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*ebeccaa
writes:Hello, Please help me! i have a bit of a problem theres a long story to go with it, i'll explain some of the details, but really my ex who has been harrassing me after we split up is now spreading rumours around but when i confront him he says he hasnt said anything, why??So about 2 and a half years ago i started going with a boy (we were both 13) who i got fed up of asking me out so i gave him a chance. anyway he cheated too many times but i kept giving him chance after chance but most of the time because i felt pushed into it by him and other people because he used to cry everytime i told him it was over. he also used to lie about anything i never knew why. Anyway we lasted a year on and off but after the horrible year, (soon after the break up we both turned 15) he started following me around school wherever i went. he used to touch in places i did not want to be touched, i ended up reporting him several times for this to the school, the first and second time i had to give a statement the rest of the times i reported it to the same teacher who wasn't very helpful, my parents went to complain to the school a few times. The teacher who dealt with it a lot seemed to get bored of me and my parents always complaining, he once said to me i have protected you more than your dad and ive treated you like a princess, my parents went crazy. They both spent months trying to get me into another school, but there were no places so i stayed at the same school. That was the worst school year i have ever had, at the start of my last year it had all stopped i felt great again, but now it seems to be happening again, about a month ago he started bothering me my friends went and reported it (to a different teacher) she told me to write a statement up and take it in i did write the statement but i didnt give it in because i didnt want what happened before to happen again. Anyway lately he has been telling everyone in his maths class that i have had sex with him and talking about me i know this because 5 of my friends are in his class and all of them have told me what he has been saying, today when i went to ask him he said they were all lying and he never said anything (obviously i beleive my friends) but he dropped himself in it before he said he hadn't said anything he said "i wasnt talking to any of your little friends i was talking too.." and then he said i had not said anything. Then at dinner he comes and sits next to me and is all nicey nicey with me. What? Why is he doing this? What should i do? Please help!
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (15 June 2011):
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 If he really has been touching you in places you don't want to be touched, then i think this is something that should have been elevated to the police.
Also i think your parents need to do more then just keep going back to the school. If the school isn't acting, they need to go to a higher power! The school board, or even possibly once again the police!
I am very surprised that your school would disregard this the way that they have been.
If this guy keeps harassing you, and you really want it to stop, i would take it to the police.
I dated a girl who had had an ex harassing her, and she wound up getting a peace bond put out against him that prevented him from coming within 50 yards of her.
As for what you can do about him telling people you had sex:
Call him on it. Even if he claims not to, let him know that you aren't messing around anymore. If he continues to harass you you will take it to the police.
This guy sounds like he has serious issues. If he tries to sit down next to you, i would get up and move to another table! He's nuts!
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