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writes:Ok so my question is about the topic of 'the honeymoon phase'. You know how when your in a relationship and at first you cant get enough of each other? You're so happy, you're all over each other and cant wait to see the other person and talk to them everyday? Then suddenly for ONE of the two partners it ends and they seem to be ok with not talking to you everyday. This feels SOOOO horrible. My question is, why does one person get through the phase quicker then the other? Ive always been the one to stay in the honeymoon phase and have had to deal with my bf's moving out of it...it feels so bad. Why dont i ever get through it? And how can i deal with feeling unloved when my bf isnt in it anymore?Ive recently started a new relationship and everything is going great, we see each other often and if we dont he always calls me before he goes to bed to say goodnight. I find that so sweet and I dont see how I could ever get sick of it. But I fear that one day he will give up on that...but i dont understand why? and if this does happen, what can i do about it??? I have a friend who has been with her bf for 2 years now and they talk every day! I want a relationship like that. All my past bfs have been ok with not talkign to me everyday once they are over the honeymoon phase. Any advice?
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Everyone is different, some people in a long term relationship manage to keep the romance by talking, leaving little notes for each other and others don't, some people get taken for granted. I suppose when you are used to that person it is easy to get into a rut. I know of a couple who have been together for years and still do romantic things, gestures. Just because you are married it does not mean you don't have to bother. Some people are affectionate regardless, others not so. I think it all depends on the individual.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Be realistic and accept that every good thing will have to end someday. They don't last forever.Enjoy while you can.
Different people have different capacity to love. Your b/f is like a lump of clay . How you want him to be will depend on your ingenuity to keep him going .
You will need to stoke and fan the fire brightly and prevent it from dying out.
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