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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): No is the short answer.
One night stand means just that the two of you enjoy sex then go your seperate ways. You should have looked for a better choice if you wanted a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): Seems things like that only happen in Sex And The City..
Of course it's not impossible, but it's unlikely. I mean it's hardly a good way to start a long term relationship. And people who have one night stands aren't normally the people who are looking for relationships. It really depends on the person and the situation. Possibly a FWB relationship, but I very much doubt they'll end up marriage material anyway.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 January 2011):
Odds WAY against it.
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reader, Godchild +, writes (5 January 2011):
I have heard that some relationships start from a one night stand. Some of them even get married. I think it depends on the maturity of the two involved.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Ok, my last boyfriend wasn't technically a one night stand as such. Basically when i was 17/18 i snogged him at a friends house (he was 14 at the time) and we never really saw or spoke to each other after that. 4 years later, i bump into an old friend in a club, who was out with his friends, one of them being my last boyfriend.
We clicked instantly and got together shortly afterwards. I'm not sure if my story is correct to what you are looking for, but i thought i would share anyway!
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reader, doublejack +, writes (5 January 2011):
I agree with eyeswideopen. A one night stand can turn into an ongoing casual or FWB relationship, but it is unlikely to turn into anything enduring and serious. It is not a good way to start a "real" relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): Was this random or was this after a date you had? it may be possible if hes been after you for awhile and you knew him before and he knows you dont sleep with everyone you meet. if you didn't make him use protection thats even worse of a chance b/c it shows you dont think much of yourself and double negatives if you weren't sober
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): I'm sure you can find people in the world who are the exception to the rule but the norm is no. People win the lottery too.
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reader, 1hornylez +, writes (5 January 2011):
This question is hard to answer. There are several factors to be taken into consideration. Truth is both parties have to be interested in pursuing a relationship. Sex on the first night is definitely not a deal breaker though. I like to think of it as "try before you buy". My current relationship started out as a one night stand, but we decided to pursue one another. Depending on the individual's level of maturity, they may assume that you have sex with everyone you meet on the first night. That's one of the drawbacks. Other than that the only way to find out whether or not you can take it one step further is to ask that person. All they can say is no, and if you're comfortable enough to become intimate with someone you should definitely be able to have a mature adult conversation about what comes next. Good luck to you!
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reader, Illithid +, writes (5 January 2011):
 I'm sure it's theoretically possible, but the old saying, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" still holds pretty true. Either he just wanted sex, and you gave it to him without him working for it, or he wants a longterm committed relationship, and you showed that you're alright just sleeping casually. It'd be quite an uphill battle to change it now.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 January 2011):
 I know of FWB relationships that have stemmed from one night stands but I don't know of any marriages that have. You have mostly blown a chance of a long term committed relationship with the guy but you may be in the running for a sex only type of relationship.
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