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writes:ok.I'm confussed. I might be gay, but I'm not sure. I like always hug boys.......like all the time.....and i had feelings for one once. any ideas? Reply to this Question
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reader, lboy +, writes (21 March 2007):
 dear reader,
i think that just because you hug alot of guys and you at one point had feelings for a man doesn't mean that you are gay, just let your life take it's course and don't worry if you turn out gay thats how it was supposed to be.
good luck
lboy
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): I can fully understand where you are coming from. I can understand how you feel and how confusing it can be when you think you might be gay and you don't know if you are and you seem to question your sexuality. The only person that can tell if you are gay is yourself. you have to step back and take a real good look at your life and see if you are gay or just in a strange state of life that this point. I had to do the same thing and i had to be honest to myself and came to the conclusion that i was gay and i should not hide it and try to be something that im not in life. hope this helps best of luck.
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reader, Uncle Stu +, writes (6 March 2007):
Uncle Stu is verified as being by the original poster of the question cheers guys. I'm sure it will sort out soon. Time will tell, it always does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): i think youll never know if you dont date some girls and boys... Everybody has some attraaction to the same sex always... i didnt know i was a lesbian until the first time i kissed a guy and the first time i kissed a girl. Of course i looked at girls and said shes hott... but youll know when and if you are. Im sure your just still confused and its nothing to worry about at the moment you have a while until you do need to know!
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reader, chachacha +, writes (5 March 2007):
I don't entirely agree with rhythmandblues:-
Firstly, not all gay men know when they are young that they are gay.
Secondly, please do not "try" to date some girls unless you find a particular girl that you feel attracted to and want to be with her a lot. It would be rather unfair on a girl if she was some kind of experiment fodder while you "tried" dating her, rather than dating because you want to be with her. She has emotions too.
Thirdly, when rhythmandblues says "Don't let someone gay influence you to be gay either" this really is a ridiculous comment:-
* the whole world influences people to be straight because every single thing about the world assumes this, and people are brought up this way. I
* it is hardly likely that "someone gay" would be interested in "influencing you to be gay" or
* that they could possibly be successful if you were not that way inclined anyway.
cd206 has, in my opinion, given you the best advice - don't even try to give yourself any kind of label (labels are given by people who like to simplify complex things) and just see how it goes.
It doesn't matter whether you find you want to be with, and in due course develop sexual feelings for, a boy more than a girl or vice versa, or indeed feel different at different times. It really doesn't matter. There is NOTHING wrong with being straight, gay, mainly one or the other, or bisexual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): You might be going through the early stages of developing gayness but by the looks of things you are probably going through a phrase. Don't worry, it happens to a lot of teenage boys.
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reader, wild_cherry69  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 depends whether ur still attracted to girls or do u find them repulsive? Im attracted to chix and guys which makes me bisexual.. don't worry about it. being gay aint that bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): I think kids at your age get confused about their own sexuality especially now that it is talked about so openly.
At your age, your closest relationships will be with other boys, and a person can have some pretty deep feelings for a friend that can even be called love. This does not mean that you are gay, you hugging them means you are demonstrative in your affections. Don't let someone gay influence you to be gay either.
Try dating some girls when you are older, as you mature your sexual feelings will come to the forefront....so just don't obsess about it too much....
I agree that if you were made to be a gay man, you would not be asking this question, you would already know without a doubt....
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 ahh hunny I know how you feel! I'm going through the same problem my self!!!! it could just be that you look up to some of them and stuff I wouldnt worry about it just sit down and think...are you atracted to girls at all? are you bi? just enjoy it! and like cd said just see how it goes your young to be labeling your self like that you know?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (5 March 2007):
 I just asked my best friend and he said he always knew and that it sounds like perhaps because of your age, you're confused. That's certainly true of my own experience growing up when I thought I might be a lesbian. Don't try and pigeonhole yourself as straight or gay. Just see how it goes.
CD
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