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writes:i'm in love with my best friend. he's gay. i've tried everything but i just can't get over the feelings i have for him. i want to be with him so badly. my friend thinks he has feelings for me too. he says things that make me think he does. should i tell him? do you think it will ruin our friendship? is there any way to be honest and tell him but avoid making things awkward between us?
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reader, freeme +, writes (14 June 2011):
 To add to Aunt_honesty's suggestion, which i agree with, I'd say, also ask him *WHY* he doesn't feel attracted to women. You might get much more info from him that way, and then save yourself the embarrassment of professing your love to him.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Yeah, i would just casually drop the question of whether he would consider getting with a girl.
I'd be awfully careful, though. I've known a couple of girls who have fallen for a gay guy, and none of them have ever succeeded in convincing the guy to 'change teams'.
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 June 2011):
 If he truly is gay, it would mean MEN turn him on. So you professing your love/lust/attraction will only make things weird.
If he is bi.... you might stand a chance.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Well hunny if he is completely gay then I really dont see how this would benefit you by telling him. Yes you probably do feel like he has feelings for you because he probably loves you to bits as a friend and wants you to be a big part of his life, but if you are sure that he is completely gay and doesn't get with females then you are only going to feel more hurt and rejected by him and you probably will feel really awkward with him then.
Try taking it from a different approach talk to him about his sexuality and ask him would he ever get with a girl and if he says yes well then talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. But if he says no the best thing you can do is just accept you will never be with him. Good Luck.
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