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Planning a wedding and I'm not even engaged - have I gone crazy??
Q. Am i crazy? im 16 and do have a boyfriend of almost a year and a half. this may sound crazy but we have spoken about SOMEDAY getting married, when we're about 22, 23. on saturday i went to a wedding and since then [today is tuesday] i have l...
A. 17 February 2009: omg haha i've recently been doing the same! Thinking about my dress and a nice horse and cart and church and stuff! Naa it's just normal stuff, as long as you don't start making proper plans then its fine!... (read in full...)
I'm so upset my 16 year old daughter lost her virginity
Q. Im a mother with strong beliefs .right know i can't think straight just found out that my sixteen year old (girl)lost her virginity and im so hurt im purely old school hey you want that you got to pay the responsibility. my husband wants to beat the ...
A. 1 January 2009: the laws 16 for a reason (in England) it may be different in America i don't know but i lost my virginity at 15. People are losing it younger and younger and you can't stop that. You may think she's only a little girl but she's got to learn from her ... (read in full...)
Why do people moan during sex?
Q. Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it?...
A. 8 December 2008: personally, i think it makes it better
and you can't really help doing it sometimes
Answer to anonymous- Erm well it makes me feel more connected with them... (read in full...)
I love my fiancee, but found I still have feelings for my ex once we saw each other again
Q. I need advice... I am currently engaged, and Yes, I do love my fiance very much. me and my fiance has been together for 4 years now and engaged 1 year. The thing is about a year ago i got in contact again with my ex whom I really loved a lot. I ...
A. 8 December 2008: Why ruin two families for something you once had
You broke up for a reason right?
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She wants to meet up, but I am worried she is too young?
Q. Ive recently started chatting to a really nice girl online and on webcam and we only live a hour away from eachother and she wants to meet up tonight She's a awesome girl but is she TOO young in your opinion? Im 23 and she is 16...
A. 8 December 2008: Ermmm to me no
Im 16 and have been with someone who was 23 and at the moment im in a relationship with someone who is 21
She's 16 so legally you can date her and the government or her parents can't stop her so as it's legal then yes, why not star... (read in full...)
Is this too big of an age gap?
Q. Hi everybody, I met a guy who is older than me and we and thinking about getting into a relationship. I am 20 and he is 26. Is this age gap ok or is it too wide? Thanks for all your help. :)...
A. 8 December 2008: To me age isn't a problem
I'm 16 and am currently in a relationship with someone who is 21
As long as it doesn't bother you then it shouldn't bother anyone else
:D... (read in full...)
Getting over someone who does not love you back.
Q. hey guys i was wondering if u could give me any tips on dealing with or getting over loving someone who u know doesnt love u back, im finding it so hard...
A. 19 October 2008: Personally, I don't find that going out and having fun is a good way to forget someone because at the end of the day when you're doing nothing that person will always creep back into your head. Slowly though the person will dissapear into your ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of having sex for the first time
Q. hi there im in 17 and i always hear about sex nad espashily for the first time and how its painfull and some screemed on that day. in fact after that i became very afraid about it coz i didnt went through this yet and i have a boyfriend everytim...
A. 29 September 2008: Right
personally i wouldn't plan it because then you wont be worried too much but then again you sort of do need to plan it as you MUST use contraception.
I personally thought it did hurt a bit but not as much as i thought and i did bleed a little... (read in full...)
How important are your school friends / your popularity at school?
Q. I am 15 at the moment. How important are your school friends/ your popularity at school? I have lots of friends at school and am sort of friends with everyone, yet I don't seem to really fit in anywhere? I am never inivited to particular gro...
A. 30 August 2008: I fitted in with everyone at my school too but i also had a large group of friends who i stayed with most of the time and then when school finished i missed them at first but then i just moved on and now i just keep in contact with a small amount of ... (read in full...)
Do jerks ever change and become nice guys to the women they are with?
Q. Do jerks ever change and become nice guys to the women they are with? Even if you walked out and leave them for their behavior. Do they wake up one day and realize she was the best thing that happenend to him, and he vows to change and be a ...
A. 24 August 2008: From my experience......no
but i'm not saying that about everyone but then again i don't know any desent guys that have treated their girlfriend right without cheating or anything
I was with someone for about 4months and even though i knew he was s... (read in full...)
I'm shy...should I invite her to do something together?
Q. I'm 14 and I have a crush on a girl with the same age. I met this girl in the ending of July and I talked with her for three days (long enough to develop my crush). In August, she went on vacation to a far place, but we kept talking by ...
A. 24 August 2008: I think that you should go for it and everyone makes mistakes the first time they do new things so don't worry about it. Do something basic like go to the cinema because then as seen as you're shy you wont have to speak to her during the film but ... (read in full...)
Will I be judged for being scared to sleep with the guy?
Q. the furtherest i have gone with a guy is sexual contact... will i be judged for being scared to sleep with the guy... will i be judged if i get pregnant... will i be judged if i go on the pill...? the frightening thing is if the condom sp...
A. 19 August 2008: You shouldn't care what people think of you, they should have respect for you for going on the pill or buying condoms so they shouldn't judge you because you're doing the right thing.
The condom is something like 99% effective so it shouldn't spli... (read in full...)
Poll: how long after initialising the break up, does a man make contact again?
Q. Just a simple question for statistical purposes to compare with the real life events around me: If a man initiated a break up, how long did it take for him to make contact again, if ever, to apologize, do the friends speech, get back together, e...
A. 19 August 2008: A day at the most... (read in full...)
My girlfriend kissed two girls while drunk, how should I handle this?
Q. ok so my girlfriend went to a party got drunk and kissed two other girls, i dont know what to do about it, i just want to know what would you do if it was you in this situation ? please help me :(...
A. 19 August 2008: As they are girls and as long as it was a bit of fun then you shouldn't be too worried
She was probable just experimenting but i would talk to her about it and if you really don't like it then tell her not to do it again because you class it as chea... (read in full...)
Are my brother's friends really his friends...?
Q. well i have a older bother and we were having a conversation or argument about who his freinds are i told them the meaning of having freinds well he said he has freinds who are his freinds but he does not know where they live there number and he ...
A. 19 August 2008: I count real friends as people who you know will always be there even if you haven't spoke to them for years
=]... (read in full...)
Jealousy: I feel ugly in public!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating a year and a month now and i am the most jealous girl ever so jealous that when ever we go places we both look down im mean he is jealous to but not as bad as me he...but wut i LOVE about him is that he wont look ...
A. 16 August 2008: why would you feel ugly with him but without him you feel pretty?
It's ok for him to look but not touch and he obviously loves you because he kows how you feel about it.
Looking at other people is just what everyone does so don't worry about it... (read in full...)
Should I lie about my age to this older woman?
Q. i met this AMAZING girl about a week ago but theres a little problem,actually it's pretty big see i found out she was 20 and i know that somewhere along the line she's gonna ask my age im only 13(i know it's bad but i mean im very tall and i got a...
A. 16 August 2008: You should always be honest because if you lie then you can guarantee that your real age will ALWAYS come out and it will make her think that she can't trust you.
But then again if you told her your real age then i'm sorry to say that she prob... (read in full...)
What do women find attractive in a man???
Q. What do women find atractive in a man? I want your opinion, thanks to those of you who answer, its well appreciated....
A. 16 August 2008: I don't actualy know what it is but i find some men more attractive than others but don't know why
I like a boiz smile and i love boiz with bright blue eyes :)
Also, i like brown hair, not too long and not too short but the MUST is that they HA... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on why teenagers want to have sex before 18 years of age?
Q. Okay okay, I've been reading a lot of the questions lately and i keep wondering why teengers under the age of 18 want to have sex soo badly? Hey im 13 has a 14yo bf that wants to have sex he understands the wait.....but still, WHY HAVE SEX BEFORE 18 ...
A. 14 August 2008: Here the legal age is 16 and our government is always moaning about teenage pregnancy but then i think 'if he's that disgusted by it then why doesn't he put up the legal age?'
I guess we just want to know what it's like (my opinion is that its rubb... (read in full...)
My turkish fella didn't have a visa and he's been sent back to Turkey. I don't know what to do.
Q. i met my turkish fella back in january this year. in july i found out that he didnt have a visa to be here and now he has been sent back to turkey. i love him so much and miss him. the only problem is that i have been told the only way he can come ...
A. 14 August 2008: I know it seems unfair but i guess Britain is over croward by different nationalities already!
Yeah by experience i know that Turkish men just lure on English girls because they want to come to England for a better life and think English girls are ... (read in full...)
I am depressed. I fool aroung with a married man, I only talk to my ex, they both treat me like crap, I am an a treadmill, going nowhere in life, how do I change all of this?
Q. I dont even know where to start. I have become a needy person. i think everything started with my ex. i was with him 4 1/2 years and for what he cheated, lied and everything else, i met a guy that was an ass after i broke up with him got pregnant ...
A. 14 August 2008: I went through something like this but i was 16, i lost a baby and my boyfriend all at once so i understand what you're going through because i was depressed too and couldn't stop crying
It seems like you need to be with someone constantly to feel... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my boss
Q. I fancy my boss like crazy and i WANT to sleep with him, even though hes married and got kids? how do i get him 2 want me too? how shall i act? dress? make up? perfume? hair? ...
A. 14 August 2008: This is wrong
He has a family, do you really want to ruin it and break their kids hearts?
Do you think you're boss would sleep with you?
Imagine the embarressment if he said no because he loves his family and then you found working with him emb... (read in full...)
What do guys expect it to look like 'down there'?
Q. my boyfriend is thinking of fingering me for the first time. and i was just wondering, what do they expect it to `look like` down there? ...like will it be abnormal if my pubic hair is shaven etc? please help. xxx...
A. 14 August 2008: Most people shave their pubic hair off so you're no different
I don't think he'll expect it to look like anything as he's never seen it before but don't worry all 'areas' are different but they're all completely normal
If you're worried about th... (read in full...)
What can I do to reduce the brightness of the colour my mother dyed my hair?!!
Q. I know this may not be a relevant question to this website, but i don't know where else to turn to! I allowed my mother to dye my hair a mohogany colour, previously to what i'd had a few months back, however this was a different brand and it's t...
A. 13 August 2008: Im a hairdresser
As its a wash in was out one then it should all be out within a few washes but yes, after the first wash it will fade and could go a pinky colour but id propose that you wash your hair twice a day until it's out if you really hate... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I'm concerned about giving it a good life. I'm thinking maybe we should live off state benefits. Am I being naive?
Q. Hello, I am 22, and happily married. Been married for a year, We both work full time, rent a lovely house and love each other very much. My problem is that at the moment, i can't stop thinking about having a baby! At the moment, we could afford a...
A. 13 August 2008: Personally i think that people who are perfectly able to work but don't and just live of benefits is totally wrong I could NEVER live of benefits myself unless i had no other choice You need to bring your child up in an environment where it learns ... (read in full...)
Help! My parents are splitting up.
Q. Help my mum and dad are splitting up. Dad lost his job and things have gone down the hill since. They have no savings cos theyve been spending it on stuff they don't really need. Thats all they think about, what they can have next and what the peop...
A. 13 August 2008: Don't worry, my parents split up when i was your age and although it was hard, i learnt to get over it and everything went ok and im sure it will be the same for you
Do you actually know that they're splitting up or are they just arguing?
And d... (read in full...)
We met online and she said she would meet me if I vote for her (she's a model)...
Q. A couple of months ago I started chatting to a lovely girl (well, she seemed lovely!) on a general chat site, and she gave me her email address. We started chatting on Yahoo! Chat, for a while, and then she said she wanted to meet. I agreed, ...
A. 13 August 2008: This person may have just made up a fake facebook to make the scenario look real
You never know
I always read peoples comments to see if they're real, if they're real then they'll have people saying things like 'hi babes, ill phone you later to... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend so it won't hurt her so much the next time we have sex?
Q. My girlfriend and i had sex together for the first time. We did it twice and she bled both times. The first time she bled more than the second (the 2nd was only a little bit) She was in some pain and it was hard for me to go inside her because she's ...
A. 13 August 2008: A lot of fore play, Legs wide open and go in gently and slowly
Those are basically the basics!
The pain will go after a few times and she still could bleed (as i did) but the pain always eases off the more you do it
Think about making sure she's c... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about sex with him, but since we did it he became very nice to me...
Q. I am sad to admit that I am a victim like in that book, "He's just not that into you". I met this guy in early June that I've been dating since. At first he was putting a lot of pressure on me to be in a sexual relationship with him but I didn't...
A. 13 August 2008: Because you're used to it being the other way round, you're confused because it's different
He sounds like he likes you more even though he did pressure you into things
Just because a book says something, it doesn't mean it's always going to happe... (read in full...)
Would it be safe for us to have sex without a condom?
Q. my boyfriend and i are both 17 nd have only started having sex the last year or so. he's in the army and i want to finish my year 12 HSC first before i move away with him. he is totally cool with that. but he keeps asking me everytime we go to have ...
A. 13 August 2008: You should both get tested for STD's first and if everything is ok then i don't see why you shouldn't use a condom
You're on the pill because you're having sex right?
Well why use two methods of contraception when only one will be safe?
Speak to ... (read in full...)
We met online and she said she would meet me if I vote for her (she's a model)...
Q. A couple of months ago I started chatting to a lovely girl (well, she seemed lovely!) on a general chat site, and she gave me her email address. We started chatting on Yahoo! Chat, for a while, and then she said she wanted to meet. I agreed, ...
A. 12 August 2008: Yes
it definately sounds like a con and that she's just using you for 'votes'
Models will do anything to get noticed or be famous
She's taken you for a mug and you should have realised what she was doing
in the future i'd advice you to think twi... (read in full...)
Will the plan b work? I'm nervous, but I wouldn't mind having a baby.
Q. So I had unprotected sex on my most fertile day, and again the next two days, and then I took the morning after pill. I want to know what are the chances of me being pregnant? Will the plan b work? I'm nervous, but I wouldn't mind having a baby....
A. 12 August 2008: There is a small chance as you can only take the morning after pill at no more than three days after unprotected sex and the longer you leave it the less likely it will work
So as i say, theres a small chance
... (read in full...)
We're practically boyfriend and girlfriend except that... he already has a girlfriend!
Q. So there's this boy that I like and really care about and he likes and really cares about me too. we have know each other for three years,we are all ways together almost like everyday. he takes me out to the movies and to eat and sometimes I retu...
A. 12 August 2008: You're basically his 'bit on the side'
He doesn't love you because if he did then he'd of split up with his gf
Why on earth you'd put youself in that situation i don't know because personally i'd rather be with someone where i know i'm the only one... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's stunning best friend?
Q. My boyfriends best friend is a girl, and she is utterly stunning, she is very thin and striking, wheras i am very short and curvy. I have no problem with him having a best friend who is a girl, its just I get jealous sometimes as she always sits on ...
A. 12 August 2008: I'd be nnoyed too so don't worry you're not over reacting butas he's told you that it's you he loves and not her then you should trust him
But just ask him not to do stuff e.g. play fight infront of you as it upsets you
You shouldn't worry about he... (read in full...)
For some reason I just want a little more than his distant personality.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for quite sometime now. The relationship is going great, but I think he may be depressed. He is very withdrawn, wants to be alone all the time and hardly talks to anyone. How can I help him? I feel like his depr...
A. 12 August 2008: Ask him if anything is bovering him and be sure to tell him he can tell you anything and that he can trust you
You shouldn't go telling anyone his problems if he tells you but if he doesn't tell you and says that everything is ok then say 'oh it's... (read in full...)
The first time he penetrated me I never bled, so now I'm scared he's going to think I was faking my virginity.
Q. Hi there! I've been with this guy for about a year and everything seems right. I was with him a couple of weeks back and we were discovering each other. He didnt go inside me, but by the time we finished, i was on my way home i was bleeding...
A. 12 August 2008: It sounds like he broke your hymen
Don't worry this can be broken by simple things including exercise, riding a bike or dancing
Some people don't bleed during their first time because the hymen has already broken
If he doesn't believe you ... (read in full...)
I got back with him thinking he'd changed, but he hasn't at all! What should I do now?
Q. I have a boyfriend that i got back together with. i didnt know why i did, cause he really hurt me, but i still had feelings for him, but during the time we were not together i started liking my best guy friend. He is always there for me anyway, so i...
A. 12 August 2008: I understand that you don't want to believe he's gonna hurt you because you love him and you probably don't see that
If hes hurt you before then he'll probably hurt you again
You shouldn't give into him because it will probably just end in tears
I... (read in full...)
I'm 12, he's 15, and says he can't be with me because of our age difference, is he embarrassed by me?
Q. I'm 12 and i like this boy. but he's 15. i love him and i've told him. n he said he felt the same way and said he loved me too. but he also said that we couldnt be together yet because of our age difference. is he embarrased by me? x...
A. 12 August 2008: It might not because he's embaressed
but you're not even a teenager yet while he's nearly at the legal age of sex!
Please be with someone your own age as you're less likely to get hurt or do things you might regret
It is quite a big age gap as y... (read in full...)
Twice we arranged to meet and twice he never showed up. Is he playing with me?
Q. Right i am a bit confused right now and would really apprechiate some advice, i don't wanna go on but i need to put it in detail for you to understand. I met this guy online about 4 weeks ago, i really liked the sound of him, so messaged him and he m...
A. 12 August 2008: woahhh long story! lol
anyways, it sounds like this guy maybe either playing you around or just really shy about meeting you
As you've never actually met him you don't know if he actually looks like/is like the person online (unless you've seen him... (read in full...)
Is it okay to pluck your pubic hair?
Q. Is it okay to pluck your pubic hair?? I shave down there, but it grows back quick so i pluck. I have a few cuts on my skin from doing this as they grow underneath the skin, and i have to pick them out. Every so often, there is little lumps. what is ...
A. 12 August 2008: i have the same problem
to keep it clean use anti bacterial wipes for skin
plucking? i have thought about that scenario but then gain it would take quite a while to get them all out
maybe try waxing???
The little lumps are just in grown hair fo... (read in full...)
We both like each other, but she is stressed and busy. What shall I do?
Q. I'm currently extremely confused at this situation: Me and this girl i really like went on a date to the movies and it went extremely well. We were totally comfortable around eachother and she kept messing with her hair and mine, kept touching my...
A. 12 August 2008: I would leave her alone for a while and if she texts you then text back but only if SHE TEXTS YOU FIRST!
i can understand why it would be a problem at the moment if you were togetehr as i guess you wouldn't see much of each other and when you did ... (read in full...)
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