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I still feel young and attractive and feel the need to compensate for the lack of sex at home! But it's wrong, so how do I avoid that?
Q. hi all ive been with my husband for 14 years and have 3 children together. weve had some really difficult times together and last year i tried to end our marriage because i felt there was no spark anymore and that it felt athough we were just ...
A. 23 March 2008: You need to get the sparkle back in your marriage and your husband needs to start appreciating you sexually. All marriages do through problems, i know myself, it is a case of sticking in there and communicating. Its great that your husband is ... (read in full...)
Do men ever go for a girl with personality over looks??
Q. I'm not ugly, i have been told i am pretty and i have a unique personality but my problem is there is always someone who is hotter!!!! I know men should really go for personalities but ,most of the ones in thier 20s go for pure hotness and i dont s...
A. 23 March 2008: I suppose a lot of men in their twenties do go for "Hotties" but there must be a fair few that would rate personality just as important. My brother is an example, he is now in his thirties and is only interested in looks sadly, unfortunately he ... (read in full...)
I want him to choose me but I feel like an idiot for waiting on a married man, but I'm not ready to let go, what do I do?
Q. I fell in love with a married man, who loves me back. He travels so while i have been able to see him, I will no longer be able to meet him in these different cities, so I won't be seeing him for a while. And while everything is good between us, he ...
A. 20 March 2008: Oh please, grow up and find someone SINGLE. ... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 13 March 2008: Oh dear!! can't stop laughing. Its not April 1st is it??
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At times he is nice, at time he calls me nasty names. What do you think?
Q. I am seeing guy who is like two people sometimes he is very nice and then later he calls me a s___ and a w____ and says that I am fooling around which I am not. Is there any hope of him calming down and being always nice?...
A. 13 March 2008: No you need to get rid of this idiot. Verbally abusing you is not on regardless of how nice he is other times. He does not sound normal to me. ... (read in full...)
Pads vs. tampons
Q. Okay well im just curiouse. I just started using tampons, and I actualy like this better than pads. There much easier to deal with, and the pads bunch up and I get uncomfterable. I asked some of my friends and they said none of them liked tampons, ...
A. 13 March 2008: No you are not weird at all. I started using tampons when i was 16 and found them much better, no discomfort and you can go swimming. Tampons are actually more hygeinic than sanitary towels/pads as they are used internally. Just remember though to ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my friend's husband...
Q. I need help! I started working with this girl about two years ago we don't work together anymore but we hang out. But I have a problem, I'm falling for her husband! He's super sweet guy and very sexy. We flirt quit a bit and when we have been ...
A. 11 March 2008: Keep him as a friend, what you see as flirting is probably just him being friendly. He is off limits, remember that. ... (read in full...)
My Dad said I was useless and it hurt alot...why did he say that??
Q. I do stuff wrong a lot of the time...But i done something the other day and my Dad practicly called me useless!!! Ok,we have two phones,but when my m8 talks to me on one phone i'm ment to ring her back up on another or it costs LOADS...The problem ...
A. 11 March 2008: You need to sit down and speak to him and let him know how hurt you are at his comments. He probably does feel guilty now and regrets saying these things but he should apologise to you. Things do get said in the heat of the moment usually to our ... (read in full...)
Help! I want a baby soon and my husband wants one way later...
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 and a half years and we have a wonderful son who is going to turn 2 in april. When my son turned one I started getting this feeling that it was time to have another baby. This feeling grew stronger over time ...
A. 10 March 2008: I can completely understand you wanting another child. When my son was 1 i felt i would like another child, my husband disagreed, saying finances etc. We waited and i had our daughter when our son was 5, and you know what it was great because i had ... (read in full...)
Save me from the clutches of the widow!!!
Q. I am married and have three children and caring wife. Due to some financial trouble I came across to my relative. She is a young widow and alone, she helped me, but when I had paid the amount I had asked for intrest she said "please satisfy me." I ...
A. 10 March 2008: You have been very foolish. You need to tell your wife what you have done and tell this widow where to go. Its bad enough you cheated on your wife but to have photographic evidence? that was plain stupid. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else agree with me talking about another man's wife's boobs should be off limits?
Q. I'm 25 and just started seeing a new guy. He is 30 and all of his friends are married. We went to a social gathering at a married friend's house. They were nice people and had great kids. I thought it was going great until the wife of the host ...
A. 10 March 2008: Yes it was inappropriate talk and showed immaturity on your b/f's part. I wonder if perhaps he was embarrassed and that was his silly way of dealing with it, sometimes people can say the most stupid things when they are uncomfortable with something. ... (read in full...)
I have just recently moved in with my partner who has started hitting me.
Q. I'm 21 years old and have a three month old son. I have just recently moved in with my partner who has started hitting me. He says it's my fault for pushing him too far which I do do that but I just can't take it anymore. The other night I had my ...
A. 10 March 2008: Get out now, he is a violent thug. It's bad enough that he has hit you but to do this when you are holding your child is beyond belief. There are organisations out there that can help you and you need to this NOW. Do you have any family at all that ... (read in full...)
Why is my male manager teasing me all the time?
Q. One of my male managers at work has lately been teasing me a lot. It's pretty immature stuff (i.e, silly nicknames, tapping at my desk, picking on me, etc.). He also brags frequently in front of me (as well as other co-workers) about his sex life, ...
A. 10 March 2008: You can report this man for sexual harrassment. He sounds like a complete idiot and is abusing his job acting like this. Other people saying that he is just a womaniser is no good, they also need to take action as without it he will just get worse. ... (read in full...)
Diet question
Q. Ive become pretty obsessed with a diet. Im eating fruit and cereal. have been doing since monday but today i had 4 rich tea buiscuits (25%lower fat) at 36 calories each 0.9g fat for one. and i had an apple bake go ahead bar 2.5g fat. I just tried to ...
A. 9 March 2008: You need to eat heathily in order to lose weight, cereal for breakfast with semi or skimmed milk, cut down on sugar where possible, a light lunch, like salad with a Jacket Potato and in the evening you could have fish or chicken (grilled) with ... (read in full...)
All my crush does is stare at me...but I don't want to approach him first.
Q. hey i am an 18 year old girl and this is my first crush.. I have this humungous crush on a guy studying in the same college as me but we dont have classes together..i have seen him staring at me a couple of times but when i look at him he turns aw...
A. 9 March 2008: Just try talking to him, you don't need to ask him out if you don't want to. Striking up a conversation is a good way to start, he may be really shy and want to talk to you himself. Start the ball rolling and see what happens...... (read in full...)
I'm sad and angry most of the time in my sexless marriage. Should I leave??
Q. My husband and I don't have sex anymore. He's always "too tired". Funny, he's never too tired to stay out to 2am with his drinking buddies or play table tennis on his evenings off. Just too tired for me. We rarely sleep in the same bed together ...
A. 9 March 2008: Talk to him, i mean really sit down and have a proper talk. Explain how you want him back the way he was and how much you miss it. Tell him you miss the intimacy you shared and how he made you feel. Maybe he has worries that he feels he cannot share ... (read in full...)
He always has porn on when he makes love to me...
Q. I was sexually abused as a child and as a result I have problems in bed. I have had therapy on and off for years. I think I am doing better, but my partner tells me I am not, he has told me I am boring in bed and if it wasn't for porn he would not ...
A. 9 March 2008: I agree with the other comments here from the other aunts.
He is completely selfish and i doubt he will change. You deserve so much better than him, and there are men out there that would treat you with love and respect. Porn does cause prob... (read in full...)
Is it normal for middle aged guys to masterbate?
Q. O.k i don't know whether its me just being naive but i need to know whether this is normal? I have caught my dad a couple of times masturbating in his bedroom...believe me that was traumatising enough but what i want to know is, is it normal for a ...
A. 8 March 2008: Yes it is normal. But you should never see this. He needs to lock his door and you need to knock if going to his room. ... (read in full...)
I snooped and found out he cheated. How do I confront him on this?
Q. I am at a loss! I am in agony right now! I did something very bad and I know it. But he did something worse. My boyfriend accidentally left his email up on the computer and I know I should have just logged it out and ignored it. But I didnt. I ...
A. 8 March 2008: I don't think you should feel bad about looking at his e-mail, looking at your spouses e-mails, texts is no issue, if they have nothing to hide, why should there be a problem? my husband could look at my e-mails etc it would not bother me in the ... (read in full...)
The conversation online with a friend became a little "dirty," his gf found out and became suspicious! Should I ignore her or take other precautions?
Q. I was chatting online to a friend and it got a little dirty on a couple of occasions, the friend is a friend of my boyfriend who i have been with a long time. His girlfriend found out and got really annoyed, we said it didnt mean anything but she ...
A. 5 March 2008: You owe this girl an apology. So what if she checked her b/f's e-mails. Do the decent thing and be honest with her, she deserves that much. It hasn't made you look good at all, your b/f's friend, how low is that? that poor girl deserves much better ... (read in full...)
How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn?
Q. How do you get your wife to forget the past when it comes to strip clubs / porn? Even if you cut way back she still keeps bringing it up and using that for a excuse to not have sex. ...
A. 3 March 2008: I don't blame your wife for not wanting sex if you keep going to strip clubs. I would go off my husband if he went to a strip club without a doubt and i certainly would have no respect for him. Those places are dives and there is no way i would have ... (read in full...)
I have a very high libido, would having sex with my boss be a good idea? Do my desires make me... easy?
Q. Omg I really need help I broke up with my bf about a month ago...thats another story. basically i have a really REALLY high sex drive and i need sex!!!! no amount of "self pleaseing" is working!! and theres this guy at work and me...
A. 3 March 2008: No having sex with your boss is not really a good idea. All that will happen is you will be known as an easy ride and that is nothing to be proud of and could also put your job in jeopardy. Be patient and wait until you find the right fella, it will ... (read in full...)
Is this guy serious about wanting to marry and have children?
Q. dear cupid,I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years this month and we get on well when we dont argue. he is 8 years older than me but the age difference doesnt affect us generally as I have other friends and a brother his age. ...
A. 3 March 2008: The secret to a good relationship is communication. You need to ask him what he wants out of this relationship, in 2 and a half years you must know him fairly well.
He may be joking about babies but like you say he is 8 years older than you so mayb... (read in full...)
Could I still get pregant even after my husband has had a vasectomy??
Q. My husband recently got a vasectomy. After 90 days, he had to go back to th doctor with a sperm sample for a sperm count. My question is: If it takes only one sperm to get a woman pregnant, what good is a "low" sperm count? Could I still get preg...
A. 2 March 2008: My husband had a vasectomy late 2002, within 3 months he was told that he was sterile and so i ceased using birth control. The fluid that comes out of the penis is semen it does not contain sperm as when a vasectomy is performed the tubes are cut or ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my mum I don't want to take "the pill"?
Q. hi I'm 13 and my mum recently put me on the pill but I don't want to take it. I was wondering does anyone know how I could tell my mum I don't want to take it without shouting or fighting please???...
A. 2 March 2008: Are you on the pill for medical reasons (i.e. heavy periods)? your GP must have agreed to this as well as your mother. 13 is young to go on the pill as you are still developing and growing. Talk to your mum reasonably, it's your body and so the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get pregnant via anal sex?
Q. is it possible for someone to get pregnant via anal sex me and my boyfriend have been having butt sex lately trying to be safe and all and he doesnt use a condom. however he does ejaculate inside of me and it usually comes out later on in the ...
A. 2 March 2008: No you cannot get pregnant this way. I am concerned at your age though, You are breaking the law and having anal sex can bring health problems too. The fact that you are not using a condom proves that you are way too young for a sexual relationship ... (read in full...)
His addiction to video games is causing problems! What can I do?
Q. hey people out there, well i need help my boyfriend is addicted to video games and it annoys me so much. i hate video games because with one of my ex it got between our relationship. and i don't want that to happen to me and him. because i love him ...
A. 1 March 2008: It depends how often he is playing it each day, if it is constant then you need to reach a compromise. If it is just the odd hour here and there, maybe you can ask him to turn it off if you have something else planned. My husband plays playstation ... (read in full...)
How can I trust my father to baby sit my newborn, if he is a porn addict?
Q. My mother and I are both having a huge issue with my father and online porn. He has always had porn in the house but always hidden and never brought out the whole time I was growing up. Now I am in my mid 20's and he has discovered the internet. ...
A. 1 March 2008: Your father needs to realise he has a problem. Whilst a lot of men view porn there is a time and a place. I find it quite bizarre that he is watching these videos whilst you are eating dinner and acting as a family. I also find it strange that he ... (read in full...)
We just got back together and he tells me he's going out with friends instead of me!!!!
Q. Ok so if it was finished with you and your boyfriend, but you both knew you'd get back together, and you did just this week. Would you be kinda odd if he wanted to be with the boys tonight rather than you??? Well thats my story, we finished ...
A. 29 February 2008: I don't think it is a problem him seeing his friends, he even sent you a text asking you if you would mind,that to me sounds considerate. It's only one night after all. Why don't you go out with your friends? just because you have got back together ... (read in full...)
My friend's bf is a liar and a cheater, he flirts with me and other girls when she is not around! What can I do?
Q. My friend's boyfriend is a liar and a cheater! She cares about him and is always helping him, even if he says he doesn't need help. Her bf claims to love her, even though he flirts with me and other girls when she's not around. Also, my friend has ...
A. 29 February 2008: Sorry i pressed the wrong key when replying, i did not mean the post to be that short. Like i said you need to be there for your friend and next time the b/f flirts with you make it clear to him that it is not on and tell him you will tell your ... (read in full...)
My friend's bf is a liar and a cheater, he flirts with me and other girls when she is not around! What can I do?
Q. My friend's boyfriend is a liar and a cheater! She cares about him and is always helping him, even if he says he doesn't need help. Her bf claims to love her, even though he flirts with me and other girls when she's not around. Also, my friend has ...
A. 29 February 2008: I think you need to be there for your friend. ... (read in full...)
Is my mother sleeping with my boyfriend?
Q. I’m a little confused. I have been dating this wonderful guy (Greg) for 9 months now. He is 21 I’m 20. I live with my mother and my younger sister ( our father left when we were little – so it’s just us girls). My mother loves my boyfriend to bits ...
A. 29 February 2008: Well this could be a coincidence. You live in a big town and Greg is probably a very popular name. However you have doubts and i think you should check this out discreetly. Maybe you could come home early unexpectedly one day from tennis, at the ... (read in full...)
How long after conception do women experience morning sicknesses? Am I paranoid?
Q. Okay, I know almost every month I have some question about pregnancy, but it is my one big fear in life. With that said, on to the question: A few days ago I almost had unprotected sex. I say almost becuase we were fooling around and one thin...
A. 28 February 2008: Hi you would not have morning sickness 3 days after unprotected sex. It's most likely that you are worrying about being pregnant and that is causing you to feel like this. You need to visit your GP and sort out some method of contraception, the pill ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my 10 year old son controlling my husband and I?
Q. My son who's 10 has tried to runaway several times. It is very distressing for my husband and me. Our boy seems perfectly happy at home and it seems in school too but when he doesn't get what he wants on the spot he often gets into one of his bad ...
A. 28 February 2008: You and your husband need to work as a team and stick to what you say. I know it's hard at times but you really need to do this. Children quickly realise if they can play their parents off against each other and all that does is cause friction and ... (read in full...)
My teacher made me feel really uncomfortable...
Q. I'm using my mum's account and remaining annonymous. Anyway, I'm having my half-term holidays now and in last week of last term in a history lesson something kind of creeped me out. In the lesson near the end we were all listening to the assistant...
A. 28 February 2008: It may not mean anything but keep an eye on this teacher. Our instincts are usually right when it comes to being uneasy so don't just ignore it. Does he do this to anyone else? See how things go, maybe you could try speaking to your mum if this ... (read in full...)
Curious Physician
Q. Ok I'm 28 years old with two children. I have been married for 5 years. Me and my husband started to have marital problems during my last pregnancy. I started to tell my physician things in my marriage. He started off by asking me personal ...
A. 23 February 2008: He certainly sounds interested in you. It would be easier to change doctors as far as you are concerned especially as he makes you feel nervous. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
How do I politely deny their invitation to go on a date?
Q. I regularly work in the evenings at my parent's family business. Of course, I get customers who are in their 20's, 30's, all ages. I'm 18, and some of the men have giving me their numbers,or myspace..or shown some sign of interest, such a...
A. 23 February 2008: If you do not want to go out with these guys just politely decline. You could say you don't date customers. ... (read in full...)
Is his watching horror films just a "bloke thing" or should I be a bit worried about my husband's state of mind?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, I have a question about horror films. My husband loves to watch them, including some pretty gory, ultra violent ones. I don't like them but I will watch them sometimes although I don't like the really bad ones....
A. 17 February 2008: Hi i used to watch horrors a lot when i was younger. Some were scary but not really gruesome like some are today. I used to like a good story behind them not just mindless blood and gore. My husband does not like horror films so i have not watched ... (read in full...)
I just don't understand why my ex didn't treat me properly...?
Q. Well to start off I was in a 3 year relationship with my ex and basically I just need to let it all out. I'm the person who posted about the low heartbeat. My baby was fine at 6 weeks, good heartbeat and looked healthy but then on the Friday I wen...
A. 17 February 2008: I felt really sad reading your post, love. You have gone through something awful at such a young age. You will come out of this tougher and stronger, i could sense that when coming to the end of your post. That b/f of yours was a vicious nasty ... (read in full...)
A husband who loves his wife doesn't say things like that to her right...?
Q. My husband and I got into an arguement last evening. He was having a beer during dinner and kept on commenting how good the beer tastes throughout dinner and after dinner. While then, I said to him that flowers are nice to give, especially if one ...
A. 17 February 2008: Hi there, things get said in the heat of the moment and often we regret what we say almost immediately.
However your husband needs to apologise for his behaviour which was appalling even if he was drunk at the time.
You need to talk with him (not... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to cope when the 'honeymoon phase' ends??
Q. Ok so my question is about the topic of 'the honeymoon phase'. You know how when your in a relationship and at first you cant get enough of each other? You're so happy, you're all over each other and cant wait to see the other person and talk to ...
A. 17 February 2008: Everyone is different, some people in a long term relationship manage to keep the romance by talking, leaving little notes for each other and others don't, some people get taken for granted. I suppose when you are used to that person it is easy to ... (read in full...)
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