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writes:Ok here goes...what do you think of this. My boyfriend because of his credit was having a hard time getting an apartment for himself. Soooo he had an offer to be a roommate with a guy that was splitting from his wife (she just left). Well the next thing you know the dude is hitting on my boyfriend And even in front of me flirting (disrespectful obviously).My boyfriend is straight but didn't do anything but ignore him. I feel so awkward and weird when i'm there. I told my boyfriend this but he said he doesnt want to say anything to him because then he might lose the opportunity to take over the lease on the apartment. I told him all he has to say is hey dude that's gay sounding...and I don't go that way. (He could tell him when I'm not there).He says he doesn't want to hurt his feelings. But i say what about my feelings? Am I being selfish??..(.because it is true it could jepordize his chance to take over the apartment.)Should my boyfriend say something to the dude?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): If your bf isn't interested, I'd not worry. If he is, or has a past that leans both ways, I'd find another bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): I would feel so weird. I would mabey see if there is another place he could stay incase it does go bad but I would have your boyfriend tell him hes straight. It may be weird for them to live together after that so I would look into a new place. Could he stay at your house, mabey in a spare bed room? Or mabey another friend of his or yours? Good luck to all of you! Everything will work out in the end!
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (22 June 2011):
 Eh, if there is no chance in hades of your boyfriend switching teams, then i wouldn't worry about it too much.
In my experience gay men can be a bit exhibitionist, with very little in the way of inhibitions. They enjoy life and have a good time and they don't hold back.
I've had it happen on many occasions when i'm out with a girl and gay guys who obviously are aware that there is zero chance with me, still do not hold back on hitting away.
I would just laugh along with it and take it for the joke that it really is. Like i say i'm pretty sure the guy knows there's no chance with your bf!
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reader, babygirllovej +, writes (22 June 2011):
 I could understand you being uncomfortable. Perhaps explain to the roommate that you are uncomfortable with his flirting. Be very kind and respectful and hopefully the problem will be solved.
I imagine your boyfriend must feel very uncomfortable seeing as he is straight and this man is flirting with him. Is he sure he wants to move in with this man?
Best of luck to the both of you!!
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