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Any advice on how to cope when the 'honeymoon phase' ends??
Q. Ok so my question is about the topic of 'the honeymoon phase'. You know how when your in a relationship and at first you cant get enough of each other? You're so happy, you're all over each other and cant wait to see the other person and talk to ...
A. 17 February 2008: Everyone is different, some people in a long term relationship manage to keep the romance by talking, leaving little notes for each other and others don't, some people get taken for granted. I suppose when you are used to that person it is easy to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my bf I want a baby at 13?
Q. Ohkay.I am 13 years old.I have done everything with a guy.The first time though I didn't use protection hoping I would get pregnant.But I am dating this guy right and I really love him.I want to have a baby with him but how do I tell him?I am young ...
A. 17 February 2008: I'm sorry but you are way too young. My son will be 13 next month and if he said his g/f wanted a baby i would go nuts. You are still a child, have fun with your friends and socialize, you are at an age where you are going through many changes ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My husband never offers me oral.
Q. Hi, my husband and i have been together for 2 years. I give him oral sex every night sometimes even twice a night. He never gives me oral. He will tell me that he will do it one night and then finds an exscuse like i'm to tired, or he tried and i ...
A. 17 February 2008: Talk to him. Make him understand how you feel, i'm sure if he had tried when you were asleep you would have woken.
Maybe he is not confident in trying this and is unsure of himself, you need to communicate with each other to know likes and disl... (read in full...)
My partner has more issues and concerns over my parent's money, than I do?
Q. Hi there. I've noticed there are some good aunts and uncles on this site who can throw light onto baffling behaviour! So I've come to you with a question if I may? My partner constantly criticises my parents (to me) on a daily basis for not ...
A. 17 February 2008: Well i think your partner is being very unfair making comments about your parents regarding inheritance. It's none of his business, he seems to only be interested in money and lets face it if there was a big inheritance he would gain himself ... (read in full...)
'Fat chance' of us getting engaged...should this upset me??
Q. My boyfriend made a comment to his father over the phone and I'm not sure if I have the right to be upset about it or not. He doesn't see his dad much and was chatting to him on the phone earlier today. During the conversation my boyfriend happened...
A. 17 February 2008: I wouldn't worry about the comment, maybe your b/f doesn't want to tell his dad how he really feels. Like you say your relationship is serious and you have discussed your future together. ... (read in full...)
Why do men stray into the arms of another??
Q. This question isn't actually about my relationship, but I do have a general curiosity about infidelity. It seems as though I am surrounded by hundreds of women, whose husbands/boyfriends have cheated. I'm not baiting anyone, I really have a geniune ...
A. 17 February 2008: I suppose the obvious reason is they are not getting attention at home. Looking back at people i have known over the years, ex b/f's, male friends i have seen a few cases of cheating and been on the receiving end myself with a couple of exe's ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: Well if you are going out on dates together then you can presume you are a couple. Why not say to your "friend" Are we going out? i don't think there is anything wrong in that, it's not as if you are suggesting commitment. ... (read in full...)
For the whole time I've known him, he can't ever hold a job and I have to deal with the rollercoaster of the emotionconsumer conditions. Now I'm pregnant and wondering, will things change?
Q. I would like to know if anyone has any options for me. Basically I have been with my guy for 6 1/2 years. I am currently due to give birth to our first child any day. For the whole time i've known him, he can't ever hold a job and whenever life ...
A. 16 February 2008: I'm sorry but this lazy man needs to get off his butt, and fast... I can't believe he treats you this way. You are due to have his child and he is off acting like some iresponsible kid. He is going to be a father and HE needs to act responsibly. He ... (read in full...)
His friends tell me we are soul mates but... he is already committed.
Q. hi, please help. i have been in love with a man for 3 years - i know he used to have feelings for me years ago but i was in a long term relationship at the time. it is driving me insane... i think about him all the time and even his friends tell...
A. 16 February 2008: You need to leave them to sort out their relationship. If they are moving in together it is serious and it means they love each other. Maybe his mum and dad don't think she is right for him, but he obviously does, and it is his life. I'm not trying ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bf about my pregnancy and miscarriage during the time he was away? I did not want to upset him at the moment...
Q. Dear Aunts, my boyfriend left for America 4 months ago and now hes back, however while he was away i was taken into hospital and tests showed that i was pregnant and had miscarried, i hadn't known i was pregnant. I didn't tell him as i didn't want...
A. 16 February 2008: Yes you need to tell him. You need his love and support to help you come to terms with this. Sit him down and tell him, i'm sure he will be upset but he still needs to know.
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In love with my half brother? We plan to disappear as I reach 18, and expect the general disagreeance - but would anyone understand?
Q. i just met my half brother 2 years ago. we've always had this connection, and a lot of unspoken sexual tension. we have been real close for a long time, and i would do a few [illegal] things with him and if it got to bad to calm me down he would ...
A. 16 February 2008: I'm sorry but you cannot have a relationship with your half brother, it is against the law. He is a blood relative and you are commiting incest. Please stop this now as it is not right and if/when your family find out it will cause a huge rift. At ... (read in full...)
Boys consider me ugly and I feel very low about it, whereas the school regulation does not allow make up or other forms of embellishment. What can I do?
Q. i am really ugly, i am dark and my hair is sooo curly and frizzy... my face gets so oily and it looks really bad..we wear uniforms in school and not allowed make up although i do put eyeliner...and im not allowed to straighten or colour my hair or ...
A. 16 February 2008: Why do you think you are ugly? you are at an age where you are experiencing lots of changes. For your skin you could get something from the chemists for oily skin, make sure you use this daily. Eat a healthy diet, chips etc are alright in moderation ... (read in full...)
I want my ex to be happy in his relationship but I also... want him back! Struggling with the emotions, what to do?
Q. I have a serious problem with my ex boyfriend and his current girlfriend. My ex and I broke up about a year ago. We have still continued to talk but lately it's been A LOT more. His present girlfriend seems nice enough and I want him to be happy ...
A. 16 February 2008: Well maybe you could put some distance between you, as this is causing you a lot of distress. Maybe not seeing too much of him and maybe seeing other friends will help.
On the other hand you could get him alone and tell him how YOU really feel and ... (read in full...)
Is you're opinion he's cheating or not?
Q. I need to know what you think, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Even though I've never caught him, I suspect he's cheating, I have checked his cell phone bills I never seem to find anything out of the ordinary. THe thing is, ...
A. 13 February 2008: Well it is hard to tell. It was a good idea for you to pretend to be him when texting her, but you are no closer to knowing the truth. It could be completely innocent as you say she sent that first text saying "preferably without the girlfriend", he ... (read in full...)
Work mate said he wanted me, but he is married! HELP!
Q. Dear Aunts... Well i have a little problem.. I have been seeing some one from work! We havent actually done anything and i dont know what he wants.. It started like this.. A couple of weeks ago i was out in town with a friend and we seen some people ...
A. 13 February 2008: Grow up!! He's married and fancies some little tart on the side. Have a bit of respect for yourself. ... (read in full...)
He seems to hate my daughter. What do I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years. I have two daughters. One is ours and the other is mine from a previous boyfriend. I am starting to sense that he does not like her very much. We are always fighting about it. He calls ...
A. 11 February 2008: He sounds really immature and nasty and your little girl should not be treated in such a horrible way. He needs to grow up and treat your daughter as he would his own. If he can't do this then HE has to go. I would never tolerate anyone treating my ... (read in full...)
How can I ask my mom's opinion on sexual health?
Q. about 3 weeks ago i went to the cinema with my friends and i needed the toilet really really bad, but because there were a few minuets left of the film i held it in and when i went to the toilet it hurt. ever since then somtimes (about once a day ) ...
A. 11 February 2008: You could have cystitus which is a bladder infection, you need to tell your mum and she can book a visit to your GP, this is nothing to worry about and will be cleared up easily, possibly with antibiotics. Drink plenty of fluids in the meantime like ... (read in full...)
I feel like a "Homewrecker" should I tell his wife?
Q. Firstly I want everyone to know that this wasn't planned it just happened. I'm a uni student and to make some extra cash I began babysitting for a local couple. They're a great family but the father, who is 28, I was told was a bit of a player. ...
A. 11 February 2008: You made a mistake under the influence of alcohol, you also are mature enough to realise what you have done. Normally i would have very harsh words for anyone involved in cheating on a spouse, but you seem genuinely sorry for your actions and were ... (read in full...)
How to avoid a mess after sex?
Q. my boyfriend and I have always used a condom for intercourse-but I now fancy feeling the rush of semen into my vagina.My boyfriend's not keen on the possible mess afterwards so is there a way of keeping as much in as possible?...
A. 11 February 2008: There is not much mess, put a towel on the bed if you like. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have an affair but I don't want a life without passion...what should I do??
Q. I was 22 (1990) when I met my ex who at the time was 46. We dated for 2 1/2 years. We had so much fun together. We enjoyed each others' company. The sex was unbelievable. Everything about the relationship was passionate. He was really hung up on ...
A. 10 February 2008: Well like you say you don't want an affair. Everyone has a past, you split up with your ex because of the age difference. You may have had unbelievable sex then, doesn't mean it would be like that now. He's now well into his 60's. How about trying ... (read in full...)
Should I let her promiscuous past bother me? I cannot help but think nastily about her in this regard.
Q. Alright, i need some input just to get my head straight: i have been dating this girl for about 8 months, and i am very much in love with her. I think she is a wonderful person and i actually for the first time in my life can see myself marr...
A. 9 February 2008: This is her past it does not affect what you have together now. She has been honest about some awful things that have happened to her. Your g/f should seek counselling about the rape, maybe she does not see sex as a big deal, after what she has been ... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from someone I love so much?
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. the thing is i no he's not happy where he is. i no he's not. if you read my f...
A. 8 February 2008: You have been given lots of good advice, try taking it. Why go with a married man?, even if you end up with him eventually it won't be long before he is up to his old tricks. This time you will be the victim, the woman left at home while he goes off ... (read in full...)
Do girls like porn?
Q. do girls and women also watch porn and if they do, which types?...
A. 8 February 2008: Some do, i think with women it is more about imagination than visual. ... (read in full...)
Do girls like porn?
Q. do girls and women also watch porn and if they do, which types?...
A. 8 February 2008: Some do, i think with women it is more about imagination than visual. ... (read in full...)
...he was watching porn and masturbating, without even asking how I'm feeling!
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex when I felt a severe abdominal discomfort and I asked him to stop. After taking a rest for about 5 minutes, he wanted to force himself into me again but my pain was still there so I said I didn't want to do it ...
A. 8 February 2008: I think what he did was awful. You could not carry on with the sex, because you were in pain. To come back and see him relieving himself to porn on the computer is plain insulting. The bit about him forcing you, concerned me. There should NEVER be ... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on internet porn?
Q. I am asking all of you Agony Aunts how you feel about Men watching Porn on The Web. You men out there, Please, let the women have their say. Who knows,Together we may learn how they feel about Web Porn. And you Ladies, please, feel free to speak ...
A. 8 February 2008: I think there is way too much porn available. I am not bothered if my husband looks at it particularly but i get angry when my 12 year old son finds it, soft porn would not be so bad but he has found some really explicit porn and consequently we now ... (read in full...)
I'm playing a "dangerous game" with a married man. Do I stop this BEFORE anyone gets hurt?
Q. Im playing a dangerous game, thats how he put it. Flirting (its both sided) with a married man. we talk about sex all the time and get on well generally. last night he text me saying "do you think we're playing a dangerous game?" i replied with...
A. 8 February 2008: I can't believe you are even asking the question. You need to grow up and find someone single to flirt and have fun with. If you have an affair with this married man YOU will end up with a bad name, and rightly so.
You say you get on with his wife... (read in full...)
Everything else in our relationship is good.
Q. Ive been living with my partner for 7 years now and i still find him attractive.Ours has always been a close relationhip.For the past few months it been more like a brother-sister relationship and though i know sex isnt everything in a relationship ...
A. 2 February 2008: Well you could try arranging a romantic weekend away, if funds allow it. Maybe some romance and a nice hotel will set the mood. Is his job tiring?, Is he under stress? sometimes that can affect a mans libido.If a weekend away is not possible do ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm good in bed?
Q. How can I tell if I'm ok in bed? Can I simply tell by somethings that he does? Or should I just get the courage to ask him? Will he think it's weird if I randomly ask how I am in bed? ...
A. 2 February 2008: The way he responds to you, i think that if he is happy with what is happening between you he will show it in many ways. Loving looks, affection, you can ask him what he likes in bed, why shouldn't you? its all about communicating with each other. ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband, I think he is gay
Q. I have been married for 16 years, and have on a number of occasions found my husband looking at or signing upto gay porn. Recently I have found through looking at his mobile that he has even been calling and texting men he has found on a dating ...
A. 2 February 2008: Yes you need to have this out with him as this is not normal. You have been married a long time, has he done this since the beginning? Men look at porn, but gay porn is something else. Speak to him love, as you need to know for your own peace of ... (read in full...)
He found messages from another guy on my phone, but I'm innocent, how can I get things back to normal?
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two months (I’m 27, he’s 25). Everything has been going really, really well, until about 3 days ago. He went into my cell phone and found text messages from another guy. There were two series of ...
A. 1 February 2008: Your b/f feels threatened, possibly because your relationship is still new. Speak to him some more, maybe he has been cheated on in the past. Be understanding to him although make it clear you have done nothing wrong. As for reading your text, maybe ... (read in full...)
I really love him but cant take anymore lies...is walking away the right thing??
Q. I have been in a relationship with a married man for the last 4 years. Initially we started off as friends but became much more than that. He was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a very controlling woman. They were supposed to be ...
A. 1 February 2008: Well he is certainly stringing you along, he is in love with his wife. I don't feel sorry for you as you knew he was married but still chose to go after him, you have got your just desserts. His wife on the other hand, i do feel for, she deserves ... (read in full...)
I'm undecided - should I give in to my brother's urges and have sex with him?
Q. My brother trying to seduce me. He's been trying for a long time, from time to time he was making a move on me, but now I think he's serious. When we were in early teens (13-15) we already had a kind of sexual relationship with him - we've been tou...
A. 31 January 2008: Is this a joke???? ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't want sex with me anymore...
Q. I am 23yr old and i have been with my fiance for 4yrs. Over the last year or so he has become less and less interested in sex with me all he wants is handjobs. I understand that this might be something he is into but it just seems its all about him, ...
A. 31 January 2008: I certainly would not consider marrying your b/f until you have this sex issue resolved. There is nothing to suggest he is cheating on you, as you say he is affectionate and loving so i doubt it's that. You need to speak to him and say that you ... (read in full...)
Is my partner finding fault in my sexual performance, if she wants a vibrator?
Q. My girlfriend wants a vibrator, but I don't want her to. Why does she want one? Is it becuase I'm terrible in bed? Will she ever want sex again?...
A. 31 January 2008: Plenty of women own vibrators, both married and single.
It certainly does not mean that she is not happy with you.
Anyway you can experiment together with it which will spice up your love life no end. Don't worry that she won't want sex with you... (read in full...)
What can I do about my boyfirends constant lying??
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. I am 16 and he is 17. When we first started to go out he was constantly lying to me and said he only done it so people would like him. But it was affecting our relationship so he ...
A. 31 January 2008: Lies in a relationship are never good. If his lies are over something small now, what would happen over something serious? Also you need to see a GP or counsellor as cutting yourself is self harm, probably because you are anxious over your b/f, or ... (read in full...)
She wants to start birth control but her mother wont let her
Q. me and my girlfriend have been having sex for 6 months now and recentley she had to go get the morning after pill due to a split in a condom.i now find it hard to trust a condom in case it splits again, i know the chances are very low but i am ...
A. 31 January 2008: If your g/f is over the legal age of consent which is 16, there is nothing that her mother can do to stop her. What would her mother prefer, a teen pregnancy? Condoms are reliable however, what happened with you is rare. It's good that you both have ... (read in full...)
Why won't he stop texting other women?
Q. Like other posts I have read on here, my fiance and father of my two year old has been texting other women for quite a while. There have been occasions where he has gone out at night and ignored my texts for hours, saying he didn't text me back cos ...
A. 30 January 2008: There is nothing wrong in your husband having female friends, it is how he behaves with them that counts. Are these texts inappropriate? if so then it has to stop now.
Like you say he has said he has not cheated and you believe him,tell him what... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking my husband might be having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. My husband has been a bit distant from me and he's been more into his job lately. I have this gut feeling that is starting some relationship with a female co-worker of his since he used to just call on a break to say hi and that has stopped and says ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi, Your husband has behaved disgracefully, kicking you!
His reaction to your accusations could point to an affair as i believe people get defensive when they are found out or maybe he is just plain nasty.
You are wise to leave him as you can't li... (read in full...)
Is he having or had an affair?
Q. This is an update to a post i put on dated 18.12.07 regarding a "Happy Birthday" text sent to my husband. I have as advised kept an eye on things this month. There have been phone calls between him and her, which would be work related. Last Tu...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi have just seen some of the responses to this post.With the exception of 2 answers, 1 by Trinnity08 and annonymous, the rest of you have been really nasty in your answers. This poor woman has been worried that her husband is cheating with some ... (read in full...)
Should we cancel our plans to meet up because its his mums birthday party?
Q. im really excited about the fact ive been with my ld bf for a year. next week and we have booked time off work to see each other, only problem is his mums bday party the same time, and my bf is expected to go even though its not a big bday. and he ...
A. 27 January 2008: It does seem unfair that you are not allowed around there with your b/f, especially as it coincides with plans you have made. Why do you not get on with his mother?, you may find you have to resolve things with her as you could end up marrying her ... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from someone I love so much?
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. the thing is i no he's not happy where he is. i no he's not. if you read my f...
A. 14 January 2008: Well he is married so i think that is your answer. I don't understand why people get involved with someone who is not available, he made vows to his wife after all. Leave them to sort their marriage out it's nothing to do with you. You don't know ... (read in full...)
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