a ...
A. 17 September 2012: If you tell him the truth, your conscience will be clear but you'll lose him forever. Finding love isn't easy, and it's painful to lose someone you love. It would ruin his happiness too. So if I were you, I'd forget about the past and not reveal ... (read in full...)
Help me overcome my fear of performing fellatio
Q. I have not given a blow job, I believe I have a fear of giving them. I need help getting over this fear so I can have a good sexual relationship. Please give me any tips or advice to get over this....
A. 11 September 2012: If you don't want to do it, don't do it. People do have satisfying sexual lives without fellatio. I do. ... (read in full...)
Answers needed to a lot of questions on Long Distance Relationships
Q. I want to limit my background info so that I don't bias the readers of this question. I am entering my first LDR. That's all you get for now! So here's my questions: *What's been the hardest thing to go through? *What were some of your tech...
A. 6 September 2012: I'm a bit of an LDR specialist (wink, wink) because I met my current partner through Facebook and we live in different continents but are extremely happy together (touchwood)! Let me answer your questions in chronological order: 1) The heardest... (read in full...)
Guy at a bar leant in for a kiss and got my lips before I could turn away, do I tell my boyfriend about this?
Q. Hi everybody, just a quick question! I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love him so much, I went away for a night out with my girls Saturday night and a few men were chatting me up I think I must of said "sorry, I've got a bo...
A. 5 September 2012: If I were you, I wouldn't mention it now, after all this time, because it would make you look guilty though you've done nothing wrong. If you'd told him immediately, it would have been different. Anyway it's a very small issue, you didn't kiss ... (read in full...)
How can we break the habit of having sex so much?
Q. Okay, so I've been with this guy for a 1.5 years, and we lost our virginities to each other about 4 months into our relationship. We're both Christians, and have often said we need to stop having sex - it can be up to 3 times in one day, and eve...
A. 27 August 2012: Why do you want to stop having sex in the first place?... (read in full...)
I want to ask a girl out that I've never even spoken to before, how do I approach this?
Q. So, at the moment I am researching in a chemical engineering lab at my university over the summer with one of the professors. Going great. Last week or so a girl was working in the lab space close to me on a different project. I reckon she is st...
A. 27 August 2012: Just say hello and try to begin conversation. Don't make your romantic interest evident from the very beginning. Give it time, become friends and then see where it leads...... (read in full...)
Is there legal help for this situation?
Q. hello, this is ritesh , i am 27 years old , and my girlfriend is 22 yars old , we are in relationship between 4 years , but now my girlfriend parents not accepting me , they are forcing her to marry to some other. they have locked her in he...
A. 17 August 2012: Since she's an adult, what her parents are doing amounts to illegal confinement under the Indian Penal Code. You could try calling a lawyer or even reporting it to the police. However, the police being what they are might be sympathetic to her ... (read in full...)
What is the legal age a girl can marry in India? Do you think we could marry without parental consent and settle in another country?
Q. Hiiiiiii dear cupid...i m 18 yrs old indian girl and want to marry a 23 yrs old pakistani guy after 2 yrs.. we both met in a marriage function. we will settle in a third country after marriage..ok so i just want to ask this what is the age I can ma...
A. 1 August 2012: 18 is the legal age of consent for women and 21 for men. There is no need for parents' approval. Just get married at a registrar's office. ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped by my circumstances - Do I stay in a country where I am unhappy, or do I leave without my child?
Q. Dear All, I feel trapped in a complicated situation - I feel as though I am only living half a life. I am a black-British woman (50yrs old) living and working in Austria for 10 yrs. My then husband (white-British), son and I moved...
A. 22 July 2012: I don't think you can be a great mom if you feel unhappy all of the time because you're living in a country where you don't belong, where you're reminded that you don't belong and which makes you lonely and sad. I think you should move back, if you ... (read in full...)
Is 11 inch height difference too much? People keep telling me she is too short for me.
Q. Hello, My height is 6'1½" inches, she is around 5'3" we have nearly 11 inch height difference. We have been together for half a year I have never thought of height difference as a problem. I'm OK with it. I love her and we are planning our futu...
A. 22 July 2012: If you love her and she loves you, I see no reason why you should even think about something as silly as a height difference. Ignore shallow people who suggest otherwise. It's your life and your happiness at stake. ... (read in full...)
I got dumped for going to a strip club!
Q. Ok I have a girl friend and she broke up with me because I went to a strip club with my friends on a company trip is she over reacting we been dating for 9 months...
A. 22 July 2012: I don't think she overreacted at all. There could be two reasons why she dumped you. She doesn't appreciate men who help in the perpetuation of female exploitation and objectification. She considers what you did to be cheating. Either way what she ... (read in full...)
My LDR ex and I are reconnecting. He wants me to visit, should I ask him to buy the ticket?
Q. Long story short. My long distance ex who is four years older than me has decided to pursue his masters degree at my university. He emailed me with the news and we began chatting via smartphone texting app. He made many hints that he still has ...
A. 19 July 2012: It's not a good idea to go...and asking him to pay for your ticket is also out of the question. I suggest you wait it out, though the chances of the two of you making it turn around this time are thin. ... (read in full...)
Does this woman want to make love with me?
Q. hello friends,Does this woman wants to make love with me?I am 42 years old,my brother's wife, 52-year-old.touched the woman's breast from behind twice in elbow.In the second gave me to touch my elbow stroked her breasts.she did not give me any ...
A. 18 July 2012: What you're actually doing is molesting and for all you know, the only reason she hasn't slapped you hard in the face is because you are her husband's brother. Leave her alone, okay? Find someone who wants you...and molesting someone is not the best ... (read in full...)
What are your views on strippers?
Q. Whats your view on strippers?? My boyfriend is going to be at a stag on saturday night and there is going to be 2 strippers. By that I mean one at around 8pm and then another at like 10pm. I hate this. Im insecure for starters as Im over...
A. 18 July 2012: It means your boyfriend has no qualms about exploiting women for sexual satisfaction/entertainment. I would never date a man who'd pay to see a woman naked. Just my opinion, but then, I suppose it's old-fashioned to be concerned about the ... (read in full...)
I found photos of female co-workers butts on my boyfriends phone. He says I'm crazy but could he be screwing around?
Q. So my fiancé and I got engaged in June this year. We had a baby together late last year. We have trust issues. Him because o his very serious ex relationship, and me because he is naturally a flirt and used to be a player before his ex. He used to ...
A. 17 July 2012: He doesn't know how those pictures got into his mobile? Do you really believe that? He belongs in Dumpville, in my opinion. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend Jake or the new guy Brad?
Q. I don't even know where to begin with this one. It's gonna be a LONG read, sorry guys. I guess I'll just jump right in.. So I have been with my boyfriend (Let's call him 'Jake') for a year and a half. I'm turning 23 and he's turning 24. We h...
A. 17 July 2012: I know that answers to these questions have to be in whole, complete sentences and not single words...yet the only suggestion that comes to my mind is "NEITHER". Neither Jake nor Brad. I think Jake's a decent guy who deserves to be with someone who ... (read in full...)
If this online guy has lied about simple stuff like this, I don't know what more he could lie about!
Q. I'm a 18 year old girl. Im pretty mature, not kiddish at all. I met a guy on a penpal site around 3 years ago and he introduced himself as just John (name obviously changed). He told me he was 24 then (should be 27 now) We eventually lost touch ...
A. 17 July 2012: I'm sure he knew that his real details were visible on Skype so when he added you, he knew he would be giving himself away. A lot of people lie pointlessly on the net about minor things...and he might have lied to you three years ago for no ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him we shouldnt have a 'break'?
Q. Okay, so I have been with this guy for six months, and I love him to absolute pieces. We haven't only been a couple, we have been best friends, and he has been like a brother to me and I have been like a sister to him. we have the most incredible ...
A. 10 July 2012: If anyone wants to take a 'break', it's usually a nicer way of saying that he/she is not into you anymore. Let him go, OP. It's time.
I'm sorry if I've hurt you, though. ... (read in full...)
Meeting my online boyfriend for the first time, he might be expecting to meet a THIN girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been talking online for about two years now. And don't worry he is a mutual friend of MANY of my friends and a lot of my friends think he's a nice guy. He has a lot going for him, and any girl would be lucky to have him. He ...
A. 8 July 2012: Send him full length photographs BEFORE you meet. Send them casually, like you could say you went somewhere and send many pictures within which you could slip in a few of your unmorphed, full-length photos. If he still wants to meet, he's probably ... (read in full...)
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