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anonymous
writes:I am 6 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend's mom and older sister really hate me. They are angry at my boyfriend for getting me pregnant. Reply to this Question
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (8 March 2007):
Sorry - this is less an answer to your question and more an answer to the previous posters view on abortion.
It sounds like you have no problem with being pregnant, just your in-laws, and as everyone has agreed, just ignore them.
However, as to the question as to whether abortion is wrong, let me just make these points.
An 8 week old EMBRYO is NOT a "BABY".
Early embryos have no nervous system and cannot feel and therefore they cannot suffer.
The issue of whether the embryos are "human" is irrelevant to the question of suffering. Causing suffering to any being, human or not, is wrong. Doing something to alleviate the suffering of humans by doing something which does not cause suffering to anyone else, is not wrong.
If your argument is that the embryo has a right to life, even though it is just a bundle of cells with a potential to life, then every sperm and egg has the potential to life, and the extension of your argument would be that every refusal of sexual intercourse would have the same result - the denying of the potential of life to a bundle of cells.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): just DONT get an abortion. its a human life from the minute it is born. unless your raped, i think you should just have the kid and put it up for adoption. its a life. abortions are selfish i dont care how you put it. people will disagree with me but thats just because in our day and age, people are so concerned with ourselves and only ourselves, that who cares if we kill a baby?!
oh and btw. who cares about your bf's mom & sister. your 22, youll be fine. no one can not like babies.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Are you male or female? If you are male how did you manage to get pregnant?
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reader, chachacha +, writes (3 March 2007):
Assuming you just pressed the wrong box, and you are female, your age shows as you being in your twenties:
i.e. you are not a teenage pregnancy, too young to know better.
The feelings of your boyfriend's mother and sister are quite irrelevant here. Your boyfriend is an adult. They will come round when the baby is born anyway.
But you should ask yourself some questions - Can you and your boyfriend provide for the baby? Do you intend to stay with your boyfriend for the next 20 years to act as joint parents for the baby? If you split up with him, can you provide for the baby? Are you mature enough to have a baby? Is HE happy about the baby? Can you afford child care?
If the answer to these questions is yes, then congratulations.
If the answer to many of these questions is no, think very carefully about whether you want to keep this baby. It is totally wrong to ruin a baby's life - every kid needs the best chance in life. If you can't look after it, and don't want or can't have an abortion, you can give it up for adoption to a couple who can look after it and really want it.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Hello?
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (3 March 2007):
 but it says your a male? how does that work?
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Erm, as you give your details as a male, I don`t think you`re pregnant.
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