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writes: i dont know how to start this i was in a very unhappy relationship and i own my own buisness as a cleaner, i had just broke up with my guy and then this guy asked if i could clean for him . at the time when i was hurting i poured out my troubles to him not expecting to hear from him again, thinking he would get another cleaning company in. so when i called him a few weks later he employed me straight away. i dint think anything until i met him and he was drop dead georgous. after a few weeks i phoned him up as drunk as a skunk and admitted that i fancied him. (stupid mistake) he laughed it off and said he was flattered that i thought of him that way but now i cant get him out of my head. i still clean for him and now i want to see where this could end up and stupidly i know the answer as he told me on the phone he aint looking and he wants to be on his own. so ive answered my own question of what do i do next. as i cant get him out of my head and i wish i could
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Oh dear, we all do things we regret when we drink. The best thing you can do is apologise to him the next time you see him and just get on with the job of cleaning for him. Continue to talk to him as a friend and find out a bit more about him but try not to come on to him. Guys like to chase and you calling him up drunk might have put him off you.
It may be that he isn't looking for a serious relationship at this time and if that is the case then you'll need to be content with his friendship for now. You'll know as time goes on whether or not he likes you from his body language. If you find all of this too hard to bear (seeing him) then the best thing to do would be to stop cleaning for him and put him out of your head. Keep busy, tell yourself he wasn't for you and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): i have been in your situation before... reversing genders of course lol. it is really hard to get over someone let alone get them out of your head. I would recommend something to take your mind off him such as a hobby, activity, sport whatever. It doesn't matter what just as long as it has no resemblance to him. (This is how i got into archery). Or you could set yourself a goal and work at it. It really does seem to help. However, if you continue seeing him in your cleaning business then i will be impossible to get him out of your head completely. If you truly want to move on then you should cut all contact with him. It seems really harsh but it is the only way that will completely work.
Good luck.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (2 November 2007):
 I think you should be greatful that the drop dead gorgeous customer didn't fire you on the spot. Sounds like he is a nice man who even told you he was flattered. But as he told you, he is unavailable to you and you should appreciate his honesty, again a great guy. As for how to get him out of your head, if you can't just appreciate cleaning for MR Handsome Nice Guy, then you should tell him he needs to find another cleaner. PS, never make phone calls after drinking as you'll regret what you've said.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (2 November 2007):
 Just suck it up and move on. You put yourself out there and he is not interested. At least now you know. I think you need to take some time to work on your broken heart from your last relationship and stop concentrating on him. Once you have your heart and head sorted out you can start dating again and he will be a thing of the past. Who knows maybe he will consider dating you in the future.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (2 November 2007):
aww!! i had the same thing as u almost.. i told this guy i fancied him and then he laughed it off. then i found out he was just too shy to say he fancied me back ;) anyway this guy says hes not interested then thats fine leave it. the good thing is that hes still willing to be there for u as a friend. i would just accept this and carry on. you know maybe he was in a bad relationship before and got hurt so dusnt really want to get into another too quickly. so yhhh. you never know he might be shy?!?! lol stay friends with him though kk :) hope this helps, good luck for the future, god bless
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