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writes:ok i'm 14 goin on 15 and i'm dating a soon to be senior in high school, we've been dating on and off for the last almost year and a half . i have recently been getting really horny around him and he's been getting boners whenever i'm around .first question is it normal that i get horny around him?second question is is it ok for me to loose my virginity to him?third will he dump me after i have given it up to him?
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (14 June 2011):
 Yeah, i don't mean to pry, but when you masturbate is it just with your fingers, or do you have a vibrator?
Look into some sex toys. I know they always seem very TABOO, but every woman i know has at least a vibrator.
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reader, AuBrey Nikkole' +, writes (14 June 2011):
AuBrey Nikkole' is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I masturbate but sometimes that's just not enough for me . . . Any Advice on that ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 June 2011):
 it's normal to get horny!
IF you have to ASK if it's OK to lose your virginity to someone then my take on it is that it's NOT ok. You will KNOW when the right person comes along. Drew is right however that at minimum you need to wait till age of consent in your state (see this for those ages: http://www.webistry.net/jan/consent.html)
IF you wouldn't share with your mom that you are sleeping with him then maybe you are not ready for sex????
as to will he leave you.... only he knows this... but if you worry about that, then I would not be sleeping with him.
Hindisght is 20/20 and my daughter lost her virginity at 15 to a boy she thought she loved and adored.... and later on when they broke up she cried that she had not "saved herself"....
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (14 June 2011):
First question: I would say it's probably very normal to get horny around him. You're dating. That probably implies that you are sexually attracted to him.
It's normal.
Second question: I would check up on age of consent in your state. If you're under that age, then i would say i wouldn't go for it. If you are over that age: then it's really up to you.
I would say, though, that if you have ANY question or reservation about losing your virginity to him, then i would not give it up.
You should feel confident and ready to lose your virginity.
Some people would tell you you should lose it to someone that you really care for, that you feel 100% sure that THIS is the first person you want to have sex with.
I tend to be a bit looser on those rules, simply because that first time is probably going to be completely underwhelming.
However, there are other things you can do to alleviate that horniness. Do you masturbate?
Your third question: It all really depends on the person. You've been together for a year and a half, so it seems like you have a pretty solid relationship. What are his plans after high school? Will he be going to college? I would check into what his future plans are. That may give you a hint as to whether this relationship is a short term or long term affair.
Personally, i think you're awfully young, still, for THIS to be the relationship that is the be-all end-all.
I would just take your relationship one day at a time, and not get too tied down.
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