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writes:Ok this is really embarrassing, but a female friend of mine is this really awesome sketch artist. It's a little hobby of hers, but she's studying to be an interior designer. After sketching my face a couple of times, she asked me if she could draw me nude.At first i told her no. plain and simple and she let it go. A few months after that, she asked me again. I asked why me and not someone else, she didn't tell me why just that she wanted to draw the whole thing. I thought it was very nerve-wracking to be sitting there buck-naked in front of a girl i've known for ten years. But because she's an old friend i finally agreed. The problem was that she only uses ink pen when she sketches, so she pays close attention to detail so as not to mess up and start over. For three hours (there were a few breaks) i lay down on a day bed thing and she sketched me. Toward the end...i got a full on boner. I tried to stop it, but it just wouldn't go down.Now when she sees me, i know she's trying not to make fun of me because of it, but sometimes she just can't help herself and bursts out laughing and teases me that i have an exhibitionism fetish which isn't true. She hasn't told anyone we know, thank god, but I can't get over the fact that she has seen something only girls i'm intimate with should see.Now I've started to avoid her a bit. I don't want to ruin and lose our friendship; she's one of my best friends.How do i get over that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2018): Don't worry about it. Don't let it knock your confidence as in agreeing to pose especially for a friend shows great confidence, trust and courage. Talk to your friend and tell her what you are feeling. Maybe she laughs and giggles out of flattery that you got a hard on. I've posed for a female friend too and after four hours I too got a boner. It happens in a lot of cases. My friend never mentioned it after our 1st session and I've posed for her again.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2012):
I think that this woman adores you. And I don't think you need to worry at all, because she's not out to hurt you at all - even if she does burst out laughing when she thinks about what happened! But, at the end of the day, she'll have seen naked men before, so it's not like this is new to her or anything. She hasn't said anything, and I don't think she ever will. How do you get over this? By accepting that what happened, happened, and that this has been happening to men since the dawn of time. There's no reason that you need to feel this way, because I'll guarantee that she's not out to hurt you, and I'm sure if she really knew you felt this way, she'd feel bad about it.
What happened, happened. Stop worrying about it.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (27 September 2012):
 Aha! The male Kate Winslet! ;-)
Okay, I know this can be really embarrassing. You have to speak to her seriously about it and tell her that her jokes and references to that incident make you uncomfortable and could potentially affect your friendship with her. Ask her to refrain from mentioning the incident so as to save you from further embarrassment and so that you two can remain on friendly terms.
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (27 September 2012):
 Have you talked to her properly about the drawing situation and explained how embarrassed you're feeling and uneasy about it all?
If she's your friend especially after ten years then she should totally understand if not she's not a very good friend.
You need to let her know it's hurting your confidence in yourself as you seem extremely paranoid about it now. When she sees that she should back off.
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