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Having a partner is not everything but I don't really want to spend the rest of my life on my own, any helpful advice would be so appreciated
Q. I split up from my partner in september because he cheated on me, it was the most painful time, emotionally and financially, i,m now starting to get on my feet at last and i can tell you, it hasn't been easy as i did love him to bits and i thought ...
A. 30 October 2009: So pleased for you. You see when you go for the one who isn't your'type' how much better it turns out to be. I tell my daughters now that when they see a man they know is their type - run. Cus it means they are just gonna go round and round in ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 3 April 2009: This answer is soooo long overdue, but I haven't been on here for some time. You are so right - it is like a drug - we want to go back and back for more - its a very hard pattern to break. We only see the good in them, not the pain and abuse they ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 14 October 2008: Wow!!!! Justice was done!!! You got the whole kitkaboodle there kid - I'm so pleased for you. It must be so good knowing he got what he deserved and that you and the other girl have saved so many other young girls from this treatment by being so ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 6 September 2008: You go girl !!!! Luvya too xxxx... (read in full...)
I suspect he is cheating; but why would he then still want to hang out with me without being intimate and why would he talk about our future?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site about four months ago. After seeing each other for awhile, we also became intimate. I usually went to his place every other day and stayed over. We usually watched movies together; had dinner; had great sex; etc. I am ...
A. 31 August 2008: Well same old chestnut honey. Men always want what they can't have. They love the chase and the challenge, so when you disappear they get interested all over again, then you go through the dumping, or being dumped all over again. Read 'The Rules' ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 31 August 2008: Oh darling!!! I'm so happy for you. What a mature girl you are to have grown so much from this experience too. I'm so happy things turned out the way they did. You'll be able to help others now when they have this kind of problem, and I know you ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 17 August 2008: Bless you Older Sister xx... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 17 August 2008: You're on the road Baby Duck. Well done. It is a hard road. We are so desperate for the love we never got somewhere along the line, and we're looking for someone outside of ourselves to give it to us. Its normal, its natural - we missed out big ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 17 August 2008: For the Moderator - Don't think I was rude in any way, just gave my honest opinion. Knew the reaction would come though and thats why I said I won't say any more. And I won't. Best wishes to all involved, its not my life anyway.... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 17 August 2008: Nothing is wasted honey. You can go on to help others see the light just like you did - in time. Work on yourself first. You deserve a better life xx... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 14 August 2008: Hate to be the party pooper here, but I feel so sorry for your husband. How would you think he feels now? You two have something to share that he is totally not involved in. I hate to say it, but I think its really selfish of you. You want your ... (read in full...)
I suspect he is cheating; but why would he then still want to hang out with me without being intimate and why would he talk about our future?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site about four months ago. After seeing each other for awhile, we also became intimate. I usually went to his place every other day and stayed over. We usually watched movies together; had dinner; had great sex; etc. I am ...
A. 14 August 2008: Well the universe ALWAYS shows us whats going on, we never really have to look too hard, it just drops right in front of our eyes. Sometimes I wonder why we worry cus everything is always brought to us at the right time and space. So....... you ... (read in full...)
I suffer from depression and anxiety, what can I do to make him want to support me again and not just see me as a burden?
Q. I suffer from depression and anxiety. I regularly talk to my boyfriend and he has been supportive although he does not completley understand. Latley i feel that he is becoming frustrated with my constant " need to talk things through" We are both...
A. 12 August 2008: Glad I was some help to you darling. Like I said, I know its not easy. That condition is shit, but there are ways you can help yourself. Go ahead, read those books its a great way to start. You see what you will realise eventually is that it ... (read in full...)
Why do my boyfriends always stop calling and leave me?
Q. I am a very hardworking and independent lady. I always go out of my way for my boyfriends. The main thing is every thing seems fine and then all of a sudden ,they just stop calling. I'm not sure why because they never say why. I really need to get ...
A. 11 August 2008: Oooh I could really get into this one Saleem, but I'll leave it there. I respect your opinion and don't have the right to try to change that. It would be dull if we were all the same anyways. Thanks for your opinion, it makes the world go round. ... (read in full...)
We want children although we are teen children ourselves, is this wrong?
Q. is it wrong that me and my fiance are happy that she is almost definitely pregnant when she is 17 and i just turned 18? We are all the other has and are teen children ourselves. we have been together for a year now and were very close friends ...
A. 11 August 2008: Oh bless you hun. No, you weren't lying to yourself. You sound very responsible people and I wish you all every happiness with your new little life. Just cus you're young, don't mean you can't be great parents. My brother had his first at 19, ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 11 August 2008: Aaaaah wel done you. I'm so happy now. You didn't deserve to punish yourself further by being isolated with this. Now you have the right people giving you the right love and support, and thats what you do deserve. I know thats not the end of it, ... (read in full...)
I suspect he is cheating; but why would he then still want to hang out with me without being intimate and why would he talk about our future?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site about four months ago. After seeing each other for awhile, we also became intimate. I usually went to his place every other day and stayed over. We usually watched movies together; had dinner; had great sex; etc. I am ...
A. 11 August 2008: Well it doesn't seem to be doing your self-esteem any good waiting around for him, so why not forget him for the time being, keep him in a little box at the back of your mind, then get on and make yourself happy in whatever way you choose. Then if ... (read in full...)
His girlfriend is prioritised everytime, and it shows little regard for his mates.
Q. I have this problem with people flaking on me. Especially, when it comes to their boyfriends/girlfriends wanting to meet them last minute. For instance, I arranged to meet up with my mate Sam, this is after a long speech where he made it clear how ...
A. 10 August 2008: Cupidguy I think you're wrong too. I don't think your friends disappear when you grow up. Some of them stay around a very long time - I'm 58 and still have one friend from when I was 19 and she's in Australia now!!!! Was a good excuse to visit Oz! ... (read in full...)
Why do my boyfriends always stop calling and leave me?
Q. I am a very hardworking and independent lady. I always go out of my way for my boyfriends. The main thing is every thing seems fine and then all of a sudden ,they just stop calling. I'm not sure why because they never say why. I really need to get ...
A. 10 August 2008: P.S. I forgot to add they will also be happy to let you into every part of their lives, along with allowing you to be your own person and live your own life. Its not about shutting you out of their lives, its about them respecting you have a life ... (read in full...)
Why do my boyfriends always stop calling and leave me?
Q. I am a very hardworking and independent lady. I always go out of my way for my boyfriends. The main thing is every thing seems fine and then all of a sudden ,they just stop calling. I'm not sure why because they never say why. I really need to get ...
A. 10 August 2008: Sorry Saleem but I don't agree with you at all. It takes a lot of maturity from a guy to be happy with you being perfectly yourself and not want to try to own or change that. As for your sentence about 'being their life', pow, I'm old and wise ... (read in full...)
His girlfriend is prioritised everytime, and it shows little regard for his mates.
Q. I have this problem with people flaking on me. Especially, when it comes to their boyfriends/girlfriends wanting to meet them last minute. For instance, I arranged to meet up with my mate Sam, this is after a long speech where he made it clear how ...
A. 10 August 2008: It is a tough one this one cus I suspect very soon when you have a permanent girl friend you may find yourself with the same dilemma. Right now you can say you'd never do that to your mates, but trust me when the call of love strikes, its very hard ... (read in full...)
Old age, love and incest, is that so wrong?
Q. Hello...My name is Leonard I am 80 years old been carrying on a relationship with my 66 year old married sister. I to am married, but we're in love. We have had sex together and will more, when we can. We both are in unhappy marrages and we live far...
A. 10 August 2008: Well Leonard if you don't know by the age of 80 you never will !!!! This is a real wierd one for me. I had to read it again to see that you really did say you had sex with your sister. At first I thought you meant sister in law. Well what can we ... (read in full...)
I suffer from depression and anxiety, what can I do to make him want to support me again and not just see me as a burden?
Q. I suffer from depression and anxiety. I regularly talk to my boyfriend and he has been supportive although he does not completley understand. Latley i feel that he is becoming frustrated with my constant " need to talk things through" We are both...
A. 10 August 2008: Well you answered all your own questions right there honey really. You know you're driving him away. This is your problem, not his. Why do you want him to support you, why should he? He's your boyfriend, not your carer. He wants to be with ... (read in full...)
I suspect he is cheating; but why would he then still want to hang out with me without being intimate and why would he talk about our future?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site about four months ago. After seeing each other for awhile, we also became intimate. I usually went to his place every other day and stayed over. We usually watched movies together; had dinner; had great sex; etc. I am ...
A. 10 August 2008: This is a sticky one. Those sites can be innocent but can also be very tricky too. Why is he chasing other girls so hard when he has you? I know boredom and lack of work is a great problem and boredom leads people to go seeking things they ... (read in full...)
We want children although we are teen children ourselves, is this wrong?
Q. is it wrong that me and my fiance are happy that she is almost definitely pregnant when she is 17 and i just turned 18? We are all the other has and are teen children ourselves. we have been together for a year now and were very close friends ...
A. 10 August 2008: No darling its not wrong at all. It is a time when the thought of having a child is very romantic - I remember it well myself, but unfortunately the reality requres a great deal more support and effort than the romantic version seems to understand. ... (read in full...)
My friend-with-benefits said he doesn't have feelings for me. Is it just that he doesn't want to tell me?
Q. This guy and I have had a friends with benefits relationship for the past 6 months, and he said that he didn't really want to hookup anymore, and that he still loved his ex (He has had feelings for his ex the entire time we've been together. He's ...
A. 10 August 2008: I love your term friends with benefits - how polite - over here we call it fuck friends (lol), sorry, just a culture difference that made me smile. Sorry love but these whatever you call them relationships never last long. The guys really do just ... (read in full...)
Why do my boyfriends always stop calling and leave me?
Q. I am a very hardworking and independent lady. I always go out of my way for my boyfriends. The main thing is every thing seems fine and then all of a sudden ,they just stop calling. I'm not sure why because they never say why. I really need to get ...
A. 10 August 2008: Hello darling. There is an excellent book called 'The Rules' by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider - it tells all about relationships and where we go wrong us girls. For me the big clue is in your sentence 'I always go out of my way for my ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 10 August 2008: Aaah darling, so pleased you are moving forward. Your reply is so much more positive and I know you'll be ok. What a great mum. You know she'll be in for that night time hug - she'll do anything for you, she'll be there 24/7, and she'll deal with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets wet when he's horny. It makes giving him oral unpleasant. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend gets really really wet when he gets horny, almost like girls. he loves receiving head but it kinda makes me sick doing it when he gets wet in my mouth? what do i do? ...
A. 7 August 2008: Hmmmm. Hate to be the old granny here but though I can see oral sex with a condom on is not much fun, you do also have to remember that unless he's been tested for any sexual diseases, you could be just getting a mouthful. Now before all you guys ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 7 August 2008: Oh my dear sweet child. How I so want to give you a hug. This is so bad for you. You really do need help - and fast. Its great you told your boyfriend, but you really must get help darling. Go to your Doctor immediately and tell him your ... (read in full...)
Should we have a threesome with this girl??
Q. My wife and I recently went through a "rough" patch in our marriage, she basically was on the verge of leaving me because of my depression and generally feeling sorry for myself. That's all sorted out now, I'm walking on air and we are better than ...
A. 7 August 2008: Well if she's a good friend, good baby sitter, etc and you want to keep those things in place, then I would stop messing around with fire. But if you can get reliable baby sitters easy and you have plenty of friends, then go ahead, none of you are ... (read in full...)
Questions about bikini waxes....
Q. This isn't really a love or relationship question but I thought you might be able to offer advice anyway. I'm off for a normal bikini wax next week and I was wondering how much would be taken off?? Also, how long before the hair starts growing b...
A. 7 August 2008: Well they will take off as much as YOU want - its your body after all. And that will last till your holiday is over, sometimes a lot longer, but I'm not a fan of it - you need to hang on to your hat when you have it done cus unless they changed it ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 7 August 2008: Don't worry darling, you're not alone - how do you think we know the answers? Yes, that book was a lot of help to me. I had a very emotionally detached father (alcoholic) and then married an emotionally detached man (sexually abused as a child) ... (read in full...)
Is it better to be loved and not wanted or desired?
Q. My original question, just notating it here,since i now have an account: Question: Is it a good thing to have a man who loves you but does not always want you? I am a newly wed woman, married for just one year. ...
A. 6 August 2008: Whatever the question means doesn't really matter, you aren't happy and that does matter. Have you tried speaking about this? Have things changed since you wed or did you just think they would? If he was like this before he won't change now, but ... (read in full...)
I moved to another country to be with him, now I'm pregnant with no job and no friends and he is too predictable: no quality time together! Help!
Q. Three years ago I fell deeply in love with a guy I found most attractive. The feelings were mutual and we moved in together 12 weeks later. Life was good. I was happy and he was too. The sex was great and everything was fabulous. However, things ...
A. 6 August 2008: How about start making a life for yourself? I know you're pregnant and may be dependent on him, but you can still go out there and meet people, have fun and live a little. By taking some small steps to make yourself happy, you may see you are not ... (read in full...)
He wants to meet up for sex, and I do too, but how can I be sure he's not a psycho?
Q. I think I already know the answer to this one, because of what my friends have said - but I need a second opinion. I recently met a guy online through our blogs and we've been emailing quite frequently. He's suggesting that we meet up for sex,...
A. 6 August 2008: The fact that you already have doubts shows me that your instinct is telling you to keep away. We don't have these feelings for nothing. If only we listened to them we wouldn't get in half the trouble we do. It isn't a safe thing to do. You know ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 6 August 2008: Hello darling. Unfortunately I see the problem is as much yours as theirs. Its called co-dependency. You need them to need you. Thier coldness is a challenge to you, probably from some past childhood relationship, and you have the need to get ... (read in full...)
Can love really heal emotionally distant men? Why do I have a tendence to be attracted to them?
Q. I just( realize something about myself. I fall for emotionally distant men. I am so attracted to the one that are hurting inside. I notice a pattern. I think my love for them will "help" them ease their pain. So I had flings with 2 of them th...
A. 6 August 2008: Hello darling. Unfortunately I see the problem is as much yours as theirs. Its called co-dependency. You need them to need you. Thier coldness is a challenge to you, probably from some past childhood relationship, and you have the need to get ... (read in full...)
What is your take on couples taking a break? I want to experiment more before I settle with him!
Q. I'm eighteen and my boyfriend of a year and a half is twenty. we are very in love and he really is the guy i want to marry. the problem is, he is my first relationship whereas i'm his fourth, and i just feel like i wish i had partied a little ...
A. 6 August 2008: Yes, yes, yes !!!!!! The fact that this is in your head means you really need to go out there and do it, or you may find yourself settled down with someone you'll spend the rest of your life with - and then live to regret it. I met my ex when I was ... (read in full...)
Known him for 2 weeks - is it too soon for a visit to his town??
Q. Hello everyone.. i have a question, and my friends are giving different answers, would be good to get some objective views! On a previous post, i mentioned my failing relationship. Well, it failed. To be honest, when it ended, i was devastated, but ...
A. 13 July 2008: You are so naughty WD - you make me laugh so much. Sorry everyone its my code for q1605 or whatever he calls himself./ He's just WD to me. ... (read in full...)
I have a real problem with trying to talk to him about things...
Q. My boyfriend and i always argue and the other night we had a blazing row, i said i didnt want to argue again and we've agreed to take some steps to try and prevent arguments.. anyway its made me think he doesnt love me like he used to (or he loves ...
A. 13 July 2008: Well, at least you know the truth now. You're not imagining it, he's told you straight out. So it depends on what YOU want. Do you want to be his sister, or do you want someone who really loves you and can fulfill your needs in every respect, or ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 27 June 2008: Well hope it lasts. Your hsuband is being magnanimous in accepting the situation. I hope he gets the reward he deserves for that and I hope when the babies start to arrive he can cope with that too. I hope you all continue to grow as people for ... (read in full...)
How to extinquish the affection for a married woman..any advice?
Q. What makes a man want to have the affection of another woman when has been married for years? How can the urge be extinguished? Is it really that bad if there is no sex involved? ...
A. 17 June 2008: Well I really like justgirls reply, I think thats the best and most mature way to handle the situation - but I'd bet you any money you like you hit the nail right bang on the head when you said she's unhappy about her weight and she's grumpy all the ... (read in full...)
caught my boyfriend of two years cruising for sex at an adult book store. Plese advise!!
Q. Last week I was coming home late from work, when I noticed my boyfriend's car parked outside an Adult Book Store- I knew immediately he was cruising for sex. I waited outside the store, and noticed him circling around the building looking for sex. ...
A. 17 June 2008: Whatever the gender is, the problem is still the same, and I would still give the same answer. I know the test thing is a great worry as the time span is so long, but that time will soon pass and in the meantime you'll be getting your life sorted ... (read in full...)
Hey Guys! How come you disappear after a few dates?!
Q. This is a question for all the men. Why do you guys disappear? Like, after a few dates, few phone calls, emails..then, just vanish into thin air? for all the baffled women out there, whats up guys? ...
A. 16 June 2008: Nice to hear a mans point on The Rules. Seemed to wrok for me, and I did it without even realising - my daughter bought me the book, and I was already in a relationship with the man who is now my husband. I was very unsure of having any ... (read in full...)
caught my boyfriend of two years cruising for sex at an adult book store. Plese advise!!
Q. Last week I was coming home late from work, when I noticed my boyfriend's car parked outside an Adult Book Store- I knew immediately he was cruising for sex. I waited outside the store, and noticed him circling around the building looking for sex. ...
A. 16 June 2008: Sorry to say hun but a list of conditions won't and can't change his needs. He obviously has the need for bi sexual relationships, and he will get that any way he can. He may even be addicted. I threw my man out for messing about on the internet, ... (read in full...)
How to extinquish the affection for a married woman..any advice?
Q. What makes a man want to have the affection of another woman when has been married for years? How can the urge be extinguished? Is it really that bad if there is no sex involved? ...
A. 16 June 2008: Well personally, I don't feel infidelity comes with the sexual act. I think you can be far more involved with someone emotionally - in that you think about them al the time, want to be with them, spend time with them but not having sex, and yet ... (read in full...)
AI have huge jealousy issues...is it me or the way he behaves?
Q. I am a 21 y.o woman and have been with my partner for 7 months. We were best friends years before we got together. I have a jealousy problem anytime we go out i feel like i have to watch where he is looking an if i see him look at another women i ...
A. 16 June 2008: I can feel the panic inside you at the moment. Don't worry darling. You're not alone in this. Us girls - well most of us - don't get the porn stuff and the need for that extra bit of excitement or thrill the men find in this stuff - BUT its not a ... (read in full...)
Hey Guys! How come you disappear after a few dates?!
Q. This is a question for all the men. Why do you guys disappear? Like, after a few dates, few phone calls, emails..then, just vanish into thin air? for all the baffled women out there, whats up guys? ...
A. 16 June 2008: Try reading The Rules hun, it gives a lot of answers to al this stuff. Its by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. Be great to hear what the guys say though. ... (read in full...)
My husband is very insentive when it comes to love-making... I'm only 50 but feel I'd be better living alone than like this!
Q. I am so embaressed and have no one to go to for advice. Maybe someone here can help? I am going through menopause and lately trying to have sex is really painful. I have read what I could on this and tried to relay the info to my husband. I explaine...
A. 16 June 2008: Oh well done you!!!! You had it there all along, just needed a little kick start to sort it out. Great!! And I love the fact that you put a time limit on it too, so that way you won't let it slide back into oblivion and carry on the miserable life ... (read in full...)
What do the females think about men who complain about not having enough sex ?
Q. What do the females think about men who complain about not having enough sex and their wives not being adventurous enough to indulge in new things? How can a man change your actions on this? Is this a permanent situation or can a different approa...
A. 13 June 2008: I love your honesty Dudel. Bless you. At least you are willing to learn. That can only be good for your partner. Well done you!!!!... (read in full...)
What are these "bumps" on her vagina?
Q. my question is pretty major. My Girl Friend doesnt want to have sex because she has bumps on her vagina, ive seen it myself. they are almost like pimples, but only occur on the surface and are nowhere by the "inside" of her vagina...do you guys have ...
A. 13 June 2008: She's far too young to be having sex anyway. Is there no law in your country? Its illegal over here - and for good reason too. Stop and think about what you're doing. Theres plenty of time. ... (read in full...)
Known him for 2 weeks - is it too soon for a visit to his town??
Q. Hello everyone.. i have a question, and my friends are giving different answers, would be good to get some objective views! On a previous post, i mentioned my failing relationship. Well, it failed. To be honest, when it ended, i was devastated, but ...
A. 13 June 2008: I think you're jumping in deep here. A weekend and overnight stay is a long time if you hate the sight of each other - much better to plan a meeting and make it clear that you only have a couple of hours to spare, then end the meeting when you said ... (read in full...)
Having a partner is not everything but I don't really want to spend the rest of my life on my own, any helpful advice would be so appreciated
Q. I split up from my partner in september because he cheated on me, it was the most painful time, emotionally and financially, i,m now starting to get on my feet at last and i can tell you, it hasn't been easy as i did love him to bits and i thought ...
A. 13 June 2008: Its a wierd one. There are lots of ways to look at this. You could be in a relationship and not be happy. You could still feel very alone. Just because we see people holding hands and walking along together, doesn't mean everything is ... (read in full...)
We have no sex life!! What should I do?
Q. I am 29 and have been with my gf 29 for almost 2 years in the first 6 months ourt sex life was brilliant and she couldn't get enough of me then almost what seemed immediately it dropped from once every other day too once a month if I was lucky and ...
A. 13 June 2008: Does she feel pressured? Is it that she feels she can't have a cuddle without full blown sex, so she is keeping her distance because she doesn't want to be just sex to you - not saying she is, but maybe thats how she sees it. How about just giving ... (read in full...)
Should I get out of this habit of having sex with my sexpartner?
Q. its me!! earlier i've told yall about the guy i love is getting married. Now he's not the babymomma got mad because he don't spend enough time with her. So she leaves and go back to her town for days and take the son with her.(she has her ass on her ...
A. 13 June 2008: Well lucky her - getting to marry a cheating rat like that - what a catch!!!!!!! And a s for you, sorry to sound harsh - but he's not just your sex partner, you're in love with him, so stop kidding yourself. Us girls love to pretend we are like men ... (read in full...)
What do the females think about men who complain about not having enough sex ?
Q. What do the females think about men who complain about not having enough sex and their wives not being adventurous enough to indulge in new things? How can a man change your actions on this? Is this a permanent situation or can a different approa...
A. 13 June 2008: Well I can't speak for ALL the females, but it depends on how you say these things you know. If you make your wife a nice meal, or take her out somewhere nice - even for a walk in the park - then you give her a nice warm hug and speak charmingly ... (read in full...)
My husband is very insentive when it comes to love-making... I'm only 50 but feel I'd be better living alone than like this!
Q. I am so embaressed and have no one to go to for advice. Maybe someone here can help? I am going through menopause and lately trying to have sex is really painful. I have read what I could on this and tried to relay the info to my husband. I explaine...
A. 13 June 2008: Its very sad when this happens, and unfortuantely it usually gets worse. I think dudel and his male response is great, its so honest - and us girls just don't get men when they behave like this. So then we get on with 'chop his nuts off' and all ... (read in full...)
Am I just being pathetic to be jealous when he says 'we' in referance to his ex?
Q. Is it wrong to feel annoyed if your boyfriend of 10 months (serious relationship, living together) says things like "us" and "we" regarding his ex wife. Let me explain. He left his ex-wife over 11 years ago. They have a boy aged 12. He needs a l...
A. 13 June 2008: Hate to say it hun but I think you are getting upset over nothing. If you take on a partner with a child you have a lot of stuff to deal with and you have to be mature and secure if you are to deal with it, or find yourself without that baggage. ... (read in full...)
I'm only with my wife for the sake of my children. I don't want to hurt anyone, but...
Q. Hi everyone, I have a big issue in my life right now, I am 45 years old and have been married for 15 years and have 2 wonderful teenage daughters, the thing is i no longer love my wife and we do not get on at all, i have stayed in the family home ...
A. 13 June 2008: Wow you are so brave to come back and write that. So sorry you learned such a hard lesson, but happy that you did learn it. You will survive this and go on to do whatever is in store for you. I wish more people in extra marital relationships ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 5 June 2008: I think you love your husband but your not in love with him. Happens all the time. He knows that. If we can see the fascination with the new man - then believe it - so can he, thats why he's so insecure. If it were equal feelings he wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
I have a real problem with trying to talk to him about things...
Q. My boyfriend and i always argue and the other night we had a blazing row, i said i didnt want to argue again and we've agreed to take some steps to try and prevent arguments.. anyway its made me think he doesnt love me like he used to (or he loves ...
A. 3 June 2008: I think you should send the text. It came straight from the heart and men like it when we speak from the heart. Try it, you have nothing to lose, cus if he doesn't want to know then theres your answer. Its better than being in the limbo land ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 3 June 2008: Really don't want to get into this one any more - wow you lot are really knocking spots off each other, its so fascinating how a subject raises so many issues, but then thats what good debate does - but just have to add something here. In every ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 27 May 2008: Well you're giving me the answers love, so you know what you're doing, don't you? What more can we say? Good luck.... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 26 May 2008: Oh boy, you really are asking a lot of no. 1 in that case. Poor bloke has been around for 30 years, and then suddenly you bring in a young buck, with a bigger dick and you obviously like that and he's expected to roll over and be happy? Come on ... (read in full...)
I'm only with my wife for the sake of my children. I don't want to hurt anyone, but...
Q. Hi everyone, I have a big issue in my life right now, I am 45 years old and have been married for 15 years and have 2 wonderful teenage daughters, the thing is i no longer love my wife and we do not get on at all, i have stayed in the family home ...
A. 26 May 2008: \\its too late for regrets now, you already done it. Can't go backwards in time I'm afraid. She made her own choices too, so you can't be blamed for that. Your first responsibility is to the family you already have. Like I said before, get that ... (read in full...)
Problems in my polyamorous relationship with one partner. I need advice.
Q. Hi can anyone help me? Im in a polyamory relationship, but my one partner is driving me to dispair. He thinks that because i were with him 1st he should take priority over my other lover. His jelousy is pushing us apart not bringing us clos...
A. 25 May 2008: Doesn't sound as though this is working out too well does it? You have to be veeeeeeery secure in yourself to be able to cope with having a relationship where 3 or more people are involved. Doesn't sound like no l is that secure. So you have to ... (read in full...)
I'm only with my wife for the sake of my children. I don't want to hurt anyone, but...
Q. Hi everyone, I have a big issue in my life right now, I am 45 years old and have been married for 15 years and have 2 wonderful teenage daughters, the thing is i no longer love my wife and we do not get on at all, i have stayed in the family home ...
A. 25 May 2008: Hmmmm. This is messy. I know what its like to be in a long term relationship with someone you don't want to be with any more. I also know what its like to stay in it for the sake for the sake of the kids. I also know that for me that was the ... (read in full...)
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