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How can I learn how to orgasm? Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I have read the other questions related to this on the website but I am still slightly confused. Does a woman have to learn how to orgasm? I am 17 and have never experienced an orgasm, and I'm worried there is something wrong. Other girls I sp...
A. 19 April 2008: Don't worry love, you will, it just takes time and you need to take the pressure off yourself. I would personally advise not even trying to get an orgasm with your man until you've found how to do it for yourself. Then there's no pressure on ... (read in full...)
I pardoned the fact he engaged in sexual talks with women online, but I feel insecure and jealous now, help!
Q. Just before my boyriend left to return to his home country, i found he was talking sexually to women on internet. He begged me to give him another chance, and i dont want to lose him over that...however, im insecure and jealous now and cant trust ...
A. 19 April 2008: You know this man darling. Does he really love you? Do you really love him? Is what's going on here just a fantasy to him? Does he think it doesn't count because the person's not here in real life? Is he Turkish by any chance? I totally ... (read in full...)
How frequent is pregnancy by using the withdrawal method?
Q. Who has actually gotten pregnant while using the pull-out method? I don't mean if he accidentally didn't pull out in time, I mean who has gotten pregnant just from pre-cum? I had a c-section 5 weeks ago and I haven't been bleeding for a few weeks ...
A. 19 April 2008: Hate to sound tough when you're so worried, but the fact that you are so worried means it was never worth the few minutes excitement involved at the time because you are left with the thought of an unwanted pregnancy when you are already very ... (read in full...)
We are both virgins and I'll be very gentle, is this a good way to start?
Q. Hi-me and my girlfriend will be having sex for the 1st time.I'll be very gentle going in.I've heard its best not to stroke too much at 1st but try and wriggle the penis around inside a bit so that my girfriends vagina gets used to it being in and ...
A. 19 April 2008: You sound sensitive and thoughtful, so I'm sure you'll know how to deal with it when the time comes. Just show her how much you care about her comfort and enjoyment and that will show her a great deal about you. Us girls are fine with most things ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New feature, "watched questions" list
Q. I've added a new feature that lets you add questions to your "watched questions" page. It's just an easy way to make a list of questions that interest you and that you want to keep track of. It's easy to remove items from the list or clear it. ...
A. 19 April 2008: So you're British? I don't know why, I thought this was an American site with English visitors. Nice to know a Brit is doing such a good job. Well done you.... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 17 April 2008: Well, I congratulate you for invoking so much interest and for pressing so many buttons !!!! You certainly did a good job there. ... (read in full...)
I want my wife to tell me she loves me more than she loved her dead ex. She mentions him regularly, feeding my obsession...
Q. Hi What should I do? I have been married for 15 years and with my partner for almost 20. Before I met my wife her boyfriend died of cancer at the age of 22, (They were together for about 4 years) I have been obsessing quite a lot recently t...
A. 16 April 2008: And oh boy, you so need to tell her how you feel. Its hard carrying all that obsessing around inside you, it needs to come out. She will probably be very upset to realise she's been a little less than thoughtful in this reagard and be pleased to ... (read in full...)
It haunts me a lot, the idea that my girlfriend has slept with other men...
Q. I still have a problem accepting the fact that my girlfriend has slept with other men. Three others to be exact. Now, I do not judge her for it. It does not change the fact that I love her. It just hurts sometimes, like if I see a picture of one ...
A. 16 April 2008: If she's not seeing or sleeping with them now, why does it bother you. You could have had lots of partners. What could she do about that? Why torture yourself with what she's done before. I'm sure its the further thing from her mind now. She's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does drugs and tells me I need to deal with it!...
Q. So my boyfriend is a very big pothead, and I can't stand smoking weed. I have told him several times how I feel about it and I'm not asking him to stop altogether, I just want him to not do it everyday like he does now. It's senseless and he always ...
A. 16 April 2008: Sorry you're having this problem, especially at your age, but as a mum of a daughter who started on pot quite young I have to tell you its not good news. I also had dealt with alcoholics in my family, of which there are many, so when she started on ... (read in full...)
A question of who should be president?
Q. During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...
A. 16 April 2008: Yeah I know what you're saying there, we all like to think the head of our country is holier than thou - but when you stop and think about it, why do we have the right to demand that those in charge be less than human, have whiter than white ... (read in full...)
I need hugs and help aunts! Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to have forgot...
Q. Its our first wedding anniversary today and my husband has gone to work and seems to of forgot. I feel devastated, am i just over reacting, come on aunts i need hugs and help, what do you think?...
A. 12 April 2008: Have to say my first marriage was veeeeeeery long, and both of us never really made too much of anniversaries, so it was never something I got upset about. Maybe he's the same. But didn't you talk about it a few days ago and ask what you could do ... (read in full...)
How long does it take for women to get over a break up?
Q. How long does it take for women to get over their previous relationship? I recently got dumped after a breif relationship, becuase she doesnt feel ready for one after only breaking up with her ex just under 2months ago?...
A. 12 April 2008: How long is a piece of string? Depends if she was dumped or the dumper too. Hurts far more if you're dumped and you still love them, so takes longer, but if you're the dumper you're ususally glad you're out of it, so not so long. If you like her ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her to calm down a bit until we get to know each other? She's overexcited about us...
Q. I'm preparing to go out on a date with a girl who got divorced 2 years ago and she has a crush on me, and I like her to. She already has two kids, a house and works beside me. Before our first date she is planning for us to be together forever, ...
A. 12 April 2008: Wow, she has you strung up like a chicken honey (lol) scarey stuff !!!! Its fine if you're ready for all that, but sounds like you're not, and men like to do the chasing anyway, they don't want to be organised into doing stuff they're not ready ... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be husband is cheating on me, what should I do?
Q. I'm due to get married soon , but have just found out that my future husband has join a singles web site, and has give out his phone number, and is now having sex txt with this woman,she has also sent him dirty pictures. what should i do ....
A. 12 April 2008: Well I just found out same thing darling. I threw him out straight away. That was 2 weeks ago. Since then we've chatted and I've chatted with guys on here. He still says he doesn't think of these women as real people, they are just a fantasy, ... (read in full...)
I dearly want to rediscover the spark that we had between us in the "honeymoon period" but we're both so busy! How to spice things up a bit?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a girl for almost a year and a half now. We both love each other to bits and we get on so well with each other. We have lots in common with each other and do lots together. I'm 25 and she's 24 however our sex ...
A. 12 April 2008: It's difficult, I know. I have a similar situation really. My husband is sweet, loving and charming, but like you we don't get to see each other very much and when we do we are both tired. But why are we so tired now when we weren't before? ... (read in full...)
My friend's partner treats her miserably but she says she can't leave because she loves him. What could I advise her?
Q. i have a friend who i dearly love as my sister, shes having so much problems in her relationship that i dont know where to begin.. but says she's curious thats hes cheating on her,explains that her partner always comes home from work stays for only ...
A. 12 April 2008: Hmmmm. Tough one, especially with the young baby involved. But what does she love about him? He's not there for her, doesn't give her any time, not interested in her - probably because he knows she's just sitting there with baited breath waiting ... (read in full...)
How often should I call my girlfriend the days I can't see her?
Q. After seeing my counsellor I realise now the only problem in my life is women. I have been on 3 dates in my entire life, longest relationship lasted 5 weeks. I now know it is because of low communication (i.e. when I didn't see her I would only send ...
A. 12 April 2008: How often do you feel like calling her in a day? Its all down to that. You just do what you feel. If you feel like calling her 10 times a day and she really fancies you she'll be thrilled, but if she doesn't she won't respond, so you'll soon ... (read in full...)
I dream about my (older) ex, feeling lonely and empty as people my age are not as interested. Should I forget my ex? (parents disagreed to the relation)
Q. ok, about 6 months ago i was in a relationship with a 25 yr old guy when i was 15. we didnt do anything sexual or anyhting stupid, huggin and kissing was it. anyway my parents found out and now wer arent allowed to have contact with each otha at ...
A. 12 April 2008: Well, I know its tough, cus doesn't matter what age you are, it hurts like hell when you lose the one you love, but I think you need to find some interests where you will meet people of all ages - say salsa classes, bowling for a team, things like ... (read in full...)
Due to give birth to my first baby soon--what will it be like?
Q. Hi Im due to have my baby on the 21st of april but i am really scared about what my babys birth is going to be like? does it really hurt that much? its my first baby and im worried i ask the doctors but they use long words and my dr is a guy so he ...
A. 12 April 2008: Don't worry hun, how you're feeling is sooooo normal. The bigger I got, the more I wondered how that thing was gonna get out, by the end I was very scared. BUT, no one can really say how it will be for you cus we're all different. Some people do ... (read in full...)
I'm miffed over my spouse calling a former co-worker! How do I get over it?
Q. I would like to know what this means? When your spouse calls someone they barely know from a former job, because their fiancee had just up and left one day, and they felt really bad for them, so they called them up to ask if everything was allright. ...
A. 12 April 2008: PS How many people want to scream at that ad for 'Extra Marital Dating' right below your question. As if people need help, they already get up to enough as it is !!!... (read in full...)
I'm miffed over my spouse calling a former co-worker! How do I get over it?
Q. I would like to know what this means? When your spouse calls someone they barely know from a former job, because their fiancee had just up and left one day, and they felt really bad for them, so they called them up to ask if everything was allright. ...
A. 12 April 2008: Hmmmm, sticky one. Why does it bother you so much? Have you reason to be suspicious of him or is it just your insecurity? How do you know he called her? Surely if he told you then he's being upfront and honest and I'd say you have nothing to fear, ... (read in full...)
Is getting intimate with a guy important? Does this make you close?
Q. is getting physically intimate with a guy important to get close to him?...
A. 12 April 2008: Really I think it depends how long you've known him for. Some girls make the mistake of getting tooclose too quick and men don't respect you for that, but neither will they appreciate it if you're a cold fish. Guess its about what you feel ... (read in full...)
What is going on? Is he cheating?
Q. About 4 months ago I was checking his phone for someone's phone number and noticed a message. I checked his messages and it was a women that he works with telling him that she missed him and wants him to come visit her again. She ended the message ...
A. 11 April 2008: My ex used to tell me I was crazy too when I knew he was having an affair. He was always so happy monday to friday cos he worked with her, then come the weekend he was a pig to me and the kids, right up till sunday night and then he'd be happy ... (read in full...)
What is going on? Is he cheating?
Q. About 4 months ago I was checking his phone for someone's phone number and noticed a message. I checked his messages and it was a women that he works with telling him that she missed him and wants him to come visit her again. She ended the message ...
A. 11 April 2008: As ever, its the deceipt and dishonesty that is the problem here. If it was nothing why not be open about it? Why not include you in it? Strange your sons never mentioned it. Having said that, a friend of mine had her husband bring HOME the lady ... (read in full...)
I discovered an e-mail my husband sent to a prostitute. He's agreed to a date in a hotel!!
Q. I have been married for 10 years. My husband has been loving and respectful. He has been working in the Middle east for the last 6 months, and I have seen him about once a month. But about a month ago, on the last visit home, something about his ...
A. 11 April 2008: I know how this one feels. My husband has been cheating on the internet, nothing physical, but the pain is fairly much the same, and at the moment I too am snooping in his e mails. I feel like the lowest dog for doing it, but like you, I need to ... (read in full...)
What is lying?
Q. Just a quick question for everyone, in your opinions does not saying anything (and letting the other person assume – whilst not telling them the truth but also not lying) constitute as lying?...
A. 11 April 2008: It's deception, and deception is the same to me as lying. Its falsifying, not telling the whole story possibly to manipulate, hoping the other person won't find out. I've just been deceived myuself, so I know this to be true. And it hurts. Best ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair with a married man and his wife has thanked me for changing him!!!!
Q. I have been involved with a married man for 2.5 years. I'm divorced for 1.5 years. my husband cheated on me and he used to hit me. he just never cared for my opinion. he spent most of our 8yrs of marriage in front of a computer and a dead end MLM ...
A. 11 April 2008: I just read your rewrite, and if she's saying she's worked too hard in the marriage to let him go, why are you bothering? If he really wanted out he would go, he really would. So you're wasting your life here. Theres someone better out there for ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy in love and want him back!
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently had my boyfriend break up with me, but I know it was for the better. He explained to me that we entered this relationship at the wrong time. We know we love each other and he said that even if we didnt get back together he...
A. 10 April 2008: PS I also know sometimes we have to go back, especially if there is any doubt at all, to finish the thing properly. It will happen, you will one day really feel you can't do this anymore, and it will be without all the heartache and pain. I know, ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy in love and want him back!
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently had my boyfriend break up with me, but I know it was for the better. He explained to me that we entered this relationship at the wrong time. We know we love each other and he said that even if we didnt get back together he...
A. 10 April 2008: Its tough hun, I'm in the same place myself. Just split with my husband a week ago and missing him like mad - sometimes, and others relieved I don't have the hassle. But yes, it hurts. I've been trying to focus on what I need to do next and put ... (read in full...)
Size does matter!! Don't lie to me....can I satisfy her or not?
Q. okay, im a guy with a 5.3 or 5.4 penis, now, no matter how much i read online that "size does not matter" and "its how you use it", ive come to realize its bullshit now, im 20 years old and every one of my friends has had sex at least 4 times, b...
A. 10 April 2008: Helllllllo young man. Now listen here. This is the God's honest truth. I had a few partners in my time. Most of them average size. My husband of 30 years was more than normal, but what does that mean when you don't want sex? (Him not me) !!! ... (read in full...)
My guy met 2 girls at the same time and dated us both. He chose her and broke my heart. Why is he contacting me now though?
Q. hi there - reallly needing some advice! met a man on an online dating website. We went out for three months - not long some might say but we saw each other every weekend even though he has a son from a previous relationship (which broke up 2.5 years ...
A. 10 April 2008: Men just love it when you don't chase them, so if you stopped all contact he would find that interesting. Theres a great book called 'the Rules' explains all of it. The longer you don't respond the more he will want you, but chances are when he's ... (read in full...)
My Dad is mean and abusive and I don't want to live with him anymore. What should I do?
Q. hello, i have a question to ask, iam a 28 year old woman still living at home with my parents we dont live in our country. Unfortunately my dad is not really good to live with, he is a liar when you get into an arguement with him he twists your w...
A. 10 April 2008: Run as fast as you can Honey. Get all the help and support you can to get away from this monster. Your self-esteem is already at rock bottom, and that makes it tougher, but you had the guts to write on here, so follow it through. You can do it, ... (read in full...)
How can I tell a stranger her husband is a cheating rat?
Q. I'm kinda new to my area and a few doors down is a married couple, thing is i no her husband is cheating on her, and of what i have seen its been going on for while, they are out together during the day, he comes home at 5,6 in the morning, she ...
A. 10 April 2008: I totally understand your predicament, and it would hurt you more as you know how it feels........... but, for one thing, she may hate you for telling her, she's not the same person you are and you don't know how she'll react, for another quite ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone if you've cheated on them?
Q. Can you love someone if you've cheated on them??? Will the relationship work out??? Well see I cheated on my newest boyfriend with my ex-boyfriend.I'm in love with my ex but i love my boyfriend.He's the best thing boyfriend I've had in like ...
A. 10 April 2008: Oooh I wish you could answer that one for me!!!! I'm in the other persons shoes. My husband has been playing on the internet, giving out his phone number and receiving texts from different girls, to which he responded and then went on line and had ... (read in full...)
Anything wrong with a 19 year old male dating 26 year old woman?
Q. Hello! I was wondering, is there anything technically wrong with a 19 year old male dating a 26 year old female.. with two twin kids? Maybe it's just a crush, but I believe I'm pretty into her. Obviously older men date younger girls, b...
A. 8 April 2008: I don't think you have a problem at all. My partner is much younger than me, but we have the same values, and thats what is important. He is very mature for his age too, and has no desire to do many of the things people of his own age do. But, ... (read in full...)
I just can't help but want to ask her out again?
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me just over 2 months ago because she said the relationship was too hard, and them affectionate feelings wasnt there anymore, even though she still loved and cared for me. We didnt speak for 2 weeks when she contact...
A. 8 April 2008: This one is so tough. I'm in the same place. I've just split up with my husband a week ago. The first week was full of doing all the practical things I had to do to keep my life in order, but now those have subsided I'm missing him like hell, ... (read in full...)
30 yr age difference?!! What do you think?
Q. I fell in love with an older man. Considerably older- about 30 years older than me. Legalities are not an issue, but I'm having problems with the age difference. I've been in love with him for years, but I'm just now coming to the point that I can ...
A. 7 April 2008: I've no idea what will happen to us at the moment. My sel-esteem has gone down and down as he takes an interest in younger women but tells me has no need for one. What is the truth there? It hurts. As for him dying before you, you have no idea ... (read in full...)
30 yr age difference?!! What do you think?
Q. I fell in love with an older man. Considerably older- about 30 years older than me. Legalities are not an issue, but I'm having problems with the age difference. I've been in love with him for years, but I'm just now coming to the point that I can ...
A. 6 April 2008: Hi, well pleased to meet you. I am in a relationship with a man 28 years younger than me!!! When we met he thought I was 40 and I thought he was 40 too. Fact was he was 10 years younger and I was 14 years older, but the attraction was there. I ... (read in full...)
He promised he would come back to me after things ended badly....am I headed for a fall?
Q. Hi, my ex and i are recently reconciled after 3 years apart. It's just friends at the moment, but i suspect he wants to try again, as i think i might do too, but i know that if i make the decision, i have to stick by it. But i don't know if what i ...
A. 6 April 2008: Hi - Phew !!!! What a confused girl you are. Don't worry thats not a criticism, I'm very confused myself at the moment, thats why I can empathise with you. From what I can see here your No 2 ex is a really decent guy. You've listed all the reasons ... (read in full...)
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