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writes:Right, well, im falling for a married guy! so a few months ago i moved from england to holland on my own to start a fresh. I started a new job a month ago and met "jack", i wasn't really interested at first, i wasn't attracted to him. but i work quite closely with him and we chat allot, he always makes me laugh and he is such a nice sweet guy and we have so much in common, and now i cant stop thinking about him. I look forward to work everyday to see him,but he is married! I know he finds me attractive and im quite certain he feels the connection too, but its wrong! they do not have any children together. I thought i was happy being single, i haven't been looking for anything more than sex for ages untill now. and the worst part is its not about sex at all, i just dont know what to do, i see him everyday and we get closer everyday, i want him so much but im not a bad person and i would never breakup a marriage! help me please :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Well, you've come to the right place. Lots of stories here by people in your predicament.
Here's one.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-said-he-would-leave-his-wife-for.html
If you want to add one more story to the list, keep up the emotional contact and don't feel like you deserve better than to have someone that you feel is "yours" and who feels that they are "yours".
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reader, audie  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 i agree with drew. The more time you spend with him the stronger the connection s going to be. Try your best to keep busy @ work and only talk to him when uts absolutely neccessary. Distance yourself from him and avoid social chit chat. Try to make new friends too. It could just be a crush because he's the only person actually making time for you.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 If you don't want to be a homewrecker, then i would try to figure out a way to cut back the amount of discussion you have with him, or at the very least try to focus on keeping it entirely on business. It will be hard, and you may have to be curt, but really if you can't live with being a homewrecker, then this must be done.
The thing to always focus on: He's married. Just think: if he is the type of guy who you could possibly envision cheating on his WIFE, isn't he equally as capable of cheating on you, if you were together?
Guys can be flirty by nature. There may be nothing more to it then that. Unless he makes a move and tries to talk to you about it, i think i would do my best to try to backpedal your relationship into something more business oriented for your own good.
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