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My child's father is abusive, I am confused, should I leave him?

Q.   I am currently staying with my daughters dad, in which he lives with his parents. everything was going great until we started arguing and now he is extremely aggressive. he punches me in my legs and threatens to kill me over the smallest arguments. ...

A.   12 October 2008: you should do whats best is what im saying, i hate hearing these storys, i dont respect men that think they can get away with this kind of treatment. you need someone that will treat you like a goddes, there are some out there i know that for sure ... (read in full...)

A close friend is doing drugs. What should I do?

Q.   okay. so here latley i found out that somebody im really close to is doing drugs. and i dont no what to do. cause i hate it and i want to tell them how i feel but im scared to cause i dont no what there reaction is going to be. should i tell them. ...

A.   23 June 2008: If it is soft stuff then I guess that there is nothing too much to worry about and it is his decision to do so, that stuff still is not the best for you but it really doesnt damage the body like hard stuff, but it does sometimes lead to the the ... (read in full...)

A close friend is doing drugs. What should I do?

Q.   okay. so here latley i found out that somebody im really close to is doing drugs. and i dont no what to do. cause i hate it and i want to tell them how i feel but im scared to cause i dont no what there reaction is going to be. should i tell them. ...

A.   23 June 2008: If it is hard drugs, tell him how you feel about it, tell him that you are worried about him and that your scared of loosing a friend. I know how it feels, many of my friends were hooked on the hard stuff, I havent talked to one of my closest ... (read in full...)

Do I like him because he reminds me of someone famous?

Q.   Its this guy i know who looks like chris brown and when i hear his songs i think about the guy that ive known 11months now and i wanna be with him but i cant because he likes intercourse and im a virgin.my question is am i falling 4 him becuz of ...

A.   23 June 2008: This is an odd question I must say. I really dont know if you are pulled to him because of his looks. Another thing is you should really clarify your question, you jump around from saying that you "cant" be with him then you say your falling for ... (read in full...)

Do all men manipulate you when you are vulnerable?

Q.   I have found in two long term relationships with men that as I get to know them and I start to talk more openly about my feelings and vulnerable aspects of my thoughts or personality they use those very things to either undermine me in an argument ...

A.   23 June 2008: I can absolutely assure you that all men do not do this because I am one of them. I would never do such a thing. I just think it is low to manipulate or play mind games in a relationship because that just ruins a relationship totally, there is no ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant or just sick?

Q.   Im 16 years old, and i don't know if im pregnet or not. Today is the 23 and i have my period sometime between the 1st and the 15th. Its been almost 2 weeks, and im having stomach pains,i feel like im always hot, i feel sick, and my chest has gotten ...

A.   23 June 2008: there is a good possability that you are pregnant if you had unprotected sex. if you didnt then that is a different story, maybe a late period, but im not too sure about the whole 2 week thing, that would be abnormal. if you are really concerned ... (read in full...)

Do I get pregnant if I finger myself?

Q.   do i get pregnat when i finger myself....

A.   14 June 2008: not unless your fingers are fully functional penises... (read in full...)

Told her I was older than I am. Now she wants to meet my Mum! What to tell her?

Q.   I'm 16 and I went on vacation not too long ago and I met this girl who is 19. I'm worried about her asking to meet my family beacause I LIED and told here I was 18. We've only been together for 3 weeks but when I go back to where she lives she wants ...

A.   14 June 2008: Let this be a lesson to you man haha never lie to a woman, it creates big balls of shit in a relationship. Thats why I dont do it haha shit stinks and it is no fun. Well dude, there is only one thing that you can do... tell the truth! If you really ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend will not talk about our relationship!

Q.   Why do guys have a hard time expressing themselves? Every time I would ask my bf where this relationship is going or what he thinks of it, he says, "it is what it is". What does that mean? He shows a lot of affection towards me and treats me very ...

A.   14 June 2008: I can tell you that all guys dont have a hard time talking about it, but some might not want to express emotions because it may show that they have a soft side and they may seem scared because it might make them seem weak. Me, I really feel that ... (read in full...)

Am I no longer in love with him?

Q.   I have been in a relationship for 8 months with a guy that I have known for almost 5 years. We used to be best friend and we had a little fling the summer after high school but then we went to college and we separated. We still talked every once in ...

A.   6 June 2008: I think you should talk to him about him being there a bit too much as you said. Its never good to be around someone so much even if you really love them. Everyone needs space in a relationship and open also. Never be afraid to say how you fell, or ... (read in full...)

He has me on a 7 pm curfew! And he blames me for what he does to me! Am I doing the right thing planning to leave him?

Q.   I'm now 21 years old. I was barely 19 when I MOVED IN with my boyfriend. Things have gotten worse since I turned 21. He has me on a 7PM curfew! If I'm a few minutes late he doesn't talk to me for the rest of the night. Hes even locked me out for ...

A.   4 June 2008: You are absolutly doing the right thing, I just dont know why you didnt do it before. He is mentaly and physically abused you, you dont deserve that. If I knew him I would probably lose it, It just makes me sick how some men think they can get away ... (read in full...)

It hurt and I had to stop him, does this mean I'm still a vrigin?

Q.   so me and this guy have talking about sex for a while.. we're practically together. we were both virgins. but anyways i decided to let it go on.. he used protection and stuff and he fingered me good before.. and then he stuck his part in me and it ...

A.   2 June 2008: Well, sorry to say this but if you dont know why it hurt then you really shouldnt be having sex and you are pretty young. It hurt because you were a vergin and it is normal for the first couple times atleast to hurt because your hymen was (depending ... (read in full...)

He thinks I don't want to go out with him, how do I tell him that I do?

Q.   i really like this boy. we've been really close and we're kinda like brother and sister but we still like each other.. a lot. we hang out a lot, usually sleep at each other's houses. we kiss in front of our friends too. but there's a problem.. he ...

A.   2 June 2008: you have just answered your own question hun. That is what you should do is just tell him how you really feel about him, you shouldnt be scared you two sound very close. I really think he will say yes. All you have to do is be open, probably in priv... (read in full...)

Should I put up with my boyfriends bad behaviour?

Q.   Hello everyone. I need some good advice. Well recently I've been doing not so well financially. This has caused me to move from my home into my fathers, then from my fathers to my boyfriends and his moms house. I couldn't stay at my dads because ...

A.   30 May 2008: I really think you should try and make things work, I mean you have a kid and there is nothign harder than being a single parent. Tell him like it is, sit him down and tell him what you think, be open about it, dont get angry it would create more ... (read in full...)

He drinks too much and abandons me in the weekends, should I leave him?

Q.   I was just wondering if anyone would know what to do if they had a boyfriend that was always drinking going out all weekend even though we have been together 6 years now and we have a 2 year old daughter and im 5 months pregnant and he keeps saying ...

A.   30 May 2008: I dont think you should leave him just like that. Its obvious that he may have a drinking problem. You should talk to him about it and how you feel about it. Try and work through it if you really love him and if he does have a drinking problem then ... (read in full...)

I'm scared this guy will go to the prom with this other girl! Should I tell him I like him?

Q.   I like this boy. Thats the basic! me and him have known each other since he was born, we've been through school togther as friends and now i like him more. We've been talking more and some of my friends suggested he liked me, but i saw him the ot...

A.   29 May 2008: This is easy hun, if you really like this guy as much as you say there should be no hesitation about what you should do. To me if I were in your shoes I would deffinetly tell him how I feel about him. Like you said, you have known him for your whole ... (read in full...)

No experience and needing help!

Q.   thanks for reading this ill try to be really short basically me and my bf have been going out for a long time were both over the leagal and are both virgins lately we've been experimenting but i dont know how to pleasure him i dont even know how...

A.   29 May 2008: Its not an awkward question at all, everyone is worried about whether or not they are going to please there partner the first time they have sex and it is natural to be nervous, I was nervous the first time and so was my g/f. sex is kind of like ... (read in full...)

Most guys do like cuddling or is it just a girl thing?

Q.   Do guys like cuddling? I'm seeing this guy but since he lives 2hrs away from me it's been a little difficult. We usually end up watching tv or a movie at his place for part of the time that we're together when I go to see him and when that happen...

A.   29 May 2008: I can tell you, as a guy myself, I love cuddling with my girlfriend. Its definitly not just a girl thing. My g/f is the same way, and she sometimes does fall asleep in my arms and i love it. Seems to me that your guys loves it too :) N worries, if ... (read in full...)

I have been a loner most of my life. Is there any way to change this?

Q.   Since I became an adult about 3 years ago, I have attempted time and time again to be more normal (enjoying going places, dating, hanging out with friends, etc). For some odd reason, these things are quite difficult for me. I have tried to allevia...

A.   26 May 2008: dude, seriously, I was in the same situation as you. I was always very very shy. I was always afraid to do anything or talk to anybody. Also, sex never really appealed to me either. But I have overcome all those things because of my girlfriend (now) ... (read in full...)

I'm too scared to admit my sexuality

Q.   Hi cupid,i think im gay but im too scared to admit it to anyone. I go on gay chat but i woulnd't ever tell anyone? I'm only 14 and like girls and boys but boys more what should I do? Also I had sex with a boy!And now afraid he might tell someo...

A.   22 May 2008: I say just give it some time, your just confused about your sexuality. if you turn out to be gay, than dont feel bad about it, if you remain attracted to both sexes than thats great also just be comfortable with yourself, and what ever makes you. ... (read in full...)

I get turned on my female sex... is there something wrong with me?

Q.   i get easily turned on by watching 2 girls have sex. but i'm not a lesbian!!! is there something wrong with me or is this normal?...

A.   22 May 2008: haha no there is nothing wrong with you. if you get turned on by two girls having sex then enjoy yourself, keep it to yourself if you dont want people to know about it of not than dont let other peoples opinions get in your way. do what you feel is ... (read in full...)

How do I talk to him about where we stand as a couple?

Q.   I really like this guy, I'm 16 and he's 19 and we're at two different stages in our lives. I know he likes me, cause he asked me to be his girlfriend but honestly don't know where I stand with him. I don't know who knows about us, or what he ...

A.   22 May 2008: yeah i think you should talk to him. it is always good to be open in a relationship, that is what really makes the relationship strong. if your comfortable with him you will talk to him and just work things out. believe me, you will feel better. me ... (read in full...)

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