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writes:Need to know if i must stay or go ???I have been in a relationship for 12 years at this stage of my life i do not know what my feeling are for my boyfriend, i obviously love him because we practically grew up together, but im not sure im still in love with him.I joined a recovery programme 2 years ago and have mangaged to stay clean and happy for this time, but in the process i have changed alot and i think become a better person, our relationship has also changed because of this as i will not certain sexual things i used to do when i was drunk and he said if he had known i would be like this sexually now he would never have asked me out, he does not wanna get married but wants children i can accept not getting married but only if there are not children involved. We never do anything together he just wants to stay at home all the time he has no freinds any interests and he is only 29, i wanna live and go away on holidays to movies , dinner anything. and we do not talk at all we live seperate lives but sleep in the same bed. I i mention things are not good he gets angry and makes me feel really guilty, i have left before and came back things were better but slowly went back to the same old thing, really do not wanna hurt him he is a nice guy, thought of conuncelling and he said no he does not wanna talk to some stranger, he has sulking weeks i we do not have enough sex im in a very stressfull career running a business and sometimes you just tired but i do try and fulfull his needs but if they not met he does not talk to me at all its like that is all our relationship is based on ............
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (2 March 2007):
It sounds to me like your relationship has run its course.
I must congratulate you on turning your life around, running a business, having goals and aspirations, and embracing life.
Don't you want to add to that a fabulous boyfriend? If you want children, don't you want them to grow up with a wonderful role model as a father?
I would move on, if I were you. 12 years is not a reason to stay for even longer - you have wasted enough time on this man.
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