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writes:Okay okay, I've been reading a lot of the questions lately and i keep wondering why teengers under the age of 18 want to have sex soo badly? Hey im 13 has a 14yo bf that wants to have sex he understands the wait.....but still, WHY HAVE SEX BEFORE 18 YEARS OF AGE!? I think its messed up. What do you have to say about sex before 18?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): i think doing sex at that kind of age was not good, but the decission always known from the girls. if they want it.
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reader, VMLBabyDoll +, writes (15 August 2008):
VMLBabyDoll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know i said its messed up, probly because my mom and dad tell me differently.....I thank you for the answers, i kept wondering cuz some teens do it because its 'cool' but its a mature adult thing sooo yeah, thanx
-VMLBabydoll
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008):
Kids are basically growing up believing that it's time to start having sex as soon as they're old enough to have any sexual feelings.
Society/media has lost the concept that there might be anything in between a kid's first crush and their first intercourse.
Kids also get sent the message that they're not even expected to have any self-control over sexual urges.
They're getting taught that it's a sign of maturity to want to have sex, instead of being taught that it takes maturity to want it but refrain from doing it at those kinds of young ages.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 I think when you are young you mistake sex for love and maybe some young girls dont have a lot of caring and respect and love in their lives, they think by giving themselves to someone in this way they are getting the love they crave. They soon realise they are not. When you are older and truly in love with someone sex is amazing, but when you start out its often pretty crap.
I suppose other girls just want to try it and yes its better because it is forbidden and they are curious, getting horny etc. As for young guys they are such a raging mass of hormones not many are gonna refuse if sex is offered at ANY age! x
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reader, Leigh_OX +, writes (14 August 2008):
I agree with the 'forbidden fruit' theory. Teenagers have a natural sense to rebel, which I can relate to.
I lost my virginity at 13, and it is the most regretable thing that I have ever done. The boy at the time was a year older, and told me that he loved me, I believed at the time that he did, although I look back now and it was to just have sex with me.
I met my current partner when I was 14. And we began having sex when I was 15. We decided that we'd wait until we decided that we were in love, not just 'teen love.' That was one of the most mature decisions that I made, eventhough me and my partner constantly tell each other we wish we'd waited for each other, instead of making the mistakes both of us made.
Looking back on what I did, I think it was completely stupid of me to lose my virginity at 13. I'm not saying that it's necessarily 'wrong' to, eventhough it is illegal. But a lot of teenagers make the decision to lose it because 'all their friends are' or because 'its cool.' I had a friend in high school who lost her virginity to a randomer, and she said it was because 'its cool.' Why would anyone want that sort of memory? So to answe your question, I think 90% of the time is teenage rebellion, and the other 10% is love. I'd recommend if you ever consider losing your virginity make sure you love the person enough to give them such a large part of you, because when its gone you can't get it back.
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (14 August 2008):
 Here the legal age is 16 and our government is always moaning about teenage pregnancy but then i think 'if he's that disgusted by it then why doesn't he put up the legal age?'
I guess we just want to know what it's like (my opinion is that its rubbish) and we feel like we have to do it because everyone else is
I think that if you're ready then why not do it?
ALWAYS have safe sex though and don't rush into anything
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reader, xKx__  +, writes (14 August 2008):
I had sex at an early age, and I don't regret it, but at the same time, I don't think it's for everyone, and I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting, it is better to wait until you are completely sure you want to, but I don't think there is a certain age you should have to wait before having sex, just whenever you are certain you are ready.
I think a lot of teenagers want to have sex at an early age because their horomones are starting to thrive and they are not used to controlling how they feel.
Another reason could be they have very low self esteem, a lot of young girls aren't comfortable with themselves, and think the only way they will ever be loved is having sex with people.
I'm glad you want to wait until you are older or until you are ready! That shows a lot of character and that you are comfortable with youself.
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reader, thats_not_my_name +, writes (14 August 2008):
 i guess it's like the 'forbidden fruit syndrome', ppl r like i'm nt supposed to do it, which makes it more exciting. i dunno tho, maybe it's just purely down to hormones. all i know is in this last year, my hormones seemed to have kicked in and i've been having thoughts i didn't know existed! (not that the people i think them about would actually want me tho!! ;)) having sex and thinking about it are completely different though, i definetely want to wait until i know i'm with the right guy etc and of course until i'm legal! in fact i'm aiming to wait until i get married. but some ppl find it hard to wait or they genuinely feel that they love the person their with enough. i don't condone under-age sex, but i can kinda of see why ppl might find it hard to wait. it's a very difficult topic to come to a conclusion on.
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reader, junebug +, writes (14 August 2008):
18 is when ur considerd an adult in the u.s but to me 18 is just a number like 17,76,37,13...ya know? Why not wait until ur married?or wait until u know u love that person? Teenagers are just horny.they develop boobs,hair in diff places.they get so many diff feelings.and males will always want sex..u will find that out later in life.girls mature faster then boys.xoxojunebugxoxo
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reader, lois-mcphee +, writes (14 August 2008):
 well im 16 and when i was 14 i thought the same as you well 13...i didnt want to because i was scared of the condom splitting and all sorts of things...but you have to understand that its people hormones especially young teens like ur boyf.....
they cant control there hormones and want to have the pleasure badly...i take it you havent had sex before and dont understand the pleasure you get from it i waited till i was 16 bt i think you are sensible though d should wait but when your 14 im sure youll go through the same rage as your boyf xxx
send me a privte message any-time n ill try and helpp
lois xxx
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reader, jadeybaby +, writes (14 August 2008):
 i dont see how u can think its messed up at all, ok under the age of 13, yeah thats messed up
but above that i really dont see the problem
if ur ready to have sex, then do it
tbh i had sex b4 i was 18
i was 15
and no i dont regret it at all
i loved the guy
and no im not with him now, but me and him are still close friends
alot of teenagers are just curious, i know i am
and want to try new things, experiment...
seeing people having sex in films, tv shows, etc
can really make people want to do it
so no i dont think its messed up at all but then again thats just my opinion
take care hun
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