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writes:im really excited about the fact ive been with my ld bf for a year. next week and we have booked time off work to see each other, only problem is his mums bday party the same time, and my bf is expected to go even though its not a big bday. and he even said he will make it up to her when he gets back from mine. i cant go to his as me and his mum dont get along so im not allowed round for her bday. what can we do, we had big plans now they ruined. should i just not see him and go work instead? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe cant spend the day with his mum then evening at mine coz it takes half a day to get to mine from his
also it his mum actual bday 4 days later but her party on the saturday
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (27 January 2008):
 It does seem unfair that you are not allowed around there with your b/f, especially as it coincides with plans you have made. Why do you not get on with his mother?, you may find you have to resolve things with her as you could end up marrying her son one day, making her your mother-in-law.
Like you say you have both taken time off work so i think there needs to be some sort of a compromise here, perhaps he could spend part of his mum's birthday with her, and then have the evening for you. He has even offered to make it up to her which sounds reasonable to me. If she has a problem with this, it's down to her. You are being fair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
You poor thing I bet you have been looking forward to this for ages, What about he goes to his mum for her b/day and leaves to spend the evening with you and you can both make it a special night, That way you not adding fuel to the already burning fire of his mums dislike of you, Although I cant see why she would be this way hunny if she loves her son you would have thought she would want him to be happy. But you sound a lovely girl to me and its all about compromise and If I were you Id be the stronger person and compromise for my man as he is in a right pickle as he obviously wants to be there for you but his mum is saying other wise and hunny as much as we want we cant please two people at once so he must feel really bad. I hope this helped a little congratulations on your yr anniversary WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Paula4u +, writes (27 January 2008):
 You only have one mam. You should have planned it better after all he did know her birthday date, come one how would you feel when your children would do that to you????????????? Anyway if you have problems now with his mother imagine when your married....
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