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*ammye17
writes:I dont even know where to start. I have become a needy person. i think everything started with my ex. i was with him 4 1/2 years and for what he cheated, lied and everything else, i met a guy that was an ass after i broke up with him got pregnant had an abortion, emotional mess i was...my ex stuck around...to hurt me again...i then started dating an older (35)(me 21)married man....crazy huh....i dont know whats wrong for the past 2 years i am a total wreck...i may look like a mature, well dressed, responsible young lady but i don know why and how i have ended this way. the married guy treats me like shit, my ex treats me like shit and i stick around...i dont sleep with my ex, only the married man.....and if iam not good with him i run to my ex to talk to him...what's wrong with me, i'am scared to be by myself or iam i out of control.....i know i dont have feelings for them but i just talk or see them because i sometimes get so depressed that i start histerically crying....whats wrong? iam 21 going nowhere!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (15 August 2008):
 you are 21 with a bright future ahead of you! you just need to do a little life reorganization. first off, i'm sure you will agree with me when i say STOP SEEING the ex and the married man! you are nobody's fool, and nobody's scapegoat. you are a wonderful person with a whole life ahead, and these guys are losers who are trying to bring you down. don't let them!!! avoid them at all costs!
the second step is to give your love life a rest. put it on hold. focus on yourself. great things happen to happy people. so stop trying to make others happy and make yourself feel good first! once you get your life sorted out, the right people will start filtering in, i promise.
if you ever need someone to talk to or keep you on track, message me. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2008): Hi Tammye, I'm sorry your feeling so bad. Have you seen a doctor, have you told your family and friends how bad things get? Do you have somebody to talk to babes, are these guys the only support you get? It's not right for you to feel so bad, it's not right for you to put up with shit, just to have some company. What happened in your life to bring you down like this. Was it the first ex, did he make you feel like you deserve to be treated bad. Can you talk to your parents, can you tell them how you feel. You need more help than we can provide babes, go to your doctor and tell them how you feel. Counselling will really help you work your situation out. Don't be frightened, but things have to change and you need somebody to help you out. Sorry babes, big, big hugs....
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 I went through something like this but i was 16, i lost a baby and my boyfriend all at once so i understand what you're going through because i was depressed too and couldn't stop crying
It seems like you need to be with someone constantly to feel loved and secure but trust me, once you stop getting into bad relationships because you want to be loved then everything will slowly be ok
These men aren't helping you at all
Talk to friends insted of these men as you can even just mail me on here if you want to speak about anything
Everything will slowly get better if you stop going to these men for support when all they do is treat you wrong when you deserve so much better
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reader, shady2012 +, writes (14 August 2008):
 you say they treat you like shit. but how are you treating them? what you do to them after you get mad is bad karma. you need to be real to yourself for your everything to be good. what you are doing is wreckless. you need to have faith and sit down and realize what is good for your future. you need to stop messing around and make good wise decisions. or you will always be confused and depressed.
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reader, aztec92 +, writes (14 August 2008):
tammye first of all you deserve better! and things will get better for you as soon as your willing to move on. i know easier said then done....I went through the same thing and im just getting things together but if you keep going back to your ex he will keep treating you like shit cause you keep going back to him you need to try to stay strong keep yourself busy be around friends and family its not so bad being single and you will always meet new people. just keep your head up girl and never let anyone keep you down and there nothing wrong with you girl its normal to feel confused you just need to get ahold of things ok
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