Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: "I know im making a long committment at a young age but i think it's more about being independent ?"
Hmm.. independent of who or what? Your family?
I'd really like to know what you feel you're being independent of.... (read in full...)
I like him, what should I do?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for almost a year, recently he made it quite clearly that he wants to be with me, but when I asked him to hang out, he said no and told me there is not a chance for us to be together although he is physically ...
A. 7 June 2011: This guy sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it to.
When you say he said he "wants to be with you", do you mean he wants to sleep with you? That's kind of the vibe i get from that sentence. He is physically attracted to you, but othe... (read in full...)
Why is he still flirting when he has a girlfriend?
Q. There's this guy I used to work with who recently got transfered and I've fallen pretty hard for him , we both like to flirt and muck around and talk about sex with each other .. Hes one of the nicest guys I know and someone who I can talk ...
A. 7 June 2011: Have you told him that you wouldn't make a move on him if he's in a relationship?
I'm a bit unclear, when you say he has a Mrs., does that mean he's actually married? Or is he only dating this other girl?
Really what it comes down to is: Do ... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here?
Q. Ok. I'm 33 years old. I've spent the last couple years either working at my job, working on rebuilding a foreclosed home I purchased, or trying to find a GF. I wasn't spending a large amount of time on actually making friends. One thing I learned ...
A. 7 June 2011: Believe me, man. I feel your pain. I have always had problems finding friends. It drives my wife crazy.
I think one place to start is to think about what your interests are. Any hobbies that you enjoy?
See if you can find any groups or cl... (read in full...)
I feel like I have failed as a parent, please help!
Q. I am a mother of a 14 year old daughter that persists on having sex with older boys/men. She's already admitted to having sex with a 27 year old and now she's aiming at 17 year old's. At the beginning of April 2011 she went off with someone from ...
A. 7 June 2011: I would go talk to a Doctor (family doctor?) and ask them for a referral for some family counselling.
It'll be tough. Your daughter (and family?) may fight it, but be strong. If they are ALL lying to you, you need to get them in a setting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: Ah, i misunderstood what you meant by "proper". I understood that as being your first relationship.
At your age, you've really already been in a relationship where you were physically hurt? I am very sorry to hear that.
I can understand a bit... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex yet -- what's with him?
Q. Hiya, sorry if this is abit long, but i could really use peoples ideas on this issue, because its starting to affect me... i met my current boyfriend, in January this year, we went on a date together and i realised, we got on really well had ...
A. 7 June 2011: Having religious parents really puts a lot of pressure on the partner when it comes to sex.
I found this out. I dated a very religious girl. We
started having sex. At first, it was great, but then eventually the guilt started to weigh down o... (read in full...)
Why have my friends become two faced, I've known them for years?
Q. I got a message from my friend who moved interstate some time ago [I'll call her friend#1]. There was the usual chit chat, but then she mentioned that our other friend was flying up to see her [I'll call her friend #2]. Then she said "wish you were ...
A. 7 June 2011: Believe me, i'm the last person to really understand friendships in the female world.
However I will try to give my take. Unfortunately it seems like Friend #2 may hold some discontent or dislike for you? At the very least she seems to favour F... (read in full...)
Should I block my ex on Facebook, again?
Q. Yes, it's a question involving the dreaded Facebook. My ex-bf and I don't really have mutual friends in real life, but on Facebook we do. I initially blocked him so I wouldn't have to see him keep popping up on other people's Facebook pages. ...
A. 7 June 2011: I had to block an ex for a similar reason. At first it was VERY hard to see her popping up everywhere with common friends. Especially when it was anything related to dating, or picking up a hot guy.. After what followed, i know now that all that ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend dearly, but the sex and chemistry with my other man is amazing! What should I do?
Q. I don't want you to judge me here. Please, only reply if you have something to say which could help me out of this mess. I've had a bf for over 5 years, started an affair with a sexy man who's in a relationship too 5 months ago. We made it pretty ...
A. 7 June 2011: Eh, really all you can do is ask your lover how he feels about you.
If he still is unwilling to leave his partner for you, why would you continue to torture yourself, right?
Also you have to ask yourself... If he's willing to cheat on his ... (read in full...)
My daughter's boyfriend keeps her a secret and I don't know why.....should I tell his mother about their relationship?
Q. My daughter has being going with a guy for the last 8 month. I have met him briefly when he has being to my house a couple of times. I cant say I know him only what she tells me about him. Some of the things she says to me about him and what he ...
A. 7 June 2011: I'd be interested in knowing how old the boyfriend is.
I knew a girl who went through something similar. She was 20, she was dating a guy who was almost 30.
That age difference apparently was something that he was afraid to share with his f... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: I do think you're at a pretty young age to be experiencing all this, especially when it's your first proper relationship.
There is so much left for you to experience before figuring out what it is you really want in life, and what kind of person y... (read in full...)
Why is he so modest about his abilities?
Q. Well i have this problem is my boyfriend. it seems like everything he does he always under sales himself, he told me he cant draw, yet he could draw me and my family perfectly. he said he cant fight but hes a 1st degree black belt. and he said that ...
A. 7 June 2011: Eh, i wonder does he have any siblings?
I know my wife feels kind of the same way about me. I grew up in a family of high achievers. My older sister was always number 1 academically at everything. She was popular, she was smart, and eventual... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is bored of having sex with me - any suggestions?
Q. Hi there. Me and my bf love each other and we still have regular sex - about twice a week. We have been togther 17 months. We used to have sex A LOT, we were always at it and we have been quite kinky together too, experimenting with role palying and ...
A. 6 June 2011: My wife and i went through a period where she felt the same way you did, back before we were married.
At that stage in our lives, i found that emotionally i wasn't entirely into the relationship. There was a lot of question as to whether ... (read in full...)
With a married man...
Q. Hi, I'm with a married man...he's five years older than me, he's very cute and I really like him. It all started from when he came to my house to fix the meter, he told me to get some fuses and plain panels, he wrote them down on a paper and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: I would ask myself how many other women he meets on the job like this. Once a cheater, always a cheater, right?
I think you're being used big time.
Stop seeing him.... (read in full...)
Does the fact that we haven't met mean he's not into me?
Q. So I have been talking to this guy for about a month. He has texted me every single day first, I have only texted him about a couple times first without him initiating it first. He has done most of the calling I have only called him a few times out ...
A. 6 June 2011: You say he has tried to schedule some times to meet you, but you were busy?
What does that tell you?
I think he wants to meet you. Why don't you put a date forward and ask him if he's available? ... (read in full...)
I like my best friend, he likes me. The problem? I have a boyfriend.
Q. Okay, so I posted a few months ago that I had a boyfriend, but had developed feelings for my best friend. After months of torturing myself because I didn't know how my best friend felt, and because I felt bad for my boyfriend, I decided to tell my ...
A. 6 June 2011: Eh, if you really see yourself happier with your friend then i would end it now. Why bother living the lie any longer? If your boyfriend ever found out that this was how you felt the entire summer you were together, don't you think that would ... (read in full...)
Once we become exclusive in dating, I become a bitch!
Q. Hi. I realized I am quite a bitch when it comes to relationships and wondered if anyone could help me out. Whenever I start dating someone it's mostly fine. Once we are exclusive, I am a bitch! I avoid the person, don't respond to texts/calls, ...
A. 6 June 2011: I think you just have to be patient, keep dating and have a good time. Eventually you'll meet a guy who you decide you just can't live without, and who will be able to put up with and love your bitchiness.
Eh, i'll be honest. I've always preferre... (read in full...)
How can you be too clingy in a relationship?
Q. Dear all, I was recently dumped for reasons that included in me being "too clingy". I don't know how this is possible as when your in a relationship your meant to be there for each other. Its left many questions in my mind those of which won't b...
A. 6 June 2011: The love of my life dumped me because she claimed i was too clingy.
It's a fine line, a slippery slope. In the first year of the relationship, she WANTED me around all the time. Asked me to be around. Loved that i showed up at night after wo... (read in full...)
After graduating from college I'm really lost!
Q. This is most likely off topic but I'll try anyway considering it's a forum... I'm really depressed with my life right now. I got a degree in journalism and tried to pave a path to law school. Then I realized the hard truth of how the LSAT determi...
A. 3 June 2011: The most important thing is to try to figure out what makes you happy in life. What do you enjoy doing?
I came from a family that, when it came time for me to choose my post-secondary direction, really pressured me to aim for something that wou... (read in full...)
I want to meet her for the first time, but I don't know how to tell her the pictures I have been using online are fake.....
Q. I was playing around online and I met this girl (im a lesbian) on myspace and we really hit it off, and yes she is long distance, im in texas shes in new jersey. We moved to facebook and actually started dating long distance. We've been dating for ...
A. 3 June 2011: Definitely tell her some way before you meet.
There is really no easy way to do this. I would get it out of the way as soon as possible. I've heard too many stories of people that did something similar, but never told their partner till the day ... (read in full...)
For the guys: Why do you put kisses at the end of texts? Does it mean anything to you?
Q. What is it with men and putting kisses on the end of texts? I'd like for the majority of answers to men just so i know, but women feel free to answer too with your opinions:) Okay so, i don't wanna be judged on the age different or whatever, thi...
A. 3 June 2011: I never put anything like that into a text. Once in a blue moon i may but a smiley face, or a tongue-sticking-out face, but never, ever a kiss or hug or XOXO or XXX or anything like that.
It's hard not to find the situation you describe as anyth... (read in full...)
I don't think there is any future for us, but I am hanging on for our daughter's sake. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I met my boyfriend of almost 2 years online. The first 3 months amazing. I found out i was pregnant shortly after and was so excited. 7 months into my pregnacy i found out he was still online soliciting other women, sending naked pics of ...
A. 2 June 2011: I have to agree with OhGetReal.
I guess my question for you is: why can't you (or he?) leave?
Is your home under both of your names? Only 1?
If it is under your name: Kick him out. If it is under his name: leave.
If both, then you'd bet... (read in full...)
Is sleeping around normal for models and actresses?
Q. so i was at a party my friend invited me too (he's in the music industry, i'm not) and there was this girl i liked. it was a lot of people there from the entertainment industry. this girl was smoking hot, around 26 y.o. i was gonna go over and talk ...
A. 2 June 2011: Eh, it probably is a bit naive. This is, like, your typical Hollywood story that you read about in books and films, and such.
Some people make it to where they are based on talent, but some people make it there based on other things they hav... (read in full...)
What exactly is so enticing to a guy about releasing onto a girl's stomach/chest?
Q. dear cupid, soo, this might seem like a weird question, buuut it's just something that's been on my mind lately. soo, hopefully, somebody on here will be able to answer it. hahaa...anyways...here goes. my boyfriend and i were just about as close t...
A. 2 June 2011: So this answer may be different for every guy, cause heck who can say WHY particular things turn us on, right?
Here is my attempt: The experience of an orgasm is as much physical as it is mental, right?
And the male orgasm, well, let's face... (read in full...)
Kissed another....Should I tell my hubby???
Q. I've been married 2 years, together for 9. Last year I kissed another man on 3 separate occassions. I felt disgusted about what I did and put an immediate stop to it. I never told my husband. I was able to live with it up til now. We just bought a ...
A. 1 June 2011: I agree with GeeGee.
We all make mistakes. If it really was just a mistake and will never happen again, i would say either talk to a counselor of some sort (or a Priest, or something) just to get it off your chest, and then move on.
If it e... (read in full...)
If I'm just seeing him, can I still go on this holiday and kiss other guys?
Q. What would you say if a girl you had just started seeing say for about a week, told you she was going on this kind of holiday. And you knew that she will probably get with guys when she's out there.. would you end it or stay with her? Because I...
A. 1 June 2011: What happens at a Wild Party Holiday should stay at the Wild Party Holiday.
It's so early in the process of 'dating' that i think you should just not tell him any of the details.
Say "I'm going away for the week."
When you get back say... (read in full...)
What is the deal with this girl?
Q. So I saw my ex this weekend. We have been broken up for 6-7 months and had agreed to cut off all communicaiton with each other. Nevertheless, she made the extra effort to come and see me at a bar with some mutual friends. She was well aware that ...
A. 1 June 2011: Girls are complicated, man.
Some girls just want to feel wanted. They love the attention. They like to know that you long for and desire them, even if they don't want to be with you.
If they start to think that you might be getting over the... (read in full...)
We broke up. Should I send this mail and poem to my ex? I miss her so much.
Q. She broke up with me more than 2 weeks ago. We were with each other for 2 years, physically 1 year and 10 months. She didn't give me any real reason, but I think the main reason is long distance. Actually she's just 6 hours away from me by plane....
A. 1 June 2011: It sounds to me like there may be some cultural or lifestyle difference between the two of you that is insurmountable. That may be contributing to why she was contacting you, as well. She doesn't understand the mixed-messages she is sending you by ... (read in full...)
Does he really want me to leave him alone or is he just being stubborn?
Q. my ex and i got back together after a break up of a year.he finished things then asked me back so we gave it another go.we've been together 4months now and its been goin good up until recently.hes been quite distant and doesnt text as much.he blames ...
A. 1 June 2011: I would give him a couple of days to cool down a bit, and then ask him if you can have a talk.
Tell him the truth, tell him why you said what you said, and how you really truly feel.
If the relationship had already ended once between you two,... (read in full...)
She has inexplicably blocked me and I can't help but feel rejected. Should I give up on online dating?
Q. A girl I met online and have been talking to for the past couple of months has inexplicably blocked me. I say inexplicably because we had been getting along just fine (so I thought anyway) and had established a while ago that we'd like to meet up ...
A. 1 June 2011: The thing i've learned about these sites, especially from talking to girls who i know IRL who are on them, is that they get about a million more messages a day then any guy ever will. One girl i know.. She hadn't logged into her account in months. ... (read in full...)
Why does he always invite our friends everytime I ask him to hang out with me?
Q. I met a guy about 6 months ago, and from the very first conversation we had, our chemistry was great and we got along wonderfully. For a long time, we would see each other maybe once every couple of weeks (in group settings), but the connection was ...
A. 1 June 2011: I think my response to "our other friends could come along too" would be to STRONGLY imply that you'd rather it just be the 2 of you..
It could be that he's nervous or scared. Could be that he's really not interested.
The only way to figure ou... (read in full...)
We broke up. Should I send this mail and poem to my ex? I miss her so much.
Q. She broke up with me more than 2 weeks ago. We were with each other for 2 years, physically 1 year and 10 months. She didn't give me any real reason, but I think the main reason is long distance. Actually she's just 6 hours away from me by plane....
A. 1 June 2011: If she cheated on you so recently, it implies she was not happy in the relationship.
You need to just cut contact with her, give her some space to sort things out. The worst thing you can do right now is smother her in anyway and show any indi... (read in full...)
My cousin is going to blackmail me unless I do sexual things with her, and she's only 13!
Q. help cupids! im in a really BAD situation. basically, my cousin is blackmailing me for not doing sexual things with her. let me explain. my cousin admitted to me she loves me (though previously, i think she just adored me and now i know its jus...
A. 1 June 2011: This is a dangerous one. She seems like she's immature, and slightly unhinged.
I don't know that you should even attempt to resolve this on your own. She obviously doesn't understand the gravity of the threat she's placing on you. A charge o... (read in full...)
There's this girl...should I cut her out of my life for good?
Q. I need a little advice. I want to apologise in advance for this being so long, but I'm really stuck here. So about 4-5 years ago I met a girl online. We quickly became friends and talked very regularly. After a few months I found myself having mo...
A. 31 May 2011: Well, i guess the big question is: Do you think you can be truly happy with the girl you are with now?
The thing you have to remember: This first girl. She had her chance. You told her how you felt about her, and she laughed at you. Then thi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend stayed out for the night and told me she had to share a bed with another man! This is unacceptable to me. What does everyone else think?
Q. My partner went on a night out with her work mates and missed the late train back. See was with two females and 1 male - so they got a family room at a hotel. When she got back the next morning she told me she had to share a bed with the male...
A. 31 May 2011: Well, the good news is she told you about it straight up. She didn't lie, she told you "I slept in a bed with another man, last night." I would trust her that nothing bad happened.
Now, seeing as how it bothered you, i don't think it's out... (read in full...)
How do I tell my best mate I'm in love with his sister?
Q. im with my best mates sister and we have been together for about 3 months but known each other for a few years, my question is that none of her family want us sleeping together but we have and we had great sex but i dont know how to tell her brother ...
A. 30 May 2011: I had this exact situation at one point, as well.
My best friend's younger sister was crazy for me, but it just seemed like a highly inappropriate situation because, well, he was my best friend and that was his sister! I tried to fight it, but ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to not be career driven and financially motivated?
Q. Hi there. I have a bit of a problem. I'm 38 and my bf is 37. We are currently trying for a baby and also buying a house together. My problem is that my bf is quite career driven and I feel he expects me to be. But I'm not. I currently earn about £1...
A. 30 May 2011: Eh, i don't think there's anything wrong with your line of thought.
My relationship is somewhat similar. I married a woman who is highly motivated and driven in her career. In the 8 years that we have been together she has had 6 differen... (read in full...)
My interfering mother drives me crazy
Q. me and my mum have just argued AGAIN. this time is because i said i would be cooking our dinner quite late (7pm) after she was starting to make noises about being hungry (she never cooks) so she snook up to my son's room and gave him a banana and ...
A. 30 May 2011: You know, this almost seems like a situation where you and your mom could benefit from professional counselling, know what i mean? If she doesn't see anything that she is doing as being wrong or inappropriate in these situations, then maybe getting ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I've been cursed?
Q. Why does this keep happening to me? what is wrong with me? I can't keep anything down:( I feel so depressed, frustrated and extremely stressed out. I've been looking for a job for 3years now no luck..I've been on numbers on interviews wh...
A. 27 May 2011: The job market is especially tough right now, and sadly... In many instances, the job is posted because "it is the process", but quite often they already have someone in mind for the position posted.
I've been on both sides of this issue. I interv... (read in full...)
Why is he suddenly so interested in me?
Q. I have liked a male friend of mine as more than a friend since the first time I met him. My boyfriend of the time was away with the military for a while last year, and in that time we got close, going out together and he even spent the night, but ...
A. 27 May 2011: I guess the big question is: are you still interested in him? I can relate to this guy. I was in a similar situation. I was into a girl. She was in a long distance relationship with a guy. To me, that's a no-fly zone. If you're in a rela... (read in full...)
Feel so guilty for ignoring her...
Q. Hi, I cut this woman out of my life some time ago. I did it only after a long effort of trying to talk to her to reach a common understanding. And I did it only after a long period of deliberation and only after I was convinced that she was lying to...
A. 27 May 2011: You are not wrong, and you did the right thing. Sometimes you have to take care of yourself and do what is best and right for you. If this woman was having an adverse effect on you in your life, then you are more then justified in cutting her o... (read in full...)
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