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writes:i am pregnant and due any day now. i dont know who the dad is because i slept with one guy while on my period and then 10 days later i was with my ex-boyfriend. i told my ex it was his and he is so excited and taking responsibility. my ex has dark hair and dark eyes and the one night stand has blonde hair blue eyes. i also have blonde hair blue eyes. how do i know whose it is? please write back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): Don't worry about your hair or eye color; your dilema is simple! A woman can only get pregnant when she ovulates. And women usually ovulate 14 days before her next period starts. If you slept with one guy while you were ON your period, then it is not him--women do not ovulate while on their period. You say you slept with your ex about 10 days later, then that sounds more like it. Count your ycle days like this: first day of your period is cycle day #1, second day of your period is cycle day #2, etc. Let's say you were on cycle day 7 when you slept with guy #1, that would mean cycle day 17 for guy #2, add 14 more days to that (adding 14 days because 14 days is the time after ovulation, before the next period will start) and you get 30 days...which is about the normal length of a woman's period (give or take a few days).
Believe me, my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about 5 years now--I have done the research!
Good luck to you and your ex! I am positive the baby is his. And if you really love him, you should tell him about the other guy. Then again, I don't know your situation--it's up to you! Good luck!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007): what i would do is ask your ex to have a DNA test first, so that your bf wouldnt know. and if it is your ex's i dont know if he would understand, but i would just forget about it and say it is your bf for the sake of your bf. i know that might be hard but it might just be better to have your bf think its his..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): You could have a DNA test when the baby is born. That way you can be certain who the father of the baby actually is. Are you actually still in contact with the other guy (not your ex)? If not then just get your ex to take the DNA test. To get him to do that you've got to tell him the truth that it might not be his but there's still a possibility. He might be annoyed with you at first that you lied and told him that it is definitely his but he should eventually understand.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (3 March 2007):
I think you should tell you ex- that there is an outside chance that the baby could be the baby of the other guy and that when it is born you should do a DNA test to prove whether it is your ex-'s child or not. I think your ex- would agree.
It is only right that your child should know who the father is , even if the other guy doesn't want to be involved and it means that your ex- walks away if it were not his.
Always do what is RIGHT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): To be more clear...let's say your baby had blue eyes after about a year of age (babies often have blue eyes at birth but they change to their true color as they get older). You have blue eyes and one man has brown eyes and one man has blue eyes. You have a recessive gene that you got from both of your parents for blue eyes one blue eyed gene from the mother and one blue eyed gene from your father....the first man with blue eyes has the same genetic makeup for eye color that you do, blue eyes from both parents, but you see the issue is that this does not prove the paternity of the blue eyed man, as the brown eyed man does not need to have a brown eyed gene from both of his parents to have brown eyes, he only needs one gene because brown eyes are dominant over blue....he could conceivably have a blue-eyed gene that could be paired up with yours to produce a blue-eyed child. Hair color does not line up like eye color in the dna, hair color is all over the place when it comes to humans.....Now if the kid had brown eyes, then most likely the brown eyed man is the father, but it takes a year or more for an infants eyes to beome brown...most infants are born with lighter eyes and the pigment expresses itself as the growth hormone kicks in and causes the dna to express itself.
Like I said the only way to tell is to get a scientific paternity test that maps the genetic makeup of the child in relationship to you and the alleged fathers.....
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reader, Sadi +, writes (3 March 2007):
 I think when the child is born, you should have the "one night stand " guy there, and in the hospital, ( with-out your b/f knowing ) Have the one night stand guy take a paternity test,,, that way, if it comes up not his, then. p.h.e.w .... And if it is his, then you to to find privet time to tell your b/f...
The reason why, in my opinion, you should quite say anything now you your b/f, is cause if its not his, why would you want to bring up an issue that has happend in the past? The last thing you need is to be having problems with your b/f when you two are about to have a child together....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): It is hard to say based on the information you provide. Blue eyes is a recessive gene. If your child had blue eyes that would mean that you and the father would each have to have a gene for blue eyes. The father that is dark eyed could still have a gene for blue eyes, but also have the gene for dark eyes which is the dominent gene and thus is the gene that is "expressed" so he has dark eyes.
Eye and hair color of the father without knowing his true genetic makeup is not indicator of paternity, the only way to be sure is to have an acutal paternity test done which maps the DNA (the genetic code) of BOTH parents....as this is what makes a baby, not one person's genes but the interation of the two parents together.
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