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female
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16-17,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend is thinking of fingering me for the first time.and i was just wondering, what do they expect it to `look like` down there?...like will it be abnormal if my pubic hair is shaven etc?please help.xxx
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reader, Deema + ♥, writes (14 August 2008):
 Well, 'they' are all different. Just like us, theres no two boys the same. Some like girls to shave, some don't. Some like thin girls, some like fat girls. Some like blonds, some don't - you get me? So don't worry about what HE expects - he doesn't even know what he expects - and why should he expect anything of you. Its his privilege to have the right to do that to you, not yours. So be who you are. If YOU want to do anything different, do it, but don't do anything under pressure, or it won't stop there. If its against what you want, don't do it. Its that simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): He's just going to be happy to finally see it. He's probably been fantasizing about it, guessing what it looks like, feels like, etc. He's probably also been fantasizing about seducing you and that you won't be able to stop because he is so desirable that you won't be able to resist him........be firm with your boundaries!
BTW, if everyone looked the same down there, he wouldn't be curious to see it, it is the uniqueness of each individual that sparks that curiousity.
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reader, baby duck  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 "Most" people do not shave off their pubic hair.
Many do, but not "most".
Most "Westernized" females keep the area trimmed and neat. Some like a bare wood floor, some like a rug to provide some friction ... otherwise, she becomes very slippery when wet.
It's more about your personal preference than his, as it is your body. Remember that if you're going to shave everything off, that it itches LIKE HELL when it starts growing back in. Also, there are issues with ingrown hairs, which are not only unattractive, but uncomfortable.
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reader, Uncle_Phil + ♥, writes (14 August 2008):
 Yes, it would be abnormal if there was no hair down there. Anyway, unless he's got eyes on the end of his fingers he's not going to see it unless he gets up close and personal.
Personally, I prefer the 'Bearded Clam' to the 'Beefburger' - nicely trimmed, but definitely not completely bald, and all 'clocksprings' that might otherwise escape through the leg of the knickers removed.
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reader, babyshute +, writes (14 August 2008):
 "down there" most girls look the same theres not a major difference, although pubic hair can be a problem some lads hate it some only like a little.
are you comftable with your bf to be doing this to u??
because if u feel ready and comftable then u should ask him what he likes before if you don't feel comftable with asking him this then maybe you should wait untill u let him touch you down there. just take time to think about this okay and if you have another question or dont undrstand something im here :)
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female
reader, Emaz help +, writes (14 August 2008):
 Most people shave their pubic hair off so you're no different
I don't think he'll expect it to look like anything as he's never seen it before but don't worry all 'areas' are different but they're all completely normal
If you're worried about this then do it under the covers or with lights off for your first time until you feel more comfortable
Good luck
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