Am I in love with my friend's girlfriend or is it just a crush?
Q. hi everyone i really need help my head is a right mess atm i apolgise if its long but i want to give a clear picture. one of my friends is going out with this girl who is amazing. when i became friends with him i saw his girlfriend and added h...
A. 5 May 2011: Eh, it sounds like it could go either way. She could definitely be into you.. She sure is paying you a lot of attention, and when she tells your friend one thing about being happy with her bf, and then tells you another.... That's suspicious! ... (read in full...)
Do I contact him again? Or wait for him to contact me?
Q. So, I joined an internet dating site. It's been pretty fun. So far I've met up with three guys. The first guy is now a friend, the second didn't go very well, and the third...aw, the third. He messaged me a couple of months ago and I could tell he ...
A. 3 May 2011: Eh, you have to remember that probably 80% of guys on dating websites are just looking to hook up. I would try to make it a rule NOT have sex until at least the second or third date.
Test the man and try to get his true motives out of him. Sex... (read in full...)
Gave him heads and he refused giving me oral with him tongue.
Q. Last night i was making out with my boyfriend and i ended up giving him a blow job, after that i asked him to give me oral sex with his tongue and he bluntly refused, i begged him and he still refused. I was hurt so much that he couldn't do that to ...
A. 3 May 2011: Yeah, i would definitely ask what it is about oral sex that caused him to refuse.
As a guy, i have to say that it IS a very intimidating endeavour. Everything related to oral sex is so much more complicated with the ladies. I was lucky to find ... (read in full...)
I don't want to fall into the non returnable friend zone with my ex!
Q. Its been two months, since then my ex and I are now 'friends' I suppose. He texts me every day and asks if i want to hang out; I've told him we aren't doing the friends with benefits thing. He's told me that eventually he wants to give us another ...
A. 3 May 2011: I would ask for some space, and then try dating a few people.
I would act sooner rather then later, as you can't expect him to hang around forever, but i also think that if you truly want to try to find out if he is the one or no, you need som... (read in full...)
Why do guys talk to ordinary looking girls while gorgeous unattached girls exist?
Q. I know this is an insecurity problem, but I don't know how to overcome it? I know i'm not ugly, but when I meet a guy who shows he is interested in me, it's then i think 'why would he want to talk to me?' The next day, I'll be out and see these...
A. 3 May 2011: Eh, while I like the idea of "not all men are shallow", i'm gonna come at this from a different perspective.
A lot of men are realists. They might go for the less attractive woman because they believe they may actually have a CHANCE with the... (read in full...)
I have this sense of guilt like I cheated! Have I done something wrong?
Q. Early in my relationship, my girlfriend and I just were very honest about our past sexual history. Probably for most, too honest. Through all this, I admitted to her having slept with a friend of mine, at a time when we were both single and it ...
A. 26 April 2011: I would say that you really have nothing to feel guilty about. You had just met the girl, and then the next night you had a bit of drunken flirting. Even if anything had happened, i would not tell your girlfriend about it. It was so early in the ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new guy and it makes me feel inferior. Why do I feel like a failure?
Q. My ex girlfriend has a new guy. We split up a couple of months ago because she's moving away from university next month and now she has already found someone in her hometown. I don't mind, because she's moving on and that's what I've been trying to ...
A. 26 April 2011: It always hurts when you find out that your ex is dating someone new.
The important thing to remember is that her moving on doesn't make you any less of a man, it just means that the two of you were not the right fit.
There are plenty of fish i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has no ambitions for his career! Should I be concerned? Is there any hope for a future with him?
Q. I've only been with him for 2 months and have only known him for about 4 months. We work together. I just started. He's been with the company for 3 years. He's 28, about to be 29 in a matter of weeks. He comes from a very good family--I don't mean ...
A. 26 April 2011: ...it sounds like this relationship may be doomed before it starts.
What is it about him that you find attractive?
Really, it sounds like you 2 have very different personality types. You have a lot of drive and ambition and a will to succeed.... (read in full...)
Dating my best friends ex, and she doesn't know about it!
Q. One of my best friends has an ex boyfriend that she dated for about 2 years. Everyone kept telling me that me and her ex would make a good couple and i considered it becaise i like him. I brought it up to her and she said that she dont think she ...
A. 26 April 2011: I would just tell your friend, straight up. Just let her know you have something really important to talk about, sit her down (maybe over a coffee or something?) and tell her.
It's not like you're the rebound girl. If they have been broken u... (read in full...)
Is a good man worth cutting off for his financial lackings?
Q. If he has a bad credit and no job should this be an automatic dump my boyfriend prompter? I have been dating my current boyfriend for 10 mths. Everything seem great. When I met him, he had a business he was working on and was also a correctional ...
A. 26 April 2011: I guess the big question for me is "is he really doing everything he can to find a job?"
If the answer is yes, then i think you should continue to give him a chance. These are tough economic times.
You may also want to look at different tra... (read in full...)
Met online guy, 1st he wants to go slow, then 2 hours later he invites me back to his place. Whats up with that?
Q. I met this guy online. I'm in my early twenties and he's in his mid thirties. We talked on the phone a lot. He was very outgoing! Really nice gentleman. We had a lot of the same interest and he was seemed lik a really cool person. We even talked ...
A. 26 April 2011: Yeah, i think i agree with Turtle. I also have to say that's a pretty substantial age gap. Not that i think age is always an issue, but for a mid-30's guy to behave that way...
I really do think he was only surfing for sex.
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Is there anything I can do to save him?
Q. Where to start. Well I'm a 27 year old female and my boyfriend of three months is 32. When my boyfriend was 16 he apparently was madly in love with another 16 year old boy, they were each others firsts and they had managed to stay together for about ...
A. 26 April 2011: Eh, this is something he really has to get past on his own, I think. All you can really do is just reassure him that there's nothing he could have done. No way he could have known that that fire would happen that night. He has to stop blaming ... (read in full...)
Do women like nice guys with confidence?
Q. Through out my life I've never scored with a women. I've had them as friends, but never anything more. In my eyes, it was because I've never tried anything, always playing it safe, but now I've become more confident with myself and I'm still a nice ...
A. 26 April 2011: Just be yourself. Don't worry about whether you're a nice guy, or a jerk.
I used to do everything I could to play the nice guy, and never got a whiff of any woman in my age group (Older women and really young girls loved it, though!)
It wa... (read in full...)
He only wants to kiss or cuddle when he wants sex
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for only 5 months and the only time he wants to kiss or cuddle me is if when he wants sex. each time i say no he plays the guilt trip and says you would if you loved me, i just don't know whats best to do, end the ...
A. 25 April 2011: My wife has the same complaint about me. I would tell him how you feel. See what he says. Personally i've never been a very affectionate person, so it is out of the ordinary for me to be all kissy and cuddly. I have tried to chang... (read in full...)
Did he just say those things because we were having sex?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. We are both grown adults. We have discussed love and we both feel that we love eachother, but neither of us ever say "i love you" to eachother (because we are both afraid of heartbreak) last night ...
A. 25 April 2011: Eh, i've done that stuff to my girlfriend/wife, too. She has always complained that i'm not affectionate enough.. That i don't tell her "i love you' enough.. For some reason, when it comes to intercourse, i guess that's when it all comes o... (read in full...)
Why does my ex boyfriend brag about his new girlfriend to me?
Q. My ex texted me out of the blue about 3 days ago. He said hey what are you doing i just wanted to see how you were doing and then i didnt text back and an hour later he said i love you. and then i didnt text back to that. 3 days later he texted ...
A. 25 April 2011: Eh, i guess one question is who ended the relationship? You or him? I would just ignore him. To respond to his texts. Don't answer his calls. Tell him you're trying to move on, and you suggest he does the same, and let that be the end of it. ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex message me on a dating website?
Q. HI All, Some insights would be welcome please!!I split up with my ex sometime back, but we have still kept contact. I went out with someone new for around 7 weeks, and did not contact my ex, then called him up to see how he was after I ended it with ...
A. 25 April 2011: Is this a website where you can see who has looked at your profile? He probably just saw that you had looked at him, and sent a message to let you KNOW he knew. I would stay away from him. Forget about him. Block him. It sounds like you still... (read in full...)
What does it mean to let go of someone you love and if they come back then it is meant to be?
Q. could someone explain this quote to me? what does it mean to let go of someone you love and if they come back then it is meant to be? would that fit into the categorie of someone leaving you for someone else then coming back to you and telling you ...
A. 25 April 2011: Eh, i think it can definitely relate to the situation you describe. I had the same thing happen to me. I was totally in love with a girl. After 2 years she said she needed some distance...I remembered that quote, and so gave her the distance. ... (read in full...)
Ideas of what to do once I have tied my boyfriend up?
Q. Me and my guy have been discussing getting a little kinky. He wants me to tie him up and really dominate him whilst he's helpless to resist. I'm excited for trying this but I just need a few ideas of what to do. Once I have him tied up I was g...
A. 25 April 2011: I had a girlfriend who did the old candlewax on the back thing. I was surprised how cool that was. The idea of touching yourself on him is a good one. I always loved it when a gf would rub their breasts all over me. That was nice. I kno... (read in full...)
I'm so desperate that I scare men away...how do I stop being like this?
Q. I hate my life. Im single, Im 27 and a mum of a 1 year old. I have a good job, a good family and good friends. However, I want to find the right guy and settle down. Im so desperate now that I get obsessed with any guy that shows me attention and ...
A. 25 April 2011: The first step is being comfortable with yourself and who you are. You need to be confident and happy. People can sense this stuff. Confidence, as the old saying goes, is sexy. Desperate NEVER is. I know, because i used to have this problem too... (read in full...)
I can't make her cum with fingers or oral, and I've got no rubber for sex...how do I find her G-spot?
Q. i can't seem to make my gf cum by my fingers... she doesn't let me touch her clitoris cuz she says it is too sensitive..we can't do oral either cuz she isnt comfortable yet and we have no rubber for sex.. any tips other then the g-spot because i can'...
A. 25 April 2011: Eh, foreplay foreplay foreplay. Get her so riled up that she needs you to touch her, and then experiment. I can remember my first girlfriend and i just lying around in bed together for hours, figuring out how we both worked. It takes a lot of w... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was on a dating site and he wanted to meet "me"!
Q. I receently had a tip off that my boyfriend has a profile on a dating site. The profile had pictures on it taken a few months ago and we've been together for nearly a year. I pretended to be someone else and got in contact. He replied and agreeed ...
A. 21 April 2011: Yeah, I have to agree with the first post.
You caught this guy red handed. Can you trust him ever again? I wouldn't be able to.
I think you are fully justified to end the relationship.... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless marriage..........
Q. Hi-i need advice, please help!I have been with the same girl for 10 years, married for 2. It was a mistake, we are friends nothing more. 18 months ago I tried to leave, she was devistated. We had 'goodbye' sex and she fell pregnant. I agreed to ...
A. 18 April 2011: I think the important thing to remember is that just because you are a "weekend Dad" does not mean you can't still be an EFFECTIVE parental figure in your child's life. It's really obvious that you and your wife do not have a healthy relation... (read in full...)
She's never happy with me.....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 4 months, but have known each other for years before that. I love her and she says she loves me, and everything was sooo perfect at first. But now it seems like all I do is piss her off. Over stupid ...
A. 18 April 2011: I was in a similar situation. The first girl i ever truly let myself LOVE. We were together for 2 years. She claimed she knew she was going to marry me, and i believed her. I was fully prepared to marry her at the first opportunity. However, ... (read in full...)
How can I break up and afford to live on my own? he wants a threesome. He's over protective.
Q. Recently my partner and I broke up, but we still live together, he goes through my phone and expects me to have a threesome with him and one of my friends (who's a girl) He has been treating me a little child lately...xo. Here's more info I ...
A. 18 April 2011: Eh, i guess i would ask do you have any friends or family that you could go and crash with for awhile? It sounds like you REALLY need to get away from this guy as soon as possible. He sounds a bit nutty!
If you're broken up then he should h... (read in full...)
Why did she get so affronted by my suggestive email?
Q. Hello, I have a strange situation to ask about. Today, a few hours after my wife and I had had some very satisfactory intimate relations, I sent a suggestive e-mail talking about that in a rather oblique way. I used an e-mail subject line of "con...
A. 18 April 2011: My only question could be "did you use any words or phrases/references that you've never used before that may have possibly offended her?" I had something similar happen with my wife. We've been together for going on 7 years now, married for 4. ... (read in full...)
I acted oblivious to his presence and his reaction made me more confused?
Q. I asked a question a while ago about this guy at the gym and i took the advice from people to act uninterested and see how he reacts. Well i tried this and now i am more sure of him liking me what do you think!? But he still wont make a move! why i ...
A. 18 April 2011: I have to agree with Cerberus. The question becomes are YOU interested in him, or are you just enjoying the attention? Open the door. Smile at him. Wink at him. See what develops. If all else fails, go and strike up a conversation with hi... (read in full...)
Do genuine relationships develop from internet dating or is it just a game?
Q. I joined an internet dating site. Some people said it’s worth a go, a lot of people warned me off, and told me there are a lot of users and losers out there. I met a guy, he was nice (although he seemed to have dated a lot of women via internet...
A. 13 April 2011: Eh, I think society is starting to accept internet dating more and more each day as a viable way to establish meaningful relationships.
Of course you will ALWAYS have your players.. Guys who are just looking to hook up.. Married men trying t... (read in full...)
Where do I stand with my ex? She's confusing me. What is she doing?
Q. Me and my ex broke up and 3 weeks later she had another bf. The other day I was at the club and she was there with her bf. I noticed she spent no time with him at all...he was stood on the sidelines like a wallflower with his friend. She was ...
A. 13 April 2011: Same thing happened to me with a girl i got dumped by.
This girl apparently wanted to be sure that i was miserable and missing her. If i wasn't, she would try to make me so.
Don't read too much into it. If the relationship ended, it ended ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I don't know if he loves me...
Q. I love my boyfriend but I don't know that he love me... We have been together almost a year and a half. We met in Law school. He's older, is in the middle of changing his career. We we first got together it was casual. He was in a rocky relationsh...
A. 12 April 2011: ...the fact that you think he still hasn't told his ex that they're through is a huge, huge warning sign. This guy sounds like he's stringing you along just because he can. I would flat out ask him what the deal is with her. You deserve to... (read in full...)
My best friend has got engaged and is becoming more distant, would that be too much if I wanted to talk to him once a week?
Q. I am no single mom, have no affairs, no pregnancy or sex problems. That means I have a very non exciting simple yet genuine concern here! I knew this guy in picture for two long and painful years. I cannot mention the circumstances we...
A. 12 April 2011: Hmm.. it's a tough situation, when you're friends with a member of the opposite sex and that friend gets engaged..
Unfortunately his priorities have to change in a moment like that.
I know i used to have a friend who was a girl who I'm pretty s... (read in full...)
Am I feeling uncomfortable because now I have an opportunity to try it?
Q. I met this girl around 3 year ago and she's became my best friend since then. For the past year I cant help but think she's a lesbian or bisexual, but never mentioned it, as it doesnt bother me... well last night i found out she is in fact one, bu...
A. 12 April 2011: You're at an age where i think a lot of women get 'experimental'. Let's face it, you're curious about your sexuality. I think that's perfectly normal. I've known a lot of women who when they get to college have experimented with kissing and havi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't handle it when I am over-emotional! Is this normal?
Q. Hello all! My question is quite general and refers to the possible differences between the sexes. I really love my bf and he loves me. He’s a great guy with loads going for him and he is very loving and affectionate. We are planning to have kid...
A. 4 April 2011: How long have you been with him? Have you sat him down and talked to him about it? I'm not sure exactly what happens when you get over-emotional. I know the woman i eventually wound up marrying had a few bouts when i first met her that comple... (read in full...)
Why do some women get themselves pregnant on purpose?
Q. One of my ex co workers got herself pregnant on purpose. She even told everyone about it. She had a short fling with someone and knew that he didn't want any children. They weren't even in a exclusive relationship. But she lied about what ...
A. 28 March 2011: Ha, speaking as someone whose wife actually used this tactic to finally get me to "commit"... Let's face it.. Some women are very conniving and manipulative...They know what they want, and they will do anything to get it, and damn the consequences... (read in full...)
4 and half years and now we are no longer a couple! Where did the love go?
Q. After four and a half years the love of my life told me that she no longer loves me. She said that she no longer wants to see me or hear from me again. The hardest part to accept of all this is the fact that just days before we were great. Actually ...
A. 28 March 2011: Another thing Mav (apologies for the delay in reply): Don't read too much into the parents and family support. I have two examples that i know of personally where family support meant squat. My sister was really hung up on a guy who had ... (read in full...)
Marrage gone bad, and lost on what to do.......
Q. My Wife and Myself have been together for about a year and a half, at first it seemed like love at first sight, everything was perfect except I could never see her because she was in Foster Care and they didn't let her do much even though she was ...
A. 24 March 2011: I hate to say it, but it does sound like you to jumped into marriage a bit too quickly.
My first impulse is to tell you that you SHOULD just end the relationship. However, the baby does complicate things.
It sounds to me like she may be a bi... (read in full...)
Too scared to have sex because of my penis size!
Q. I'm 17 and my penis is only 3inches long I am sooo scared to have sexual relations because of my size Please I need tips and advice what to do...
A. 24 March 2011: Eh, as the old saying goes: "it's not what you have, it's how you use it."
It's important to know that there's more to women and sex then just "sticking the penis in"... Learn more about foreplay.. The key to a guy being successful at sex is t... (read in full...)
Has my teacher got feelings for me? Or just being nice?
Q. I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point though where I got close to this boy and ...
A. 24 March 2011: I would say it definitely sounds like the teacher has a thing for you... I also think it sounds like it's getting almost unhealthy.
Does your school perhaps have a policy set that prohibits students and teachers from having relation... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my guy friend's games?
Q. my guy friend keeps playing games with me. sometimes he acts like he really likes me and wants to be with me, and other times he just ignores me. my friends and i think he just wants me to make the move first, but now i'm just getting frustrated ...
A. 24 March 2011: I would say take your own advice to heart...Confront him straight up and say "what is going on here? are you interested in me or not?"
He may have his reasons for why he's playing games (for instance, i had a girl obviously interested in me who w... (read in full...)
4 and half years and now we are no longer a couple! Where did the love go?
Q. After four and a half years the love of my life told me that she no longer loves me. She said that she no longer wants to see me or hear from me again. The hardest part to accept of all this is the fact that just days before we were great. Actually ...
A. 24 March 2011: I would have to ask: how old was she?
Says you are between 18-21... 4.5 years implies that you may have been 14-17 at the time..
A lot of maturing can happen in 4.5 years at that age. A lot can change.
That's a LONG time to be together at ... (read in full...)
Is this normal behavior for an ex girlfriend?
Q. My ex girlfriend told me the other night she had a cry because she missed me even though i know she dating someone. I also have had drunken texts saying she missed me in the past. She dumped me and its been about 8 months since we broke up...
A. 24 March 2011: Is it normal???
Eh, there IS no normal when it comes to relationships that have ended.
I would call her on it. Next time it happens, I would text back "What do you want me to do it about that? You dumped me!" and see what she says.... (read in full...)
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