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My ability to call a spade a spade. And my genuine interest in other people. I'm an unapologetic feminist. Take it or leave it.
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Is it possible that someone like my ex can change?
Q. Hey, everyone :) This may be a bit long so please bear with me. I'v just come out of a three year relationship. We lived together the majority of those three years. Resons why we broke up: -he was extremely paranoid and jealous- constan...
A. 11 May 2012: I went through an identical situation. It was all the same except the physical abuse. I broke up with him, he begged me to come back saying he'd change, I took him back, he behaved for a while and went back to his previous conduct. I made him ... (read in full...)
I've given him three chances, now he's saying he'll stop! What should I do?
Q. i was dating a guy from the last 4 years. Around 6 months back i got to know that he was cheating on me and when i confronted him he said sorry and asked me to give one chance and i gave him another chance. And,after 2 months again i got to know ...
A. 10 May 2012: He doesn't deserve your love. He deserves nothing but contempt. Leave him and spare yourself a lifetime of agony and heartbreak. ... (read in full...)
Do her 'likes' on his statuses mean something more?
Q. there is a girl who has been frequently "liking" my boyfriend's status updates for several months now. i mean, i know for a fact they are not close friends, and she has been a bit excessive with her clicking. does this seem like behavior from so...
A. 10 May 2012: She clicks 'like' on his statuses because she likes what he writes or she's one of those compulsive Facebook 'likers' as I call them. I don't think there's anything more to it. But you could mention it to your boyfriend is it disturbs you. Do you ... (read in full...)
I don't want my mom to wear a bikini on holiday, its so embarassing!
Q. Having some trouble with my mom. What should I do? My mom, my younger brother and I will be going to Hawaii soon. I'm 15 years old. I'm all excited about going to Hawaii but I'm not happy with my mom buying a two piece bikini. She's in her early 40...
A. 10 May 2012: Her body, her clothes. None of your business, really!... (read in full...)
I need help deciding whether to end my 6 year relationship or not....
Q. Contemplating ending a 6 year relationship with a good man who loves me. Nobody's perfect and I have ongoing beefs with him but he is loyal and true and MAY be doing his best to make me happy-- I need your input to decide. We have very differ...
A. 10 May 2012: I suppose this is very cultural issue. My culture is almost the way the first anonymous female reader posted. Children stay with their parents even after they're grown up and it would be deemed outrageous to expect them to pay their parents for anyt... (read in full...)
Help me deal with my husband!
Q. Hi unts and uncles I have 3 questions. [Mod note: 2 questions were combined here] 1..my husbands likes oral sex the most. Every time we meet he pull it out and ask to rub and grab the ass..pull the ass and a hand job.he also likes to rub his testi...
A. 8 May 2012: He sounds like a textbook jerk to me. If I were you, I'd dump his sorry ass. He sounds like a selfish person who's not only cheated on you but is hammering down your self esteem. ... (read in full...)
No sex drive since the baby arrived -- should I tell him to get his needs met elsewhere?
Q. Ok so I had a little baby girl about 9 months ago. And since then Ive had about zero sex drive. I get horny occasionally but im just not in the mood. This has put a serious strain on my relationship with my fiance. I know he has liked our mutual ...
A. 8 May 2012: It could well be depression. It's more common than we expect, especially after giving birth. The baby belongs to the two of you and the after effects of giving birth, pleasant or otherwise, must also be shared. One partner just can't leave because ... (read in full...)
Is this normal, that I'm missing my parents so much? They're just on a 2 week trip!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm really bummed out and i feel ridiculously lonely. My parents have been planning a 2 week trip to Italy for the longest time and they've been so excited to go. Well they finally left this morning and the day is dragging on and ...
A. 8 May 2012: I am 28, I live with my parents and when they're away (like now), it's agony. I too have often wondered whether it's "normal" or not. Maybe half a century ago, it would have been the most natural thing on earth but with times changing and society ... (read in full...)
Which type of piercing would help me out?
Q. Hello! I am considering getting my clit pierced. I don't have orgasms very easily and at times need an industrial vibrator assaulting it to bring me close to a marginal release. I want the piercing to help improve stimulation and improve my sex ...
A. 4 May 2012: I don't think genital piercing is a good idea. You'd be prone to infections and get bruised down there. It would be majorly uncomfortable and could even damage your clitoris. I don't even think it would serve your purpose. ... (read in full...)
Would you learn a different language to be with someone?
Q. Here's the story. There's this girl that works with me. Before last week I never talked to her before. I would catch her looking at me from time to time. Always staring at me when she thought I wasn't looking. Most of the times I didn't know what to ...
A. 3 May 2012: If you're asking us this question, then you probably don't like her as much as you think you do. For people move mountains for love! And you're wondering whether you should learn a language?!! Of course you should!!!... (read in full...)
I'm living with my boyfriend's family and I'm attracted to his brother!
Q. Ummm ok I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and I've lived with him and his family for 4. We have a 3 year old daughter together. I know it's wrong but over the years I started to like his younger brother he is amazing !! I've always ...
A. 3 May 2012: Don't go down this path, lady. It will only bring suffering to all involved...to your boyfriend, his brother and your child. You could consider moving out with your boyfriend and your daughter to another place so that you don't have to see his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend squeezed a girl's breasts!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating my boyfriend since Febraury 14th :). It's been 77 days, but the thing is while spring break which was 3 weeks ago. People dared him to sqeeze a girls breats, and he did.. He always flirt in my school. Im a little t...
A. 2 May 2012: What he did amounts to molestation. If saying sorry is enough to excuse such an offence, if you want to stay with a molestor, please go right ahead. ... (read in full...)
Husband putting oral sex above everything else.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 6 years, our sex life has always been great, but lately I feel that I am nothing more than a mouth for him. He wants oral sex everyday, and though I dont mind it, it seems that he has no emotions about it, no ...
A. 2 May 2012: I agree with what Ciar said. Don't let anyone tell you it's your fault. You've only been too nice and caring. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT so don't blame yourself. Some agony uncles tend to habitually get into the victim-blaming mode but don't let them get ... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at other women?
Q. why do married men look at other women? I have a husband who does this and I'm so upset about it. I don't look at other men because I'm happily married with the man I'm with. He tells me I'm beautiful, sexy, bodacious, the whole nine yards, but ...
A. 1 May 2012: I don't think it's your fault or that you're over-reacting. There IS a difference between 'looking' or 'glancing' at someone of the opposite sex and 'ogling', 'staring', 'leching' etc. An appreciative glance is one thing but ogling at someone else's ... (read in full...)
Is Pornography cheating?
Q. The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
A. 1 May 2012: Brilliant article. And equally educated updates. ... (read in full...)
Guys, you know porn is fake, right?
Q. Okay, so this is another porn question. I know I know, this seems to be a rather popular topic But I am straight up just curious. Obviously a lot of men like porn and a lot of women as well. This is a question for men, both single and in a ...
A. 1 May 2012: I must applaud person12345 for her very well-researched and intelligent responses. ... (read in full...)
How can a person love another for so many years without changing or cheating or wanting something else?
Q. It is a long post, I hope you could be patient about me... any opinion would be appreciated!!! Recently I just got out of a horrible relationship of 3 years, I actually feel relieved and alive, although I feel unhappy for having to say goodbye t...
A. 1 May 2012: Very difficult question. And I think no one can identify with your problem more than I do because I too tend to quickly lose interest in a relationship once it becomes stable and peaceful, and look out for some sort of radical change, or the next ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be scared of having sex with a new guy?
Q. I have a question. Is it normal for me to be scared to have sex with a new guy? I've been having sex with 1 guy for 3 years and I had sex with him the most. He was the 2nd guy I ever had sex with. So I was wondering is it normal? I've met new guys...
A. 1 May 2012: Of course it is!! Every new relationship brings the same set of fears and anxiety that the first relationship must have brought. So don't worry about it, it's perfectly normal.... (read in full...)
Is he genuine or just trying to sleep with me again?
Q. hello i have a question regarding a man who is 48 yrs old and i am 25. So, we met on a dating website about 4 years ago. we spoke for hours everyday for two years - he works on a cruise ship and lives in another country - we both used to speak on...
A. 1 May 2012: "Is he genuine or just trying to sleep with me again?"
He is genuinely trying to sleep with you again.
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Am I being completely stupid and should get rid of him?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for one and a half years and at first it was perfect we were so happy, but then he started to change, he gets angry easily and yells alot. He has hit me twice, but that was a long time ago so i just seem to ...
A. 1 May 2012: Yes, you are being completely stupid because you continue to remain in a relationship with a man who has beaten you, who emotionally abuses you and is obviously a very horrible person. You are like millions of other women who stay in abusive ... (read in full...)
Husband putting oral sex above everything else.
Q. My husband and I have been married for 6 years, our sex life has always been great, but lately I feel that I am nothing more than a mouth for him. He wants oral sex everyday, and though I dont mind it, it seems that he has no emotions about it, no ...
A. 1 May 2012: I think your husband is a selfish, callous and abusive person who is pretending to be hurt so that he doesn't have to explain his sick conduct and can get away with it by making you feel guilty...and you know what? You're letting him succeed. You ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend squeezed a girl's breasts!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating my boyfriend since Febraury 14th :). It's been 77 days, but the thing is while spring break which was 3 weeks ago. People dared him to sqeeze a girls breats, and he did.. He always flirt in my school. Im a little t...
A. 1 May 2012: He sounds like a total creep to me. And what he did amounts to molestation and a total lack of respect for someone else's body. What are you thinking? Dump him!... (read in full...)
Can I change her bad ways by loving her?
Q. Right so i have known this girl and i've dated her on and off. i feel an intense attraction towards her. She's a gorgeous lass but Problem is, she has a terrible family background and as a result has led quite a wayward life. She hasn't been abl...
A. 30 April 2012: Give it a try since you love her. It's an uphill task and you might possibly fail...but I always tend to advise people to listen to their hearts, and be prepared for heartbreak. There's too much practicality in the world these days, with people ... (read in full...)
I need help coming out to my mother, any advice?
Q. i need help coming out to my mother. i dont have a father and my mother is everything to me. i have thought of one day getting angry at something and in my state of anger just come out because then i wouldnt need to think too much and i wont worry ...
A. 29 April 2012: Coming out with what? What do you want to come out with? You'll have to be less vague. Is it homosexuality? Do you want to come out of the closet?... (read in full...)
Am I being overly sensitive because he wants to go to a strip club with his friends?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 11 years, i'm 48 he's 50.... we have a good relationship now, but it's been up and down over the years. I work hard staying in shape, looking good and pleasing him sexually. The other night he brought up that he ...
A. 22 April 2012: If I were in your place, I'd be very sore about it. Actually, it would probably be a deal-breaker for me. But that's not the point. I think you should tell him that it makes you uncomfortable and you'd prefer it if he didn't go, just out of respect ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a born again Christian
Q. My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a " Born Again " Christian, I am Jewish and we both are not even remotely considering more children since we have already raised our chidren. Also relevant to this statement is my age at 6...
A. 20 April 2012: If she really loved you, these issues would have been inconsequential. ... (read in full...)
Cant perform during sex because I have been so used to masturbating for 20 years!
Q. Hi this is more of a sex question but Im hoping someone can help. I have been single for many years, and my only sexual outlet has been through masturbation. I have of course become quite used to getting myself off and can get hard quite quick...
A. 19 April 2012: Stop watching pornography. That will definitely help normalise your sexual reactions.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible?
Q. Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible? Some background info before the women on here start calling me a 'player' etc.... I'm 23 years old and was a virgin up until last year. For most of my life, women...
A. 19 April 2012: I agree completely with shawncaff. And very well written too!... (read in full...)
My wife says that I need to chose either her or my family!
Q. My wife and I have been married for 6 years. She has 3 children from a previous marriage. I love them dearly. My wife thinks that my family hasnt shown them love. I will say my mom has told the kids that she would do things with them and it has ...
A. 19 April 2012: OP. it's not fair to narrate your story in a totally one-sided manner. I didn't respond to your question earlier because in these marriage squabble issues, spouses like painting themselves innocent and the other person a total monster. Now that I've ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that my family smoke around me when I'm pregnant?!
Q. Dear cupid aunts im 22. and pregnant. And have moved back.in with my parents because the babys dad left and as i was living.with him in a rented house i now cant afford the rent on a single wage. I love my parents and am grateful for all.they ...
A. 19 April 2012: You pay rent to your parents to stay in their house? What's the world coming to?!
I honestly fail to understand all this harping around the fact that you're living in their house. Atleast in my culture, your parents' house is YOUR house too and ... (read in full...)
Why does my mother's voice irritate me so much?
Q. I love my mother. She's a wonderful person, and I'm glad she's around me, but only when she isn't talking. I hate my mother's voice, every time she opens her mouth and I hear her speak, I get this almost uncontrollable urge to hurt her. I've tried ...
A. 19 April 2012: I think you should see a psychiatrist. Your urge to want to hurt your mother when you hear her voice is highly unusual and even dangerous. You need medical attention. Please get it. ... (read in full...)
We had a big argument - some perspective is needed
Q. My boyfriend and I are having a dispute. It seems to have come down to who is "wrong" and who is "right." Here goes... I asked him if he wanted to spend time together last Sunday. I asked him about a week in advance. He agreed. A few days lat...
A. 19 April 2012: I tend to think that it's not your fault at all. He did not once give you a definite answer about whether he was going to the christening or not. Now he has no business to accuse you of not caring that he cancelled his plans because he didn't bother ... (read in full...)
Am I too short?
Q. I am only 163cm tall girl but my boy friend is 181cm tall.This is the only reason he always makes fun of me! Please tell me honestly if I am too short to be mocked! I really need to know am i too short? ...
A. 19 April 2012: You're not short. Your height is perfectly normal for Asian women.
I'm 5'3 and an Indian so that makes me one inch taller than an average Indian/Bangladeshi/Pakistani/Korean woman. My boyfriend is Caucasian and is 6 feet tall. He often jokes ab... (read in full...)
I've developed feelings for the guy I'm hooking up with
Q. Okay so this is kind of a long explanation so bare with me guys. Alright so about a month and a half ago I got out of a two year long relationship, basically the guy was really controlling and I was just getting fed up with it. Anyways, about tw...
A. 19 April 2012: This sort of thing is so common that it makes me want to write an article about FWB arrangements and casual hook-ups. Somehow people think that they are in total control of their emotions and that they can have emotionless sex and walk away. It ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible?
Q. Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible? Some background info before the women on here start calling me a 'player' etc.... I'm 23 years old and was a virgin up until last year. For most of my life, women...
A. 18 April 2012: Don't you think you have a serious case of double standards? See it this way. You want to just take a girl home and have sex with her while you don't want to do that with the sort of girls who are willing to do so. In other words, you want to be ... (read in full...)
She called of our wedding but claims to still love me, what should I do?
Q. My fiancé called off our wedding a couple of weeks ago (at the time it was about 1.5 months till the wedding). She said that she just had a gnawing feeling that would not go away, she was nervous to get married and not sure if she was ready. ...
A. 17 April 2012: Sounds like the 'Runaway Bride' syndrome to me! I know a lot of people like that...people who have been engaged to one another for ages, live with each other but develop cold feet while contemplating marriage though they are married for all ... (read in full...)
I hope I made the right decision by breaking up with my boyfriend for being controlling and abusive
Q. Hello everyone! Thank you so much for taking the time out for reading this and helping me through this difficult time in my life, I am 22 and am feeling pretty hopeless at the moment. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months because of...
A. 17 April 2012: You made the right decision. No one should have to put up with abusive conduct or unreasonable jealousy. You will definitely find someone who deserves your commitment. He was clearly not the one. Now don't let him persuade you otherwise and don't go ... (read in full...)
My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 17 April 2012: Make it clear to your husband that you will dress the way you want to, eat what you like and not remove your tattoos. Don't be apologetic about standing up for yourself. He can't attack your dignity and get away scot-free. Don't give in to his ... (read in full...)
Guys, you know porn is fake, right?
Q. Okay, so this is another porn question. I know I know, this seems to be a rather popular topic But I am straight up just curious. Obviously a lot of men like porn and a lot of women as well. This is a question for men, both single and in a ...
A. 17 April 2012: Agree entirely with the first female anonymous poster and person12345. I was only yesterday reading a book about Ted Bundy where he confessed, shortly before he was to be executed, that reading violent pornography was largely responsible for his ... (read in full...)
Do feelings get stronger the more you sleep with someone?
Q. So i've heard many times how women have to have emotion usually before they sleep with someone an men there emotions come after the sex. Is that true? The more you sleep with someone, feelings do end up getting stronger...
A. 17 April 2012: I can only speak for myself. I have a difficult time getting adequately aroused unless I have feelings for the man concerned. I can never orgasm from sex unless I'm in love with my partner. But that's just me and it doesn't apply to most people. If ... (read in full...)
Completely infatuated with a girl at work but I'm her superior at work, I'm married and she has a boyfriend!
Q. Need help interpreting things. Completely infatuated with a girl at work. I think mainly because I feel that I would occasionally get some vibes... Don't want to misinterpret anything. She's really cute, slightly shy. Plays with her...
A. 17 April 2012: So you're contemplating cheating on your wife? And you're here to ask us whether that's okay? Or to find help to interpret this girl's body language? Oh dear, dear! Do you have an iota of conscience? Do you have any feelings of loyalty towards your ... (read in full...)
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