My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. Is there something we can do?
Q. My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. As I've researched this it seems like it's a pretty common problem, but the reasons seems to be it's not enough or oral isn't done long enough. I have never timed myself, but I know I have gotten him ...
A. 23 June 2011: Eh, i'll speak up here :p. I'm a man who has never ejaculated during oral. Many have tried, none have succeeded. I'm actually at the point where i really wish my wife wouldn't try to give me oral, cause it does nothing for me. (She feels she has ... (read in full...)
How do I get over a 4 year love affair?
Q. I am so glad I came across this site. I need some suggestions on how to get over my lover. I am a married woman with no children and I have been having an affair with a married man for 4 years. His wife has just found out due to some old emails a...
A. 23 June 2011: To be fair to the OP: To claim that she has dependency issues for leaning on her male friend is a bit unfair.
She was having an affair. If you want to keep it secret, you don't exactly shout it on the rooftops and tell all of your friends.... (read in full...)
Am I sick or evil for wishing bad things for my ex?
Q. ok, I hate myself right now. my ex was manipulative and lied and was insensitive and we broke up and now i look at her facebook page and see she is having fun, traveling with some new guy in Florida. and i cannot help but wish her BAD. i am je...
A. 22 June 2011: Eh, i think it's only natural to feel that way. We're all only human, and we all have felt like this at some point.
Heck i was head over heels for a girl, and she completely ripped my heart out and stomped on it. I wished SO much ill-will... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's bisexual roommate flirts with him in front of me!
Q. Ok here goes...what do you think of this. My boyfriend because of his credit was having a hard time getting an apartment for himself. Soooo he had an offer to be a roommate with a guy that was splitting from his wife (she just left). Well the...
A. 22 June 2011: Eh, if there is no chance in hades of your boyfriend switching teams, then i wouldn't worry about it too much.
In my experience gay men can be a bit exhibitionist, with very little in the way of inhibitions. They enjoy life and have a good tim... (read in full...)
On our second date, I almost had an accident while driving her home. Did that scare her off or am I overreacting?
Q. I started talking to this girl online and after a couple of weeks she gave me her number and wanted me to add her on facebook. For a little while after that we texted just about everyday and started talking about making plans to hang out. We finally ...
A. 22 June 2011: Yeah, leaving your wallet in the car was a bit of a boneheaded play, especially on a first date. On your next date, insist on paying for everything.
Also: "“hey sorry I haven't texted you lately. I've been really busy. I hope you're not mad or a... (read in full...)
How do I get over a 4 year love affair?
Q. I am so glad I came across this site. I need some suggestions on how to get over my lover. I am a married woman with no children and I have been having an affair with a married man for 4 years. His wife has just found out due to some old emails a...
A. 22 June 2011: I'm not sure what to tell you, here. Normally this is the sort of thing that you would want to lean on your partner for, but that obviously isn't possible here.
The only thing i can think is: if you truly love your husband and value your marriage... (read in full...)
My best friend told me I should avoid him because of the age difference, but my other friend said I should go after him if I want him. What do I do?
Q. I've been doing work experience for a month and today was my last day. The 18 year old guy (he just turned 18 a week ago) is my boss/ supervisor (he's not head boss, just of our section). I do really like him in both ways, and I knew him a little ...
A. 22 June 2011: I think it really hinges on where you are at on the 13-15 scale.
If you're 15, then i would say.... reluctantly, go for it.
Anything under 15 and i think the age difference may be too much, at this stage.
... (read in full...)
It sucks that I can't be friends with my boyfriend's friend!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been struggling with a question and need to hear some opinions from others. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a good number of years. Four years ago, he started a job in a different country (halfway across ...
A. 21 June 2011: Eh, i'll be honest with you. Having someone like Fran around is poison for a relationship, unless she is addressed specifically.
She obviously has feelings for your boyfriend, and make no mistake if you ever left the picture i am sure she woul... (read in full...)
Mother figure or friends with benefits... I don't know what to do with this relationship!
Q. hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 19 months now. we met in his local pub. we started seeing each other and he kept asking me to stay at his flat more and more,it ended up i was there 5 days a week. he was so loving and he could never get enough ...
A. 21 June 2011: He treats you like dirt. He doesn't work. You pay for everything, yet he goes out and leaves you alone on Saturdays.
Why do you love him, again? He sounds like an odd cat.
You have to tell him you need to talk, and sit down and tell him eve... (read in full...)
Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?!
Q. Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?! Ive been texting a guy i met in a nightclub, he lives in another town almost 3 hours away. He came across shy and awkward, but he was nice. He did explain he really likes me but that he is super shy. ...
A. 21 June 2011: See, i've heard of people being that shy BEFORE you actually meet someone, but if you met in a night club, and thus have already SPOKEN in person? That's weird.
3 hours away is a fair ways away. That may factor into things a bit, but... Y... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to put their friend before their girlfriend sometimes?
Q. Hi. My question is quite a general one. I have noticed sometimes that my bf puts his friends/friend before me. Is this normal or is this a sign of immaturity? There is one friend in particular, typically I dont get on with him, there is no love los...
A. 20 June 2011: 1 or 2 times a month vs. 2-4 times a week?
That to me looks like he IS putting a greater emphasis on seeing you over seeing his friends, and i can kind of understand where he's coming from if he then goes to see a friend one night instead of you, ... (read in full...)
Can wife's medication cause her sex drive to increase?
Q. hi my wife has been on anti depresent medication since christmas. they have made here feel good however during the time she was on them her sexual behavour changed and she just loved it. not that i an complaining as it was me who cuased her to be...
A. 20 June 2011: Hmm, i'd be curious to know what medication it is?
I've only ever heard of them DECREASING sex drive, not increasing!
I'd just run with it! :)... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy thinking that my boyfriend is cheating on me. Is he??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years and we live together. There has been no change in his behaviour or mood towards me which would make me suspect anything is wrong. Just a few weeks ago, he was showing me an email from a family member ...
A. 20 June 2011: Him changing the password would make me worry a bit.
Either he knew you were reading his emails, or he was worried you might.
Of course his guy friends are telling you not to worry.
They're doing their best to protect him.
Let's face i... (read in full...)
How do I tell my sister in law that her husband is cheating on her?
Q. My sister in law's husband (My wifes sister) is cheating on her. He is 50 and he is didling their once babysitter who is in her early 20's. They have 4 kids (3 through 18). He told me he was going to stop but I have confirmed again it is still going ...
A. 20 June 2011: See, and i know there will probably be various opinions on this, but when it comes to matters like this i think i would leave it to the blood relative to decide whether they want to pass along what you know, or not.
If your wife does not want to ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to her again? Would this upset her?
Q. It is really hard to follow my heart because I am torn between two big emotions in my head. I have no idea what to do with her. I want to talk to her but I don't know how to face to her anymore after everthing happened between me and her. We don't ...
A. 20 June 2011: Eh, if she said she wanted to move on, i would steer clear of her as much as possible. You may very well have read jealousy and anger in her eyes when she saw you talking to another girl, but don't for a second mistake that for anything close to ... (read in full...)
Is what I said that wrong? What do I do to get her to forgive me?
Q. I have asked advice on here before and I usually end up following it. I am a 20yr old bisexual female. I fell for a girl in one of my classes and we became great friends, she is gay. That was four months ago and I am still working hard to try and ...
A. 17 June 2011: Hard to say what's going on in her head. Maybe it's the bipolar issue. I'm not sure i see anything that warrants her losing TRUST in you in what you said.
I do think what you said was a bit awkward and out of place, though. I'm not sure why you ... (read in full...)
Affair with married man....things are getting harder... I need advice!
Q. Ok- i need some advice. I have been dating a married man for about 9 months now. everything has been so much fun, we talk every day and have a great time together- and yes, we fight... more so lately. Let me start off by saying that his wife ...
A. 17 June 2011: So here's the issue. His wife cheated on him, and his solution was to, what? Cheat on her? Multiple times?
That's not really the solution of a rational, good man. My thought is that, perhaps he may have been a good man at some point, but if a... (read in full...)
Should I tell my gay friend how I feel about him?
Q. i'm in love with my best friend. he's gay. i've tried everything but i just can't get over the feelings i have for him. i want to be with him so badly. my friend thinks he has feelings for me too. he says things that make me think he does. should i ...
A. 14 June 2011: Yeah, i would just casually drop the question of whether he would consider getting with a girl.
I'd be awfully careful, though. I've known a couple of girls who have fallen for a gay guy, and none of them have ever succeeded in convincing the guy ... (read in full...)
Will lube help?
Q. Hey there. So I've had sex before--several times. With a handful of different partners. My current partner and I have been struggling though. I often have to stop early and am sore afterward. He is very well endowed and it's getting hard. I ...
A. 14 June 2011: Yeah, i have to agree with Athena.
My wife and i had an issue like this. At first we used Lube and it helped, but finally my wife just told me "more foreplay required".
Since then, we haven't had to touch the lube!... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: OP: thanks for answering my question. 12 guys over 6 years is really not "a lot", in my opinion!
I wouldn't worry too much about it.
And not to jump into another person's question:
But you asked someone else if THE ONE was the best sex the... (read in full...)
Teenager in sex distress.....
Q. ok i'm 14 goin on 15 and i'm dating a soon to be senior in high school, we've been dating on and off for the last almost year and a half . i have recently been getting really horny around him and he's been getting boners whenever i'm around ...
A. 14 June 2011: Yeah, i don't mean to pry, but when you masturbate is it just with your fingers, or do you have a vibrator?
Look into some sex toys. I know they always seem very TABOO, but every woman i know has at least a vibrator.
... (read in full...)
Why is he spreading rumours about me and harassing me again? What should I do?
Q. Hello, Please help me! i have a bit of a problem theres a long story to go with it, i'll explain some of the details, but really my ex who has been harrassing me after we split up is now spreading rumours around but when i confront him he says he ...
A. 14 June 2011: If he really has been touching you in places you don't want to be touched, then i think this is something that should have been elevated to the police.
Also i think your parents need to do more then just keep going back to the school. If the scho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't last more than 5 minutes when we have sex!
Q. My boyfriend can't last more than 5 minutes when we have sex.. It is so uncomfortable.. I love him dearly but I'm not satisfied. We've talked about it but all he can say is he can't help it.. He blames it on the size of his penis.. What should I ...
A. 14 June 2011: Do you strictly have intercourse?
I know it's really common for many women not to be able to orgasm simply through intercourse.
My wife claims she doesn't think she has ever climaxed via simple intercourse. There always has to be more going... (read in full...)
Falling for a married man but I don't want to be a homewrecker! Help!
Q. Right, well, im falling for a married guy! so a few months ago i moved from england to holland on my own to start a fresh. I started a new job a month ago and met "jack", i wasn't really interested at first, i wasn't attracted to him. but i work ...
A. 14 June 2011: If you don't want to be a homewrecker, then i would try to figure out a way to cut back the amount of discussion you have with him, or at the very least try to focus on keeping it entirely on business. It will be hard, and you may have to be curt, ... (read in full...)
Teenager in sex distress.....
Q. ok i'm 14 goin on 15 and i'm dating a soon to be senior in high school, we've been dating on and off for the last almost year and a half . i have recently been getting really horny around him and he's been getting boners whenever i'm around ...
A. 14 June 2011: First question: I would say it's probably very normal to get horny around him. You're dating. That probably implies that you are sexually attracted to him.
It's normal.
Second question: I would check up on age of consent in your state. If ... (read in full...)
He dumped me, so why is it all my fault?
Q. Like when my ex dumped me by text after dating a year. He blamed the WHOLE failure of our relationship on me. Yet he bottled everything up and never communicated. Then let the resentment grow until he couldn't take it anymore and dumped me. Why do ...
A. 14 June 2011: Some people are just not good communicators. I know my wife tells me that i am like this, sometimes, too.
Something in our personalities. I don't like to feel like i'm constantly harping on someone, complaining about every little thing, s... (read in full...)
Have I hooked up with too many guys?
Q. I've hooked up with 12 guys, but have only had sex with 2 of them. hooking up might be nakedness, oral, or hand jobs....is that a lot? im 25 :(...
A. 14 June 2011: I guess my question would be 12 guys over what period of time?
Is this in the past year? The past 5 years?
What is making you ask this question? Are you feeling some form of guilt? Are you worried that people may be judging you?
Really... (read in full...)
"talk to you soon" after a break up? does he mean it?
Q. I made contact with my ex boyfriend today. We broke up a month ago (dated for 5 months) and I know that we aren't going to get back together because his reasons were pretty firm. I still think about him a lot and in the back of my mind I think I'll ...
A. 14 June 2011: I would guess that any form of pause or hesitation was just awkwardness in figuring out how to end the conversation.
Finding yourself on the phone with an ex, especially when you weren't really expecting it, can be quite awkward. I had it happe... (read in full...)
Is this mom interested in me?
Q. Hey guys. I'm a married dad with two sons. One of the mom's at my son's school has asked me for a play date with our kids. What does this mean? Could she be interested in me? Don't the moms usually ask each other? Should I say yes? Just wondering ...
A. 13 June 2011: Eh, i know my wife is big on asking anyone and everyone for play dates with kids.
I don't think i would read too much into it at this stage, as far as anything romantic goes.
A lot of women are very big on trying to get their kids socia... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to break off our engagement?
Q. I broke off my engagement around 2 and a half months ago as I thought I was too young, being only 19 and him being the only long term relationship I've had for 3 years. I'm now seeing another guy n can't stop comparing him to my ex part of me likes ...
A. 13 June 2011: Eh, i think it's only natural that you would compare the new guy with the old guy, because you were with the old guy for 3 years. Heck you were ENGAGED. It takes more then just 2 months to move past something like that.
You say it hurts to... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong?
Q. I'd like to know, why I am single, and how important is body image? I'm a university educated, career-focused, independent, woman- who has nothing but horrific relationships with men. I think my problem is, firstly because men are not attracted to...
A. 13 June 2011: I guess my first question would be: what kind of man do you find attractive?
What kind of partner are you looking for?
Focus more on what you're looking for in a person, and less on what you may be doing wrong.
Finding a relationshi... (read in full...)
Keeping up appearances with my older fella.....
Q. I'd really like some advice about my fella - firstly, he is older than me; I am 23 and he is almost 30. This to me is not a problem until we do things like have 'dinner parties' or meet with his brothers etc - and whilst they can talk about all ...
A. 13 June 2011: Eh, i don't think it's silly to be a bit upset by his still having photos of the ex around. That would bother me a ton.
I think i would sit him down and talk to him about it. Let him know how seeing those photos makes you feel!
I really don'... (read in full...)
My ex-gf told me she just wanted to be friends, and then got mad when I kissed another girl!!
Q. SO after my girlfriend not knowing what she has wanted for a month and taking a break with me she hates me now. Last Friday we were at a bar and she came up to me and told me she didn't want a relationship and she wanted to be just friends. My heart ...
A. 8 June 2011: I think your impulse that she wanted to get out, but didn't want to be the bad guy, is probably a good one.
She can't play games with you like that. I mean she came up to you in a bar, basically broke up with you, and then gets upset when you... (read in full...)
He never wanted to be more than friends with me, and now he has a girlfriend I feel jealous and sad.
Q. I have this friend who was flirting with me for quite a long time, during which he has two girlfriends in different times and all end up breaking up. Complicated as it is, clearly we are attracted to each other. Recently we went out once and I asked ...
A. 8 June 2011: I'm sorry to say but i don't think he's into romantically at all, and it doesn't seem like he ever was.
You say clearly you were attracted to each other, but then when you offered him to hang out, he said no.
That, to me, means he probably wasn... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to give him her email? I'm feeling bad.....help..
Q. Hi friends...so this guy, who's my teachers friend, he kept asking about this girl who I know from my school but she doesn't know me. So I just asked him if he liked her. So he said yes. I gave him her email from facebook. Was if wrong. Because he ...
A. 8 June 2011: I would say: Never, ever give out someone else's information to anyone.
If he was interested in her, he should have gone to ask her for her email FROM her.
There's a reason why that sort of info can be blocked on facebook, know what i mean... (read in full...)
My mind is telling me to be with him but my heart is saying no...
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend recently due to the fact that he's disrespectful, mistreats me, cheated 4 times while we were together, when we're having problems he doesn't want to talk about it, he either ignores me or get mad and tell me to ...
A. 8 June 2011: Eh, a major red flag: When you ask him "why are you hurting me?" and he answers "because YOU hurt ME."
So that's the way he handles things? He thinks 2 wrongs make a right?
That's not a good relationship to be in. Especially if yo... (read in full...)
Isn't this a little too serious a little too fast?
Q. My girlfriend freaks out every time someone comments on my photos on fb or writes on my wall. We've only been dating for about a week but whenever someone writes something on my wall or on a photo she panics and starts questioning me about it. She ...
A. 8 June 2011: Yeah, i have to say there are some major red flags.
That sounds like someone with some emotional baggage. I would talk to her about it. Maybe she has been cheated on before?
I had a girlfriend like that. She was going through some iss... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not always say 'I love you too.' Should I be worried?
Q. Hi there. I tell my bf I love him a lot and he does not always say it back. He's like, well, I've said it, I dont need to keep saying it. He does tell me he loves me, just not that often. Sometimes I text him 'love you' and he does not text back. S...
A. 8 June 2011: This is an issue that turns up time and again in relationships.
I know it has always bothered my wife a ton.
I agree with CaringGuy. Look at his actions. For most men, we are all trained that actions speak louder then words.... (read in full...)
Is this a sign that my best friend (female) really likes me as more than a friend?
Q. Weird one, would just like your take on it. Best friend is female, few years younger. We spend a lot of time together, like a lot of time. People often think we're a couple but we're not. Mutual friends used to think she liked me but she denie...
A. 7 June 2011: This is a tough one. It could really go either way...
I have seen women behave in this manner because yes they DO like the guy, but they are embarrassed by it because they don't think you like them, and i've seen women act that way because ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: "I know im making a long committment at a young age but i think it's more about being independent ?"
Hmm.. independent of who or what? Your family?
I'd really like to know what you feel you're being independent of.... (read in full...)
I like him, what should I do?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for almost a year, recently he made it quite clearly that he wants to be with me, but when I asked him to hang out, he said no and told me there is not a chance for us to be together although he is physically ...
A. 7 June 2011: This guy sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it to.
When you say he said he "wants to be with you", do you mean he wants to sleep with you? That's kind of the vibe i get from that sentence. He is physically attracted to you, but othe... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: Ah, i misunderstood what you meant by "proper". I understood that as being your first relationship.
At your age, you've really already been in a relationship where you were physically hurt? I am very sorry to hear that.
I can understand a bit... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: I do think you're at a pretty young age to be experiencing all this, especially when it's your first proper relationship.
There is so much left for you to experience before figuring out what it is you really want in life, and what kind of person y... (read in full...)
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